No brag here, but I’ve gotten with plenty of really attractive women, women a ton of guys are tripping over, and honestly it’s lost it’s excitement, like over the years it just doesn’t feel the same. I still care about attractiveness but it’s not as high on the list as before. I just want to find a good girl that’s attractive enough and is into me.

I now get why we see hot women with below average guy, it’s because they have been with really attractive guys and the excitement has worn off. So they are more willing to go after guys that have really good personalities .

You get used to everything after a while

Doubt brad Pitt gets excited when an attractive girl wants to sleep with him

Find you a 7-8/10 that is well-rounded, supportive, chill company, and a great lay. They are few and far between, but they exist.

Found one and made her my wife 11 years ago. I don't have your problem though. My wife is better looking than any of my exes. At best, I'm equal to my wife on a scale, but probably married up in my personal opinion.

I'll take a cute 7.5/10 that has an amazing personality and is cute af over a 9/10 with no personality any day.


Personality is sooooo important for relationships and even one night stands.

I def settled with the highest quality one rather than the hottest one. Almost 20 yrs later and do not regret. Sometimes it gets hard from temptation but that’s just natural. There’s no way I could’ve had a great relationship this many yrs with any of the others I dated so what you’re talking about is correct imo. Finding one that’s attractive to you but has all the important qualities is the move if you don’t want to be a bachelor at 40.

I’m 27 now and when I was younger it was all about finding the next hot girl, now I’m content with a 6.5 with good qualities.

still tempted and the excitement never wore off tbh, just at a spot in life where I'm not doing that

luckily my current gf is at the top for looks and quality for what I've been with... ~30 ish women

just have to accept it. the tradeoff for having a nice woman, stability, dual income is better right now than the chase and excitement of seeing a new naked girl in my bed

Happy to hear that, hoping I can have the same one day, starting to lose a little hope as most girls are shtty relationship material in general. All their options has gotten to their head. Having a lot of options got to my head too, until I realized recently having one good one is better than a bunch of average ones (in terms of character and personality)

I actually now just get disappointed. Girls are not the same in the morning with no make up. And once you get to know them they are usually dumb.

As you get older what you deem "attractive" will likely take a different shape so to speak... at least I know it did for me!

Once upon a time all I needed was a legit IRL 8+/10 with no gag reflex and I was solid.

But eventually I needed more... some type of formal education , a career not just a job , NOT A WHALE , good attitude, etc. etc...

300+ crew.

No, you don't lose excitement or interest, if you're 27 and having issues getting excited for attractive women, it's not a desensitization issue, it's a you issue.

That or you sleep with attractive but uninteresting women. Every woman is different and yeah, some of them end up sucking, being weird, not knowing what they're doing in bed and also not submitting. But that doesn't mean that a very attractive woman that interests me for more than 10 seconds conversationally doesn't initially excite me even if she ends up being a bedroom dud. Those ones are made up for by the cute sleepers that turn out to be closet dickhounds.

Yes, there is extreme appeal as we get older and recognize the distraction and danger that unpolished women have. An 8/10 from a good family, great genetics, education, presence, grace, kindness, sensible with money, active, and energetic, and whatever else, becomes the preferential companion over some vapid bar sloot that isn't the same smokeshow the next morning.

A lot of the idolized 8.5+/10 girls have hair extensions, fake nails, teeth, boobs and butt lifts when you get older, generally unhealthy overall habits that aren't sustainable, etc. Those looks don't last.

A girl that is naturally beautiful, athletic, dresses attractively but sensibly for most things, but can stop the show when you walk into a formal gathering or holiday party, etc. is a significantly better life partner.

People act like outward appearance doesn't demonstrate or represent someone's values. If a girl needs to spend 20 hours a week on NON GYM related aesthetic related things? I don't want it and neither does my bank account, it's as big of a warning (not to mention the physical repulsion) of someone that is fat. Yeah, sure 1% of the population has significant legitimate health concerns that dramatically impact their phyiscal health, but the other 99% doesn't get a pass. If you're fat you're lazy. If you spend 2 hours a day getting ready, tanning, etc., you're vapid.

Sounds like it may be time for you to try men.

From my experience it's mainly because they know the guy will never leave them.

Odd response but das it man

Like I still get excited, but it’s just not the same, like if I don’t smash the hot girl that’s really into me then I’m fine with it, this Saturday I’ll probably smash a hot Brazilian chick, but it’s like whatever to me. But in general what you said is true

smells a little like cope

getting tired of smashing fake 6s and 7s who turn into 4s and 5s once the makeup and clothes come off... sure, I get that.

what would get tiring about smashing legitimately hot women? nothing. unless you are saying your sex drive fell off