I have two updates on my 'pursuit of science' for the Misc.

1. The woman from the doctor's office finally texted me last Saturday. She told me that she was waiting for me to text her, but since I didn't, she did. I let her down easy and told her that I was married and that trading numbers with her was a huge mistake. She was disappointed, but understood and said "If things change, you have my number."

*Before you flame me for attempting to cheat on my wife, read my other posts in this thread. My wife is/was completely aware I was/am cold-approaching women for "science."

2. Last Friday night my wife wasn't feeling well and went to bed early. So, I went to a bar/club a couple miles from our house to experiment some more. Things were a bit slow and most of the women were with men so my options were limited. About a half hour after I arrived, I was sitting drinking a Diet Coke (lol) and got approached by a big girl who asked me to dance. I tell her I'm a terrible dancer (I'm not, just had no interest in her) and she said "If you change your mind I'll be right over there." That was the end of that.

About an hour in, a party of 4 girls came in together. One of them was pretty hot (dirty blonde, nice body, short skirt and cowboy boots) and I decided to approach her at some point. Ultimately, I decided to wait for her to get a drink and get settled. Approaching a girl who is out with her friends is almost guaranteed failure if you do it too soon. Despite deciding to wait to approach her I wanted her to be aware of my presence and I got close to the dance floor where she could see me. And she did. We traded smiles and before long she was giving me numerous IoI. Looking at me, smiling, and she kept walking by me for no apparent reason but kept coming back from wherever she 'went' shortly after. She was giving me an opportunities to talk to her, but I wanted to wait a bit longer because a little bit of rejection drives them nuts. Though you have to be careful because they can get a bit resentful and start to think that you're full of yourself. Anyway, she got tired of me ignoring her and walked up to me and said "Hi, I'm Mandy." "Can you dance?" I said "I can, if you mean to this song." She said "Yes, wanna?" And I said "Sure, let's go."

I'm not going to explain the whole night, but I spent about an hour hanging out with her (Mandy) and we traded numbers. She immediately texted me after I left the club, but I just gave her the same line I gave the other women.

Obviously, not an approach on my part, but a positive interaction.

*Edit* Specifically, for you EOD. I went to the club completely alone. Not a single phuk was given by me or anyone else.

How do people claim cold approaching works? You go and start a convo with someone you get Bert stared ignored or instantly rejected is your lucky to even get that far these internet myths!

Yeah like in a social setting or something but in public streets etc it don’t work they Bert stare you or ignore you or just stare at their phone

I listened to your entire video and my experiences (and those of my friends) are not even remotely similar to yours. Either the women in London are particularly snobbish or your look and/or approach is unappealing to women.

I won't deny that things are probably slightly easier for me because I'm a decent looking guy (and a Chad for men my age (40s)), but the common thread that women tell me that they find attractive is my confidence. I'm not arrogant or aloof, just comfortable in my own skin and women pick up on that.

I think it's just you, man. You really need to take an honest, hard look at yourself and consider making some legitimate changes to your mindset before you sink even further into inceldom.

I guarantee you I could make it work at a bus stop. Seriously man, you're just making excuses.

Nah you wouldn’t every man says that then when I meet people they talk to no one it’s a myth excuses? I was went out approached and I’m telling you what happened.... how can a a 42 year old man who lives in a doll city compare to a 22 year old in London? You can’t meet people in London I’m not asking for your opinon I’m telling you how it is despite trying everything now please go.

Mindset only came after rejection and being ignored not before you have it backwards son maybe if I didn’t get Bert stared and ignored I wouldn’t have such mindset?????

Ok, let's say London is terrible for meeting women. It wouldn't surprise me because it's becoming Pakistan 2.0.

Oklahoma being "dull" is probably to my benefit. Women here are very likely a lot less vapid than a lot of other places. Oklahoma is the MOST Conservative state in the U.S. and anyone with an I.Q. more than a carrot knows that Conservative women chit all over Liberal women (London).

Conservative women are more family oriented, loyal, and simply down-to-Earth. In a word: approachable.

Yes but bars and pubs are sausage fests and no one goes out without their friends to these places and no one wants to talk to strangers and in the gym all the women wear earphones

Funny how when I go out I never see cold approaching yet certain miscers say they can do it no problem lol

It literally is a meme

Nobody is going to believe these stories unless there is proof.

Yeah it's a myth dude. Check this video of New York City. No cold approaching in sight. Everyone staying to themselves or in groups. Everyone has ear buds in and are on their phones. Just like we keep saying. I would think there would be more interaction between people in a big city but there isn't.

mind=blown this thread is so big

You can't even have conversations man. You have to know people or have friends first or they will just walk away or bert stare you.

Like right now i'm not even that worried about friends i just want to fit in a community or talk to people. Even talking to coworkers or people at work would be cool. But it's literally impossible when you don't know anyone or have social status.

Arch didn't I say you were wasting your time

mystery dat you?

Kinda forgot about this thread for a while - I was dating a girl during August

Anyway, I just met a girl on the CTA today (it was stopped due to an accident). We talked for like 20 minutes, I just wimped out and didn't ask for the number.

I'm back on the cold approach wagon. It's not easy but will prove beneficial long-term (dating apps are beginning to bore me)

Dating apps suck and cold approaching you get no where with it

Yep and both Peach/Eod are almost hopeless.

It's glaringly obvious from their posts why women aren't interested in them. As a man, those two creep me the phuk out. I can only imagine how they come across to women.

The worst part is that they can't (or refuse) see the truth about themselves and want to lay the blame at the feet of all women.

Dating is hard. It always has been. Rejection is common for everyone, but I always used it as fuel to improve myself.

Anyway, I'm out guys. Good luck.

Dude we are so negative because we have been rejected and hurt rejection makes you feel worthless beat defeated you don’t get what rejection is like

Lol cold approaching is creepy by default

Myself and peachy aren't creepy we are telling you how it is. Imagine thinking approaching randoms is not creepy.

Exactly! We are talking from experience though EOD is abit older than me so he’s obviously tried it a lot more than me I don’t blame women at all just saying the reaction you’ll get from cold approaching!

This thread was good and then people started whining like little bitches and now it's derailed. Pick yourself back up if you were rejected and understand it's going to happen alot, doesn't mean you just give up. Absolutely mogged by the idea of people conceding to rejection then putting the blame on women.


Grow some balls

also, got rejected plenty of times both in person and on tinder but who gives a flyin fuk. billions of girls on this planet, you're gonna let just a few ruin your life lmao.

If you feel that cold approaching is creepy, it's because you feel creepy doing it and ..more than likely you are.

I don't feel that at all. When I strike up a conversation it is typically totally benevolent to see how the person reacts. You look for body language, change in voice pitch/tone, and responsiveness.

Using the bus stop example from earlier, I might say:

"I don't take the bus often, do you know how often it runs?"

At that point I am going to gauge her response. If she doesn't completely shut down I might say "What are you listening to?" "Ya, I like him/her." "Here, this is what I've got playing." And hand her my phones.

A lot of times nothing comes of it, but that's not the point. The point is having the courage to give yourself the CHANCE to be successful while also having enough self-awareness to not act weak and desperate.

Thus endeth the sermon.

But bro I’ve actualy went out and cold approached women myself

I'm 42 and I'd slept with 70-80 women by the time I was 23 (almost 24) when I met my wife. That was BEFORE the internet, dating apps, etc. We had absolutely no choice but to cold approach women if you wanted to get laid/have a relationship.

Clearly, I don't have a clue what I'm talking about.

How can you compare 20 years ago to now? Times have changed massively and sure cold approaching worked then I’m not doubting that but it don’t these days because social media has ruined everything meeting women was even easy 7 years ago

tfw only cold approached by weird homeless people crew or weirdos from Christiania

What if you're ethnic? I'm Asian, does cold approach work?
I'm gonna go ahead and guess it doesn't.