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what kind of jobs did your MIL have with that shytty temperament and low IQ? she sounds like someone who can't hold down a job.
The training is nothing, the will is everything. The will to act.
04-10-2021, 10:51 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
I started out guns blazing. Went south Quick. Now i ignore everything and hide.You're doing this while thing wrong. You need to fight fire with fire. Pre-emptively nag her before she starts nagging you. Don't get mad, have her get mad and look like a fool in front of everyone. Call her out for every little thing she does wrong, but do it in the way you would a child. She'll be gone in 2 weeks.
Used to complain - dirty dish "what's so hard about cleaning up after yourself an 8 year old can do this"
Shoes left in the middler of the floor "who does this"
food sitting out on the stove all day "i'm throwing this away in 1 hour"
not to be a dick, but because for me the basic signs of respect fall in those lines. My wife, while agreed her mom was a disaster didn't like my attitude. Apparently I need to respect her (I was taught respect was earned not give, but i guess when its your wife its given not earned).
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Originally Posted By wrastler163⏩
Yes two, I spend my time with them when I get home from work, then disappear into the basement and dump them on the MIL and wife.do you have kids? srs
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Originally Posted By LeakyQuesadilla⏩
Don't remember her job 2 years ago (very low paying), then the costco samples girl before being laid off (srs) - since has been enjoying unemployment and has no intentions of getting another job.what kind of jobs did your MIL have with that shytty temperament and low IQ? she sounds like someone who can't hold down a job.
Can't wait till that runs out. Makes me sick (srs)
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04-10-2021, 10:55 PM
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Originally Posted By wrastler163⏩
not communication. It's fate, dude. You cannot fight the social current of their b.s. You need to marry into the class you want, or this kind of b.s. will take over unless you're single.Thanks man, you're right. I've tried to have conversations, some have proven productive, some have been a complete waste of time. Tried to tell her today I think we need to communicate better (she bought a bunch of chit four our sons birthday when i wasn't planning on it for another 5 days - no conversation), she said she told me she was going to costco and i was supposed to know.
one hour later her moms sitting and the kitchen and they're talking in spanish about napkins, plates, etc. to buy for the party, and i tell her hey, i don't have a problem, but this is my point you're not communicating with me right now you don't realize it because you're substituting your mom for me and not thinking about it, but ya'll are making decisions and i dont know whats happening. And not to be a ****, but this is happening on a micro level everywhere else. They know i understand spanish, but still they make deals/plans without me.
And i think the worst part is my MIL can't be left alone. So for 3 months I haven't had breakfast, lunch, dinner, or a trip to lowes with my wife with just the two of us. I told her a month ago this isn't healthy and still waiting for 1 day where we have alone time. We're fighting all the time, and i keep trying to tell her this current situation isn't healthy
one hour later her moms sitting and the kitchen and they're talking in spanish about napkins, plates, etc. to buy for the party, and i tell her hey, i don't have a problem, but this is my point you're not communicating with me right now you don't realize it because you're substituting your mom for me and not thinking about it, but ya'll are making decisions and i dont know whats happening. And not to be a ****, but this is happening on a micro level everywhere else. They know i understand spanish, but still they make deals/plans without me.
And i think the worst part is my MIL can't be left alone. So for 3 months I haven't had breakfast, lunch, dinner, or a trip to lowes with my wife with just the two of us. I told her a month ago this isn't healthy and still waiting for 1 day where we have alone time. We're fighting all the time, and i keep trying to tell her this current situation isn't healthy
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Originally Posted By JohnnyHotSauce⏩
wow that sounds amazing. My MIL can't do anything. When my son goes outside with her i literally have to supervise both of them. If i don't she'll let my son pull leaves off my plants, throw dirt, whatever. I told my wife, i literally have 2 todlers.Yes two, I spend my time with them when I get home from work, then disappear into the basement and dump them on the MIL and wife.
Respect and jealous. Only solace i can take is my mom is a principal and retires in august so hopefully we can utilize her soon, and my MIL goes back to PR for at least a year once her unemployment dries up
04-10-2021, 10:57 PM
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Originally Posted By thatsnarf⏩
woa woa woa, what's wrong with the name Kaiden?You named your son "kaiden"
Your MIL doesn't believe in covid.
Who is the sane person here?
Your MIL doesn't believe in covid.
Who is the sane person here?
My son could probably kick your ass (pretty srs), been teaching him how to wrestle
Obviously she's the sane one for not believing in covid, and then later claiming it was my wifes fault for getting covid and she deserved it for working instead of just going on unemployment.
you're right
04-10-2021, 11:00 PM
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Originally Posted By wrastler163⏩
as Dan Gable would say after living with your MIL for 3 months, everything else in life is easy.woa woa woa, what's wrong with the name Kaiden?
My son could probably kick your ass (pretty srs), been teaching him how to wrestle
Obviously she's the sane one for not believing in covid, and then later claiming it was my wifes fault for getting covid and she deserved it for working instead of just going on unemployment.
you're right
My son could probably kick your ass (pretty srs), been teaching him how to wrestle
Obviously she's the sane one for not believing in covid, and then later claiming it was my wifes fault for getting covid and she deserved it for working instead of just going on unemployment.
you're right
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04-10-2021, 11:02 PM
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repped for dan gable reference...anyone have an easy way for me to upload a video xing out my wifes face? My son took her down today and ive never been more proud. Sent to all my friends. Just needed an arm and to get his hips up. Dude was collecting back points
04-10-2021, 11:05 PM
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Originally Posted By wrastler163⏩
I think you need to 100% start with the fact that you guys NEED one or two nights out a week to yourselves, no MIL. That is completely fair to ask, at least you can get a chance to enjoy eachothers company without it being attached to an annoying ass MIL. Might make things bearable, or act as sort of a refresher you need to remind you you're on the same page at least.Thanks man, you're right. I've tried to have conversations, some have proven productive, some have been a complete waste of time. Tried to tell her today I think we need to communicate better (she bought a bunch of chit four our sons birthday when i wasn't planning on it for another 5 days - no conversation), she said she told me she was going to costco and i was supposed to know.
one hour later her moms sitting and the kitchen and they're talking in spanish about napkins, plates, etc. to buy for the party, and i tell her hey, i don't have a problem, but this is my point you're not communicating with me right now you don't realize it because you're substituting your mom for me and not thinking about it, but ya'll are making decisions and i dont know whats happening. And not to be a ****, but this is happening on a micro level everywhere else. They know i understand spanish, but still they make deals/plans without me.
And i think the worst part is my MIL can't be left alone. So for 3 months I haven't had breakfast, lunch, dinner, or a trip to lowes with my wife with just the two of us. I told her a month ago this isn't healthy and still waiting for 1 day where we have alone time. We're fighting all the time, and i keep trying to tell her this current situation isn't healthy
one hour later her moms sitting and the kitchen and they're talking in spanish about napkins, plates, etc. to buy for the party, and i tell her hey, i don't have a problem, but this is my point you're not communicating with me right now you don't realize it because you're substituting your mom for me and not thinking about it, but ya'll are making decisions and i dont know whats happening. And not to be a ****, but this is happening on a micro level everywhere else. They know i understand spanish, but still they make deals/plans without me.
And i think the worst part is my MIL can't be left alone. So for 3 months I haven't had breakfast, lunch, dinner, or a trip to lowes with my wife with just the two of us. I told her a month ago this isn't healthy and still waiting for 1 day where we have alone time. We're fighting all the time, and i keep trying to tell her this current situation isn't healthy
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Tell her she needs to take the covid vaccine. Then she won’t be staying too much longer
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Originally Posted By wrastler163⏩
Stop making her food.While i can relate to some extent, you don't understand this woman doesn't like anything. She'll have a normal plate in front of her and pick different pieces of food off (chicken fat, crispy vegetables, whatever) and have a plate left that looks like a 5 year olds. Ive been with my girl for 4 years and I've made her food, and tried to make her food i think she'll like so many times. Maybe 5 times she likes it, the other 90 she tears it apart and eats half of everything and the other 5 won't eat anything because i cooked seafood in the house, or i left the skins on the zuchinni, or she doesn't eat pork (despite her eating an italian sandwich from walmart yesterday. srs)
You think you & your wife are better than her. Even the lowest class of people intictivly understand disdane. People become what you tell them they are. She raised a dr that you think is pretty awesome....
Become her friend. Your kid has her blood.
04-10-2021, 11:15 PM
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Her behaviour is why she was a single mother.
She resents you because she isn't able to form relationships. She is jealous of her daughter and this is her way of getting back at the world. Srs
Crabs in a bucket mentality.
Your wife is suffering from Stockholm syndrome too.
Cute wife btw
She resents you because she isn't able to form relationships. She is jealous of her daughter and this is her way of getting back at the world. Srs
Crabs in a bucket mentality.
Your wife is suffering from Stockholm syndrome too.
Cute wife btw
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04-10-2021, 11:18 PM
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Originally Posted By ChewYourFood⏩
don't think im better than her at all and I know for a fact my wife doesnt. I'm not expecting anything other than her to clean her dishes when she makes her own food. I make breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and do all the dishes.Stop making her food.
You think you & your wife are better than her. Even the lowest class of people intictivly understand disdane. People become what you tell them they are. She raised a dr that you think is pretty awesome....
Become her friend. Your kid has her blood.
You think you & your wife are better than her. Even the lowest class of people intictivly understand disdane. People become what you tell them they are. She raised a dr that you think is pretty awesome....
Become her friend. Your kid has her blood.
Asking her to do her own dishes when she eats by herself means i think im better than her?
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Fuuarkk unique thread for sure, haven't heard this one before.
Sounds like shes waaaay to comfortable in your home. She has to understand that she is a GUEST. But I'm sure this has already been said ITT. In my way younger years I used to see lots of fights my parents had over this exact issue.
Sounds like shes waaaay to comfortable in your home. She has to understand that she is a GUEST. But I'm sure this has already been said ITT. In my way younger years I used to see lots of fights my parents had over this exact issue.
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Reps cause feeling sorry for your a$$. That **** must suck.
My mom-in-law is the opposite. Whenever she visits, she’s wanting to cook, do the dishes, and clean up our place. I have to tell her to relax. She also treats me great, and tells my wife to treat me better, cook healthier foods, let me rest up more, and to take better care of me. I try to help out around the house and with the kids as much as I can, which is complete opposite of my dad-in-law, who does no housework. Mom-in-law thinks I’m a saint.
My mom-in-law is the opposite. Whenever she visits, she’s wanting to cook, do the dishes, and clean up our place. I have to tell her to relax. She also treats me great, and tells my wife to treat me better, cook healthier foods, let me rest up more, and to take better care of me. I try to help out around the house and with the kids as much as I can, which is complete opposite of my dad-in-law, who does no housework. Mom-in-law thinks I’m a saint.
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So the Indian dude who works next to me bought his first apartment last year, moved in with his wife, parents-in-law came to stay and BAM! covid. Ended up staying for about 10 months, LMAO. Two months of that, everything was closed so they couldn't even go anywhere.
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Originally Posted By BroncManiac⏩
enjoy it bro. Thats how my wifes aunt is. Everyone in her family either has decent money or good values. Very unfortunate situation for sure. I definitely don't care about money, but leaving a mess after yourself every day and showing no effort to help after i cook every day is frustating.Reps cause feeling sorry for your a$$. That **** must suck.
My mom-in-law is the opposite. Whenever she visits, she’s wanting to cook, do the dishes, and clean up our place. I have to tell her to relax. She also treats me great, and tells my wife to treat me better, cook healthier foods, let me rest up more, and to take better care of me. I try to help out around the house and with the kids as much as I can, which is complete opposite of my dad-in-law, who does no housework. Mom-in-law thinks I’m a saint.
My mom-in-law is the opposite. Whenever she visits, she’s wanting to cook, do the dishes, and clean up our place. I have to tell her to relax. She also treats me great, and tells my wife to treat me better, cook healthier foods, let me rest up more, and to take better care of me. I try to help out around the house and with the kids as much as I can, which is complete opposite of my dad-in-law, who does no housework. Mom-in-law thinks I’m a saint.
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I think you need to decide what your absolute red-lines are with this woman.
I would suggest that you have the absolute right to get the fuk out of the house on your own for a full day once a week while she is around or you get a day with your wife alone once a week.
The other one is parenting. Your son your rules, none of this feeding him fries when you tell her not to BS.
Totally get that you have to compromise with parents, but there's also a certain types of nonsense you have to fight.
I would suggest that you have the absolute right to get the fuk out of the house on your own for a full day once a week while she is around or you get a day with your wife alone once a week.
The other one is parenting. Your son your rules, none of this feeding him fries when you tell her not to BS.
Totally get that you have to compromise with parents, but there's also a certain types of nonsense you have to fight.
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Stand up to them and give your wife and mother an ultimatum. Tell her there is a time limit for her to remain in your honey and she must leave.
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Originally Posted By Mr
agreed 100%. My thing is, I'll wash her dishes (not going to be happy about it), but for me the biggest thing is, this is my son. My rules. She followed into place after the incident, but still. (she said you need to eat what mammy and daddy say), but she never apologized to me for the event. So i've been completely ignoring her. Probably childish, but still. I need to make a pointI think you need to decide what your absolute red-lines are with this woman.
I would suggest that you have the absolute right to get the fuk out of the house on your own for a full day once a week while she is around or you get a day with your wife alone once a week.
The other one is parenting. Your son your rules, none of this feeding him fries when you tell her not to BS.
Totally get that you have to compromise with parents, but there's also a certain types of nonsense you have to fight.
I would suggest that you have the absolute right to get the fuk out of the house on your own for a full day once a week while she is around or you get a day with your wife alone once a week.
The other one is parenting. Your son your rules, none of this feeding him fries when you tell her not to BS.
Totally get that you have to compromise with parents, but there's also a certain types of nonsense you have to fight.
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Originally Posted By wrastler163⏩
I know these feelsPost above, yes it is a living hell. Imagine a normal mother and law and multiply it by 100. She complains about everything, doesn't help with the kids, leaves all her dirty dishes. And when I complain my wife gets mad at me. So right now im basically just ignoring everything. Oh yeah and she's latin so when she's complaining its non stop, irritating like nails on a chalk board
Bang her?
Bang her?
Fuk my father in law is like that, but really really really mean and demeaning to me. He’s super controlling too, like if he is over which is often cause he can’t stay alone all the time, he’ll say we waste water by doing the laundry and we have a well. Then he says he’ll say he’s going to save himself money by taking the water out of the washer and water the plants, when he doesn’t pay the bills or even lives there. Then he’ll yell at me for not using a pot he boiled veggies in that’s dirty to cook with, so we don’t use another pan for something like eggs that can’t be cooked in a pot cause it’s going to stick -.- and I can’t say anything
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Originally Posted By sam212⏩
lmao trusting a female doctor. probably cheated on 98% of the workYour mother in law sounds like a total delinquent. How did she raise your wife to be such high functioning and successful? What kind of doctor is your wife?
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