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post 1612624061 08-05-2020, 12:22 AM
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Couples who 'date' for 5 years or more

What are your thoughts on this crap? Specifically I mean young people. Most of the time they end up breaking up with nothing to show for all that time. Statistically these kind of relationships end up in higher divorce rates if they do decide to marry.

If she doesn't let you knock her up within 6 months, and you can't decide that you want to marry her in that time, it ain't going no where pal.

If a couple of weeks is good enough to be committed for life in the 3rd world, you don't need multiple years *******s.
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post 1612624171 08-05-2020, 12:26 AM
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Who cares if there is an end goal. Some people enjoy each others' company. Unlike you. You seem miserable and nobody wants to be around you.
post 1612624251 08-05-2020, 12:27 AM
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Once she goes off birth control and realizes she wants an alpha, it's OVER.
post 1612624411 08-05-2020, 12:31 AM
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Originally Posted By stevemckenna⏩
Who cares if there is an end goal. Some people enjoy each others' company. Unlike you.You seem miserable and nobody wants to be around you.
aren't we all miscers here?

I just can't understand 'loving' someone without an end goal. seems more miserable then being by yourself.
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IDK if a woman exists who won't eventually start putting pressure on their guy in some way or another to "commit".

The whole "life partner" agreement or whatever that would be called also ain't ****, let alone anywhere near common.

If some people are willing to cheat while being married, I doubt not being married would somehow magically curtail that.
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post 1612624431 08-05-2020, 12:31 AM
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Generally you don’t know a persons true colors until you’ve lived together for a year but I think it’s different if you grew up together
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post 1612624491 08-05-2020, 12:33 AM
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post 1612624501 08-05-2020, 12:33 AM
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Originally Posted By Blazenwave⏩
What are your thoughts on this crap? Specifically I mean young people. Most of the time they end up breaking up with nothing to show for all that time. Statistically these kind of relationships end up in higher divorce rates if they do decide to marry.

If she doesn't let you knock her up within 6 months, and you can't decide that you want to marry her in that time, it ain't going no where pal.

If a couple of weeks is good enough to be committed for life in the 3rd world, you don't need multiple years *******s.
Been dating and living with my girl for 4 years. Will probably marry her next year.

Causation vs correlation. Couples who was together longer are more likely to get divorced probably because they got married for the wrong reasons i.e settling, afraid to go back out there (like people who become lifers on temp jobs), can’t find anyone else.

I would have married this girl on the first 3 months of dating and she the same, I didn’t because I wanted us to gain financial freedom first. Haven’t had kids yet for the same reasons.

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post 1612624551 08-05-2020, 12:34 AM
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In my opinion anything past 2 years if you still aren't getting married it's time to move on. You're probably together for the wrong reasons.
post 1612624571 08-05-2020, 12:36 AM
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Originally Posted By plsmire⏩
Been dating and living with my girl for 4 years. Will probably marry her next year.

Causation vs correlation. Couples who was together longer are more likely to get divorced probably because they got married for the wrong reasons i.e settling, afraid to go back out there (like people who become lifers on temp jobs), can’t find anyone else.

I would have married this girl on the first 3 months of dating and she the same, I didn’t because I wanted us to gain financial freedom first. Haven’t had kids yet for the same reasons.

Not on birth control, pull out technique crew.
shes on birth control m8
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post 1612624651 08-05-2020, 12:40 AM
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Whats the point if marriage? You can still be together for 10+ years and no paper tying you up
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post 1612624801 08-05-2020, 12:45 AM
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
shes on birth control m8
Live with her, work with her. She’s gonna have to be some real ninja to be on birth control.

She went on birth control for a couple of months first year of dating (I went doc with her) but she went off it because:
1) it was making her sick, she always felt **** and after sex she’d feel nauseous.
2) was killing her sex drive. Was sexing 3-4 times a week but considering it was the first year, we could feel it was slowing down that drive.

I do wonder how many women and relationships are negatively affected by the pill and they don’t even know it. That **** literally fks up with your body’s hormones, a good portion has to have negative reactions!
post 1612624861 08-05-2020, 12:46 AM
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Originally Posted By Merc009⏩
Whats the point if marriage? You can still be together for 10+ years and no paper tying you up
-you can be on your spouses health insurance through say their union
-how you buy a home is different /qualify
-how your estate and life insurance is handled is different
-some states it gives a father more rights to his children
-some states require a legal separation agreement. Where you can’t date anyone for a year and if you do, you can lose your kids in the divorce and get fuked financially
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post 1612624911 08-05-2020, 12:48 AM
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Originally Posted By Merc009⏩
Whats the point if marriage? You can still be together for 10+ years and no paper tying you up
You get to own her and literally give her your last name which she can then pass down to your children.

I would say that the vows you make and the paper tying you up is also part of the commitment - the idea is it’s supposed to be forever.
post 1612624951 08-05-2020, 12:49 AM
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Originally Posted By plsmire⏩
Live with her, work with her. She’s gonna have to be some real ninja to be on birth control.

She went on birth control for a couple of months first year of dating (I went doc with her) but she went off it because:
1) it was making her sick, she always felt **** and after sex she’d feel nauseous.
2) was killing her sex drive. Was sexing 3-4 times a week but considering it was the first year, we could feel it was slowing down that drive.

I do wonder how many women and relationships are negatively affected by the pill and they don’t even know it. That **** literally fks up with your body’s hormones, a good portion has to have negative reactions!
non hormonal iud implant. No daily pill, lasts 12 years, check ups needed once every 3 years. I have one
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post 1612624971 08-05-2020, 12:50 AM
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Originally Posted By Blazenwave⏩
aren't we all miscers here?

I just can't understand'loving' someone without an end goal. seems more miserable then being by yourself.
Quite the bleak outlook. Reminds me of that "15 and in love" meme. I guess if you've never experienced a truly unadulterated relationship, you see relationship as more of a give-and-take transaction.
post 1612625191 08-05-2020, 12:57 AM
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Originally Posted By plsmire⏩
You get to own her and literally give her your last name which she can then pass down to your children.

I would say that the vows you make and the paper tying you up is also part of the commitment - the idea is it’s supposed to be forever.
well before women had the right to vote they also couldn’t divorce you unless proof and abuse or adultery which were very hard to prove when you can’t hire an attorney yourself. Also, if she left, or cheated, she would lose all rights to her children, no alimony or child support they didn’t exist
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the hell you mean?
ppl like ppl sometimes. So they keep seeing each other. not complicate
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OP is actually correct, if she's not at the very least talking about having a family within a matter of months she doesn't deem you worthy and will certainly quit on you, it's only a matter of time.

Any woman that is taking birth control while in a relationship with you, sees no future with you or doesn't want a family.

Either way that makes her a mistake.
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
well before women had the right to vote they also couldn’t divorce you unless proof and abuse or adultery which were very hard to prove when you can’t hire an attorney yourself. Also, if she left, or cheated, she would lose all rights to her children, no alimony or child support they didn’t exist
I think neither party was allowed to divorce, hence the vows, "for better or for worse, till death do us part". I'm strongly against divorce. Live with the consequences or don't make the vows at all, hence being very careful before you make those vows and REALLY get to know someone.

If she cheats, why would she get alimony, that's ridiculous anyhow.

As for implants, that **** creeps me and my woman out, notyjeff. Some device inside your body altering your body. May as well get microchipped.
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yeah ive seen this. if you dont marry, youre admitting it wont work out so why waste each others time?
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Originally Posted By plsmire⏩
I think neither party was allowed to divorce, hence the vows, "for better or for worse, till death do us part". I'm strongly against divorce. Live with the consequences or don't make the vows at all, hence being very careful before you make those vows and REALLY get to know someone.

If she cheats, why would she get alimony, that's ridiculous anyhow.

As for implants, that **** creeps me and my woman out, notyjeff. Some device inside your body altering your body. May as well get microchipped.
it pops in and out, you could take it out yourself, kinda hurts when it gets taken out and they put the new one in, but it’s not bad. It’s not like a chip in your skin it’s like copper shoved up your vag. It’s the oldest form of female birth control from the 1800’s
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
Generally you don’t know a persons true colors until you’ve lived together for a year but I think it’s different if you grew up together
True. That's why I refuse to smash my sister. She's stingy with her money and her hair clogs the drain.
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Originally Posted By 3basic5me⏩
True. That's why I refuse to smash my sister. She's stingy with her money and her hair clogs the drain.
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it's dumb as sh!t
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Originally Posted By BigElephant⏩
Lol a lot of people need more than 6 months to know if they want to marry a person. Virtually no girl is going to want to be knocked up within 6 months either.
Yeah no you're completely wrong bud.

The reason the "honeymoon phase" lasts about 6 months is because that's how long Oxytocin(hormone that creates the feeling of love) is being distributed, it starts dwindling steadily after that point(natures way of saying move on to the next vagina).

3,4,5 years down the line and you're basically just annoying the chit out of each other as glorified roommates without a family setting.


You need to make a decision while you're both deeply "in love", if she sees you as worthy she will try to have your child or at the very least stop birth control.


Refer to post #19
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Originally Posted By Blazenwave⏩
aren't we all miscers here?

I just can't understand 'loving' someone without an end goal. seems more miserable then being by yourself.
you're redefining the definition of simp rn
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lol at marriage. there is a reason divorce rates are higher than ever. maybe marriage will be worth it once the laws change and she can't take half your sh*t whenever she decides to leave for whatever reason. until then don't married. yes the idea of marriage is great and being married to the right person is amazing but that is slim to none if you expect it to last a life time

whoever created the divorce rules didn't take into account women leaving men at that time.

kids on the other hand and being together 10+ years. that's weird
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