Most people i know that dont have their own business are floating that idea around.

Ex. 70% of the women i knew in college that got a degree in nursing are now doing something completely different, 4-5 years after graduation.

Can you transition into a new but similar feild? Could you do consulting/ start a side business?

It's definitely a humdinger and I believe we have a strong enough bond which would allow for the temporary separation. Though I'm not sure about how she'd handle it. I told her I was thinking about going back home to finish up and she started crying because she doesn't like the state and she wants to be closer to her family (10 hours away closer fyi). I get it and completely understand her position. It's disheartening because we had the perfect setup back in my home state and she never had to pay for anything. I was setting ourselves up for a successful and scrape-by-free transition. I gave her the opportunity to pay off all her debt, pay her student loans and live for free so we could do the things we wanted too later on down the road. Lost all of that so she could get out of Idaho and live in Colorado. No consideration about me or what we had.. just dropped a bomb and said she was moving. Her happiness is important to me and I went along with it, which I now regret doing so. I love being with her but this isn't a single stream dream, it should be a commingled one.

P.S. no children to worry about, but she wants them... EEESH.

I was in this same situation OP. Have 2 kids and a girlfriend that doesn't work to support. Eventually I just said fuk it. Sold off all of my rental properties, quit my job, and bought a farm.

Best decision I ever made. No commuting, no retarded bosses telling me what to do, no work place politics, no sucking people off just to get a raise/promotion, no stuffy office.

Feelsgoodman

Everything is tax deductible including vehicles, ATVs, snowmobiles, utilities, even my mortgage.

I truly feel it's best option at this juncture. I look around and 98% of the people here are absolutely miserable and I know why. I've been doing this work longer than most people here; with a few exceptions, and I don't want to be that person 10, 20, 30, 40 years from now. We have a couple people here in their 60's and one person who is in their 70's that are are scared chitless about leaving because they don't have any other income streams. Of course, some of their life choices could have lead them to this point.. but I don't want to be that person that says, "why the fuk didn't I listen to my gut when I was younger?" Why aren't I doing something fun and meaningful while being rewarded for it?

I'm seeing all sorts of red flags and it makes me feel uneasy and not comfortable with our current situation. I do appreciate routine for certain things: work, exercise, eat, sleep repeat.. that's because it works and it's easy. In respect to a career, I need something that benefits the greater good of myself/family and others. Can't do it in my current role, unfortunately. And yes, what I'm doing now will always be around and will never fade (in this lifetime anyways)

I wouldn't say its the job, its more so the hours. I think people would be a lot happy on 32 hours a week, giving you enough time to refresh and come back with a clear head.

How interesting and it's so got dam true. In a nutshell -- zero risk is for losers. This literally speaks to my post above.

I don't want to be that person that says, "why the fuk didn't I listen to my gut when I was younger?"

Bc you get paid based on how long you clocked in for. You get paid to be a hostage. Your a cog in the wheel. Easily replaceable. I recommend growing a business....theres nothing more satisfying than growing your baby creating the fruits of your labor. A safer play for satisfaction is working in sales. At my firm no one gives a fuk about anything besides production. Top producer shows up when he wants and is happy as fuk. Getting paid based on personal performance is a whole lot sweeter financially and emotionally. The high you get when you accomplish your goal is a feeling that is impossible to feel at clock in jobs.

An employer will never pay you more than he has too working a salary job because the fact is your nothing more than an expense. A battery. A pawn on his chessboard. When you're paid 100% based on the value you produce their is no ceiling. And that brings massive thrill and enjoyment.

I 110% agree with you and would not mind a fantastic sales job. However, the only sort of sales I'd ever be interested in is medical tech or pharma. Another reason why I want to finish my masters program; I could eventually segue into something like pharma or medical sales if my other plan doesn't work out.

It's true.. a lot of us work ourselves to death and we create these terrible work-life balances. I had a job where I worked 4-10's.. thought it was great because we received a whole extra day off for an extra 2 hours a day 4 times a week. This allowed for an extra "reset" day.

I worked in accounting for 1.5 years and felt like that. Now i'm unemployed.
Not sure
What's better unemployed or working but depressed?

edit now i dont know what to do
what to do for a career? feesbadman dont want to regret

True, some people are so obsessed with the career ladder, it's sad. They fail to put things into perspective.

Young women nowadays especially just blabber on and on about the "career" buzzword. Yes, I'm sure you will be happy that you sacrificed years of bonding time with your children, or rejected family altogether, so you could climb up the career ladder.

To me it's about finding what your underlying passion is and targeting careers that align with that passion. It makes the most sense to me; however, different strokes for different folks.

Boys am i a pussy?

I worked in accounting for a year and a half and felt so boring/depressed. It was my first full time job. I thought you were meant to like work.
Is work supposed to be depressing. boring and mundane?
I felt like this evyerday, i lost motivation and got fired.
In hindsight, i'm starting to think maybe i just had the wrong attitude and the work wasn't that bad?

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Mark Twain said that if you find a job you enjoy doing, you'll never work a day in your life. A lot of truth to this sentiment.

I do sometimes. I make good money now but the struggle coming up, I really wish I had put my time and energy another direction.

Really comes down to where your heart is at and what it is you inherently want to do. Using the regret minimization framework--- will you have regrets 10-20-30-40-50 years down the road because you didn't make the leap? I've been doing this job/career for the last 11 years and well.. it makes me feel empty inside.

happen to the best of us...

Fair point. Your mum was never really one for kissing, she just wanted to get straight to the phukking.

the deflection is strong in this 38 year old

OP do what makes you happy.