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post 1614582091 08-25-2020, 01:22 PM
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How to get over the realization that my GF cheated on me

Made thread earlier about how I started dating this girl recently and her "friend" came from out of state to visit her. Basically a lot more things came to light that make it almost certain to me that she cheated on me. I also didn't mention in the last thread that she has BPD. Feel full of rage right now and wanna hit her up and tell her how much I hate her and how much she's hurt me even though I know it will do good and since she has BPD she will not take responsibility for any wrongdoing and lacks empathy. Cheated on and ghosted literally 3 days after meeting all her family and her telling them they'll see me at church with her. Dude she did it with was not even some super alpha, badass dude or anything. Looked like some 80s new wave synth player ***got.
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Originally Posted By Sp00kyboi⏩
Made thread earlier about how I started dating this girl recently and her "friend" came from out of state to visit her. Basically a lot more things came to light that make it almost certain to me that she cheated on me. I also didn't mention in the last thread that she has BPD. Feel full of rage right now and wanna hit her up and tell her how much I hate her and how much she's hurt me even though I know it will do good and since she has BPD she will not take responsibility for any wrongdoing and lacks empathy. Cheated on and ghosted literally 3 days after meeting all her family and her telling them they'll see me at church with her. Dude she did it with was not even some super alpha, badass dude or anything. Looked like some 80s new wave synth player ***got.
I solution is NC tbh I just need someone to vent to and someone to give me some comfort and maybe tell me of similar experiences they had and how they dealt with it and what happened
post 1614582531 08-25-2020, 01:26 PM
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Originally Posted By Sp00kyboi⏩
Made thread earlier about how I started dating this girl recently and her "friend" came from out of state to visit her. Basically a lot more things came to light that make it almost certain to me that she cheated on me. I also didn't mention in the last thread that she has BPD. Feel full of rage right now and wanna hit her up and tell her how much I hate her and how much she's hurt me even though I know it will do good and since she has BPD she will not take responsibility for any wrongdoing and lacks empathy. Cheated on and ghosted literally 3 days after meeting all her family and her telling them they'll see me at church with her. Dude she did it with was not even some super alpha, badass dude or anything. Looked like some 80s new wave synth player ***got.
There is only one thing you can do to both heal and hurt her back.

Complete NC. Wipe her off the face of the planet and make her feel it.
post 1614582591 08-25-2020, 01:27 PM
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Understand you are not responsible for the dumb decisions of other people no matter how much you care about them.

Use it as a learning experience to identify similarly dumb people in life so you can avoid them.
post 1614582661 08-25-2020, 01:27 PM
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Originally Posted By shmobin⏩
There is only one thing you can do to both heal and hurt her back.

Complete NC. Wipe her off the face of the planet and make her feel it.
Should I block her on social media or would that show too much care? She deleted me off ******** just cause her and the dude were being very flirty openly
post 1614582721 08-25-2020, 01:28 PM
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Easy.

She wasn't the girl you thought she was, or were hoping she was.

It is no fault of hers that she is not qualified dating material for you.

Get over it and go back to looking for someone who is.
post 1614582801 08-25-2020, 01:29 PM
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Originally Posted By Sunken⏩
Understand you are not responsible for the dumb decisions of other people no matter how much you care about them.

Use it as a learning experience to identify similarly dumb people in life so you can avoid them.
Yeah there were a lot of red flags with her I ignored (father in prison, sex first time we hung out, mental health issues, drug abuse issues, mostly male friends). I was just too infatuated cause she had the same interests and humor as me and seemed crazy about me
post 1614582881 08-25-2020, 01:30 PM
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Originally Posted By Sp00kyboi⏩
Should I block her on social media or would that show too much care? She deleted me off ******** just cause her and the dude were being very flirty openly
Delete her don't block her unless she starts DMing and it gets hard to ignore.
post 1614582891 08-25-2020, 01:30 PM
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No matter how many times I hear it, it still blows my mind how many of you *******s get so deeply involved with BPD chicks. Lol at getting to the point of meeting her family. Even that synth player is probably smart enough to just hit it and quit it.

Anyways, hope you learned your lesson. And you get over it with time and no contact.
post 1614582901 08-25-2020, 01:30 PM
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Originally Posted By 401Delta⏩
Easy.

She wasn't the girl you thought she was.

It is no fault of hers that she is not dating material for you.

Get over it and go back to looking for someone who is.
Yeah, it's just hard meeting girls with this pandemic bull****. I could do Tinder but I never had as good of luck with that as in person
post 1614583201 08-25-2020, 01:33 PM
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Originally Posted By Sp00kyboi⏩
Should I block her on social media or would that show too much care? She deleted me off ******** just cause her and the dude were being very flirty openly
Dude just block her on everything and go n/c, ( don't stalk her social media or you will not heal at all and will be back to square one and in rage). Start hitting the gym, eating healthy and work on building up your bank account. Women come and go. This chick obviously had a bunch of red flags and could never be your wife so it's best it ended. If she does come around again, ignore her. You'll find another one. Realize it will never be the same and she is your past and a worthless whore for cheating. Time to move forward and realize you deserve better.
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She's not good enough. You should be thankful she showed her true colours so soon! Imagine finding out after decades of marriage. Dodged a bullet.

NC and don't look back
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post 1614583221 08-25-2020, 01:33 PM
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Fukked a girl first time you met then is left utterly shocked on the realization that she isn't relationship material.

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post 1614583331 08-25-2020, 01:34 PM
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Originally Posted By MediocreGains⏩
No matter how many times I hear it, it still blows my mind how many of you *******s get so deeply involved with BPD chicks. Lol at getting to the point of meeting her family. Even that synth player is probably smart enough to just hit it and quit it.

Anyways, hope you learned your lesson. And you get over it with time and no contact.
Honestly never read a whole lot about BPD til I broke up with her but it explained a lot when I did. Think his GF out of state broke up with him cause of it too. They both changed their pics to couple pics together. She said she had a long distance bf in Australia and she went to live with him and broke up and hated him after a few months so thats probably what will happen with this dude tbh. It just blows my mind that someone could do that and feel nothing. From acting like they think the world of me and then overnight cheating on and ghosting me like it means nothing
post 1614583471 08-25-2020, 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted By Sp00kyboi⏩
Honestly never read a whole lot about BPD til I broke up with her but it explained a lot when I did. Think his GF out of state broke up with him cause of it too. They both changed their pics to couple pics together. She said she had a long distance bf in Australia and she went to live with him and broke up and hated him after a few months so thats probably what will happen with this dude tbh. It just blows my mind that someone could do that and feel nothing. From acting like they think the world of me and then overnight cheating on and ghosting me like it means nothing
U are better than her, know that. no need to contact her. If you do that's just stooping down to her level
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post 1614583601 08-25-2020, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted By WafflesBrah⏩
Dude just block her on everything and go n/c, ( don't stalk her social media or you will not heal at all and will be back to square one and in rage). Start hitting the gym, eating healthy and work on building up your bank account. Women come and go. This chick obviously had a bunch of red flags and could never be your wife so it's best it ended. If she does come around again, ignore her. You'll find another one. Realize it will never be the same and she is your past and a worthless whore for cheating. Time to move forward and realize you deserve better.
Yeah getting my gains back after gyms were closed and just started my business so things are looking good in most other areas of life. Can't believe I was cucked by some scrawny the cure looking ******* tho. He wasn't even some badass who could win a fight against me if I caught him in the act or anything
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post 1614583761 08-25-2020, 01:37 PM
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Thanks to all of you. The misc is really the best forum for life advice when this kind of thing happens
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Originally Posted By Coal
Fukked a girl first time you met then is left utterly shocked on the realization that she isn't relationship material.

Neve change misc. Lmao.
And he knew she had Bipolar Disorder too...

Bro you should have seen this coming miles away
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Originally Posted By BigElephant⏩
Are you the guy who made a thread about the GF who had a male friend and she posted something on social media about "wanting the one you can't have?"
Yes. Forgot some details like the BPD and **** tho
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Originally Posted By x420SwagScopex⏩
And he knew she had Bipolar Disorder too...

Bro you should have seen this coming miles away
First gf in almost 10 years man. She was gorgeous and liked all the same **** as me too. Roommate introduced us cause she shared my weird, niche interests
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Originally Posted By x420SwagScopex⏩
And he knew she had Bipolar Disorder too...

Bro you should have seen this coming miles away
Yeah exactly. Like what did you think was gonna happen Opie? Lol



Start making better choices.
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Originally Posted By Sp00kyboi⏩
Honestly never read a whole lot about BPD til I broke up with her but it explained a lot when I did. Think his GF out of state broke up with him cause of it too. They both changed their pics to couple pics together. She said she had a long distance bf in Australia and she went to live with him and broke up and hated him after a few months so thats probably what will happen with this dude tbh. It just blows my mind that someone could do that and feel nothing. From acting like they think the world of me and then overnight cheating on and ghosting me like it means nothing
She's nuts. Nutty people don't act in ways that make sense.

Just avoid getting involved with nutty chicks from now on. Fuking is fine, but don't get involved in that kind of drama.
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Originally Posted By Coal
Yeah exactly. Like what did you think was gonna happen Opie? Lol



Start making better choices.
Borderline Personality Disorder which is worse tbh but still. I was just too infatuated and having too much fun. was on a dry spell since the beginning of the pandemic and was looking for a srs gf and she just came at that specific time and just vibed with me the right kind of way
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She doesn't deserve you OP.
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Originally Posted By MediocreGains⏩
She's nuts. Nutty people don't act in ways that make sense.

Just avoid getting involved with nutty chicks from now on. Fuking is fine, but don't get involved in that kind of drama.
Yeah she told me all kinds of chit. Attempted suicide as a teen and was put in a mental hospital and diagnosed with it, did heroin and used to hang out with a bunch of crazy skinheads when she was only 16 and ****. She didn't seem that way with me. I thought maybe she had gotten help by now and was more well adjusted. She was so sweet too. Cleaned my room better than its been cleaned and gave me all kinds of gifts and chit
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Originally Posted By Sp00kyboi⏩
First gf in almost 10 years man. She was gorgeous and liked all the same **** as me too. Roommate introduced us cause she shared my weird, niche interests
Sucks bro, but the signs were all there.

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Delete her. No need to see her social media chit as it might trigger you.

Do NOT reach out to her and tell her off. It will just validate her that you cared more than she did. It will also make her think you're the crazy one thus she'll never doubt her choice again.

Live your best life and stay motivated and she'll likely be the one regretting her decision some day while you look back and laugh at the fact you bothered with her as the new and improved you will have no problem finding women who are just as attractive as her who don't have a personality that drags you down.
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