OP- how much do you make, really?

There's a big difference between working 40 hours a week making $100k and being bored, and working 50 hours a week earning $65k and being bored.

I've grown to hate every job I ever had.

Even if it was an activity I somewhat enjoyed, having some ******* manager or boss always ruined it.

The ONLY thing I am interested in is getting financial freedom so I don't have to answer to anybody.

careful with this reasoning, when you are forced to do something you love not because you want to do it, but because you have to, its a slippery slope to getting burnt out.

you had this wtf moment not long ago, if you are serious i suggest you make a very detailed plan of what you want to do to correct this situation.

Same

Lol @ corporate wage saves. Cucks gonna cuck.

How bout, save hard for a couple of years, buy smart investments, pursue other job, but have a back up job like teaching your current profession.

Literally the best feeling in the world.

Just make sure your detailed plan doesn’t include janitorial services and trailers, opie

That’s a sure-fire way to poverty and inceldom

I love my job, coworkers are cool, great benefits but I want to grow faster than the field I’m in allows. But sometimes I feel like I can just take off and figure **** out as it comes.

well well well if it isn't the 38 yo who claims he knows a thing or two about dating young girls in 2019.

Incels, when will they learn

Well, this happened with the bakery. Up at 2:30 am, pepperin dough's by 3:00, baking by 5, then on to my other job at 7:00. Did it for 3 years and burned me out. The baking was fun and I thoroughly enjoyed it.. it was the business side that drained me. I was shackled to the shop and was handling 95% of the operation.

My end goal with the shop was to turn it into a nonprofit so I could focus on other business ventures. I was going to have criminals who are trying to reintegrate themselves into the community run the show for me. I'd teach them everything, hold classes and basically give them a skill-set they could use if they chose to make baking a career of theirs.

I couldn't get that far because turning businesses into a nonprofit and getting funding for a nonprofit is absolutely insane. You need grant writers, attorney's, cpa's, public funding, an executive board, charitable events to obtain funding etc.. There is so much involved that it didn't seem feasible at the time. Kind of wish I stuck with it but burned myself out.

I'm also not happy with my living situation. I have a house in another state that my wife and I were living in, wife wasn't happy with the state and she dropped a bomb on me and told me she was moving away to be closer to family and so she could work. There is promise for advancing her career with the company but my situation or position never seemed considered. Granted, I was not happy at the current place of employment but that employer wasn't the "be all, end all". I wanted to go back to school and get my masters and she told me wasn't waiting around for me to finish. She insisted the move was the best for the both of us.

She departed, I followed a few months later while leaving my home behind (currently renting it out) and my home state so we could live in an apartment and work these chitty unfulfilling jobs. The new state has tons of people, it's expensive as chit to live here and I'm working a job that's similar to what I was doing back home. I recently started having a lot of resentment about what has transpired over the past 2 years and it's been driving me bat chit crazy; hence thedear diaryramblings, but I'm happy to have this channel to air out my dirty laundry.

I'm growing to the point of returning to my home state to finish what I wanted too and reconvening with her at a later date. I feel like I have unfinished business and it's been placed on hold so we could live her dream. She's not an ogre, she's just dumb about certain things. I've hinted at this with my wife and she got incredibly upset, which is expected but damn, sometimes you gotta do chit for yourself. Could put serious strain the marriage; however, resentment does the same exact thing.

Sorry for the ghettysburg address, MISC. Gots a lot on mah mind.

Bro in law is going through this now
He’s a principal, getting his PhD and is wanting to get out

honestly everyone i know hates their job.

I assume he wants to quit being a principal so he can pursue PhD type endeavors?

It's not a job if you enjoy what you're doing.

phd in education administration
Doh

Oh wow, so he's a principal in pursuit of a PhD in administration.. but wanting to get out completely? Damn.... that's crazy. I get it though... things come up, people have a change of heart. They say humans are a creature of habit but they're also creatures of change.

This is extremely common obviously. I was a teacher for a brief time many years back. After going to college for that degree I quickly realized that the job was completely unfulfilling and something that I couldnt do long term. I was also making 30k which in NJ is next to nothing. By the end of the second year I resigned and never looked back. I'm 10 years into a high paying tradie job that's ok. I'm not passionate about it, but I dont hate it either. In the next 5 to 10 years, depending on many factors, I will probably change jobs within the company and do something a little less physical and make a little less.

Some people have jobs or careers that they love and pay really well. Others have jobs they are passionate about, but maybe dont make what they'd like. The last group have jobs/careers that pay well, but they dont have much passion for it. I put myself in the last group. The work is ok, the pay is good, and you seek fulfillment in other areas of your life.

We're all going to make it.

You know.. making 30k a year is laughable, especially for the line of work and for the geographical location. Though I understand some people could settle for a salary like that because they inherently enjoy the work they're doing and they're content with the money.. and because they're comfortable. You sound content and happy with your situation which is great. Do you wish you'd be doing anything else or will this be your be all end all until you retire?

My hopes is to get the best of both worlds -- more rewarding(salary) and self-fulfilling work. To obtain that level I'll need to work my ass off; however, my energy expense will be towards something I'm passionate about and it will be towards something that I can feel good about.

Currently, I leave at 4:30 feeling drained and mentally exhausted.. and for what? A decent salary and benefits?? I'm amazing at my job but it's dull, monotonous and boring and somewhat rewarding.. but for the wrong reasons.

why is it too late to get into law enforcement?

If you're unhappy when you have no money, you're going to be unhappy when you have money. Don't be fooled by the temporary rush of having money. Buying cars, property, clothes, jewelry and toys gets old after a while. And you're back to where you started.

You're absolutely right and I couldn't agree more. My aim isn't to have fancy things. My aim is to make an impact in a way that positively benefits others while positively benefiting me and my family. Should I advance where I'm currently at.. the money will be great but I'll be absolutely miserable.. which would spill over to life outside of work. But I also expressed that I was unhappy with our living situation so perhaps the jump from the current career is to enhance that.

Grind grind grind grind grind grind grind grind grind grind grind grind retire. Nothxjefe

lmao feels

Id encourage OP to build up a good savings and to explore other careers or businesses, or to get a side hustle going.

Saturday was my last day at my former job I had been at for almost five years. It was weird. kind of eery. I gave my last radio-call, 4H-40 37, end of watch. now Im a civilian, who has to get a CCW to carry. Idk. But I knew the time was right. Too many other, broader options on the horizon. No more worrying about all the things that did/could happen on the job.

All that to say, you only live once and you owe it to your existence to see what else inspires you.

I appreciate your services and best of luck to you on your new adventure. Whats next???

In order to start that new journey, I'll need to leave my wife for a bit and go back home to finish my masters. I'm essentially giving up easy street for some off-road terrain. Have no clue how it will impact the marriage; however, the whole reason I'm writing these passages is because I followed her and have had regretted it ever since. I literally left a job I hated to follow her.. just to end up in the same type of role doing the same kind of chit. Definitely have some underlying resentment here.

It's tough, and I envy people who were able to know what they wanted to do at an early age and they were able to be fulfilled by doing it. I have an offer letter for a job that I have always considered to be in my mind my "dream job".. but my biggest worry is that once I start doing it, I'll feel basically the same as I felt at a job I dislike now.

Everyone has BS in their job that they have to go through, but I've figured out that for me the biggest components in how I feel about my job are --

1) Do I feel a sense of accomplishment after a days work.. do I feel like what I did actually matters
2) Work/Life balance
3) $$

Top 3 in that order.

That's awesome man and I'm happy you can see if it's potentially one of those "too good to be true scenarios". I guess you have to take the leap to find out.. if thats what you need to do. I truly believe the moves you make comes down to where you're at in life, what you want for yourself/family and what is in the best interest for all parties involved. Sounds like a midlife crisis to an extent and it very well could be.

I wish I would have finished my master's earlier instead of playing house. I put school off, continued working a dead-end job and got married. The marriage thing fooked everything up for me because I focused more on the marriage than bettering myself- thinking with my wang per-say and thinking I was doing what a husband was supposed to do. It's my fault because I allowed myself to become trapped in the 9 to 5 grind and I didn't know any better. I tried going to school, running a business, working full-time at another job and supporting my wife; it just became too much.

Moving 6 years forward: I've come to the realization that this dead-end career provides: 1)security -- which has been known since day 1. 2) The same moving parts -- everything about this career path is virtually the same, the only thing that differs is the scenery. 3) I haven't done chit about changing myself and now I truly have to move some mountains to get where I want to be. Sounds selfish as F but I need to focus on me now.

didn't know you were married OP.

I can understand more why your situation is so complex.

From the sounds of it your wife loves you enough to maintain the long distance relationship, however it's a damn shame she isn't really there to support you in your endeavors.

from the way i read your response it sounds like you already know the path your wife is taking is more of a hindrance than a progression to life(despite her disagreeing with you),

and you going your alternative route might be what you you need to progress in your own endeavors. Do you have kids as well? And if you succeed will your wife still celebrate that success with you?

or how will the dynamics of your relationship change when you guys go separate ways?

what is it you want out of life? I encourage you to simplify your answer as much as you can.


Spoiler!

Take the risk OP. The reason you feel like you do is evidence that you need to change.
Humans aren't meant to follow the same routine year after year. We long for unknown lands and new experiences.
Growing comfortable with your situation is a major red flag that something isn't quite right.

If all else fails you can return to a similar role knowing you explored a different path and attempted something new.
You're going to make it!