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post 1632176823 02-23-2021, 04:49 PM
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Originally Posted By neondevil⏩
Well judging by how you're typing now somebody is hitting the sauce. He might be and "improve", everything is on him. It's literally all you unfortunately, re-read your posts and the ones linked to you. Everything you've done is toxic.

You can find and correct this or you can ignore most of us but you'll just wind up in the same place.
I am very honest with myself and with others too, but maybe I wasn´t in this case with him.

I am not the woman to wait for someone to improve in 500 years, you need to want to improve constantly to be compatible with me, if he wants to improve in his time frame meaning to put his veneers when he´s 60, I am not the one for him.

Is this what is healthy ? you just watch people doing the wrong thing and you let them do it for as long as they want to ?

am i too eastern european to understand how this is something i should accept ??
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post 1632176993 02-23-2021, 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
I am veryhonest with myselfand with others too
No you're not you silly Billy.
post 1632177013 02-23-2021, 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted By PassiveLearner⏩
Seriously I do hope you have a therapist or someone in your life to help guide you. You're very naive and foolish. Your understanding of what is and what is not acceptable in a healthy, mutually beneficial relationship is grossly distorted. You assuredly do not know your value, or you do and it's low. I'm not sure since I don't know you. But your comments in this thread suggest you need some serious relationship guidance that you won't get with your belligerent attitude and arrogance. Seek a professional or your next relationship will be as counterproductive as your last.
I´m far from naive or foolish, I am not forcing and not guarding relationships.

you probably are an insecure loser who needs to control his relationship and make it work. I don´t want to make it work loser, I want someone who is compatible with me and we improve ourselves together or I´ll stay in my lane. Stop talking about how I am so naive when you are a divorced loser with some sour baby momma
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
I am very honest with myself and with others too, but maybe I wasn´t in this case with him.

I am not the woman to wait for someone to improve in 500 years, you need to want to improve constantly to be compatible with me, if he wants to improve in his time frame meaning to put his veneers when he´s 60, I am not the one for him.

Is this what is healthy ? you just watch people doing the wrong thing and you let them do it for as long as they want to ?

am i too eastern european to understand how this is something i should accept ??
Your standards are too high while you offer little in return.
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
how to avoid breaking the NC ?

he really broke my heart, called me batchit crazy and all the qualities in the world are not worth the stress i cause him

the stress i cause him= his own thoughts about me looking for a better man

the relationship was on and off with the breaks he wanted bcuz i wanted him to actually date other women and see that he ll return

always returned and complained about how everything would be ok if i wouldn´t be looking for someone better

blablabla i just want to get over
You sound like a pain in the ass. Surprised any guy would put up with you.
post 1632177153 02-23-2021, 04:54 PM
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Originally Posted By neondevil⏩
No you're not you silly Billy.
I am, I will never tolerate someone who wants to be a loser, not on my time. I know that by today´s snowflakes standards I am toxic because I want someone who takes care of himself and improves himself and actually cares about his future.

You´re allowed to be a loser, but not in a relationship with me. So I´m toxic, correct ?
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post 1632177193 02-23-2021, 04:55 PM
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
I am, I will never tolerate someone who wants to be a loser, not on my time. I know that by today´s snowflakes standards I am toxic because I want someone who takes care of himself and improves himself and actually cares about his future.

You´re allowed to be a loser, but not in a relationship with me. So I´m toxic, correct ?
No guy wants to be with someone constantly evaluating if he's "good enough".
post 1632177233 02-23-2021, 04:56 PM
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gosh why don't you just go f the surgeon already. If you were best friends with your bf you would have cut the surgeon out of your life. You will never improve so long as you deny you're bat**** crazy
post 1632177343 02-23-2021, 04:57 PM
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
I am, I will never tolerate someone who wants to be a loser, not on my time. I know that by today´s snowflakes standards I am toxic because I want someone who takes care of himself and improves himself and actually cares about his future.

You´re allowed to be a loser, but not in a relationship with me. So I´m toxic, correct ?
Correct you're incredibly toxic. If you weren't you'd be both married or in a long term relationship by now.
post 1632177463 02-23-2021, 04:59 PM
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
how to avoid breaking the NC ?

he really broke my heart, called me batchit crazy and all the qualities in the world are not worth the stress i cause him

the stress i cause him= his own thoughts about me looking for a better man

the relationship was on and off with the breaks he wanted bcuz i wanted him to actually date other women and see that he ll return

always returned and complained about how everything would be ok if i wouldn´t be looking for someone better

blablabla i just want to get over
Logic, not even once. The problem is you are so narcissistic you only consider your POV, not his. I can tell you right now the fastest way to end a relationship is to tell him to date other women.

Not even sure why you posted this here. You cannot handle the truth, as evidence by all your defensive replies.
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post 1632177493 02-23-2021, 05:00 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
No guy wants to be with someone constantly evaluating if he's "good enough".
single, incel, unhappy talks about evaluation while avoiding his own. you are not good enough to be dated by most women, why don´t you face it ?
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I don't understand why you're upset.

You were happy for him to date other women previously cos you thought he'd always come back, so give it a couple weeks and he'll come back again right?

Especially if he's as bad a loser as you say. You might even get flowers.
post 1632177693 02-23-2021, 05:03 PM
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post 1632177863 02-23-2021, 05:06 PM
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Originally Posted By jimberee⏩
gosh why don't you just go f the surgeon already. If you were best friends with your bf you would have cut the surgeon out of your life. You will never improve so long as you deny you're bat**** crazy
I don´t hate people that helped me develop in life and I am also a friendly person. I don´t date if I don´t want to dae.
Originally Posted By neondevil⏩
Correct you're incredibly toxic. If you weren't you'd be both married or in a long term relationship by now.
you are the reason why 50% of marriages end up in divorce. that is not a goal
Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
The fastest way to end a relationship is to tell him to date other women.

Logic, not even once.

Not even sure why you posted this here. You cannot handle the truth, as evidence by all your defensive replies.
you don´t know how to read my post so i will not bother answering you, where have i stated that i told him to date other women ?
Originally Posted By Caldef⏩
I don't understand why you're upset.

You were happy for him to date other women previously cos you thought he'd always come back, so give it a couple weeks and he'll come back again right?

Especially if he's as bad a loser as you say. You might even get flowers.
I am only unhappy because I actually wasted my time and I can do and will do much much better.

Flowers are not a problem, I believe that I can move to getting cars.
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post 1632177873 02-23-2021, 05:06 PM
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
single, incel, unhappy talks about evaluation while avoiding his own. you are not good enough to be dated by most women, why don´t you face it ?
I did face it. Doesn't change my objective comments on your situation. You seem to have projected your own insecurities and appetite for success onto your bf. You basically measure your sense of self worth by the bf you have. Many women do this. You kept trying to "improve him". There is no hierarchy. What would an improved version of him be? 20 lbs lighter? Him on some T with more definition? Him except richer? Face it. You just wanted a different guy.That beer belly, that lifestyle, that's who he is. If you don't want it, that's fine. But you can't make someone into something they are not. I don't think you ever loved him. You just wanted to make him into someone you could love and be proud of. You couldn't even "present" him. He is better off without you, and you are better off without him.
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Originally Posted By jimberee⏩
gosh why don't you just go f the surgeon already. If you were best friends with your bf you would have cut the surgeon out of your life. You will never improve so long as you deny you're bat**** crazy
This. Go revenge-fuk your ex the surgeon and then go NC on both exes for good.
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post 1632178093 02-23-2021, 05:09 PM
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
you don´t know how to read my post so i will not bother answering you, where have i stated that i told him to date other women ?
Even just you thinking that way is the reason your relationship ended. Get a clue.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
She is young and pretty so she offers a lot actually. That is literally the most important thing in dating. If she is also loyal then there are plenty of men who would be very happy with her. I think she will be fine moving on.

As to the ex I agree she shouldn’t be in contact with exes at all but I know a lot of people do think it is fine. Might also be a cultural difference because I think in Europe people are more open minded about staying friends with exes or letting a guy date other women. I personally disagree with it but it might be cultural.
It was a harsh day and this topic turned out to 1) give really good advice for me, by smart powerful women 2) team up pressed losers who can´t understand the importance of evolving in life.

Also I know lots of people who are in good relations with their exs, it was an important part of their life or they have kids or they simply were more suitable as friends than dating partners. Idk if this is cultural difference tbh
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
I did face it. Doesn't change my objective comments on your situation. You seem to have projected your own insecurities and appetite for success onto your bf. You basically measure your sense of self worth by the bf you have. Many women do this. You kept trying to "improve him". There is no hierarchy. What would an improved version of him be? 20 lbs lighter? Him on some T with more definition? Him except richer? Face it. You just wanted a different guy.That beer belly, that lifestyle, that's who he is. If you don't want it, that's fine. But you can't make someone into something they are not. I don't think you ever loved him. You just wanted to make him into someone you could love and be proud of. You couldn't even "present" him. He is better off without you, and you are better off without him.
Rationalizing of peace from OP. "Why did he think I would look for someone better? I love him, I just want him to become a completely different person. "
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
my bf broke up with me
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Life is too short, a wise man once said only a fool looks back. So focus on moving forward. Good luck.
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
It was a harsh day and this topic turned out to 1) give really good advice for me, by smart powerful women 2) team up pressed losers who can´t understand the importance of evolving in life.

Also I know lots of people who are in good relations with their exs, it was an important part of their life or they have kids or they simply were more suitable as friends than dating partners. Idk if this is cultural difference tbh


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Originally Posted By poolshark472⏩
This. Go revenge-fuk your ex the surgeon and then go NC on both exes for good.
why don´t you revenge fuk your mom ?
Originally Posted By wincel⏩
I did face it. Doesn't change my objective comments on your situation. You seem to have projected your own insecurities and appetite for success onto your bf. You basically measure your sense of self worth by the bf you have. Many women do this. You kept trying to "improve him". There is no hierarchy. What would an improved version of him be? 20 lbs lighter? Him on some T with more definition? Him except richer? Face it. You just wanted a different guy.That beer belly, that lifestyle, that's who he is. If you don't want it, that's fine. But you can't make someone into something they are not. I don't think you ever loved him. You just wanted to make him into someone you could love and be proud of. You couldn't even "present" him. He is better off without you, and you are better off without him.
never considered him with 20 lbs lighter another person, just a better version of himself. aren´t people supposed to actually improve during their life ?
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah op maybe you should get back with the surgeon? You’ll have a comfortable life with him. Get married have kids and you don’t have to work. Just enjoy life. It sounds pretty good.
surgeon wants to marry, have kids, provide a good life for a nice woman in exchange of him banging everything that breaths while she knows and quietly allows it. he´s the last of my plans
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Don’t agree with everything you said but I do agree on the project part. You can’t change people. People are the way they are. You either date them and accept them and love them exactly the way they are, or you have to leave them. You can’t fix people up like a project. They might change temporarily to appease you but they will revert back to their true self soon enough. You can’t change people.
unfortunately they would have to want to change themselves. maybe he felt under pressure
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Well. Don't be too hard on yourself.
I'm sure you deserved it.

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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Don’t agree with everything you said but I do agree on the project part. You can’t change people. People are the way they are. You either date them and accept them and love them exactly the way they are, or you have to leave them. You can’t fix people up like a project. They might change temporarily to appease you but they will revert back to their true self soon enough. You can’t change people.
pretty much
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
why don´t you revenge fuk your mom ?

never considered him with 20 lbs lighter another person, just a better version of himself. aren´t people supposed to actually improve during their life ?

surgeon wants to marry, have kids, provide a good life for a nice woman in exchange of him banging everything that breaths while she knows and quietly allows it. he´s the last of my plans

unfortunately they would have to want to change themselves. maybe he felt under pressure
No my dear, people do not generally improve in life. Maybe that's true for the first 30 years or so. It's all downhill from there. Your life is not a process of continual improvement. There will come a time when you will genuinely feel proud of not pissing yourself and remembering the street you live on.

It's a cold, rough world. You do what you can to survive. You try to make life better for yourself and your loved ones. If you're doing that, that is good enough. That should be good enough. That goes for both you and him. Your dreams of continual improvement fail in reality. Nature imposes hard limits on people. You must love a man for who he is. You can push him to improve within his limits, but he will resent you for it. And ultimately, he will only budge so far.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah I get it. As to the surgeon I would like to say that this is unacceptable and that women should never accept it. In my old bluepill life I would have said that 100% certainty.

However in my new redpill life I worry that maybe that is just how life is for women. Maybe we all have to choose between marrying a rich alpha good provider who cheats on the side OR just an average beta middle class guy who is loyal (because no better options). Sounds awful I know but I wonder if this is the ultimate reality pill for women.
That is not how life is for women. There are plenty of high quality men who don't cheat. But most of them will be snatched up asap. No guy wants to be evaluated as beta by women. If you think a dude is a beta, don't waste his time.
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