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You can’t get me though sorry.
Dammit! Ya got me
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Originally Posted By propreffered7
yes and no. there are two dynamics

the guys who've accomplished a lot (prob moreso how a person defines their accomplishments) are content and don't try as hard as a result

but i absolutely think the guys at the bottom should try hard

i think people's definition of "not trying" is inadequate. for example, if you're lifestyle is at the gym i'd consider that "trying hard" even though people often want to omit that. you are literally dedicating hours of your day honing how you look - maybe purely health reasons but then how you look is a subsidiary benefit as well

i'm just saying people try more than they think

if you want to go to lebron james or something and his ability to get poosy... pretty sure he tried VERY fuken hard to get where he is

i would expect lebron to come on here and say the same chit though. just do this, just do that.. completely ignoring his 20+ years he put into honing his craft that made him exceedingly popular

it's definitely a normal psyche thing. forgot what it's called in psychology. it's like this "gap" in people's perception where their vision doesn't extend toward themselves
Here's my definition of "trying". Trying would be like a fat dude trying to lose weight and hitting the gym just for the sake of going. Trying would be like the incel who's not social but forcing himself to go places he doesn't wanna go.

There is a difference between trying, wanting, doing, and effortless being.

There comes a point in time when you stop "trying to be confident" and you just 'are'. Now that is true confidence. And that is what women truly find sexy
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Originally Posted By Tomohokk
There comes a point in time when you stop "trying to be confident" and you just 'are'. Now that is true confidence. And that is what women truly find sexy
agreed. but i think that comes after a point where you've tried hard and accomplished a lot
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Originally Posted By Liberal3lite
I spent Christmas today with extended family. One of my in-lawshas Chad aesthetics and we spent some time talking about dating apps. I told him I do horrible on Tinder and he gave the usual bull**** advice: "You just need better photos man."

When he opened his Tinder account, I was absolutely shocked. He had well over a hundred matches and so many chicks were messaging him. He told me he gets a Tinder date almost every weekend. I asked him, "do you think other chicks get mad when you're seeing so many other women basically at the same time." He's like, "Haha I just pretend they're my only one. I text them bull**** praising them like a queen."

These bitches are literally getting pumped and dumped by Chads. The 80/20 rule is actually real and these whores have no self-respect.



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Originally Posted By propreffered7
agreed. but i think that comes after a point where you've tried hard and accomplished a lot
Here's how I see the word "try"

"Trying" would be doing something, and if you don't like it, you quit if it's not for you.

If someone says "try it out." Versus doing it, you rely completely on instincts, your gut, your intelligence, everything that makes you who you are and put in 110% effort.

You wanna talk to the girl? Act like you really do. Quit acting like a shy guy "trying" to make a conversation. Actively engage and let her know what's up. At this point my hand will already be on her thigh while an incel "trying" will be asking her what she studies for school.
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Originally Posted By Tomohokk
Here's how I see the word "try"

"Trying" would be doing something, and if you don't like it, you quit if it's not for you.

If someone says "try it out." Versus doing it, you rely completely on instincts, your gut, your intelligence, everything that makes you who you are and put in 110% effort.

You wanna talk to the girl? Act like you really do. Quit acting like a shy guy "trying" to make a conversation. Actively engage and let her know what's up. At this point my hand will already be on her thigh while an incel "trying" will be asking her what she studies for school.
yes, but i think your instincts are somewhat guided by previous experience.

i have the same experiences. now, i am as you say. i genuinely don't care about the outcomes. i think mostly because i've done a lot

but when i think back to when i was like 18 or 19 and pursuing girls hard i had to "try".

an incel has no frame of reference of success to look back on so he has to make it; "trying" imo
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Originally Posted By thadderbox
Women don't message first, you have to approach them.
I got some bad news. You’re not good looking lol
post 1626621443 12-26-2020, 04:18 AM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7
yes, but i think your instincts are somewhat guided by previous experience.

i have the same experiences. now, i am as you say. i genuinely don't care about the outcomes. i think mostly because i've done a lot

but when i think back to when i was like 18 or 19 and pursuing girls hard i had to "try".

an incel has no frame of reference of success to look back on so he has to make it; "trying" imo
Maybe.

But what truly made me successful was when I stopped giving a ****. The need to get a girl to validate me. The need to "try to hold her attention". The need to get laid to make me 'feel like a man'. I let all that **** go and just did me. When you let all that **** go you become the creator. Put an incel and give him my body and he will remain an incel, but I bet you that regardless of my body I will get the girl
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Originally Posted By Tomohokk
Maybe.

But what truly made me successful was when I stopped giving a ****. The need to get a girl to validate me. The need to "try to hold her attention". The need to get laid to make me 'feel like a man'. I let all that **** go and just did me. When you let all that **** go you become the creator. Put an incel and give him my body and he will remain an incel, but I bet you that regardless of my body I will get the girl
wtf is this garbage lmao

incel means they involuntary can’t get women. It means they are so ugly no women wants them. If you were ugly and went on dating apps you would have 0 matches, not even an option to “act” and not give a fuk like you said

What you’re saying only works bc you’re good looking. Personally i’m decently good looking and do well bc i also don’t give a fuk but that’s to close the girl. You need to have a decent base to even have a chance in the first place

tl;dr: you’re delusional and forgetting looks matter to get you in the door
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Originally Posted By spazzin
wtf is this garbage lmao

incel means they involuntary can’t get women. It means they are so ugly no women wants them. If you were ugly and went on dating apps you would have 0 matches, not even an option to “act” and not give a fuk like you said

What you’re saying only works bc you’re good looking. Personally i’m decently good looking and do well bc i also don’t give a fuk but that’s to close the girl. You need to have a decent base to even have a chance in the first place

tl;dr: you’re delusional and forgetting lools matter to get you in the door


This dude is not only getting laid but his woman is FINE. How about you STFU and dictate your own reality rather than reinforce stories you keep telling yourself about why girls don't like you. Looks don't matter. You do.


In fact it's a bit too easy getting chicks with my body. Maybe i'll try fattening up for a bit of a challenge
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Originally Posted By Tomohokk


This dude is not only getting laid but his woman is FINE. How about you STFU and dictate your own reality rather than reinforce stories you keep telling yourself about why girls don't like you


In fact it's a bit too easy getting chicks with my body. Maybe i'll try fattening up for a bit of a challenge
gain 100 pounds and go on tinder with obese dude pics, you’ll get 0 matches. That’ll be your reality pal

Did you also not read the part where I said i do fine with women? I realize it’s because i take good care of my appearance and look good to get in the door, and use my game and personality to close
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Originally Posted By spazzin
gain 100 pounds and go on tinder with obese dude pics, you’ll get 0 matches. That’ll be your reality pal
That's tinder. I don't even go on there now. Why would I? Just desperate men and lonely women looking for validation. I guarantee you I'll do just fine approaching women like I do now. In fact, my chances might increase because I'll be 'less intimidating'
Did you also not read the part where I said i do fine with women? I realize it’s because i take good care of my appearance and look good to get in the door, and use my game and personality to close
Biggest piece of advice I can give you - quit trying too hard. Women can sense that **** MILES away. The 'fake' ones will be there to eat up your wallet and life force though - this is what they truly live for.
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Originally Posted By Tomohokk
Here's my definition of "trying". Trying would be like a fat dude trying to lose weight and hitting the gym just for the sake of going. Trying would be like the incel who's not social but forcing himself to go places he doesn't wanna go.

There is a difference between trying, wanting, doing, and effortless being.

There comes a point in time when you stop "trying to be confident" and you just 'are'. Now that is true confidence. And that is what women truly find sexy
Well what else am I supposed to do? I must go to bars, clubs, theaters alone and try my best to rack as many numbers as possible. PUA is a legit strategy that I have faith in that it’ll make me successful eventually. The only way a man can become alpha is going out to public places with the razor sharp focus on women and women only. Otherwise why go to a bar? Just to drink? Please...that’s boring. I feel the need to make as many cold approaches as possible even though none of them are successful I’m still training my mind to be a chad.
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Originally Posted By JustCallMeJonny
Well what else am I supposed to do? I must go to bars, clubs, theaters alone and try my best to rack as many numbers as possible. PUA is a legit strategy that I have faith in that it’ll make me successful eventually. The only way a man can become alpha is going out to public places with the razor sharp focus on women and women only. Otherwise why go to a bar? Just to drink? Please...that’s boring. I feel the need to make as many cold approaches as possible even though none of them are successful I’m still training my mind to be a chad.
have you tried fatpeoplemingle?
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Originally Posted By ClivesTriceps
have you tried fatpeoplemingle?
I just disagree with the premise of what’s being said here. You should absolutely try hard as a man otherwise you’re weak beta. Men who don’t try hard are lazy. Having 10/10 facial aesthetics won’t suddenly make life easier
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Originally Posted By Kay4Kool
lol
Is that directed at me?
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I only spent a few years single, but when I was, I was Chad. Women would approach me in bars sometimes or send me drinks. Not always, but it would happen. I had a number of threesomes and only one did I initiate. I never used any dating apps. Meeting women wasn't a problem. Some through friends, some through jobs, others I've picked up at bars. I'd say 90/10 rule is more like it. I banged a few women that friends of mine had crushes on, which I admit was never the nicest thing I've done. Some guys think they just have to keep trying harder with the same women, while she has her eye on someone else. But if you dwell on **** like this, you assure you're part of the 10% of guys groveling for the leftovers. While he's rare, one of my best friends has banged easily over 200 women and he's 5'6". He's a lot of fun and TBH he's willing to put his dik in a lot of places I'd never even glance at.
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Originally Posted By frankdtank20
I only spent a few years single, but when I was, I was Chad. Women would approach me in bars sometimes or send me drinks. Not always, but it would happen. I had a number of threesomes and only one did I initiate. I never used any dating apps. Meeting women wasn't a problem. Some through friends, some through jobs, others I've picked up at bars. I'd say 90/10 rule is more like it. I banged a few women that friends of mine had crushes on, which I admit was never the nicest thing I've done. Some guys think they just have to keep trying harder with the same women, while she has her eye on someone else. But if you dwell on **** like this, you assure you're part of the 10% of guys groveling for the leftovers. While he's rare, one of my best friends has banged easily over 200 women and he's 5'6". He's a lot of fun and TBH he's willing to put his dik in a lot of places I'd never even glance at.
There’s no way a chad can be below 6’0. That guy was blowing smoke up your a**
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Originally Posted By frankdtank20
I only spent a few years single, but when I was, I was Chad. Women would approach me in bars sometimes or send me drinks. Not always, but it would happen. I had a number of threesomes and only one did I initiate. I never used any dating apps. Meeting women wasn't a problem. Some through friends, some through jobs, others I've picked up at bars. I'd say 90/10 rule is more like it. I banged a few women that friends of mine had crushes on, which I admit was never the nicest thing I've done. Some guys think they just have to keep trying harder with the same women, while she has her eye on someone else. But if you dwell on **** like this, you assure you're part of the 10% of guys groveling for the leftovers. While he's rare, one of my best friends has banged easily over 200 women and he's 5'6". He's a lot of fun and TBH he's willing to put his dik in a lot of places I'd never even glance at.
Well said. You take what the universe gives you and focus on yourself. Thinking you have to be with a certain type of girl is blocking yourself from all the other ones that are truly craving your cock. But when you focus on your purpose and not so much on them you will have a universal attractiveness practically all women will love
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Originally Posted By Tomohokk
Well said. You take what the universe gives you and focus on yourself. Thinking you have to be with a certain type of girl is blocking yourself from all the other ones that are truly craving your cock. But when you focus on your purpose and not so much on them you will have a universal attractiveness practically all women will love
It’s kind of hard when you’re not tall
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Originally Posted By JustCallMeJonny
There’s no way a chad can be below 6’0. That guy was blowing smoke up your a**
We were roommates in our early 20s and did a lot of bar hopping together before and after that, so I know firsthand. Read the last sentence of what I wrote again. He banged a lot of women, but most of them were plain Janes or just plain unattractive. A couple of times he was a perfect wingman, hooking up with the fat or plain friend of the woman I was obviously about to bang so the fat/plain friend couldn't run interference. We both have families now so it's funny looking back.
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Originally Posted By frankdtank20
We were roommates in our early 20s and did a lot of bar hopping together before and after that, so I know firsthand. Read the last sentence of what I wrote again. He banged a lot of women, but most of them were plain Janes or just plain unattractive. A couple of times he was a perfect wingman, hooking up with the fat or plain friend of the woman I was obviously about to bang so the fat/plain friend couldn't run interference. We both have families now so it's funny looking back.
Proves my point even more. Even 5’11/6’0 aesthetic dudes will never reach the level a 6’2+ guy does
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