Brahs who actually pull, what are you guys doing to get laid?

These days I just take the wife's squirrel covers off and party....

But prior to being wifed up I literally didn't have to put forth much if any effort to get pu$$y.. and that's not me trying to brag about it and as cliché as it sounds... once you truly stop giving a fk about sloots or pu$$y in general those bitches start going hard in the paint for your attention... including but not limited to giving up the envelope

I just try to look my best, wear clothes that accentuate my body, have good hygiene, walk and act with swagger, slowly but surely stop giving a fuk how people perceived me and what I said to people and just be upfront and direct that I just wanna hook up with women and either they're down or they're not.

I also cold approach most of the time but there are some situations where women just make easy for me.

Personally, I disagree about not being able to talk to girls the same as guys. Me and my buds do it all the time and have no issues. Just don't delve into the perverted sexual topics you might have with the bros and you're fine. but as far as the jokes made or the banter between, there's minimal difference. You just have to be comfortable doing such, or they'll pick up on it. just takes practice and repeated experience. and don't equate work interactions with real life interactions, unless the girl you're going for is someone you work with lol. very different dynamics.

that being said, what works for some won't work for others. everyone is an individual. most importantly when it comes to girls is making them feel comfortable and safe. If they don't feel both those things, you won't stand a chance with them until they do. If they're attracted to you, it will amount to something else. If they aren't, you can at least be friends with them, hone your skills, and use them to get to their friends. the amount of times me and my buddies have pimped out girls, or had girls pimp us out to their friends is ridiculous simply because they are comfortable around us and know we are decent guys.

also agree with the above posts about the DGAF attidude doing wonders. it's not so much that it was always easy, but girls pick up on when you're out to meet girls vs when you're out to have fun. not sure how but they have a sixth sense about it. I can notice a tangible difference within the same night when i go out at first to try and meet girls, then get frustrated and say fuk it and just pay attention to having fun with the boys. The dynamic changes rapidly when my attitude changes.

Surely.....Surely its not because they just found you attractive and you would have gotten them regardless. Its because you just "didnt give a ****" and women wanted your attention.



This place is a comedy

None of that has anything to do with confidence. You altered your appearance, got bigger, ditched the glasses ,and apparently that "look" works for women. that isnt not giving a ****, or confidence. They just like how you look, and thus they show attention, or act positive when you speak to them lmao.

Funny you mention this because I honestly cant tell you how many times from random women that I may have only met that night...or dated for a short period of time.. that said "I feel really safe with you" SRS. Not sure if its my size , demeanor , or a combination of both... but never knew how to take that compliment

For the record I never said such a thing...

I am indeed a pretty mthrfkr… but even then if you come off as dumb , aggressive (in a bad way) , or just a $hit attitude then nah... you wont have much luck regardless of looks...

LMAO.

I do agree with you to a extent but confidence still does play a role since if women are giving you attention, it kinda gasses your head up and makes you wanna act more masculine and take charge. If I was unconfident, women would eventually lose interest like one situations years ago where a woman was really attracted to me but since I was behaving needy and not displaying confidence, her pussy dried up. I've had several situations like that when I was younger too.

Don't assume it's all about looks; looks is the majority of a woman's attraction to you but you gotta have a mouthpiece too.

Yup.

I know its entirely not about looks. However the downplaying of looks via chads/chad-lites simply annoys me to no end. Op isnt doing poorly because he is "over valuing" women, or that he "cares too much" or that he is "Trying too hard" or that he is "autistic". There are some women that most men objectively would not want to be with. Same thing goes for men. Gotta deal with the cards you were handed.

That said a woman hit on me during lunch. Probably late 30s, early 40s . Very overweight. No curves at all.. I was polite and etc, but she kept lingering probably hoping I'd ask for her contact info.

Guess she sensed my "confident not giving a ****" while I ate my lunch and scrolled through memes at the bench outside XD

well obviously they found him attractive lol, women don't flirt with guys they aren't attracted to unless they're trying to manipulate them for some reason or other.. But all those things he did probably contributed to his confidence, and as such the women picked up on it. Looks def matter, but that doesn't mean you can't improve upon them. If you or OP are one of those men you say women simply don't want to be with...and you truly believe that...people will get that vibe from you whether you mean to put it out there or not, and interact with you accordingly to your own beliefs. Whether through body language, tone of voice, self deprecating jokes, or explicitly stating it. Ever heard of self-fulfilling prophecy?
can confirm. any girl I've hooked up with has said the same to me, and I also never know how to respond lmao. I'm not particularly large or protective, even with gfs when they get hit on i give them a chance to handle it first before I step in. It's always "You make me feel really comfortable/safe", and that's p much when you know you're in. Might just be an ingrained trait because as far as I can remember I've never made a point to try and make girls feel "safe"....just somehow ends up happening. But that's the main thing girls wanna feel when they're first with you, is safety and comfort. If they can't feel that, they will be on guard at all times, or anxiety ridden, or at worst, creeped out by you.

dont you see the revolving door here ? they flirt because he looks good. hopefully he doesnt potato to the situation. he gets success. feels goo about himself/his abilities. and it snowballs from there.I think this is just something women say when they are really into you. Most of the few girls I really liked that were into me were all FOBS / 1st Gen immigrants. Every single one has told me I'm "solid in my masculinity" or "I remind them of their dads". Took a girl shooting once and she like having an emotional high about how "confident, and in the zone I was". If "safety" was really that important women would pass on ALOT of men

Yeah women want be around guys who are normal. However you can't always make a woman feel safe or comfortable because 1. not every woman is gonna like you 2. if she feels creeped out then she's just not into you 3. it's not your job or any guy to try to make her feel comfortable. Either she does or she doesn't. I've talked to women that were socially awkward and had this nervous energy around me that annoyed me and made me uncomfortable and I would just act like my normal self. Idk if these chicks were intimidated by me or what but regardless I tend to avoid women like that now. And I've acted the same way around other chicks and they're friendly and cool.

Regardless if a woman feels too comfortable around you that you haven't fuked yet then you're friendzoned dawg.

Still gotta have a mouthpiece though brah. Looks don't mean chit if you don't know how to talk to women.

And your situation is unique and I would consider you an outlier as most guys are not attracting as many timewasters as you are. However the outlier doesn't constitute the norm.

I tend to notice that dudes who struggle or who ain't getting no pussy tend to say it's all about looks, money and status while other dudes who either do decently to straight up macking know that's not how it works.

And talking to women dont mean chit if you dont look the part lmao.

definitely, it's a cycle that feeds into itself once you get it started. That's why they high school dudes who were successful seem to outpace the nerds who weren't so much more exponentially. because they get good feedback, they know what they're doing is right, so they keep doing it, and it pays out greater over time. it's just a matter of getting that cycle started and abandoning your previous conceptions about yourself and interactions in general. Back in high school i used to think making fun of a girl was a death sentence if you wanted to smash. Now I've learned it simply depends HOW you make fun of them.

as far as the safety thing, certainly could be a thing they just say, similar to "you're the biggest/best i've had". as far as them passing on a lot of men if it were a thing, I think a lot of men can do a great job giving off that impression before girls get to know them better, and that's why there's a lot of one night stands. Girls follow the lead a guy gives them, they give in, guy has had their fun so they stop caring, girls realize it was just a front. That's why I and many others recommend having female friends who trust you and are compfortable, because then they can vouch for you to their friends you wanna hook up with, and it becomes easier and easier the larger of a social circle you have. works with guys to, but the guys who vouch for you have to be established with the girls or else it means nothing.all also very true. this is a part of why looks matter so much to an extent. if you look like a creepy fuker, that's what will be assumed and most times, unless you have some sort of connection with them already via work, social circle, hobbies, w/e, most people will not give you a chance to prove otherwise. hence the whole looksmaxxing trend.

Also agree with all points, sometimes people just aren't gonna like you for whatever reason, and you aren't obligated to make someone feel comfortable. ideally, your natural/engendered personality will make people feel comfortable without you trying, and many people who can do that are the ones who don't have trouble landing girls even if they aren't the best looking guys. Humor, calmness, confidence, lackadaisical, are all things that make girls feel comfortable. but even then, sometimes girls are just suspicious and distrusting, and they tend to be no fun so there's no point wasting your time with them.

As far as them feeling too comfortable without fukin, i'd say that rule holds true most the time. That being said, the accidental friendzone is 9/10 times the dudes fault because they did not capitalize soon enough IMO.

That I will agree on. That's why not all guys can be players cause they don't have the looks, charm, backbone, demeanor, confidence, etc to be one.

What would you suggest iamdetermined do then? Since you say all our advice is "chit".

I agree with the last point. Alot of dudes end up in the friendzone because of themselves like a woman saying "We should just be friends" and the dude is stupid and says "Sure" but she never wants to hang out with him, not even in groups and if she does hang out with him, she talks about how sweet and nice he is which is a death sentence as that word will get out to all the women in that group and they're gonna treat him like the gay best friend.

Yup those are the dudes who don't know that a girl asking to be "friends" means they aren't interested. Or the girl is interested but doesn't want to be a total sloot, and the guys simply don't have the confidence to be direct and upfront so hope it will progress from there, when they don't realize that girls prefer and are attracted to that directness as long as you can go about it properly. Then the girls lose interest and boom permanent friendzone

Being good looking

I know it’s a meme but don’t be afraid to talk to strangers. You don’t need to be trying to seal the deal from the outset just be friendly and plant seeds for later.

Works a lot for me.

In4 later. No idea how guys are getting laid these days either. Been on tinder since july and not a single lay from a decent match. Just lol

Stop doing it.

100% serious.

This social interaction stuff is supposed to be fun, even if you get rejected and go home alone, you should have been able to garner a fun night out of it all anyways.

If you're getting all upset over this, it isn't for you. I advise you find self worth first and then show the person you are to others and if they want in, that's great, and if they don't, no big deal because you're already happy.

Nothing special tbh. Just talk to her and go out with her. If she's in the mood you'll get obvious signals that you can escalate to smashing. Proceed to take home and smash. Repeat.

have a personality
approach / initiate conversation
keep a conversation going
get number / snapchat
profit

QFT about the teaching part - eventually there will be a time when it's just going to be you and the girl 1 on 1... make your move or bust.

Also, interesting point about the girl finding you - why do you day that/think that ii?

For the amount of girls I've recently got, my success ratio to attempt ratio is high, because I rarely approach, but when I do it's generally success. This means I should just make more opportunities for myself but I dont because I'm a bish. I could probably have a rotation going right now if I put in the extra effort and approached more.

Also, one of my best friends will literally go girl to girl at bar and clubs, trying to take their hand and dance/get a convo going. Some will reject, and when they do he will go to the girls friend or the next girl over in eyes reach from.the orgingial girl and do the same exact thing. Eventually one girl always gives in to dance or talk. He just proving the point that you have to take chances and approach because one will eventually give. Not many people have the the balls to do what he does, especially at that pace/level.

what city are you in? i get loads of pussy when i travel abroad but cant score chit here in the US

a few years ago i was getting 2-3 dates per week when i lived in europe...been on tinder for 2 months here and havent had 1 date

Honestly, I dont know. The only thing that seems to work for me is find highly educated "alternative" women, obese girls, or flying across the pond in either direction.

Simply put I just dont think OPs issues stem from "caring too much" or any of that other empty handed advice.I did this for about 3 years straight. Alot of my bros and coworkers that saw me in town swore I was a player or etc. When in reality almost none of those women reciprocated. Maybe got a convo, dance, and the blue moon lay, but....Its gets tiring man. If you have to shoot 1000 shots just to get a single free throw ? Alot of men are going to opt out. Vs you stating you dont approach much, but when you do its a win.

This "game" is not balanced. Its broken like a video game day 1 of release, but its never been patched, and everyone is just saying "git good *******". its rough man.

@Zackad etc. So you mean to tell me that as a man who barely has sex once a year, with a subpar woman, I should go out to the club and pretend that I'm not looking to get laid? Bro...I'm not the only guy out there approaching women trying to get numbers.

I've always found this advice to be contradictory. If women have such a strong sixth sense for smelling desperation then they'll know the truth anyways right? So why even bother doing the idgaf routine. Honestly this advice just makes me feel even worse lol Id rather be true to my desires and work on the problem instead of acting like I don't care. So thanks to the 5 people who legitimately posted tactics to help.

I'll admit some nights I overdo but typically when I go out with 2 or more bros I dont even approach cause I'm just fuking around doing our crazy antics. I've only been approached once in over 7 years of doing that.

Crazy that me and otaku are the only guys who go out hoping to get laid, there's gotta be something wrong with us...

Another thing re looks, I mean this section can't be that oblivious. I've been over my bros house when a girl comes over. He literally just sat down and acted awkward the whole time. Even I was doing a better job of making her feel comfortable. Next morning he's lol'ing about how he clapped her cheeks. Don't see why you guys can't acknowledge that nothing matter if you look good enough.


I've done that several times over the past years. For one it just feels like I'm giving up and two it just hasn't worked. I'd say I have a decent amount of self worth. Much more than a lot of guys I know, yet somehow they get into LTRs etc. because they either know how to manipulate women or look good enough to where it doesn't matter. Explain that. Not like I'm the only guy out there with insecurities or flaws.

Prior to starting all over again in a new industry I was thoroughly satisfied with my stature but even then women didn't seem to care. Not saying this to complain just telling it how it is.

I do it a lot less now since I have a lot to figure out, but even then it doesn't work when I do.

literally the exact same for me. Get curved left and ****ing right. Let me go to Asia, Europe or the Middle East. ALL OF A SUDDEN women are fun and dropping panties.










EDIT: OP save up your dollars. We need to do a trip. Like Im not even bs'ing. Hit them foreign lands, and pregame with Tinder and Bumble 2-3 weeks before.