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05-07-2019, 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
you don't get it because you are a *******That's how it's supposed to be though. Idk how people can just start talking to someone online and fuk them later that night. The chit is weird. I have never in my life asked out a girl or had a fun date with a girl i didn't have rapport with first. I just don't get it.
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05-07-2019, 06:58 PM
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05-07-2019, 08:56 PM
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not for me. rejection just always meant I wasn't up to par, in whatever aspect.
Online dating is the 80/20 rule in full effect. I had a thread asking if Tinder was dead and apparently there are still some people that pull from it. Just being honest with yourself and ask if you're part of that 20 percent. I dont just mean looks like but also personality and socially. If you aren't its getting tougher and tougher.
Online dating is the 80/20 rule in full effect. I had a thread asking if Tinder was dead and apparently there are still some people that pull from it. Just being honest with yourself and ask if you're part of that 20 percent. I dont just mean looks like but also personality and socially. If you aren't its getting tougher and tougher.
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05-07-2019, 09:50 PM
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Agree with OP
I'm 6'6" , better than average shape and although I get matches not many are up to my standard. However I know why this is
These apps are 80% men. Realistically it only gives Chads more scope. Why would a 5/10 girl settle for a 5/10 guy when she has the option of being with 8/10 and 9/10 males
Sure you may get lucky and date above but don't count on it
I'm 6'6" , better than average shape and although I get matches not many are up to my standard. However I know why this is
These apps are 80% men. Realistically it only gives Chads more scope. Why would a 5/10 girl settle for a 5/10 guy when she has the option of being with 8/10 and 9/10 males
Sure you may get lucky and date above but don't count on it
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05-07-2019, 10:13 PM
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Honestly I had the exact same experience,occasionallyi would get matches but they were, for lack of a better word, whales. It fuks with your head definitely, I can whole-heartedly say that I would rather be single than deal with online dating. Delete it bro, approach in real life (yeah this is easier said than done) less chance of meeting crazies and flakes. GL
05-07-2019, 10:18 PM
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Honestly you probably have the social skills of a retarded person if youre really 6’2”. Im 5’7” and have no issues.
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05-07-2019, 10:27 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
you do realise that the weird sexual identity of religous people, which is basically chastity, is the antidote to everything? this entire mess is what happens when people dont have any boundariesreal talk
most women are garbage and not worth your time
most men are garbage as well. It's just a feature of humanity. You take it personally because you wish people were like you. But you have to realize 2% of the population is hardcore sociopaths, and then you have something like 1/4 women is depressed. Probably half of women have some neurotic traits. Some are religious, and so they have some weird sexual identity issues. Then there is the whole issue of negative body image in the media. There's the fact that a lot of women have been sexually assaulted or harassed...Then you have the existence of Tinder, and the cumdumpster thousand cawk stare.
Tour's over for women. Women today are expected to work and be like men while also be women. They are to be strong and independent professionals while also being nurturing and attentive mothers. This is impossible.
most women are garbage and not worth your time
most men are garbage as well. It's just a feature of humanity. You take it personally because you wish people were like you. But you have to realize 2% of the population is hardcore sociopaths, and then you have something like 1/4 women is depressed. Probably half of women have some neurotic traits. Some are religious, and so they have some weird sexual identity issues. Then there is the whole issue of negative body image in the media. There's the fact that a lot of women have been sexually assaulted or harassed...Then you have the existence of Tinder, and the cumdumpster thousand cawk stare.
Tour's over for women. Women today are expected to work and be like men while also be women. They are to be strong and independent professionals while also being nurturing and attentive mothers. This is impossible.
05-07-2019, 11:16 PM
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Originally Posted By ectobruh⏩
You don't have to worry. I travel alot on business to really undeveloped countries. A thick skin is required to survive these experiences.it can literally be anything. Its not just attraction!!! You all are gonna get this guy swatted!!!
Going out and talk to girls in bars or clubs is a sound advice, of course, but I really don't feel like I fit in there most of the time. My goal is not to pull a girl for a night. Also, I am not willing to change who I am just to appeal to women who frequent those places. Some of you think I am socially retarted. To some extent this might be true, mainly in the "flirting" department. But the thing is, I am not an entertainer and have no desire to talk about meaningless things in a high energy environment. Everyone is different. Some like to tell stories, drink and make fun in a light-hearted environment, some find joy in other things. Furthermore I have limited free time and travel alot, that is why I used online dating in the first place...
A while ago I came to the conclusion that day game might be the best for me. It is just that I am not impartial anymore.
05-08-2019, 12:46 AM
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Originally Posted By Unwicht⏩
All i see is entitlement and nothing about social skills. There was an asian miscer a long time ago that hated women for the same reasons, but you could tell that he was a little angry awkward bratMaybe some of you can relate. In the last few years I experienced a lot of rejections, what bothers me the most is the lack of likes or matches on dating apps or sites. It may be irrational but this caused me to develop an ever increasing hatred towards women. My logical self knows this is stupid, but somehow the absence of interest in online dating still hits me hard.
During the last few years I worked hard to get where I am now. My education is rock solid and I have no debts. The job as an electrical engineer pays very well and puts me in the upper middle class. And furthermore my physique is quite good. I am 6'2, lots of muscle and around 8 to 9 % bodyfat. Of course those are just superficial statistics, but isn't this what matters in online dating?
So my mind thinks. On the one hand, I have all those positive perks and on the other hand most women dare to reject me. Deep down this just destroys my confidence and makes me despise women altogether. It can not be that all the hard work is worth nothing nowadays. It seems like the majority of women worship the IG influencer lifestyle and have lost all respect for hard skills. Why even bother. I could just as well play video games all day long. So maybe some of you can relate...
During the last few years I worked hard to get where I am now. My education is rock solid and I have no debts. The job as an electrical engineer pays very well and puts me in the upper middle class. And furthermore my physique is quite good. I am 6'2, lots of muscle and around 8 to 9 % bodyfat. Of course those are just superficial statistics, but isn't this what matters in online dating?
So my mind thinks. On the one hand, I have all those positive perks and on the other hand most women dare to reject me. Deep down this just destroys my confidence and makes me despise women altogether. It can not be that all the hard work is worth nothing nowadays. It seems like the majority of women worship the IG influencer lifestyle and have lost all respect for hard skills. Why even bother. I could just as well play video games all day long. So maybe some of you can relate...
Originally Posted By Unwicht⏩
so you dont want to do anything that makes you uncomfortable that could help you get what you want. I see, nothing more to see here. /threadYou don't have to worry. I travel alot on business to really undeveloped countries. A thick skin is required to survive these experiences.
Going out and talk to girls in bars or clubs is a sound advice, of course, but I really don't feel like I fit in there most of the time. My goal is not to pull a girl for a night. Also, I am not willing to change who I am just to appeal to women who frequent those places. Some of you think I am socially retarted. To some extent this might be true, mainly in the "flirting" department. But the thing is, I am not an entertainer and have no desire to talk about meaningless things in a high energy environment. Everyone is different. Some like to tell stories, drink and make fun in a light-hearted environment, some find joy in other things. Furthermore I have limited free time and travel alot, that is why I used online dating in the first place...
A while ago I came to the conclusion that day game might be the best for me. It is just that I am not impartial anymore.
Going out and talk to girls in bars or clubs is a sound advice, of course, but I really don't feel like I fit in there most of the time. My goal is not to pull a girl for a night. Also, I am not willing to change who I am just to appeal to women who frequent those places. Some of you think I am socially retarted. To some extent this might be true, mainly in the "flirting" department. But the thing is, I am not an entertainer and have no desire to talk about meaningless things in a high energy environment. Everyone is different. Some like to tell stories, drink and make fun in a light-hearted environment, some find joy in other things. Furthermore I have limited free time and travel alot, that is why I used online dating in the first place...
A while ago I came to the conclusion that day game might be the best for me. It is just that I am not impartial anymore.
05-08-2019, 12:50 AM
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Did not read thread but I'm sure it's filled with a bunch of cry baby wah wah *******s jerking each other off while they cry about getting rejected on tinder. You pics suck. Your text games suck. You're socially awkward and you watch to much porn.
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05-08-2019, 12:50 AM
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Originally Posted By davik⏩
It has a lot to do with it, but there is also stuff like the whole "women should work" thing, which is at odds with "women should be good moms"...you do realise that the weird sexual identity of religous people, which is basically chastity, is the antidote to everything? this entire mess is what happens when people dont have any boundaries
05-08-2019, 12:53 AM
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Online dating depends a lot on your location. Some places are great and others are terrible. It varies a lot from country to country.
You could try bumble too. It might be a little bit better than tinder.
I'd stick to real life though if I were you. Make small talk with sloots if they're giving you signs of interest.
Bars with a relaxed atmosphere or have a look in aldi and lidl in the evening. Plenty of young professionals shopping after work!
You could try bumble too. It might be a little bit better than tinder.
I'd stick to real life though if I were you. Make small talk with sloots if they're giving you signs of interest.
Bars with a relaxed atmosphere or have a look in aldi and lidl in the evening. Plenty of young professionals shopping after work!
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05-08-2019, 12:55 AM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
summed that up beautifullyAll i see is entitlement and nothing about social skills. There was an asian miscer a long time ago that hated women for the same reasons, but you could tell that he was a little angry awkward bratso you dont want to do anything that makes you uncomfortable that could help you get what you want. I see, nothing more to see here. /thread
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05-08-2019, 01:00 AM
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pissing me off too.
i am getting less and less patient with this sht.
blocked a girl after one night of not replying and cussed her out.
should be getting better results after these years on those sites but its the opposite
i am getting less and less patient with this sht.
blocked a girl after one night of not replying and cussed her out.
should be getting better results after these years on those sites but its the opposite
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I was letting it get to me for a while, before my younger brother (4 years younger, looks 4 years older, same height, he doesn't lift, Norwood Reaper has had a field day with him) downloaded Tinder and Bumble after he was dumped by his ex. These apps don't stop for him - it's notification central and he's on top of the world.
The reason?
His pictures show that he's a much more outgoing, "fun" kind of guy. He has a few pics at bars/pubs with 2 or 3 friends, some pics where he's just smiling and looking like he's a fun, social kind of guy. Contrast that with mine where they're smile-free gym selfies, or work function awkward smile pics and it's a barren wasteland for me.
It doesn't matter in the slightest that he's always broke, has ADHD, a drinking problem and smokes like a chimney. It's all social-worth perceptions.
The reason?
His pictures show that he's a much more outgoing, "fun" kind of guy. He has a few pics at bars/pubs with 2 or 3 friends, some pics where he's just smiling and looking like he's a fun, social kind of guy. Contrast that with mine where they're smile-free gym selfies, or work function awkward smile pics and it's a barren wasteland for me.
It doesn't matter in the slightest that he's always broke, has ADHD, a drinking problem and smokes like a chimney. It's all social-worth perceptions.
05-08-2019, 01:51 AM
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Originally Posted By Nicklol⏩
This happened to me yesterday. I told some bitch we couldn't kick it after I saw her ugly tattoos. She went crazy, cussed me out then blocked me. You a crazy bitch bro?pissing me off too.
i am getting less and less patient with this sht.
blocked a girl after one night of not replying and cussed her out.
should be getting better results after these years on those sites but its the opposite
i am getting less and less patient with this sht.
blocked a girl after one night of not replying and cussed her out.
should be getting better results after these years on those sites but its the opposite
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05-08-2019, 01:57 AM
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Originally Posted By davik⏩
Sure Christianity, Judaism etc have basically enshrined what being a decent human being is to us.... but if the “antidote to everything” is to have everyone believe in a man-made superior being then I have some bad news for you....you do realise that the weird sexual identity of religous people, which is basically chastity, is the antidote to everything? this entire mess is what happens when people dont have any boundaries
That isn’t an antidote, that is absolute fear-mongering control. If you feel that the only way for yourself to thrive in this world is for human nature to be controlled by religion, you must be a really bottom-barrel human.
Why not move to the middle-east? I believe you might find your place there.
FYI. Those religious people who practice chastity (and their isn’t too many of them nowadays) either tend to touch up little boys (Catholic Priests) or they are one doubt away from giving in to human temptation anyways.
Cliffs.
Religion is great for setting out guidelines of basic human decency.
If you need a woman to believe in a magic-man in the sky and a fiery pit of hell for her to pick you and stay with you.... then the issue is with you.
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
its not 2010 anymore. this is basic bitch atheism.Sure Christianity, Judaism etc have basically enshrined what being a decent human being is to us.... but if the “antidote to everything” is to have everyone believe in a man-made superior being then I have some bad news for you....
That isn’t an antidote, that is absolute fear-mongering control. If you feel that the only way for yourself to thrive in this world is for human nature to be controlled by religion, you must be a really bottom-barrel human.
Why not move to the middle-east? I believe you might find your place there.
FYI. Those religious people who practice chastity (and their isn’t too many of them nowadays) either tend to touch up little boys (Catholic Priests) or they are one doubt away from giving in to human temptation anyways.
Cliffs.
Religion is great for setting out guidelines of basic human decency.
If you need a woman to believe in a magic-man in the sky and a fiery pit of hell for her to pick you and stay with you.... then the issue is with you.
That isn’t an antidote, that is absolute fear-mongering control. If you feel that the only way for yourself to thrive in this world is for human nature to be controlled by religion, you must be a really bottom-barrel human.
Why not move to the middle-east? I believe you might find your place there.
FYI. Those religious people who practice chastity (and their isn’t too many of them nowadays) either tend to touch up little boys (Catholic Priests) or they are one doubt away from giving in to human temptation anyways.
Cliffs.
Religion is great for setting out guidelines of basic human decency.
If you need a woman to believe in a magic-man in the sky and a fiery pit of hell for her to pick you and stay with you.... then the issue is with you.
and muh ****file priests so its not worth it and im too lustful to control myself are poor arguments and only reflect your own failure to even try. i will admit that the culture is against it so its even harder than it should be
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Originally Posted By davik⏩
Clearly missing the point.its not 2010 anymore. this is basic bitch atheism.
and muh ****file priests so its not worth it and im too lustful to control myself are poor arguments and only reflect your own failure to even try. i will admit that the culture is against it so its even harder than it should be
and muh ****file priests so its not worth it and im too lustful to control myself are poor arguments and only reflect your own failure to even try. i will admit that the culture is against it so its even harder than it should be
People shouldn’t need to be scared of a flying mythical man to make them be a decent human being.
If you think that people do, then I don’t know what kind of people you are hanging round with but maybe leave that circle.p and get some new friends.
People are who they are, scum will always be scum, even if religion helps them mask it for a while, until the cracks in faith etc show.... Since your worldview is so jaded, clearly you have seen a lot of scummy behaviour....and they say that you are the friends you keep.
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I was a homeless drug addict
No college
I Make 65k a year 2 years sober, have my own place (nothing special) and have nothing to offer anyone really and still do great in public or on the apps!
U mad?
Yea u mad
Guarantee you come across boring as **** and extremely judge mental. No woman wants any part of that
No college
I Make 65k a year 2 years sober, have my own place (nothing special) and have nothing to offer anyone really and still do great in public or on the apps!
U mad?
Yea u mad
Guarantee you come across boring as **** and extremely judge mental. No woman wants any part of that
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
actually following the moral law makes you a decent human being. at the crux of that is God whether you recognise it or not. its not fear. i dont really fear anything in the sense you think people wouldClearly missing the point.
People shouldn’t need to be scared of a flying mythical man to make them be a decent human being.
If you think that people do, then I don’t know what kind of people you are hanging round with but maybe leave that circle.p and get some new friends.
People are who they are, scum will always be scum, even if religion helps them mask it for a while, until the cracks in faith etc show.... Since your worldview is so jaded, clearly you have seen a lot of scummy behaviour....and they say that you are the friends you keep.
People shouldn’t need to be scared of a flying mythical man to make them be a decent human being.
If you think that people do, then I don’t know what kind of people you are hanging round with but maybe leave that circle.p and get some new friends.
People are who they are, scum will always be scum, even if religion helps them mask it for a while, until the cracks in faith etc show.... Since your worldview is so jaded, clearly you have seen a lot of scummy behaviour....and they say that you are the friends you keep.
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Originally Posted By davik⏩
Agree with bolded....actually following the moral law makes you a decent human being,at the crux of that is God whether you recognise it or not. its not fear. i dont really fear anything in the sense you think people would
You can’t prove or disprove gods existence, so belief in him is either blind faith or fear of the consequences of being wrong.
People with any sort of blind faith are worrisome, they tend to be able to justify anything to themselves.
People scared of questioning ideology and burning for eternity.... They have a whole host of other issues apart from being a sheep.
I don’t actually know any religious folks IRL, so this is just how I view them based on the only information on them.
When religion loosens it’s grip, there will be an adjustment phase, but the decent people will still be decent people and the kunts will still be kunts, the mask of righteousness will just be removed.
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Originally Posted By ChelshireCat⏩
youre scared of questioning. everyones an atheist and/or theyve turned their back on god. thats the majority position for natives in the west. youve had your head in the sand since 10 years ago?Agree with bolded....
You can’t prove or disprove gods existence, so belief in him is either blind faith or fear of the consequences of being wrong.
People with any sort of blind faith are worrisome, they tend to be able to justify anything to themselves.
People scared of questioning ideology and burning for eternity.... They have a whole host of other issues apart from being a sheep.
I don’t actually know any religious folks IRL, so this is just how I view them based on the only information on them.
When religion loosens it’s grip, there will be an adjustment phase, but the decent people will still be decent people and the kunts will still be kunts, the mask of righteousness will just be removed.
You can’t prove or disprove gods existence, so belief in him is either blind faith or fear of the consequences of being wrong.
People with any sort of blind faith are worrisome, they tend to be able to justify anything to themselves.
People scared of questioning ideology and burning for eternity.... They have a whole host of other issues apart from being a sheep.
I don’t actually know any religious folks IRL, so this is just how I view them based on the only information on them.
When religion loosens it’s grip, there will be an adjustment phase, but the decent people will still be decent people and the kunts will still be kunts, the mask of righteousness will just be removed.
ill break this down - you should be questioning your atheism and rejection of God
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