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06-17-2021, 08:55 PM
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Originally Posted By jackflag⏩
Just re-read and makes sense. I'm the woman in your story.That wasn't the point at all. The point was that I replied to her break up text instantly because I was glad to be done with it and move on, just like you thought she was.
Well guess I need to move on and be better in the sack next time and not try to **** her when she's still dry. I paid desperately for that. Still feel pain.
Meanwhile the date I was on tonight the girl said she's "not looking for anything serious" and "let me know if you want to hang out again". Too easy.
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
Good chit bro. Use her to improve your bedroom game and keep going on dates. Girl from OP will linger in your thoughts for a while but the more you date the easier it will get. And as soon as you find another girl you like, she'll be ancient history.Just re-read and makes sense. I'm the woman in your story.
Well guess I need to move on and be better in the sack next time and not try to **** her when she's still dry. I paid desperately for that. Still feel pain.
Meanwhile the date I was on tonight the girl said she's "not looking for anything serious" and "let me know if you want to hang out again". Too easy.
Well guess I need to move on and be better in the sack next time and not try to **** her when she's still dry. I paid desperately for that. Still feel pain.
Meanwhile the date I was on tonight the girl said she's "not looking for anything serious" and "let me know if you want to hang out again". Too easy.
P.S. Lube always makes it a LOT easier. Invest in some and keep it around.
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06-18-2021, 12:41 AM
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
I've been telling you that you should have offered solutions like this as a follow-up to your apology. Not just apology and hope she understands.Appreciate the thoughtful replies/advice.
What if I just said something like "I like you and I really want to make this work" "I'll be a better communicator" etc? Just say I screwed up ONE TIME, but I want to give it another try?
What if I just said something like "I like you and I really want to make this work" "I'll be a better communicator" etc? Just say I screwed up ONE TIME, but I want to give it another try?
Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
That's because there are two trains of thought responding to you in your thread. There's disagreement between what you should do because half us are jaded fake-alpha miscers, and the other understand compromise and how to engineer interpersonal relationships better. They both come from a place of rationality, but the latter is more mature than the other.EDIT: I'm confused cause I say that I tried to fight it, and she was done. You guys are telling me the text exchange wasn't that bad. I just screwed up in not offering solutions. But now you're telling me she's done, which would mean that I was right in my initial expectations when I was texting her. I don't think offering solutions would have patched things up.
Zachad agrees with me that you should have offered solutions and acted like you were willing to put in more effort, however he states that you may have missed the critical window to do so. In my opinion, just because you missed the opportunity doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Because it really seems like this is a big deal for you and you're unsatisfied at the outcome. Jackflag thinks this is beta ****, but in my opinion, why should you care whether she thinks that or not? you're not getting any closer by doing nothing. Risking looking like a beta **** shouldn't even phase you because even if that turns out to be true and she is disgusted by you, it's not like you were ever going to see her ever again anyway. People need to stop caring what randos think and only care about what their family or close friends or boss thinks of them. That's why PUA is not as hard as you think, because even if you jestermax, if a girl rejects you, you're literally never going to see them again so who cares?
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06-18-2021, 08:13 AM
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I wouldn't give her a 2nd thought. You could sit there and worry about what you did wrong, but likely did nothing wrong.
Obviously take some time to reflect what you could have done wrong, look to improve...but honestly it's a pretty petty reason to end it with someone. It's more likely she started talking to someone else she's more interested in. If I were truly interested in someone and if she is too, they aren't going to let something so small get in the way of a potential relationship.
Obviously take some time to reflect what you could have done wrong, look to improve...but honestly it's a pretty petty reason to end it with someone. It's more likely she started talking to someone else she's more interested in. If I were truly interested in someone and if she is too, they aren't going to let something so small get in the way of a potential relationship.
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06-18-2021, 08:25 AM
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Originally Posted By jackflag⏩
Hate to break it to you guys but if a woman is attracted to the guy you don't need lube for sex.Good chit bro. Use her to improve your bedroom game and keep going on dates. Girl from OP will linger in your thoughts for a while but the more you date the easier it will get. And as soon as you find another girl you like, she'll be ancient history.
P.S. Lube always makes it a LOT easier. Invest in some and keep it around.
P.S. Lube always makes it a LOT easier. Invest in some and keep it around.
And OP wtf at having sex with someone who's dry? Did she say it hurt? That doesn't sound pleasant.
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06-18-2021, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted By Ninshark⏩
Damn man, I'm actually thinking about reaching out. Really, what do I have to lose? I'm in mental hell, so she can't hurt me much more than I already feel. And who cares if she loses any more respect for me, it won't matter cause I'll never see her again anyways.In my opinion, just because you missed the opportunity doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Because it really seems like this is a big deal for you and you're unsatisfied at the outcome. Jackflag thinks this is beta ****, but in my opinion, why should you care whether she thinks that or not? you're not getting any closer by doing nothing. Risking looking like a beta **** shouldn't even phase you because even if that turns out to be true and she is disgusted by you, it's not like you were ever going to see her ever again anyway. People need to stop caring what randos think and only care about what their family or close friends or boss thinks of them. That's why PUA is not as hard as you think, because even if you jestermax, if a girl rejects you, you're literally never going to see them again so who cares?
I'm going to get away this weekend, then if I'm still feeling like **** on Monday, I'm going to reach out.
Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
No, she didn't say it hurt. It was really me fingering her for a while. And judging by her breathing and movements she seemed to be enjoying it. There was never thrusting or anything like that. But yes, I know I screwed up at an important time. I can't go back in time and fix it and there's nothing I can do about it anymore.Hate to break it to you guys but if a woman is attracted to the guy you don't need lube for sex.
And OP wtf at having sex with someone who's dry? Did she say it hurt? That doesn't sound pleasant.
And OP wtf at having sex with someone who's dry? Did she say it hurt? That doesn't sound pleasant.
06-18-2021, 11:24 AM
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Originally Posted By Ninshark⏩
Repped, srsI've been telling you that you should have offered solutions like this as a follow-up to your apology. Not just apology and hope she understands.
That's because there are two trains of thought responding to you in your thread. There's disagreement between what you should do because half us are jaded fake-alpha miscers, and the other understand compromise and how to engineer interpersonal relationships better.They both come from a place of rationality, but the latter is more mature than the other.
Zachad agrees with me that you should have offered solutions and acted like you were willing to put in more effort, however he states that you may have missed the critical window to do so. In my opinion, just because you missed the opportunity doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Because it really seems like this is a big deal for you and you're unsatisfied at the outcome. Jackflag thinks this is beta ****, but in my opinion, why should you care whether she thinks that or not? you're not getting any closer by doing nothing. Risking looking like a beta **** shouldn't even phase you because even if that turns out to be true and she is disgusted by you, it's not like you were ever going to see her ever again anyway.People need to stop caring what randos think and only care about what their family or close friends or boss thinks of them.That's why PUA is not as hard as you think, because even if you jestermax, if a girl rejects you, you're literally never going to see them again so who cares?
That's because there are two trains of thought responding to you in your thread. There's disagreement between what you should do because half us are jaded fake-alpha miscers, and the other understand compromise and how to engineer interpersonal relationships better.They both come from a place of rationality, but the latter is more mature than the other.
Zachad agrees with me that you should have offered solutions and acted like you were willing to put in more effort, however he states that you may have missed the critical window to do so. In my opinion, just because you missed the opportunity doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Because it really seems like this is a big deal for you and you're unsatisfied at the outcome. Jackflag thinks this is beta ****, but in my opinion, why should you care whether she thinks that or not? you're not getting any closer by doing nothing. Risking looking like a beta **** shouldn't even phase you because even if that turns out to be true and she is disgusted by you, it's not like you were ever going to see her ever again anyway.People need to stop caring what randos think and only care about what their family or close friends or boss thinks of them.That's why PUA is not as hard as you think, because even if you jestermax, if a girl rejects you, you're literally never going to see them again so who cares?
Take control, don’t apologise say something like “I want to see you, what are you doing tomorrow at 8”
06-18-2021, 11:24 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
LOLHate to break it to you guys but if a woman is attracted to the guy you don't need lube for sex.
And OP wtf at having sex with someone who's dry? Did she say it hurt? That doesn't sound pleasant.
And OP wtf at having sex with someone who's dry? Did she say it hurt? That doesn't sound pleasant.
This
So much this
06-18-2021, 11:56 AM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
What do you mean by "take control"?Repped, srs
Take control, don’t apologise say something like “I want to see you, what are you doing tomorrow at 8”
Take control, don’t apologise say something like “I want to see you, what are you doing tomorrow at 8”
She has the upper hand here, she broke it off with me.
She already softly rejected me, I don't think saying "what are you doing tomorrow at 8"? is gonna help. I need to tell her I like her, apologize and say that these are fixable things and I'll work on communication, etc.
06-18-2021, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
You know what happens when you apologise when you haven’t done anything wrong?What do you mean by "take control"?
She has the upper hand here, she broke it off with me.
She already softly rejected me, I don't think saying "what are you doing tomorrow at 8"? is gonna help. I need to tell her I like her, apologize and say that these are fixable things and I'll work on communication, etc.
She has the upper hand here, she broke it off with me.
She already softly rejected me, I don't think saying "what are you doing tomorrow at 8"? is gonna help. I need to tell her I like her, apologize and say that these are fixable things and I'll work on communication, etc.
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06-18-2021, 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
Thats cute. But it absolutely makes it EASIER. Especially if you have a big hog. Or I guess lube exists for no reason at all huh?Hate to break it to you guys but if a woman is attracted to the guy you don't need lube for sex.
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
if Rabbit strongly agrees with you, its time to rethink your approach in lifeRepped, srs
Take control, don’t apologise say something like “I want to see you, what are you doing tomorrow at 8”
Take control, don’t apologise say something like “I want to see you, what are you doing tomorrow at 8”
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
yeah dude, I really don't see why not. what will it matter if she rejects you again? 2 rejections is the same outcome as 1 rejection, you literally have nothing to lose. I would start by mentioning there may have been some misunderstanding, address her concerns and that you want to try to work things out.Damn man, I'm actually thinking about reaching out. Really, what do I have to lose? I'm in mental hell, so she can't hurt me much more than I already feel. And who cares if she loses any more respect for me, it won't matter cause I'll never see her again anyways.
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06-18-2021, 01:40 PM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
I've done this, it works, we banged, but she was still interested in someone else. It's time to move on.Repped, srs
Take control, don’t apologise say something like “I want to see you, what are you doing tomorrow at 8”
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06-18-2021, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
Nah I still wouldn't.Appreciate the thoughtful replies/advice.
What if I just said something like "I like you and I really want to make this work" "I'll be a better communicator" etc? Just say I screwed up ONE TIME, but I want to give it another try?
You both are sounding like she might reach out again. But, I'd like to remind you, she's told me there have been two guys in her past that she dated for 1-2 months, then dumped them. And AFAIK, she never reached out again. And at least one of those guys has been a couple years ago. Point being that there may still be a "window" where it's still salvageable.
Also I don't know what you mean by "even entertain her past a courteous response"
We actually split the bill on almost all our dates.
What if I just said something like "I like you and I really want to make this work" "I'll be a better communicator" etc? Just say I screwed up ONE TIME, but I want to give it another try?
You both are sounding like she might reach out again. But, I'd like to remind you, she's told me there have been two guys in her past that she dated for 1-2 months, then dumped them. And AFAIK, she never reached out again. And at least one of those guys has been a couple years ago. Point being that there may still be a "window" where it's still salvageable.
Also I don't know what you mean by "even entertain her past a courteous response"
We actually split the bill on almost all our dates.
With the way it ended (at least how I interpret it) she's a little salty at how ready you were to walk away. If she wasn't willing to try and stop you then, she really wasn't that invested. When I say she might come back, it's really only in the scope of if she runs dry on her options for a bit. Which is not the scenario that you want a girl to come back for.
As far as "entertain her past a courteous response" means that, if i was in your position, i'd be moving onto the next one, and if she does come back, i'd be courteous, but wouldn't entertain any offers to meet up or hang out unless i really just wanted to bust a quick nut. But I certainly wouldn't be considering anything more. Unless you REALLY think she's a special diamond who's worth it...but from what i've seen she doesn't seem to be all that special. The final message she sent sealed it for me.
EDIT: read more. to expound on Ninsharks proposal to hit her up. It's really up to you. I say no because personally, I only reach out if I think there's a chance, and I really want to make things work. For me, in your situation, neither of those would be true.
But like he says, stop caring about what others think. it's your own life and none of us know you lol. If you think it's worth reaching out, by all means. At worst, at least you gave it your best shot and you know she's the reason it didn't work. At best...you guys pick things back up and move on. Really have nothing to lose but a bit of pride by doing so, and that's only if you're a prideful person.
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06-18-2021, 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted By Ninshark⏩
Exactly.yeah dude, I really don't see why not. what will it matter if she rejects you again? 2 rejections is the same outcome as 1 rejection, you literally have nothing to lose. I would start by mentioning there may have been some misunderstanding, address her concerns and that you want to try to work things out.
Does it put me in a vulnerable position? Yes
Does it make me look weak? Yes
But who cares? She obviously liked me enough that we went on 6 dates, and the date was going well enough that she was willing to come over to my house, then still enjoying it enough that she wanted to spend the night. Is it really possible she lostallher attraction to me, literally overnight?
And if she was "looking for a way out", as some have suggested, then why even go on the 6th date to begin with?
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Gotcha, appreciate the advice.Nah I still wouldn't.
With the way it ended (at least how I interpret it) she's a little salty at how ready you were to walk away. If she wasn't willing to try and stop you then, she really wasn't that invested. When I say she might come back, it's really only in the scope of if she runs dry on her options for a bit. Which is not the scenario that you want a girl to come back for.
As far as "entertain her past a courteous response" means that, if i was in your position, i'd be moving onto the next one, and if she does come back, i'd be courteous, but wouldn't entertain any offers to meet up or hang out unless i really just wanted to bust a quick nut. But I certainly wouldn't be considering anything more. Unless you REALLY think she's a special diamond who's worth it...but from what i've seen she doesn't seem to be all that special. The final message she sent sealed it for me.
With the way it ended (at least how I interpret it) she's a little salty at how ready you were to walk away. If she wasn't willing to try and stop you then, she really wasn't that invested. When I say she might come back, it's really only in the scope of if she runs dry on her options for a bit. Which is not the scenario that you want a girl to come back for.
As far as "entertain her past a courteous response" means that, if i was in your position, i'd be moving onto the next one, and if she does come back, i'd be courteous, but wouldn't entertain any offers to meet up or hang out unless i really just wanted to bust a quick nut. But I certainly wouldn't be considering anything more. Unless you REALLY think she's a special diamond who's worth it...but from what i've seen she doesn't seem to be all that special. The final message she sent sealed it for me.
She probably is a little salty. But does that mean it's over?
I screwed up in the bedroom, then again (although, to a lesser extent) over our final texts. I keep thinking back to her saying "I'm not sure" whether she wants to hang out again (ie wasn't definite) and her saying she "would have been excited" to hear from me, if I texted her Saturday.
I'm starting to feel a little bit better after this breakup, but that might only be because I'm entertaining the thought of sending a hail mary text. I'm going to take the weekend and if I'm still thinking about, why not? Like nin says, what do I have to lose? Who cares if she loses all respect for me, what matters is what I think of myself and that I gave it all I could. And I cannot say that right now.
EDIT: read your edit. There might not be a chance, but I do want to make things work.
I only have pride to lose if I let her opinion of me diminish me in anyway. I have other options, already went on a date with a new girl, and am talking to a few others. So I could give it one last chance, and if it's over then I'll know. I don't know if I can just walk away from everything, especially with what some of you had said that I gave up too quickly. However, her last text still stings.
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Originally Posted By Ninshark⏩
Lol you’re so busy calling me fake alpha you dont remember her list of convenient reasons to start sudden drama with him included vaccination too. She essentially declined seeing him again over just that.That's because there are two trains of thought responding to you in your thread. There's disagreement between what you should do because half us are jaded fake-alpha miscers, and the other understand compromise and how to engineer interpersonal relationships better. They both come from a place of rationality, but the latter is more mature than the other.
Zachad agrees with me that you should have offered solutions and acted like you were willing to put in more effort, however he states that you may have missed the critical window to do so. In my opinion, just because you missed the opportunity doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Because it really seems like this is a big deal for you and you're unsatisfied at the outcome. Jackflag thinks this is beta ****, but in my opinion, why should you care whether she thinks that or not? you're not getting any closer by doing nothing. Risking looking like a beta **** shouldn't even phase you because even if that turns out to be true and she is disgusted by you, it's not like you were ever going to see her ever again anyway. People need to stop caring what randos think and only care about what their family or close friends or boss thinks of them. That's why PUA is not as hard as you think, because even if you jestermax, if a girl rejects you, you're literally never going to see them again so who cares?
Zachad agrees with me that you should have offered solutions and acted like you were willing to put in more effort, however he states that you may have missed the critical window to do so. In my opinion, just because you missed the opportunity doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Because it really seems like this is a big deal for you and you're unsatisfied at the outcome. Jackflag thinks this is beta ****, but in my opinion, why should you care whether she thinks that or not? you're not getting any closer by doing nothing. Risking looking like a beta **** shouldn't even phase you because even if that turns out to be true and she is disgusted by you, it's not like you were ever going to see her ever again anyway. People need to stop caring what randos think and only care about what their family or close friends or boss thinks of them. That's why PUA is not as hard as you think, because even if you jestermax, if a girl rejects you, you're literally never going to see them again so who cares?
So now whats he supposed to do? Beg for another chance like you all want, then screenshot his vacc card to her? In order to restart this relationship he’s going to have to do a lot of cowtoe-ing to a girl who didnt want to see him again, and literally couldnt wait to say goodbye and move on. And we havent even gotten to her thinking he’s a bad lay, the real reason for all of this.
The “alpha” thing to do here, is to respect that the relationship has come to an end in her mind. To anticipate that women exist who are more compatible from a lifestyle standpoint. To realize that she is not the One for him if HE is not the One for her. And to preserve his dignity by not acquescing his beliefs and/or principles re: the vaccine for a woman he’s known for a month.
Which, even if he did, she would interpret as pandering if its part of his “please take me back” package. And im sure that would turn her pussy into the atlantic ocean this time...
Op. For the love of God. Do not let these people talk you into chasing a woman who doesnt want you, and pandering to her to do it. Not only will it not work, but even if it DOES, the amount of ass kissing you’ll have to do will sap her respect for you and just lead to this happening all over again, probably over something else equally stupid. And in the end, you’ll feel exactly like I so eloquently said you would afterward. Like a *******.
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Originally Posted By Zackad⏩
She wasnt salty. She had essentially ended the relationship two texts ago when she said she “wasnt sure” if they should see each other again. Which, in womanese, is a softly said “no, im good”.Nah I still wouldn't.
With the way it ended (at least how I interpret it) she's a little salty at how ready you were to walk away. If she wasn't willing to try and stop you then, she really wasn't that invested.
With the way it ended (at least how I interpret it) she's a little salty at how ready you were to walk away. If she wasn't willing to try and stop you then, she really wasn't that invested.
She sent that last text so quick because she wanted to get it over with and move on. I’ve literally been in that exact spot before. You’re right that he shouldnt contact again though. Completely pointless endeavor.
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06-18-2021, 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted By jackflag⏩
But on the flip side, why say something like "I would have been excited to hear from you" if I texted her Sat?She wasnt salty. She had essentially ended the relationship two texts ago when she said she “wasnt sure” if they should see each other again. Which, in womanese, is a softly said “no, im good”.
She sent that last text so quick because she wanted to get it over with and move on. I’ve literally been in that exact spot before. You’re right that he shouldnt contact again though. Completely pointless endeavor.
She sent that last text so quick because she wanted to get it over with and move on. I’ve literally been in that exact spot before. You’re right that he shouldnt contact again though. Completely pointless endeavor.
06-18-2021, 02:23 PM
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
BecauseBut on the flip side, why say something like "I would have been excited to hear from you" if I texted her Sat?
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“Wasn’t sure we should see each other” in “womanese” means tell me you’re sure, woo me a little
This is why you’re all finding it so tough
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
Brah. I'm not Johnnie Cochran, I'm just giving you some advice. And I've done that. Do it or don't.But on the flip side, why say something like "I would have been excited to hear from you" if I texted her Sat?
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
This 100xBecause
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“Wasn’t sure we should see each other” in “womanese” means tell me you’re sure, woo me a little
This is why you’re all finding it so tough
You think women talk like men, we don’t
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Jaysus, men getting in their own way
“Wasn’t sure we should see each other” in “womanese” means tell me you’re sure, woo me a little
This is why you’re all finding it so tough
You think women talk like men, we don’t
OP you're still on here asking advice about this girl, you've repeatedly said it hurts like hell and you obviously liked her
And having seen the texts, she obviously liked you too
What I saw in those texts was two people who both liked each other but didn't want to look silly if the other person wasnt as keen as them
So just take the chance. Tell her you really do like her, you're scared of getting hurt blah blah blah, but you think she's worth it and don't want to give up if there's a chance. I promise you, it'll work.
As far as the vaccine, if that comes up again, just say yeah you know it bothers her, you're still just being cautious and you don't know whether you'll change your mind in the future but you jsut want to wait and see about long term effects before you pump **** into your body. You're not really changing your stance but just giving her the impression that you MIGHT and that you're not completely inflexible if more information becomes available.
But yes this girl is 100% salvageable, she just wants reassurance that you are genuinely into her and not just treating her like a booty call.
06-18-2021, 02:44 PM
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Lol another mental lunatic
Next.
Add the notch to the belt and move on
Next.
Add the notch to the belt and move on
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06-18-2021, 03:11 PM
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You know what OP? I changed my mind. Everything people ITT have said to text her, you should do. And give special attention to what the women have told you. No one knows what dating women is like better than they do.
Post results after. If she doesn't respond to your first message, there are plenty others to choose from.
Keep us updated.
Post results after. If she doesn't respond to your first message, there are plenty others to choose from.
Keep us updated.
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06-18-2021, 03:16 PM
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Originally Posted By jackflag⏩
Not sure if srs, also I'm not on the Misc enough to know who the women are.You know what OP? I changed my mind. Everything people ITT have said to text her, you should do. And give special attention to what the women have told you. No one knows what dating women is like better than they do.
Post results after. If she doesn't respond to your first message, there are plenty others to choose from.
Keep us updated.
Post results after. If she doesn't respond to your first message, there are plenty others to choose from.
Keep us updated.
Anyways, I prob will. What do you think of something like this?
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I don’t want to give up if there’s a chance. I know you have an issue with me texting too late, but I’d hate for this to end over something that can be fixed. LMK if you want to chat."
or
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I’d like to see you again. I’d hate for this to end because of me texting too late. LMK if you want to chat."
Short and simple.
06-18-2021, 03:17 PM
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Originally Posted By jackflag⏩
Went back and re-read the texts and OP's posts after it.She wasnt salty. She had essentially ended the relationship two texts ago when she said she “wasnt sure” if they should see each other again. Which, in womanese, is a softly said “no, im good”.
She sent that last text so quick because she wanted to get it over with and move on. I’ve literally been in that exact spot before. You’re right that he shouldnt contact again though. Completely pointless endeavor.
She sent that last text so quick because she wanted to get it over with and move on. I’ve literally been in that exact spot before. You’re right that he shouldnt contact again though. Completely pointless endeavor.
I realize now I misunderstood a part of the interaction. I thought she'd sent another follow up text after the last one again saying "Best of luck to you", didn't realize OP was talking about her last text in the pics. So with that understanding, i withdraw my conclusion that she's salty.
OP, I'm gonna have to agree with Jackflag on the "wasn't sure" bit. A girl who is really interested is gonna find excuses why she can see you, not excuses why she can't.
Case in point...Me and an ex of mine went back and forth for a while after breaking up (breakup initiated by her, but provoked by me). Even after she'd made it clear how much she hated me, how i'd done her wrong, etc, she would still talk to me and we would occasionally meet to hook up. Even though she knew it was a bad idea and not doing herself any favors, she still made efforts to see me.
At best, she really was unsure and how the text exchange went solidified her uncertainty, and girls rarely stick with uncertain things unless they have a really good reason to (kids, chad, money, status, extended history). They also have a mentality that they should be fought for, not doing the fighting. At worst, it's exactly what jackflag said and either found someone else to capture her attention, you were a poor lay, the vaccine was a legit excuse, etc. etc. etc. any number of reasons.
I still am of the opinion that reaching out would be mostly if not entirely pointless. But like i said previously, it's your life and your own decision. Again, you have really nothing to lose from reaching out other than your pride/a hit to your ego if she is as straightforward as she says. If you really think she's worth trying to start things back up with again...go for it. I've done it before, in some cases it works out, some it doesn't. That's the nature of the game.
If you can't take the possible hit to your pride/ego, don't. But like Jackflag said, don't chase her. If you're gonna reach out, all you need is one text similar to what you presented as an example. If she isn't into it, she'll let you know and you can move on. If she is...bingo
It's entirely possible, like Ninshark said, that seeing as you both failed to put forth real effort in the texts, that she may have just decided you guys were incompatible off such a limited experience. Whether you can convince her otherwise is up to both of you. Whether you want to is up to you.
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Originally Posted By jackflag⏩
maybe if you actually read all my posts, you'll find that I addressed that issue and agreed that it was potentially concerning. And you are fake alpha, you're talking about owning up that the relationship is done and he should just move on, like wtf?? They didn't even fkin argue!! It was like cordial as fk, lol, they just exhibited really really lazy behavior. Giving up at this point, where there's not even an argument, that's just cowardice right there lol, FAAF fake alpha as fk lol. If there were some argument at the end in which OP chimped out, then yeah, he should acknowledge that it's over and just move on, but there was nothing like that. They both just.. gave up lol, their brains shut off.Lol you’re so busy calling me fake alpha you dont remember her list of convenient reasons to start sudden drama with him included vaccination too. She essentially declined seeing him again over just that.
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06-18-2021, 03:25 PM
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Originally Posted By Zackad⏩
And that's what I'd be doing if I sent her a text to put in effort to patch things up.Went back and re-read the texts and OP's posts after it.
I realize now I misunderstood a part of the interaction. I thought she'd sent another follow up text after the last one again saying "Best of luck to you", didn't realize OP was talking about her last text in the pics. So with that understanding, i withdraw my conclusion that she's salty.
OP, I'm gonna have to agree with Jackflag on the "wasn't sure" bit. A girl who is really interested is gonna find excuses why she can see you, not excuses why she can't.
Case in point...Me and an ex of mine went back and forth for a while after breaking up (breakup initiated by her, but provoked by me). Even after she'd made it clear how much she hated me, how i'd done her wrong, etc, she would still talk to me and we would occasionally meet to hook up. Even though she knew it was a bad idea and not doing herself any favors, she still made efforts to see me.
At best, she really was unsure and how the text exchange went solidified her uncertainty, and girls rarely stick with uncertain things unless they have a really good reason to (kids, chad, money, status, extended history). They also have a mentality thatthey should be fought for, not doing the fighting. At worst, it's exactly what jackflag said and either found someone else to capture her attention, you were a poor lay, the vaccine was a legit excuse, etc. etc. etc. any number of reasons.
I still am of the opinion that reaching out would be mostly if not entirely pointless. But like i said previously, it's your life and your own decision. Again, you have really nothing to lose from reaching out other than your pride/a hit to your ego if she is as straightforward as she says. If you really think she's worth trying to start things back up with again...go for it. I've done it before, in some cases it works out, some it doesn't. That's the nature of the game.
If you can't take the possible hit to your pride/ego, don't. But like Jackflag said, don't chase her. If you're gonna reach out, all you need is one text similar to what you presented as an example. If she isn't into it, she'll let you know and you can move on. If she is...bingo
It's entirely possible, like Ninshark said, that seeing as you both failed to put forth real effort in the texts, that she may have just decided you guys were incompatible off such a limited experience. Whether you can convince her otherwise is up to both of you. Whether you want to is up to you.
I realize now I misunderstood a part of the interaction. I thought she'd sent another follow up text after the last one again saying "Best of luck to you", didn't realize OP was talking about her last text in the pics. So with that understanding, i withdraw my conclusion that she's salty.
OP, I'm gonna have to agree with Jackflag on the "wasn't sure" bit. A girl who is really interested is gonna find excuses why she can see you, not excuses why she can't.
Case in point...Me and an ex of mine went back and forth for a while after breaking up (breakup initiated by her, but provoked by me). Even after she'd made it clear how much she hated me, how i'd done her wrong, etc, she would still talk to me and we would occasionally meet to hook up. Even though she knew it was a bad idea and not doing herself any favors, she still made efforts to see me.
At best, she really was unsure and how the text exchange went solidified her uncertainty, and girls rarely stick with uncertain things unless they have a really good reason to (kids, chad, money, status, extended history). They also have a mentality thatthey should be fought for, not doing the fighting. At worst, it's exactly what jackflag said and either found someone else to capture her attention, you were a poor lay, the vaccine was a legit excuse, etc. etc. etc. any number of reasons.
I still am of the opinion that reaching out would be mostly if not entirely pointless. But like i said previously, it's your life and your own decision. Again, you have really nothing to lose from reaching out other than your pride/a hit to your ego if she is as straightforward as she says. If you really think she's worth trying to start things back up with again...go for it. I've done it before, in some cases it works out, some it doesn't. That's the nature of the game.
If you can't take the possible hit to your pride/ego, don't. But like Jackflag said, don't chase her. If you're gonna reach out, all you need is one text similar to what you presented as an example. If she isn't into it, she'll let you know and you can move on. If she is...bingo
It's entirely possible, like Ninshark said, that seeing as you both failed to put forth real effort in the texts, that she may have just decided you guys were incompatible off such a limited experience. Whether you can convince her otherwise is up to both of you. Whether you want to is up to you.
My ego has been burned enough by women. What's another hit? If sending another text doesn't work for me, I'll know I fought for her and it didn't work. I'm already talking to other girls, went on a date last night, etc. As I'm sure she is too.
What do you think about sending something like this:
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I don’t want to give up if there’s a chance. I know you have an issue with me texting too late, but I’d hate for this to end over something that can be fixed. LMK if you want to chat."
or
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I’d like to see you again. I’d hate for this to end because of me texting too late. LMK if you want to chat."
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
Both are great. But her main reason for not being sure about seeing you again was actually the vacc. You should include something about that as well. Tell her you're now seriously considering getting it. Or use what that guy above said to say.Not sure if srs, also I'm not on the Misc enough to know who the women are.
Anyways, I prob will. What do you think of something like this?
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I don’t want to give up if there’s a chance. I know you have an issue with me texting too late, but I’d hate for this to end over something that can be fixed. LMK if you want to chat."
or
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I’d like to see you again. I’d hate for this to end because of me texting too late. LMK if you want to chat."
Short and simple.
Anyways, I prob will. What do you think of something like this?
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I don’t want to give up if there’s a chance. I know you have an issue with me texting too late, but I’d hate for this to end over something that can be fixed. LMK if you want to chat."
or
"Hey, I wanted to reach out because I really like you and I’d like to see you again. I’d hate for this to end because of me texting too late. LMK if you want to chat."
Short and simple.
Also don't be afraid to just pretend none of this happened, and straight up say what are you doing tomorrow/lets hang out, like someone else suggested above. Maybe send that if she doesn't reply to your initial text.
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