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post 1590153151 10-21-2019, 04:56 PM
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Originally Posted By Yero91⏩
Why would you marry this girl?

USAF.....

Is the extra bump in BAH worth your peace of mind?
She joined because of me


Told me it was "always something she wanted to do"

I'm old enough where I wouldn't marry someone for a pay raise.


But obviously not old enough to tell when someone has a personality disorder
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post 1590153921 10-21-2019, 05:13 PM
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Originally Posted By GravityLee⏩
hats not to say there arent psychopathic men on here. **** many of those have made the news. Ive just noticed a much higher concentration of mental illness among the women because this isnt a logical place where they should be hanging out. That leaves people that think irrationally aka crazy women. Before anyone gets mad over this I want to ask you would you introduce your daughter to this place?
the problem is there is a HIGH level of NPD among the male miscers here

its not a coincidence that a highly disproportionate number have experienced BPD relationships, including myself. theres studies done where NPD and BPD literally can only date each other. the high experienced is similar to other behaviours that negatively effect your life but cant stop chasing the high
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post 1590154921 10-21-2019, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted By HockeyBacon18⏩
the problem is there is a HIGH level of NPD among the male miscers here

its not a coincidence that a highly disproportionate number have experienced BPD relationships, including myself. theres studies done where NPD and BPD literally can only date each other. the high experienced is similar to other behaviours that negatively effect your life but cant stop chasing the high
Blowing my mind how many end up like this. I just wanted to help people, I just wanted to help her. I thought she was coming out of a bad relationship, but who knows? She probably painted that guy in a bad light.
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post 1590158891 10-21-2019, 06:37 PM
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post 1590159071 10-21-2019, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
This is why you should read the book Codependent No More. Any thoughts of “helping” another adult or trying to “fix” or change someone are bad news.

If you read up on codependency you will start to see your own role and responsibility for this toxic relationship.

A toxic relationship is always TWO unhealthy people coming together. Either two toxic people like an NPD and BPD couple. Or one toxic person like NPD/BPD etc and a codependent person.

So you need to take responsibility for your own role in the toxic relationship and work on healing yourself so in the future you can have a healthy relationship with someone else.

A toxic relationship never involves only one unhealthy/toxic person and a fully sane healthy other person. Why? Because a fully sane healthy person would never get drawn into such a relationship in the first place or they would at the very least cut it off when those problems become apparent.
Very wise words.
post 1590159331 10-21-2019, 06:42 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
This is why you should read the book Codependent No More. Any thoughts of “helping” another adult or trying to “fix” or change someone are bad news.

If you read up on codependency you will start to see your own role and responsibility for this toxic relationship.

A toxic relationship is always TWO unhealthy people coming together. Either two toxic people like an NPD and BPD couple. Or one toxic person like NPD/BPD etc and a codependent person.

So you need to take responsibility for your own role in the toxic relationship and work on healing yourself so in the future you can have a healthy relationship with someone else.

A toxic relationship never involves only one unhealthy/toxic person and a fully sane healthy other person. Why? Because a fully sane healthy person would never get drawn into such a relationship in the first place or they would at the very least cut it off when those problems become apparent.
Yea, I felt like I was healthy, and still feel like I mostly am. I realize what needs to be done. Just hate it for her that she has to go through this bull****.

But, no doubt, you are correct.
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post 1590159601 10-21-2019, 06:48 PM
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post 1590159961 10-21-2019, 06:55 PM
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Originally Posted By macrocrunch⏩
Yea, I felt like I was healthy, and still feel like I mostly am. I realize what needs to be done. Just hate it for her that she has to go through this bull****.

But, no doubt, you are correct.
How does everyone else view her(pedalstalized)? Does she have people( esp. family) that enable her behavior?
post 1590160301 10-21-2019, 06:59 PM
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Originally Posted By Evolutionary1⏩
How does everyone else view her(pedalstalized)? Does she have people( esp. family) that enable her behavior?
Her mother and grandmother, yes. Me and my sister (Her "best friend") no, which is why the past year has been so bad, because I've put up my "I'm not going to let you do this" wall, but I mean, that hasn't worked.
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post 1590160311 10-21-2019, 06:59 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
This is why you should read the book Codependent No More. Any thoughts of “helping” another adult or trying to “fix” or change someone are bad news.

If you read up on codependency you will start to see your own role and responsibility for this toxic relationship.

A toxic relationship is always TWO unhealthy people coming together. Either two toxic people like an NPD and BPD couple. Or one toxic person like NPD/BPD etc and a codependent person.

So you need to take responsibility for your own role in the toxic relationship and work on healing yourself so in the future you can have a healthy relationship with someone else.

A toxic relationship never involves only one unhealthy/toxic person and a fully sane healthy other person. Why? Because a fully sane healthy person would never get drawn into such a relationship in the first place or they would at the very least cut it off when those problems become apparent.
This is very true and exactly what my therapist said to me

OP needs to start setting up hard boundaries with the ultimate goal of ending the marriage and finding someone else
post 1590161111 10-21-2019, 07:10 PM
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Originally Posted By DJKhaled⏩
This is very true and exactly what my therapist said to me

OP needs to start setting up hard boundaries with the ultimate goal of ending the marriage and finding someone else
That's what the past few weeks have been for me. Even the counselor I've been seeing suffered it today, and that's new from him.
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