So here it is guys the official cold approach thread! This thread is for those considering doing cold approach to meet more women and increase their confidence and social skills. I suggested that I, and a bunch of like-minded miscers start the cold approach crew after user bohemianSlav started this thread about his success with cold approach. (Big ups to him for inspiring this thread)
https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...7255691&page=9

Cold approach is something that I’ve been wrestling with doing for years and I’ve recently decided that I will make a conscious effort to cold approach at least 5 times a week journaling my experiences. So why not make a thread to share my secrets and inspire others?


EVER HAVE THIS HAPPEN TO YOU?

Let’s face it guys most of us have had an experience where we were in public just running everyday errands and then all of a sudden this happens…



























You turn down an aisle and a drop dead gorgeous girl appears. She’s just your type, nice body tight waist... just makes you wanna goHNNNGright there. She looks at you and smiles… your heart stops… arms are heavy, knees sweaty, moms spaghetti.. your mind is racing a million miles a second you’re already wondering what your kids will look like(haha what a simp). You want to say something. Anything! But you keep second guessing yourself! Goddamnit how can you just break the ice!?! TALK TO HER!


Time passes and before you know it you forfeit. You wuss out like a fckn puss. Just like all the other times, you choose your fantasy of “what could’ve been” over approaching her and you stare at your phone until the moment to just simply say “hi” completely passes.

Now every now and again when you routinely visit that store you have a memory of her. That drop dead gorgeous 10/10 that stood out from the vanilla you see daily. You realize what was the big fckn deal with talking to her? If you had a second chance you’d do it in a heartbeat. But that’s the thing..there won’t be a second chance…you gon fckd up..


This thread is for the guys who are done with this chit.

This thread is for the guys who want to man up and take control of their lives and approach every girl they have interest in fearlessly. This thread isn’t some PUA ra ra BS. Our simple goal is this:


1.Get over approach anxiety

2.Cultivate the skill of starting observational conversation about anything with anyone

3.Making your intentions known. How to be flirtatious without being creepy

4.Getting numbers, getting dates, and sharing an experience with someone you wouldn’t have ever met otherwise.

5.Most importantly, brightening up someone’s otherwise typical run of the mill routine by making them smile, knocking them out of that daily grind durr haze, and expecting nothing in return.



And don’t think this only applies to getting women. This skill of being able to talk to anyone will be extremely valuable in life. Whether it’s a party, or business event, you’ll have the skill to walk up to anyone and just open them up and have them laughing with 0 effort.

This one skill might change your life, but don’t make cold approach out to be some grand event. We’re in a fitness forum. We all know that one guy or girl, who makes a big deal out of going to the gym every once in a blue moon. They’re “all about that gym life” for a week, buying ellipticals and chit, but then 3 months later they’re still 40lbs overweight.Approach cold approach like the gym. You go in every day and work that muscle. Figure out how to perfect your form, what you could work on, what equipment can you use to be more effective, etc. and you do it again and again. This is a lifestyle change, a hobby that will dramatically be more beneficial to you than the gym could ever be.

So What are you waiting for?

So with that said let’s get to it! I’m new to this also so expect insights and experiences from me throughout this thread. I’m going to save the first 3 post spots below this one to post the best tips from everyone as our collective experiences grow. This will make it easier for newcomers to advance quicker allowing everyone to get better quicker and efficiently.

Under that I will post an experience I had just today with an exercise that will help us think of things to say during these situations.

Thank you for taking the time out to read this and I look forward to tackling our fears together and having some interesting adventures along the way.

**COLD APPROACH CREW 2019**

[Seat taken]

[reserved]

[employees only parking]

June 21st 2019

Funny. After reading bohemianSlavs post on cold approaching last night. I wake up and start my day as usual. Getting ready for work, I stop at the gas station to get a red bull and a snack like every other day.
Cute little blonde was in front of me maybe 5”2. We exchanged glances and she had paused for a moment while paying for her stuff like she was wondering would I say something to her.. guess what I did...

Yup stood there like an idiot.

After she left the older lady behind me was just breathing down my neck as if she was saying “did you not see that cute girl giving you signals just now?”

It’s funny how this happened EXACTLY after thinking about getting into cold approach and reading bohemianSlavs post. Definitely a sign.




So instead of sulking and beating myself up over it I’m going to do this exercise where I go over the scenario again and list things I COULDVE SAID to break the ice. This
will make it easier for the brain to call back to when the situation rises again.

She was at the register paying for gas and 3 sodas... Remember observational conversation is the easiest most natural way to start a conversation with random people. Comment on something in the environment to break the ice. I could’ve asked her “hmm I never tried that drink before is it good?”

completely normal natural thing to say. At this point mission is already accomplished. I broke the ice, talked to a stranger. A cute stranger. Where ever the conversation would’ve went from there if there even would’ve been a conversation who knows.

But yeah Day 1, case study 1/9999, lesson learned.

what im always thinking is "she is so hot, she probably has tons of men messaging her and trying to flirt with her everyday, so who am I ugly kid to compete with those other men"

Hope you are not srs

im 100% serious. Because I believe that its true. You all know how thirsty men are for women. Attractive girls mostly have alot of people around them

Beta mindset

Good luck with that.

Das it mane, In on more people jumping in. Summer is now boyos, sun is shining, everyone's mood is better and girls are walking around in tight little booty shorts and sundresses, hnnnnnnnng. Go get out there and do chit.

“hmm I never tried that drink before is it good?”

Better than nothing, but not ideal. Focus on making a witty and/or funny comment rather than asking questions in a situation like this.

Personally I wouldn't rehearse what you're going to say inside your head before you say it. Just as soon as it comes to you, spit it out. It's called being present in the moment, and authentic, and people appreciate that.

Also, it's not necessarily what you say but how you say it and your body language. If you say words that are super confident but your vocal projection and tonality dont convey confidence, a girl will sense something's off.

Also, NoFap will help tremendously in your pick up endeavors. Good luck OP and cool thread!

Exactly, confidence is everything. You really got nothing to lose in these situations, once you realize that it becomes way easier.

Yup, you've got nothing to lose.

"Every rejection is a brick in my castle"

"You miss 100% of the shots you dont take"

Etc.

Truth is, its a numbers game. DO NOT be ashamed to mass approach females (just be slick about it, dont make it obvious). There are a lot, easily thousands or hundreds of thousands of girls out there that will like each and every one of us. We just have to find them 🤗 keyword, WE, as in the burden is on US to open up conversations. There are exceptions, but dont expect anything to fall in your lap

Did the miscer who said he was doing it yesterday deliver?

if you have to approach a hundred girls to get someone, then something is wrong.

Why don't you gtfo this thread lol? You are clearly an FA/incel loser with 0 intentions to even attempt a change and noone is interested in listening to your delusional bs and negativity. This should be a thread for guys that WANT to cold approach so if you want to just vent about your miserable existence go to one of the hundreds of FA threads being posted on the misc almost every day.

If somebody approached a hundred girls and got one, they'd at least have one more than you, b!tch

How about some tips and tricks to help those who have no clue how to do this like myself?

Interedasting thread idea. Keep up the journal, cold approach brah. Repped.

getting her is not what bothers me


it's all the bs i'll have to put up with to keep her

it's just not worth it anymore, cuz you could do everything you think is right , and somehow , it will still be your fault when she blows a "friend"

i got enough aholes to deal with on the road and in the store these days , i don't need to date one


when that one in a mill unicorn presents itself , you'll know , cuz she'll approach you


approaching sloots , you're doing exactly what she wants

a man with integrity doesn't chase women , he also doesn't get laid much

being a man is not about getting laid , it's about having integrity and strength


jfc men are stupid

was thinkin of doin this morning.
saw a hot girl waitin for bus.

but just like always.. they always have some kind of attention and after about 10 seconds, she picked up her phone and started laughing and talking to somebody.. its like they cant be alone for 5 seconds.. at the gym, at the bus stop, at the store
thats why I just use online

Please don't do this. I'm for cold approach at bars and clubs where it is common but don't do this during the daytime srs

In. Been on a dry spell for a couple months. Going to the river today will talk to as many girls as possible
Why not? Girls like it and it sets you apart srs I’ve gotten laid from cold approaching. It’s all a numbers game

I don't be leaf that you are that ugly and even if you are, I see plenty of attractive people with not so attractive partners. You'd also be surprised that there are plenty of attractive people that don't get approached by the opposite sex. So if you approach in person, you'll really stand out.He'srightyouknow.jpglol STFU. There is nothing wrong with making friendly conversation with someone during the daytime.

approaching in nightclubs is not cold approaching because its socially accepted.

IN

Remember men, fear is not real, it’s only a product of thoughts you create.

Pro tip:Always be mindful that every interaction will not be a homerun. And that’s okay, rejection is part of learning. There’s going to be times you’re gonna run out of things to say and stand there like an idiot, but that’s okay. It’s best to learn as you go and experience it fully. Do not quit/stop or you’ll miss your chance for something great. Be the guy to make the impossible possible.

It works....

Imagine if everyone approached random people at grocery stores or at the gym. Kind of messed up imo. People don't want to go out into public to be hit on or bothered. A lot of these girls have boyfriends at the gym too that work out with them.

This is why you will never get a girl.