was dating this asian girl for an year in 2019, we were living together for a few weeks at a time. Met her through a common friend at a party. She was cute, petite bod, smart. Always had fun, good convos, drank, hung out together, she moved to a different state in Jan and was stuck there due to covid. I had it clear that there was no guarantee of a long term relationship but we'll see what happens and she was OK with it. With time she expressed how she saw a life together with me and children and sht .

Now I'm as hardass as they come but goddamn if spending so much time close to someone and sharing so much doesn't soften you up a little.

Anyway when she went away she became clingy and wouldn't stop calling, videocalling, texting etc. I did the best I could to keep up but couldn't due to work and exams and stuff. I told her to tone it down etc, I would reply always but there was no way I was having hour long conversations on phone all day. Till 3 months back, we had a decent thing still, she was supposed to visit in December this year. In the last 3 months, things kind of faded and we talked less and less.



Fast forward to yesterday, I find out the same friend who introduced us has been dating her for a couple of weeks. (he lives in the same state as her) Also, find out he has been sabotaging my image for a few months now,swooped in as soon as he found out things were flimsy between us, telling her how I had a girlfriend all along and had tens of girls like her on rotation. (all this was before her, honest, been a virgin since then )Forwarding screenshots of his convo with me out of context, saying how she shouldnt have been with a womanizer like me in the first place.

I confronted her
now I have not been this enraged in a while. feel like I'm going **** one or both of them when I see them.

I get it, sloots gonna sloot and what not and should have given her more attention rather than whine about it now, but just hopping on to the next dick can't be right, should have atleast had a talk about it. But guess not. On top of that, its with the scumbag friend
I don't know what I would have said if she had talked about moving on in advance, small chance I would have asked her to wait till we meet, or let her know that I wasn't just using her for sex and did have some feelings. Or maybe I would have just asked her to go ahead and broke things off. But would have atleast got some closure and not felt like getting backstabbed.


edit: just got this text from her:



I know the answer too, I gotta NC and move on and stuff, but this just caught me in the feels GODD****ingAMMMNITG

sloots gonna sloot aint no p$$y like new p$$y

" a little piece of you will always be in my heart"

while the other dude gets balls deep in her lmao

you just got CUCKED boyo

im not reading that chit

did you read the whole thing, I wasn't going to be in a long term relation with her anyway. But just how things played out is what pisses me off. In an ideal situation she would have talked to me about this and we would (most likely) have ended things mutually on a good note. it's just this feeling of being wronged that I can't shake. objectively speaking, ofc none of this should matter but I sure turned out to be not alpha as I thought I was.yeah man, just that we spent so much time together, its not just sex, just having a girl around, experiencing things together, cuddling etc. sound like a beta ******* yeah thats why I made this thread.

Just that feeling of loss and not being able to make things right, she's permanently corrupted now, so there's no question of continuing any conversation with her, but yeah just seeing things happen this way

You done goofed OP.

NC on both of them and smash some new poon. You sound like you’re in school don’t date in college only smash.

Did. not read. Stopped at the first sentence when I realized it was about 1 girl

If you’re writing paragraphs about ONE girl instead of multiple girl(s) plural, then you automatically literally have oneitus

Oneitus



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I am going to make a response that you and probably the rest of the Misc do not agree with, but i am just trying to help out a bit OPIE. You are not completely of the hook here, because of the mere unfortunate fact that we are emotional and limited creatures with bounded rationality. We can only exist in our EGO, what you consider to be yourself AKA ‘BloodFireDeath’, with expectations, and realities, and truths that are merely false. You expected her to behave a certain way, you expected your friend to behave a certain way but it did not happen. Why? because she expected you to behave a certain way and ‘needed’ a certain amount of affection you were not willing to give.

This does not mean you cannot feel wronged by being blindsided but the reality is that 99% of human beings follow their emotions and limited realities of what they perceive as there personal truths blindly. This is not a judgement, again, but a mere limitation of our biology. Without it we are simply not human, but it comes at a heavy price, which is of deceit, hardship and errors. Also, lets be real here, male friendships are mystified although we all know that no matter how good the friendship is, the power of pussy is always superior for those enslaved to the whims of the vagene. Such is nature, such is life. You will unfortunately only encounter a few in real life that are able and willing to walk away from it.

Nevertheless i recommend you to keep spirits, motivation and most of all morals high. there are moral people out there, also women, that do not agree with how the things have been handled, and you will find many more that disagree with you. Do not be afraid to follow Virtue, because it is a noble path of living life, perhaps not in the Misc, but in the few limited options of living life, it is not a bad option i would say.

Try to forgive them, because they do not know any better, due to their limited biological capabilities. Do not forgive them for them, forgive them for your own peace of mind, because peace and calm is the superior way of reality, and living in anger for those that clearly did not value or your emotions at all are not worth your time and/energy. You are not in control of others, most people are not even able to be in control of themselves. beat them by being in control of yourself and not be a slave of your whims. We are all going to make it brah.

I know brah, that's the least I gotta doIt wasn't there before, but suddenly getting to know something I loved at some point has been corrupted and twisted beyond repair now, brought on some feels. It's a wrong childish and beta train of thought I know, not respecting what you got then whining when it's gone. Should just man up and accept this is what happens in the real world.

Thanks for this brah, seriously

That's where you ****ed up.

Give an inch and they'll take a mile

Harden yourself boy

where are the cliffs

Idk if you responded to the text or not but you should hit her with an “Okay cool” and then cut out all contact - til she’s crawling back 3-6 weeks from now saying she misses you and the new guy isn’t cutting it.

lold if your girl sends another guy wall of text apologies and says a little piece of him still lives in the back of her throat

some girls are just next level

Sounds like when you had her you weren't that interested.

Now that you can't have her and she's moved on you're interested?

This is just a classic case of human wanting something he cannot have.

Now that you can't have it it has more value to you.

You need to break this mindset and go no contact on both of them. If she wanted to be with you she'd be with you. She doesn't. you need to go no contact to regain your sanity and get out of this mindset. She wasn't yours, it was just your turn. Now move on and find somebody else that's interested in you.

here:

1. sloots gonna sloot

2. have to jester max 24/7 and keep them entertained/ hooked otherwise their cheating is justified in 2020

3. most people don't have any kind of moral code and are opportunists, including a lot of our so called 'friends'

4. man lands on moon, op is a *******