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Can attractive men still be friendzoned after first date?
04-09-2021, 09:30 AM
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Glad to see someone the same way. I get plenty of attention from women IRL and on dating apps, but have only slept with ones I've been in relationships with (or had previously been in a relationship with). I legit don't understand these dudes who put in massive amounts of energy to sleep with complete strangers. I'm arguably the best looking dude in my friend group (they even admit it) but have slept with the lowest number, I just don't understand their mindset. One of my buddies (who is a pretty good-looking dude) was at a low point after a break-up and invited a 300-pound chick over to his place while piss-drunk. She forced him to watch a movie with her for an hour, then he busted in two pumps.Yeah dude I don't really understand the guys who bang lots of girls either.
I'd tried that and it just isn't me.
Like the people who I've know that do that, always ended up doing something really shady to me, also - like they're quite ruthless and callous with how they treat other people?
The thing is, im quite attractive and I'd get lots of attention from girls, but I wouldn't wanna bang them - so my friends though I was gay or something - not sure what that has to do with anything though?
I don't get how pleasurable it can be to bang some random body and then not really wanna cuddle with them? Or how can you cuddle with somebody who you don't like? The whole world is bizarre in my eyes and the only way I can see it going on is if you're constantly under the influence.
Either way, I paid the price for my stupidity - ditched that life and now I am happier than ever.
I'd tried that and it just isn't me.
Like the people who I've know that do that, always ended up doing something really shady to me, also - like they're quite ruthless and callous with how they treat other people?
The thing is, im quite attractive and I'd get lots of attention from girls, but I wouldn't wanna bang them - so my friends though I was gay or something - not sure what that has to do with anything though?
I don't get how pleasurable it can be to bang some random body and then not really wanna cuddle with them? Or how can you cuddle with somebody who you don't like? The whole world is bizarre in my eyes and the only way I can see it going on is if you're constantly under the influence.
Either way, I paid the price for my stupidity - ditched that life and now I am happier than ever.
Women who sleep with complete strangers are usually even more damaged. Modern dating culture is so strange, where sex is used to bargain for a relationship. And that "sexual compatibility" argument is the dumbest chit I've heard, any two people can become compatible with enough practice and enough of a connection.
Nice to see someone with the same mindset on Misc, where everyone else is a complete Chad with triple-digit kill counts who always f*cks on the first date and drops any woman who wants an "emotional connection."
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04-09-2021, 09:33 AM
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04-09-2021, 09:58 AM
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LMAO at all the "super attractive chads" in this group who "just can't do casual sex"
If you were as half attractive as you thought you were, you'd have been offered (and taken) sex from other attractive women with zero strings attached, and there is nothing wrong with that.
You can want to bang someone but not want to date/marry them at the same time. In fact, that's 99% of girls Ive known, because I don't try to wife or seriously date the first girl that gives me attention.
That behavior is commonplace among average guys who have no built in abundance mentality. The only way you've managed to get a girl to sleep with you is through offering them a relationship with other incentives (security, emotional connection, friend groups, money, trips etc)
To each their own, but don't come in here hating on the casual crowd. And I say this as a guy currently in a LTR.
If you were as half attractive as you thought you were, you'd have been offered (and taken) sex from other attractive women with zero strings attached, and there is nothing wrong with that.
You can want to bang someone but not want to date/marry them at the same time. In fact, that's 99% of girls Ive known, because I don't try to wife or seriously date the first girl that gives me attention.
That behavior is commonplace among average guys who have no built in abundance mentality. The only way you've managed to get a girl to sleep with you is through offering them a relationship with other incentives (security, emotional connection, friend groups, money, trips etc)
To each their own, but don't come in here hating on the casual crowd. And I say this as a guy currently in a LTR.
04-09-2021, 11:11 AM
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04-10-2021, 01:13 AM
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Should I just accept going out for coffee one time with her in near future she was actually kinda cool? Wouldn't that help me get more confidence with women and maybe she has friends I could potentially get with? One of the last things she said before the date ended was 'i can tell you're anxious but it's ok'. I feel like I'm like that with everyone men and women tho I've always had slight social anxiety
04-10-2021, 01:34 AM
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Originally Posted By GTraven⏩
yes when they are poorIf they dont really know how to flirt and just treat the girl more like a friend or is it coz they find them unattractive or don't like their personality?
04-10-2021, 01:55 AM
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04-11-2021, 12:10 AM
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04-11-2021, 12:13 AM
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Hell yea, they have attractive men throwing their dicks at them all day, the ones that hit them emotionally are the ones they don’t friendzone.
04-11-2021, 12:17 AM
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04-11-2021, 12:19 AM
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Originally Posted By GTraven⏩
Actually not sure what you meanTime to go savage beastmode
04-11-2021, 12:35 AM
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04-11-2021, 03:01 AM
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Yes, they still get laid though
There’s a difference between the friend zone where there was never any attraction and the friend zone where at first there was/is attraction but for a variety of reasons it never got romantic
unless you’re a lonely kunt staying in the friend zone hoping to get laid eventually doesn’t really work. Only works when you have a fun social life, keep working on yourself, and then one time “it just happens.” Then the friendship falls apart and off you go or you get married
There’s a difference between the friend zone where there was never any attraction and the friend zone where at first there was/is attraction but for a variety of reasons it never got romantic
unless you’re a lonely kunt staying in the friend zone hoping to get laid eventually doesn’t really work. Only works when you have a fun social life, keep working on yourself, and then one time “it just happens.” Then the friendship falls apart and off you go or you get married
04-12-2021, 09:39 AM
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
LOL no. The only girls that require manufactured, "game" and effort are 25 yr old virgins or girls who refuse to do anything sexual until the 16th date after you've already disclosed your yearly earnings.Yeah dude agreed with the girls who bang around being dangerous. These girls require some sort of unnatural manufactured 'game' and you always have to be on your guard. Like you got to thee gym with your girl and she's looking at some other dude straight away. Like Duhhh. She only with you because of how you were perceived by her, being 'alpha', then some guy who is more alpha comes you way and you lose your girl.
Banging a girl who is down is like breathing air, chit just happens. And that alpha v alpha chit can happen in any situation. Happens way more with young guys keeping their HS virgin gf through college, and happens with old married guys when their wives get bored. You sound insecure though bringing that up.
Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Uh ok? Congrats for turning down sex? I think you are either lying or low T, because 99 percent of dudes would just go ahead and bang if the greenlight was there. The whole ruining your life chit is cope. Don't catch feelings. How could a girl I'm casually fuking ruin my life if there are no feelings? The girls that ruin your life are long term GFs.I have been offered sex and I just find a way out. I've had chanced to bang attractive girls and as soon as the convo went that way, I sorta bailed out. Then my mate bangs the same chick and she basically ruined his life - im like thank f*ck, I knew I shouldn't have done that.
Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Cope. Fuk when you feel like it, sort out the rest later. Don't catch feelings for every girl right away, that's what creates issues and problems.IMO - Sex should only be had when you're ready, otherwise you just create more issues and problems.
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