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post 1614594161 08-25-2020, 03:25 PM
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Originally Posted By M1nd0verMatter⏩
This is objectively false.

Abstinence has been proven via studies to increase testosterone, improve your swimmers and help IVF treatment. That "constant horniness" is your body telling you that you need to find a mate, it gives you that intense energy which urges you to do things to reach that goal. Without it, the fire in your belly doesn't burn as bright. Also it helps ED.
Don't listen to that dude. Porn and fapping makes you docile and weak. There's a reason our swimmers as a society are dropping off like crazy, why our testosterone is dropping as a society like crazy, and their are a ton of soyboys. It ain't from abstinence/not fapping. It's from porn/OF/tik tok and fapping 3 times a day. He's never done nofap long enough to get over the horniness stage.

I'm not against fapping, but it shouldn't be routine. At all. Not fapping increases energy and focus.
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Originally Posted By M1nd0verMatter⏩
Yup, you're entirely right. I know from first-hand experience the benefits of nofap. It's just tough to keep it going lol. Never stop trying though as persistence is key with anything that's worth doing.

The thing is that when something is mainstream (like fapping and everything being so sexual nowadays) it seems strange to most people for you to go against the grain. Self-improvement is foreign to most people but I don't want to be like most people.

If you feel not banging anyone until you're in a relationship is the right thing to do, just go with it mate. What's the worst that can happen?
Exactly. I used to fap and watch tons of porn like most guys. But after a while you realize that porn is a weapon. There's a reason why there are a million hours of porn on the internet that is.....all free.

It's just another vice we should control. That's the main issue. Control over ourselves.
post 1614596151 08-25-2020, 03:48 PM
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post 1614596301 08-25-2020, 03:50 PM
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I'm not saying there's anything wrong with casual sex but LOL @ modern culture when people feel weird about not wanting to have casual sex.

If you don't want to be a man-whore OP, don't. It's not the kind of thing you should feel the need to justify to yourself, let alone the Misc.
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post 1615198601 08-31-2020, 05:05 PM
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Just read some of the answers I didn’t see, very insightful. So the second of September marks one month of no sex. I decided to fully commit to abstinence when I first made this post, but before then i had stopped having causal sex. It’s not long, but I feel accomplished for sure. I deleted bumble and tinder, I have hinge, I feel like the girls there are more mature, but I do have in my profile that I am abstinent and also not drinking, my matches have dropped drastically to say the least lol, but I honestly don’t care.

I went out on a date on Thursday for “drinks” I just got a mojito with no alcohol, went out on Friday with my friends for drinks as well, again just a mojito with no alcohol.

Soo I’ve been looking to get into no fap as well. I’m not going to say I’m fully committed to it, but it’s been only like 3-4 days I think lol. I think nofap will be my hardest challenge.

I’ve been looking at the teachings of Buddha, very interesting stuff. I want to get great rid of feelings of attachments, especially when it comes to women and relationships, I think once I’m able to love without attachment, meaning I can love a women and not be hurt by her cheating, now wait!! Lol, doesn’t mean I want a cheater or will keep a cheater, just means that if I’m with a woman and she cheats I’ll be able to walk away and feel no hurt of her act or her loss. Hard to put it into words really. Basically a feeling of not being owned anything, a feeling of absolute freedom from other people’s acts.

Hope you’re all well
post 1615199101 08-31-2020, 05:10 PM
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Originally Posted By Batorr⏩
I haven't had sex for over 2 years.

I haven't fapped all year (one wet dream release so far in 2020).

I have never had a gf.

I haven't consumed alcohol all year.

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post 1615199251 08-31-2020, 05:12 PM
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Originally Posted By Merc009⏩
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Vegeta hates him
Lol right, his definitely the goal
post 1615199661 08-31-2020, 05:17 PM
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I think it’s respectable bro srs. Most guys who’s been through enough of them realizes this at some point. Sex isn’t the end all be all. Especially with someone you have no other feelings towards. It won’t be easy at times though, sounds like you’ve had enough to know this though. Lust isn’t a real connection and it can cause more drama than it’s worth.
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post 1615203031 08-31-2020, 05:49 PM
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I am practicing abstinence until I get married.Am I crazy?
post 1615210461 08-31-2020, 07:11 PM
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OP this is fukin dumb. You're not going to be a better person by giving up sex and alcohol at the age of 26. It's borderline dumb and you honestly might be gay (srs)

You're just feeling down right now and saying stupid siht. When the right piece of ass comes around, you'll drag your balls through 1 mile of shards of glass just to sniff her panties

TLDR; OP relapsed to wanting to bang dudes again...
post 1615296121 09-01-2020, 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted By muscle
OP this is fukin dumb. You're not going to be a better person by giving up sex and alcohol at the age of 26. It's borderline dumb and you honestly might be gay (srs)

You're just feeling down right now and saying stupid siht. When the right piece of ass comes around, you'll drag your balls through 1 mile of shards of glass just to sniff her panties

TLDR; OP relapsed to wanting to bang dudes again...
Ahh there we go, the typical miscer has shown up. Cool story though bro.
post 1616196071 09-11-2020, 05:11 AM
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I added nofap 2 weeks ago. So no sex, no alcohol, no masturbation. It’s going quite well. No real temptations yet. Don’t know when I’ll stop, but I’m hoping it’s months down the line once I think I’ve gained from the experience.
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You can only expect to get what you are willing to give. Or abstain from and think they should too.

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Why would you friend-zone FWBs? That's some beta sht SRS. Unless you're really trying to find a bitch to wife up which is also beta AF. Good luck OP

No Fap won't turn you into a God, just FYI. It's pointless unless you're aiming for Testy Cancer at a young age.
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Lmfao strong projection is strong



Dude keep it up.

Also about the getting cheated on thing.

It can be a valuable lesson to get cheated on if you keep a positive mind set.

You cannot avoid hurt, only become even more human to understand why somebody cheats.

Generally speaking, if you're a power player, you will attract a power player - those exact feels of attachments and emptiness may be the root cause of straying off track for some people - something to prove, etc.

Keep strong bro, and when you're ready, the RIGHT girl will come into your life.
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Originally Posted By DesiredUser****⏩
Why would you friend-zone FWBs? That's some beta sht SRS. Unless you're really trying to find a bitch to wife up which is also beta AF. Good luck OP

No Fap won't turn you into a God, just FYI. It's pointless unless you're aiming for Testy Cancer at a young age.
Hmm well they all still want to fck me so I guess if I’m ever interested in hitting them up for it I’ll have that. As for nofap, I don’t believe in any of the benefits that no fappers do though. Generally speaking I think it’s ridiculous, of course that depends if you have a serious problem with masturbation and porn. I’m doing it more so for the challenge of it. The other two I think will be eye opening for me tho.
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Originally Posted By FrankGrimes29⏩
Don't listen to that dude. Porn and fapping makes you docile and weak. There's a reason our swimmers as a society are dropping off like crazy, why our testosterone is dropping as a society like crazy, and their are a ton of soyboys. It ain't from abstinence/not fapping. It's from porn/OF/tik tok and fapping 3 times a day. He's never done nofap long enough to get over the horniness stage.

I'm not against fapping, but it shouldn't be routine. At all. Not fapping increases energy and focus.
Nofap is just retarded. Porn doesn’t make you weak, you were already a weak person chasing dopamine hits. You think deployed soldiers who fap and watch porn regularly makes them have lower T? Just Lol.

If you are already a rotter playing video games all day and you stop, of course you will feel more productive and seek other ways to get your dopamine hits. Same concept applies to any other degenerate addiction like TV, masturbating/porn.

Just lol at the retards who praise it more than it really is though. If some obese fk stops pleasure eating, it really will be “ life changing” for them too.
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In a way, abstenence lead me to my first gf because i never fapped (Srs)

I only ejaculated when i saw a prostitute. (once a week)
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Update!

Still haven’t drank or had sex with anyone.
However, the last girl I slept with is in two of my classes, and I find myself more and more attracted to her. I’ve always found her attractive, but this seems to be more than a sexual attraction. I denied her because school is too small and I don’t need drama in my life. Could also be I haven’t even been on a date in over a month. Who knows
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
Update!

Still haven’t drank or had sex with anyone.
However, the last girl I slept with is in two of my classes, and I find myself more and more attracted to her. I’ve always found her attractive, but this seems to be more than a sexual attraction. I denied her because school is too small and I don’t need drama in my life. Could also be I haven’t even been on a date in over a month. Who knows
Why not try to date that girl if she's still interested?
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