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post 1621485731 11-04-2020, 05:07 PM
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Should I tell her to f**k off?? Or just ignore

Girl I’ve been talking to for a month basically pulled my strings last week. Cancelled on me on Tuesday with a last second excuse that she “forgot about a test the following day” so she had to study. Asked to reschedule so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Sunday comes it’s silent ( we don’t text between dates) call her up and she’s at bar at like 1pm for her friends bday. I just say ok (officially done at this point).

Monday she texts me saying, sorry she forgot she had that plan and wished me a good week. I wished her a good week as well with the plan of never contacting her again. Today I get a message from her saying she has a question she’d like to ask and hopes I’m having a great week! Lol.

I haven’t replied yet and won’t until tomorrow. My question should I ignore, ask her what her question is but keep it short. Or maybe tell her I felt my time was taken for granted and I don’t roll with women that take my time for granted.
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I'd ignore and disregard, but I have little time for flaky chicks
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post 1621486001 11-04-2020, 05:09 PM
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post 1621486771 11-04-2020, 05:15 PM
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Did she reschedule for Sunday when she bailed Tuesday?
post 1621487021 11-04-2020, 05:17 PM
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post 1621487511 11-04-2020, 05:21 PM
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88
Did she reschedule for Sunday when she bailed Tuesday?
Yes, she did, hence why I have her the benefit of the doubt.
post 1621487601 11-04-2020, 05:22 PM
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post 1621487641 11-04-2020, 05:22 PM
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I think she wants you to text her more during the week and is playing games to get you to do it instead of just fukking communicating it
post 1621487811 11-04-2020, 05:23 PM
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Ignore her unless she’s literally a rich fuking 9/10+
post 1621488551 11-04-2020, 05:29 PM
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Originally Posted By ralphlaurenbrah
Ignore her unless she’s literally a rich fuking 9/10+
Definitely not, although very attractive, not to brag, but I’ve been with a lot of attractive women. So I’m not thrown out of my center with them. They too can fck right off. If she was rich I might gold dig a bit though lol
post 1621488701 11-04-2020, 05:30 PM
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Originally Posted By Destor
I think she wants you to text her more during the week and is playing games to get you to do it instead of just fukking communicating it
Nah she’s a nursing student, works, goes to clinical and that stuff, actually quite busy, and so am I. She takes a whole day to reply, so definitely not that.
post 1621488991 11-04-2020, 05:33 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468
Definitely not, although very attractive, not to brag, but I’ve been with a lot of attractive women. So I’m not thrown out of my center with them. They too can fck right off. If she was rich I might gold dig a bit though lol
This being the case, I'd just ignore. Texting you to tell you she wants to ask you a question is some stupid chit, why not just ask it? Just go NC man, telling her to fuk off might feel better but every time I've done it I just wished I'd just gone straight NC. She wants to verify that her games are working, just remain unfazed and move on to the next one. Good luck, brah.
post 1621489021 11-04-2020, 05:33 PM
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you got ditched twice lmao

next time it will be because she has a headache

After that because her friend needs help moving lmao
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post 1621490101 11-04-2020, 05:41 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468
Definitely not, although very attractive, not to brag, but I’ve been with a lot of attractive women. So I’m not thrown out of my center with them. They too can fck right off.
If getting attractive women is easy for you then I would assume you know how low you are on her priority list at the moment and thus should more or less forget about her.

If she doesn't see how she was disrespectful by bailing on you twice in one week and is trying to act casual about it like nothing is wrong then IMO she's not dateable.
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88
If getting attractive women is easy for you then I would assume you know how low you are on her priority list at the moment and thus should more or less forget about her.

If she doesn't see how she was disrespectful by bailing on you twice in one week and is trying to act casual about it like nothing is wrong then IMO she's not dateable.
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post 1621495901 11-04-2020, 06:25 PM
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post 1621497971 11-04-2020, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Hella
This being the case, I'd just ignore. Texting you to tell you she wants to ask you a question is some stupid chit, why not just ask it? Just go NC man, telling her to fuk off might feel better but every time I've done it I just wished I'd just gone straight NC. She wants to verify that her games are working, just remain unfazed and move on to the next one. Good luck, brah.
wise words right here. nothing ****s with a girl's head more than ignoring her text. If you respond and act upset after she flaked on you, she will feel validated that she was able to get under your skin.

there's nothing sweeter than when a girl disrespects you, greedily comes back for more validation, and then you get to blank her ass. ignore her and you win, OP
post 1621498441 11-04-2020, 06:43 PM
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Pretty much just go NC. No need to be all emotional and tell her to fuk off
post 1621499061 11-04-2020, 06:47 PM
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All the miscers in this thread said the right thing.

Go NC. Nothing more to see here. DO NOT reply back. DELETE NUMBER! SRS
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post 1621502031 11-04-2020, 07:12 PM
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OP you’re beta if you don’t delete her # and go NC srs.

Edit: You’re 26 and asking this question? LMAO tempted to neg just for that.
post 1621503391 11-04-2020, 07:23 PM
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She’s playing games OP.

I go against the rest of the misc. sometimes on this though and I don’t think it would be Beta to just tell her you feel like she’s playing games and it’s not gonna work out between you two and then go NC.

I think it shows you were ready for a more adult relationship and not interested in something immature. Maybe she won’t be so disrespectful to the next guy?
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post 1621540701 11-05-2020, 02:19 AM
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Very good response from the misc. Guess I have to do now is not reply and delete number. Her actions were disrespectful, I could also be a d1ckhead and just like her message and not reply lol
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Originally Posted By Coolman468
Very good response from the misc. Guess I have to do now is not reply and delete number. Her actions were disrespectful, I could also be a d1ckhead and just like her message and not reply lol
Different opinion but what exactly do you have to lose? ask her what the dumb question is and then give a dumb answer to rub it in her face before you block her.
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remain stoic. do not show your feelings. do not show her you care or are bothered. she doesn't and has no doubt been chatting to other guys too. you aren't a priority.

treat her like sloot now. she doesn't deserve better.

don't purse. let her engage. just try to bang her when she engages, treat her like a 6, don't be overly nice. and you can pump and dump

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Depends on whether you wish to plough or eventually have kids with her. Imagine someones homely mother who makes you pancakes for sunday mornings and takes care of all her familys needs, washes dishes & clothes, cleans the house, raises the kids, plans christmas and summer holidays flaking and acting like a retard on the phone with "I have a question to ask"

Now is the time to find some balls and think what you are after. If lube her and uber then continue playing cat and mouse. If a future mother, fuk dat noise.
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1. you truly want to move on = NC

2. quite literally telling her “fuk off” with minimal or no explanation will actually strongly attract her and may establish what you wish she had for you: respect.

3. explaining your feelings in hopes of ‘getting through to her’ = full retard and creates a wonderful platform for her to continue a pattern of manipulation

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TBH I'm kinda curious what sort of question a retard like the chick in the OP would have that she needs to preface it with a warning text.

FUK NC, find out what the question was
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Yeah just text her “sure, whats up?” and if she eventually asks to meet up again, just say “I would prefer to just stay friends with you. Hope it’s ok.”

No bridges burned. Maybe you’ll bang 6 months from now, maybe you’ll need a favor in 8 years and maybe you’ll never speak again. Who cares really, the point is that it seems like there’s no reason to be rude with her, ie. ghosting/telling her to fuk off.
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Just ask her what her question is lol

Originally Posted By Coolman468
( we don’t text between dates)
but why? Don't be a wannabe misc alpha. If she is slow and too busy to keep in touch then that another thing. You got to prioritise each other. If one of you have too limited capacity for the other its almost bound to be bad friction
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I used to think NC was always the way with girls who were messing you around

maybe it's as ive grown older, but i think a better way is to just speak exactly whats on your mind. it's the delivery of the message and the tone which determines how it'll be recieved

i think you should tell her you find how she's been acting disrespectful to your time (not to you, don't personalize it) and it would be a dealbreaker for you in terms of dating someone if this is how it went going forward.
if she does it again then you don't want to see her anymore. this way you state firmly what it is you expect, and give her a chance to redeem herself

by going NC you don't give a girl any opportunity to fix her bad behaviour and she also doesn't know if you'll tolerate it

she probably is playing games with you, just like all the other guys she is texting. you shouldn't take it personally. i think she'd have more respect for you if you called her out
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Just ask her what her question is lol





but why? Don't be a wannabe misc alpha. If she is slow and too busy to keep in touch then that another thing. You got to prioritise each other. If one of you have too limited capacity for the other its almost bound to be bad friction
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