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Thread: Is there any support for men for loneliness and mental health?

post 1584088221 07-17-2019, 03:17 PM
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Yes, I want to support men (and people) who are struggling with mental health issues. But how much can a few unqualified (non-professional) people really do, except give genuine encouragement and some subjective advice? Good counselors should know exactly how to treat certain diagnosed conditions or be able to "coach" you through less severe obstacles.

People should care about the mental health of our youth because they will be the leaders when the rest of us are gone...
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
That's what loneliness is literally not being able to find common ground with anyone. Jesus dude stop posting all of this other chit like I think I want people to cater to me or whatever you are talking about. Just lol

You dont think I try to talk to my coworkers and chit? I cant relate to them.
Ten years later literally posting the same chit. Change your environment. B-but then I can't watch tornados online all day.

No one can help you if you aren't ready to help yourself.

Want to stop getting fuking bashed about 100 depression threads a month? Make a thread that tracks your real progress towards your goal.
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post 1584089791 07-17-2019, 03:42 PM
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post 1584090241 07-17-2019, 03:48 PM
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Not really. My friend told me that one time he went to see a psychiatrist in college and while they were greeting each other he asked her how she was doing and she said, "Not bad, I wish I wasn't working." True story
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Originally Posted By jeshelton⏩
Ten years later literally posting the same chit. Change your environment. B-but then I can't watch tornados online all day.

No one can help you if you aren't ready to help yourself.

Want to stop getting fuking bashed about 100 depression threads a month? Make a thread that tracks your real progress towards your goal.
I talk to people at work but they are all married and have kids or anti social. Now that i'm 30 it has really hit me that literally everyone is married and tied to their GF and kids. No joke.
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post 1584090391 07-17-2019, 03:50 PM
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Find something to laugh about, best I could do opie.
post 1584090781 07-17-2019, 03:54 PM
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There is plenty.

The issue is linking up with it.

You have to go to the doctors and get a referral.

You have to then ring around to get an appointment with a specialist.

You have to go to the first few appointments, see if it clicks, then desire to keep going.

You have to open up and work through trauma and issues, which is very challenging.

What I’m saying op, is that YOU have to take responsibility for getting help.
You view yourself as helpless and hopeless and more than likely won’t do any of the above...which is a sure sign of personality disorder...which usually takes a loved one to do all of the above for the person and even then therapy won’t do **** because the patient is too focussed on proving how broken they are rather than getting better.
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post 1584090981 07-17-2019, 03:56 PM
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Dear OP, what kinds of things you think would help you feel less lonely? What things usually help you with loneliness? Does hanging out with your girlfriend help with loneliness? Do you two support each other?

How about your parents? Do you feel happy around your girlfriends? How about your parents?

It's not usually the quantity of people around us but the specific people that we are around that makes us happy.

I don't have anyone but my husband but I don't really feel lonely when he's around. When he goes on tour, it's hell. That's why we should have more than just one person I guess.
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just lol at all the miscers enabling this guy. he shud be permabanned. he's always spamming every thread with his FA chit and there are gullible miscers who get pulled into that chit. he doesn't want to change. he just wants to biteh.
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Not really. My friend told me that one time he went to see a psychiatrist in college and while they were greeting each other he asked her how she was doing and she said, "Not bad, I wish I wasn't working." True story
mate sounds like a sensitive retard if he got hurt by that. what if the weather was great and she wanted to be outside enjoying it?
post 1584091351 07-17-2019, 04:00 PM
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I wish men's clubs were still a thing. There's an elks lodge near me, but I only ever see WWI veteran looking dudes in there.
post 1584091401 07-17-2019, 04:01 PM
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What is it you want, OP? You're 30 years old now, not sure how it's so shocking to you that most people around are settling down to mundane lives with kids. Do you date, do you want to date? Why not find a hobby like martial arts where you'll be around people of similar interest. Go to the shooting range, guys are friendly there. Volunteer somewhere. Maybe you need a therapist to talk to weekly. I wouldn't recommend a psych because they're just going to give you a script of drugs to numb you. You're just a lonely *******, not crazy.
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post 1584091501 07-17-2019, 04:02 PM
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Originally Posted By KirkMcquest⏩
If you were a woman you could just type "Im lonely and depressed" in a google search and they would send a helicopter to your house with a team of specialists working around the clock to make you happy. Clowns, jugglers, psychiatrists, chemists...all paid for by men's tax dollars.


If you're a man this is what you get. A punch in the arm and called a *******.
If it's any consolation, depressed women mostly get attention because men see it as an opportunity to bang. A depressed male is something to be wary of.
post 1584091511 07-17-2019, 04:02 PM
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start by stop posting on the misc, for anyone with depression the misc is the last place you want to be
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post 1584091541 07-17-2019, 04:02 PM
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Originally Posted By Cass40⏩
Dear OP, what kinds of things you think would help you feel less lonely? What things usually help you with loneliness? Does hanging out with your girlfriend help with loneliness? Do you two support each other?

How about your parents? Do you feel happy around your girlfriends? How about your parents?

It's not usually the quantity of people around us but the specific people that we are around that makes us happy.

I don't have anyone but my husband but I don't really feel lonely when he's around. When he goes on tour, it's hell. That's why we should have more than just one person I guess.
I feel lonely around everyone and want to isolate after an hour. That's the best way i can put it.
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post 1584091671 07-17-2019, 04:04 PM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I feel lonely around everyone and want to isolate after an hour. That's the best way i can put it.
That's awful, I cannot imagine how that would feel.
post 1584091811 07-17-2019, 04:07 PM
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken⏩
I wish men's clubs were still a thing. There's an elks lodge near me, but I only ever see WWI veteran looking dudes in there.
I think they are. You just have to be rich and connected.
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post 1584091951 07-17-2019, 04:09 PM
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken⏩
If it's any consolation, depressed women mostly get attention because men see it as an opportunity to bang. A depressed male is something to be wary of.
Well i think possibly a lot more people are on guard for depressed men. There is an older guy at my office that just walks around slowly with his head down and you never see people talk to him. I'm not as bad off as him but i can see why people don't talk to him. People can sense it, but it's not something you can just snap out of all day or when you have to work while feeling that way. The guy is probably just like me, lonely and very bored at the office or maybe he is very smart who knows but nobody talks to him man.
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post 1584091971 07-17-2019, 04:09 PM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I feel lonely around everyone and want to isolate after an hour. That's the best way i can put it.
You have a girlfriend? I thought lonely basically meant single.
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ill beat it out of your ******* ass OP, pull up in CA
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I tried four different therapists and it didn’t help. I just accept and deal with it now and think I won’t feel it anymore when I’m dead.
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Originally Posted By MustardTiger17⏩
I think they are. You just have to be rich and connected.
Yeah the one I know of is $120k fee to join, need references from existing members, and the wait list is about 10 years long.
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depression is all about isolation. i think people look at that topically generally. but you cant point to anything specific? that you are doing to cause you to feel isolated?

unfortunately, it is true that people don't like to be around depressed people - as it brings them down, its kind of a double whammy when you're down in the dumps. it does require a little bit of effort on your part

why dont you start to analyze what people like and want to hear and provide it for them? it is more of a mutual exchange - e.g. you provide something, they reciprocate, than it is you not providing anything and expecting to take

im talking very vaguely because i feel it encompasses what i want to say better; large subjects instead of little intricacies
post 1584093221 07-17-2019, 04:32 PM
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Imagine of eod, SkiiGains, GMiscer, and Carsalesmanbrah all had a misc meetup and hit the town together.
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I would be open to actual advice and go see a psychiatrist. Honestly. It’s not a big deal man.

Also, it will help you turn your internal around. As that happens you will appear more friendly, open and approachable. People will start to try to relate to you and the burden you feel will slowly go away.

I promise you. But it’s going to start with you WANTING TO and truly accepting help. Be vulnerable. You have to care for yourself internally. There is NO pressure when you go to see a psychiatrist.

The mental and emotional state you are in now, makes every negative and melancholic feeling that you experience 100x worse. You probably get exhausted from being around your coworkers because of this. You say you can’t relate, but I think a lot of that has to do with things intrinsically for you. You probably approach each day at work from a guarded/sheepish already down in the dumps feeling wise. Because to you “what’s the point, I can’t relate”.

You aren’t happy. It’s not your coworkers that are causing your loneliness. It doesn’t end at work. What your feeling is a byproduct of the root causes of making you feel depressed.

Sure. You put in effort to be friends and stuff with those around you. You’re fighting. But you’re fighting the wrong battle. Everyone is a little broken man. It takes strength to realize that and get help. I’m not saying you’re crazy, diluted or any of that nonsense. But something is wrong and I think you know it. But you won’t truly know what it is until you speak to someone. You have to, have to be open. Leave ego aside. Listen, speak honestly and I guarantee you, you will feel a million times better in a little while and your relationships with your coworkers will improve. You’re driving blind right now man, throwing punches at the wrong things. Someone can help you figure out the root cause and you can start that fight. You will be fine.

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Originally Posted By DanteEdmond⏩
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us?t...mpaign=TD_TopL


Use the website above to search for local therapists in your area. Your health insurance will cover the costs for most, or all, of them. They're trained to listen and speak to depressed and lonely individuals. I spoke to one for a few weeks when I first got out of college.
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OP, Hobbies and alcohol help me . I’ve always been an introvert , but on occasion I get out of the house .
Met some extremely cool people skydiving. Their all adrenaline junkies and alcoholics , awesome bunch .
Go for a photography course . You may meet a sloot there who has common interests.But above all force yourself to get out of the house and experience something, otherwise it’s to easy to get into a rut
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OP are you still with that girl that doesnt have sex with you?
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
OP are you still with that girl that doesnt have sex with you?
Yeah dude i can't have sex if there is no lust though
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