Inexperience, and luck.Dude, when you first start out, you are bound to fail... It's inevitable. It's like learning to walk. You'll fall. Does that mean you should believe that you weren't meant to walk? Obviously not.

Unfortunately for the guy in the video, he failed, and took it hard. He brought that failure, and hopeless attitude into all subsequent interactions. The therapist spent almost the entire session just trying to get him to notice that feedback loop.

I think you have to do that same. You are trying to impose your own beliefs on the world, and only selecting data that confirms it. If I showed you an example of a disabled ethnic dude getting with 7/10, you would search your mind for ONLY the possible reasons allowed by your own beliefs.. Money, fame.. etc. If he didn't have any of that, you would just ignore it, call it a 1/1,000,000,000 exception or something. What you would fail to notice is that this happens everyday.

Start by noticing your thoughts, and that feedback loop. I'm telling you, you're literally the same guy in the video. Rewatch that video again with an open mind, and try to pinpoint what resonates with you. You CAN start to fix yourself brah. I got out of a lot of my feedback loops, and you can too. Again, this is coming from a 5'5 ethnic, ugly/average (honestly don't know) looking dude. So I can relate..

So I cant speak for the man in the video, but for me when it happens for so long(years), with every girl no matter how ugly, and you do everything that other people are doing, its not inexperience or luck. Its something inherently unattractive about you that makes women not like you.

In my case, its not hard to identify what those things are. I've said them at nauseum.

I agree with you there are cases where its just luck or inexperience or whatever. But theres also cases where the dude is just not going to attract women because he is not attractive enough. that is me. And only on the misc does anyone disgaree with me about this.

What's inherently unattractive about your is your HOPELESSNESS and NEGATIVE THINKING.

But that's ok. I'm sure chads in this thread get rejected too.

But I wasnt hopeless until years and years of rejection, so how can this be true? Clearly there is an issue that came first and CAUSED my rejection. But nobody wants to acknowledge that.


This isnt complicated my dude, just admit it and move on..

not getting rejected just shows inexperience LOL

of course chads do, because they'll come across a woman having a chitty day, or one in a relationship, or married, etc. it may have nothing to do with a person

there's no man out there who plays the game that hasn't been rejected

btw, not really commenting to you. just those in the thread that think chads dont get rejected

also chad is a pretty gay word tbh

I think I awkwardly asked a chick to dance once and was rejected. That's literally it. Got a few dates in college (only one I set up myself), but performed horribly on both. The inexperience is crippling now at 29.

What do you propose is the issue that came first?

You're an open book dude. That last sentence just gave you away. You actually don't want to be changed, and you're not open to input. If i'm wrong about it tell me. Are you open to input? Are you just gonna keep swatting away everyone's advice to reinforce your world view? Again, I'm not chad. I can relate to you. Yet, you're treating me as if I can't relate. If so, tell me...

You can only be helped if you want to be helped. Otherwise I'll spend my precious time elsewhere.

sounds like you've been pretty inactive in general. get out there.. pro-tip: if you really want to unleash yourself

embarass the fuk out of yourself. like hardcore... experience the freedom after. you can even travel to a city near you so you prob wont ever encounter them again

I think it's funny, because you want to believe that you're an exception to the rule. However your explanation as to why you are the exception to the rule is pretty much the same explanation he gave as to why he is the way he is in the first place: because of his past failures to connect. Because he just "works this way."



Actually, that's part of where I was going; relationships are everything that incels talk about on hard mode. If you think you're aren't going to have to work twice as hard in order to keep that relationship successful, you're in for a very, very, very bad time.



Not even going to lie that was fukkin' phenominal. Can you do more of these brah? I swear if I could get an Arnie video review of something I'd be ded.

That's the plan.. Still learning how to use the software better. The processing time on even a short video like this is significant.

Oh I've done plenty of that due to drugs and alcohol. It just wasn't being rejected by women. It actually haunts me sometimes, I blew up my circle of friends from my University fraternity by going on a bender at a wedding. My entire daily life is categorized by feelings of shame, I can't handle rejection like normal people. I really am hesitant to try anything, even just with solo hobbies. I am inhibition personified. I need so much therapy, but always fail to pull the trigger on that too.

First we have to agree on the problem before we can talk about input to solve it, if solvinjg it is even possible.

The issue is that I am too short and my face isnt good enough to make up for it and I'm ethnic. That is the problem.

Now can that be solved? No it cannot. Thats the reality of my situation.

I disagree with the problem. Your problem is your attitude and your lack of socializing with women..

I socialize with women and men though so thats false.

And my attitude was formed as the result of years of rejection. It didnt cause the rejection. So thats also false.

I'm not wrong about this. I have no fuking idea why everyone thinks they know me better than me.

How many women that you've socialized in person with have you asked out? Be honest

Not very many, because I never get any signs of interest and seems like MOST women will give you signs if they are interested. I dont think it makes sense to ask out women randomly, women who have shown ZERO signs of any interest.


Of the few(less than 10 in recent years) that seemed like they MIGHT have been interested, as in there were things that I could interpret as signs of interest, I asked them out or made a move and they all rejected me and basically thought I was crazy to even try. Like stone cold rejection.

The online dating apps are better because you know the intent. You dont have to ask out uninterested women

So just become superman?

Don't look for signs of interest my dude. If you socialize with her, and actually think she's cool, just ask her to hang out. Even if most women give signs of interest, they're super subtle with it, and you'll be focused on trying to gauge her instead of being yourself.. Just be chill and extend an invitation.