We'll just start at the beginning. Late last year, I meet this bird on POF. Conversation was excellent. She works, in school, seemed to have her head on straight, we were vibing and the whole wop. So, after a few weeks of conversation and texting, we decide to meet. It goes great. We're laughing, talking, both glad that the actual pics matches what we've seen......so we decide the meet again and from there, we continue to meet.

Not that it matters, but she's 27 or 28.

I'm the perfect gentleman. Never tried to fukc, kiss her, press up on her.....I'm playing it cool because we're actually vibing and to me I'm like, "If I fukc too soon, I'll lost interest. Everything she says to me, I won't listen to. I'm going to want to fukc and that's it." We even had the talk about sex too soon, expectations, blah blah blah.

A few months go by, then sh** turns sour. When we're texting throughout the day, it's cool. But when it stops, she likes to make slick comments and get jealous. So one day she says, "Who is she?" and I'm like, "The fukc? Who is who?" and she's asking me about another chick, why I didn't get back to her.....so I tell her, "Listen, we just met. I'm not your dude. I'm not seeing or talking to anyone, it's my job." And it was. I was literally working 7 days a week. I have no kids, so I can paper chase as much as I want without being held down. 13/14 hour days were common because I was able to work as much as I wanted. In the midst of this, I explain to her that that sh** isn't cute and no man wants to deal with that insecure sh**. She apologizes, we get back to talking. A few months later, she does it again. Over what, I don't remember, but I wig out this time and tell her, "Look, you've got some growing up to do. Whatever he did, I didn't. I didn't hurt you, we don't owe each other anything....I haven't even fukced you. Lose my number."

We don't speak for a while. I delete her number, I have no social media so nothing to remove there, block her on WhatsApp, Marco Polo.....I'm done.

She reaches out a while later and apologizes. I tell her it's cool, I've moved on from it, no hard feelings. We get chummy again, MIND YOU, I'VE NEVER FUKCED OR KISSED HER, so the dick doesn't have you acting like this....it's just me being a standup nice guy. She works in the medical field and she travels while doing it, so she gets an assignment to work in a city 2 hours from us. I guess on her way there, they call her and tell her it's been cancelled, she's good to head back home. I'm at work, she texted me what happened and she says, "Wanna go to Texas?", but I couldn't respond because I was busy at the time. So I get a chance to read it finally and I'm thinking, "This is last minute to the core. I won't be able to swing that." I have a dog, so there was no way I can leave him that long by himself and although my mother loves him, I didn't want to ask her if she could watch him on that short of a notice. Before I could even get the chance to reply I couldn't, but something in the city would work, she texted me this really hateful message to the effect of, "This is why I don't give my heart out. If you didn't want to go, you could've just said no. You didn't have to go silent all this time. Men ain't sh**. Have fun Mr. Married Man."

I'm pissed off now. I reply to her, "Listen, this is the third time you've come at me foul. I've done nothing to you. I wasn't able to reply because I was working. I was going to see if we could do something in the city because I have no one to watch my dog. You need to grow up. Let your heart heal before you try to put yourself out there next time. And for the record, I'm not married. Not sure where you got that from, but you can look it up."

That was the last thing that was said for the past 6 months.

Fast forward to today, I wake up to a text message from the ex-wife and 4 missed calls back to back. The text messages are saying, "Do you know her? Who the fukc is this? Why won't you answer my calls?"

I'm sleep, so I hear nothing and see nothing until I wake up and I'm like, "Wtf are you talking about? I was sleep." So we get into this back and forth and I finally tell her, "Listen, I have no idea why she did that. I haven't spoken to her and I don't condone that. I apologize, but I had zero knowledge of this." Apparently, she found her on FB and sent her a message asking her if we're still married. So now here I am, having to answer for some sh** I'm unaware of and don't condone. I had to go back into my archives to find her number and when I did, I lit into her.....

We go back and forth a little bit and she tells me she was unsure of me and insecure. Because I couldn't answer at the time, someone hurt you to the point you feel like everyone is out to get you, you invade my personal life and involve someone who has ZERO to do with this scenario. This bitch is crazy.

I've seen a car like hers the past few months driving past my house. I can't say 100% sure it's her, but based on this, I'm almost positive it is.

Since my divorce, I've met 6 chicks....ALL of them have been scarred something crazy. This was just the first to actually take it this far.

These apps are trouble. Delete them.

no pics huh? black jesus you know better

I know the game, but damn that....not this one.

So who was she?

Awared

This chick I met....that's it. No relationship, nothing....just a chick I met, spent some time with and that's it.

No pics...

No cliffs...





Get it together black jesus, you're better than this.

Should have spotted something was off w/ her sooner. You got to test her a bit too in order to find out things that can be hidden.

Anyways isn't it common knowledge that POF is the worst of all the apps? If you're looking for something more serious, try match. I personally know 2 people w/ great professions that have gotten matched and married on it.

lol looks like youre the drama queen in this story, over reacting over two comments made in a period of various months. Can be handled better. Also lol at stringing around a girl for 6 months for nothing.

Dude, you didn't even kiss her after a few months? I can see waiting a few dates to kiss, even longer to fuk but after a while, it makes sense she'd think you were married. Obviously she turned out to be crazy but at some point, she wanted the dik.

Months went by, didnt smash, didnt even try to smash.


Son....

That's the thing, she hid the sh** very well, so there was nothing to spot because we were enjoying each other's time/company. It can definitely be good, and I salute those who have done well on it, but damn that, that sh** is over for me. Hayle naw.
Handled better? The fukc? How was that handled wrong? Lol, don't be that guy.

Brother i would tend to believe your story but, 6 months you dated this girl and no kiss or no sex. That makes zero sense.

this wtf

I read that and legit got pissed. OP must have low test AF.

black jesus? more like chastity jesus. Am I right boys?!

It didn't make sense because that info was already divulged. Told her I was recently divorced, no kids, etc, etc....

My lack of trying to get in her pants, or even kiss her had nothing to do with her being the way she was. Her past relationship did that to her. What he did, from what she told me, that did it.....See aboveI never said I dated her. We didn't get that far. I said we conversed a bit, saw each other a few times.....we were nowhere near the stage of being intimate.

Uhhhh.... this. WTF man? Being a gentleman is all good (I work the same way) but if you don't even want to kiss the girl after a few dates then what's the point? You just looking for a friend?

Side note: I met a chick at a bar maybe 2 months after breaking up with my GF at the time and she did the same thing to me lol.... crept my FB and then DM'd my ex asking if we were still together.

Bishes be cray.

so is this a copypasta or what?

Test it fine, but what would've been the point if you can't get off the ground with someone because of their insecurities?I was just looking to meet someone, sane.....nice. Wasn't trying to rush anything, was just trying to get to know her. But you can't do that when someone wigs out for no reason and you have breaks in communication for months.

I have no problem with making a move or even trying to get physical, but this was a situation that didn't allow that.

My dude, you were a twig inside this fkn storm. You played it cool and as level headed as you could, but some of these things that some sloots try to pull off is despicable and rooted into some deep down issues that need some heavy counseling. I got fkn deja vu from your post. Been there, done that except I ended up finding a GPS tracking device under my car. I agree these apps are trouble and a breeding ground for these type of experiences (or worse), but there's still some out there that are down to earth and centered. The mistake imo? Initiating conversation after the time you guys ended it after you saw the red flags. The first time was just a test trial for what you were in for. Get a restraining order too if you know for a fact you're being stalked.

You *******s who keep bringing up the fact that he didn't smash after all the time fail to realize how smashing at a certain point doesn't become a priority anymore but just an enhancement

One crazy bitch equates to me not being able to get women? Where the fukc do you get that from? Lol.

Read it all and that sucks.

Surprised on the not securing a kiss at least once, especially after multiple get togethers.

How did she know what name to stalk for on social media for an ex?

All chicks using these apps are like this in my experience..
I once was accused of having my penor in a chick because i was on my motorcycle and couldn't immediately contain her insecurities by answering her text at that instant..
Got home from buying a few things to find 10+ insane messages.. had to tell the girl to make like micheal jackson and beat it.. then a couple months later i run into her and she apollogizes and gives me this speech about her cheating ******* ex i'm not trying to hear..
So she starts texting me again after and when i make it clear i'm not going to mess with her again and best she can hope for is friendship.. she loses it.. and starts sending crazy texts again..

lmao, on spread


Op, good luck out there, bitches be crazy

Would definitely say this matters, I’ve yet to meet a girl who is closing in on 30, single, and not fukn nuts

Even if they’re in a relationship, if it’s with a “boyfriend”... If they haven’t found long-term commitment by that point, there’s a reason

I do not understand. You were talking to / dating this chick for MONTHS without fukking or even kissing?

Aren't you the brah miscers ask for help with sealing the deal?

Wat is this I don't even

butwhowascliffs

The times we did get together, a few of the good times, I had my badge on. First and last name.....

I told the Misc that nothing good comes from using Tinder years ago.

No one cares what I say

TL: DR anybody got cliffs?