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post 1579619511 05-07-2019, 01:25 PM
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Constant rejection in online dating and effects on the mind

Maybe some of you can relate. In the last few years I experienced a lot of rejections, what bothers me the most is the lack of likes or matches on dating apps or sites. It may be irrational but this caused me to develop an ever increasing hatred towards women. My logical self knows this is stupid, but somehow the absence of interest in online dating still hits me hard.

During the last few years I worked hard to get where I am now. My education is rock solid and I have no debts. The job as an electrical engineer pays very well and puts me in the upper middle class. And furthermore my physique is quite good. I am 6'2, lots of muscle and around 8 to 9 % bodyfat. Of course those are just superficial statistics, but isn't this what matters in online dating?

So my mind thinks. On the one hand, I have all those positive perks and on the other hand most women dare to reject me. Deep down this just destroys my confidence and makes me despise women altogether. It can not be that all the hard work is worth nothing nowadays. It seems like the majority of women worship the IG influencer lifestyle and have lost all respect for hard skills. Why even bother. I could just as well play video games all day long. So maybe some of you can relate...
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post 1579619931 05-07-2019, 01:30 PM
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theres only really 2 things that matter

1. be attractive
2. be cool

but judging from your whiny post you've already failed
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post 1579620011 05-07-2019, 01:32 PM
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Can I fart in your mouth and can you suck my fart?
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post 1579620041 05-07-2019, 01:33 PM
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Originally Posted By casiNo.⏩
theres only really 2 things that matter

1. be attractive
2. be cool

but judging from your whiny post you've already failed
And judging by your avi you’ve failed number 1



Time to rot op
post 1579620171 05-07-2019, 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted By dogorman7⏩
And judging by your avi you’ve failed number 1



Time to rot op
if he lost the school shooter haircut he'd prob have better interactions with women
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post 1579620241 05-07-2019, 01:36 PM
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this is op?
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Originally Posted By Unwicht⏩
So my mind thinks. On the one hand, I have all those positive perks and on the other hand most womendareto reject me. Deep down this just destroys my confidence and makes me despise women altogether.
Please seek help, talk to a psychiatrist about your feelings towards women.
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Only read title. Stop online dating you cuck
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just put

6'2"
love dogs
8"

and you'll get matches

no gay shiit about hobbies or anything, women can't read that much
post 1579620461 05-07-2019, 01:38 PM
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Originally Posted By Tyrannosauruss⏩
Location: Germany
well atleast you got that nazi look going for you, nice hairstyle
Thanks, I should have gotten the SS cut. Too late now since I buzzed it down. Now it fits my russian half...

Seems like noone can relate
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Unless you spend the majority of your time around yachts nobody cares about your education

Post your dating profile so we can judge it

My guess is you took some soulless pics and girls think you’re a serial killer
post 1579621191 05-07-2019, 01:49 PM
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in response to thread title: rejection and failure are a part of life.. include cliffs next time *******
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what the fukk are you doing wrong? even my ugly ass can get a girlfriend
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Originally Posted By Unwicht⏩
Maybe some of you can relate. In the last few years I experienced a lot of rejections, what bothers me the most is the lack of likes or matches on dating apps or sites. It may be irrational but this caused me to develop an ever increasing hatred towards women. My logical self knows this is stupid, but somehow the absence of interest in online dating still hits me hard.

During the last few years I worked hard to get where I am now. My education is rock solid and I have no debts. The job as an electrical engineer pays very well and puts me in the upper middle class. And furthermore my physique is quite good. I am 6'2, lots of muscle and around 8 to 9 % bodyfat. Of course those are just superficial statistics, but isn't this what matters in online dating?

So my mind thinks. On the one hand, I have all those positive perks and on the other handmost women dare to reject me. Deep down this just destroys my confidence and makes me despise women altogether. It can not be that all the hard work is worth nothing nowadays. It seems like the majority of women worship the IG influencer lifestyle and have lost all respect for hard skills. Why even bother. I could just as well play video games all day long. So maybe some of you can relate...
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post 1579621921 05-07-2019, 02:01 PM
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Originally Posted By suprabum⏩
in response to thread title: rejection and failure are a part of life.. include cliffs next time *******
Rejection and failures are alright. Usually you analyze the failures and learn from them. I used to invest some time in online dating. During my business trips to Russia I got very high success but no time to act upon it (I don't care about ONS). But here in Germany, nothing. So I thought, what the f*** is wrong with me and then why the f*** do these german women keep rejecting me.

Ultimatively and as a consequence I stopped online dating a while ago. That's what I learned I guess.
post 1579622681 05-07-2019, 02:11 PM
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work on your self, rejected because ppl in this age thinks on specific idea/way
if u dont match it...then hardluck
u wont believe me, yesterday i saw a cashier hbb, couldnt talk to her
returned back to my apartment and fapped to her...now i feel superior
post 1579623481 05-07-2019, 02:21 PM
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Originally Posted By batmanman⏩
just put

6'2"
love dogs
8"

and you'll get matches

no gay shiit about hobbies or anything, women can't read that much
This will honestly work, OP. Less is more.
post 1579623681 05-07-2019, 02:23 PM
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This is online dating as a non-chad. You either get girls 2-3 points below you, or get rejected by 99.9% of decent looking girls

Solution? Get off tinder and stick to real life
post 1579624421 05-07-2019, 02:32 PM
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Originally Posted By Omnivium⏩
This is online dating as a non-chad. You either get girls 2-3 points below you, or get rejected by 99.9% of decent looking girls

Solution? Get off tinder and stick to real life
B-b-but real life is scary! Are there even any women IRL? My feet hurt! Cold approaches don't work! I don't even have a social circle to help out! I don't like to drink, so bars are out of the question. Should I just go to Asia to get a non westernized woman??
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
B-b-but real life is scary! Are there even any women IRL? My feet hurt! Cold approaches don't work! I don't even have a social circle to help out! I don't like to drink, so bars are out of the question. Should I just go to Asia to get a non westernized woman??
Fuk cold approaches op should go hit the clubs
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post 1579624671 05-07-2019, 02:36 PM
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Originally Posted By alphatan⏩
Fuk cold approaches op should go hit the clubs
You think the guy in the OP, the guy who made the post in the OP instead of going out automatically, who looks like he does, should go to clubs

I'm back, bitches!
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Originally Posted By RedRusty⏩
This isn't creepy at all. Nope.
Agreed. Already reported this post to FBI and Homeland Security. I encourage you all to do the same.
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Damn op is actually a chad



Brah from this chad to a decade older chad... many sober sloots are intimidated by us chad brahs during the day unless you have great social skills.

I used to think I’m ugly af back in high school then went to a party and and few mins later this hot sloot comes and started making out with me

So just go hit the clubs and same sloots will be all over you (srs)
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Originally Posted By xTKSx⏩
He's not lying. You look like a school shooter 2 rejections away from acting on impulse. Change up your hairstyle, learn how to smile, and seem interesting. Attractiveness, education, and wealth play a factor but so does having a personality and being a fun person. Judging from that picture you look like you lack in that department.
See my progress picture for a up-to-date picture. You know, I know how to talk to people and hold a conversation, since I interact with people a lot at work. But I disagree that I should be "a fun person" or make women laugh. I am more stoic than funny. But you are right that faking it would give me success, but I don't want to. Thanks for the input though.
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Originally Posted By sabonis224⏩
Agreed. Already reported this post to FBI and Homeland Security. I encourage you all to do the same.
Well, this "dare to" seems to be an extreme expression in American English. Seems like it gives off the wrong, unintentional vibes.
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So OP I can relate to what you mean and I think some people may not admit it but the rejections of online dating, hell rejection in that sense can take a toll on your self-esteem and your overall self-worth. The funny thing is about dating and finding a partner is that it is completely illogical and based on arbitrary things. One girl may like you for one thing while a girl may get weirded out by a mole on your face or how you laugh. It is what it is. It really helps tonottake rejection personally but I know how hard that is especially if you let your mind wander.

If you sit and dwell on it you can think about past rejections and why they didn't work or why you felt you didn't deserve to be rejected. I was with my gf last week somewhere and saw a woman who I slept with for a month then started acting passive aggressive and blocked me. The fact that she did that to me infuriated me, but ultimately where would me dwelling on that help me in my quest to achieve happiness in my life with the right one? I instead moved on and let it go on. I'm enjoying my girlfriend and working on growing a relationship with her.

If you talk to women more you realize that they are human too and have their own set of problems, shortcomings, and failures. They're no better or worse than you dude.
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If getting attention online boosts your mood, rejection understandably depresses you.

You need to find a way to put space between what people say about you and how you view yourself. If you identify with 100% of feedback about you, it's no wonder you'd feel miserable.
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