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Domestic violence is one of the biggest problems in society
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06-21-2021, 01:44 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Stop typing like a man sanjay its too obvious.Well yes I agree that physical abuse is different and worse. But there is definitely such a thing as financial abuse.
Let’s say you and your wife both work and you keep separate private accounts and a joint account for expenses. Say over time you are able to save $500k cash and $500k in your retirement account. And you assume that your wife is saving a decent amount as well.
Now let’s say one day you find out she saved nothing and blew it all on partying with Tyrone and paying his bills and paying his child support. And not only that, she got into debt because she co signed a failed business for Tyrone. And not only that but she is liable in a law suit over the business.
So let’s say she racked up $1 million in liabilities. And you are jointly liable or you get sued and have to defend yourself or she takes your money in divorce court because she gets at least half of what you saved. See where I’m going with this.
Let’s say you and your wife both work and you keep separate private accounts and a joint account for expenses. Say over time you are able to save $500k cash and $500k in your retirement account. And you assume that your wife is saving a decent amount as well.
Now let’s say one day you find out she saved nothing and blew it all on partying with Tyrone and paying his bills and paying his child support. And not only that, she got into debt because she co signed a failed business for Tyrone. And not only that but she is liable in a law suit over the business.
So let’s say she racked up $1 million in liabilities. And you are jointly liable or you get sued and have to defend yourself or she takes your money in divorce court because she gets at least half of what you saved. See where I’m going with this.
06-21-2021, 02:02 AM
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Originally Posted By alain⏩
agree with the first part, but i think a man has the right to make a choice on how to respond, within reason. that sort of behavior cant go uncheckedNo-one should hit anyone regardless of gender but you are right.
My Auntie always used to warn my female cousins to never hit men, it's like poking a domesticated bear or dog. The first few hundred times nothing will happen but that one day it might snap and **** you up.
My Auntie always used to warn my female cousins to never hit men, it's like poking a domesticated bear or dog. The first few hundred times nothing will happen but that one day it might snap and **** you up.
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06-21-2021, 02:07 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Honestly physical abuse I don’t feel is actually worse. Physical abuse is pretty cut an dry what violence is.Well yes I agree that physical abuse is different and worse. But there is definitely such a thing as financial abuse.
Let’s say you and your wife both work and you keep separate private accounts and a joint account for expenses. Say over time you are able to save $500k cash and $500k in your retirement account. And you assume that your wife is saving a decent amount as well.
Now let’s say one day you find out she saved nothing and blew it all on partying with Tyrone and paying his bills and paying his child support. And not only that, she got into debt because she co signed a failed business for Tyrone. And not only that but she is liable in a law suit over the business.
So let’s say she racked up $1 million in liabilities. And you are jointly liable or you get sued and have to defend yourself or she takes your money in divorce court because she gets at least half of what you saved. See where I’m going with this.
Let’s say you and your wife both work and you keep separate private accounts and a joint account for expenses. Say over time you are able to save $500k cash and $500k in your retirement account. And you assume that your wife is saving a decent amount as well.
Now let’s say one day you find out she saved nothing and blew it all on partying with Tyrone and paying his bills and paying his child support. And not only that, she got into debt because she co signed a failed business for Tyrone. And not only that but she is liable in a law suit over the business.
So let’s say she racked up $1 million in liabilities. And you are jointly liable or you get sued and have to defend yourself or she takes your money in divorce court because she gets at least half of what you saved. See where I’m going with this.
Mental abuse, gas lighting, you can end up not even thinking you can remember anything correctly. Isolated and you feel insane. You don’t know what’s wrong or right.
Together it’s a very nasty combo.
Though when you throw in sexual abuse that happens over and over, with physical and mental. Well, you end up pretty sideways, even more so if it starts in childhood.
And when dealing with someone who an addict it’s another layer, that may or may not be abuse, but either way can cause ptsd /complex ptsd because it’s traumatic
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06-21-2021, 02:08 AM
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ironically Lesbian relationships have very high incidents of domestic abuse and it is quite common in homosexual relationships as well
the myth of the Straight , wife beater vest wearing brute being the only abuser is just that ...a myth
the myth of the Straight , wife beater vest wearing brute being the only abuser is just that ...a myth
06-21-2021, 02:11 AM
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Originally Posted By Supaduck0⏩
I am sure alcohol contributes to the problem but I wouldn’t say that it is the problem.yep totally fair srs
If you have been raised and educated right, if you come from a normal family without any issues, drinking isn’t all of a sudden going to somehow turn you into a woman beater.
You don’t have to be an expert to see that someone who would be okay with beating women up (assuming there’s no reasonable excuse) has some sort of an issue in their head.
From personal experience, it’s usually always someone from a dysfunctional family. Abusive parents, low IQ, combination of nature and nurture. It’s a tough one because it’s usually something people can’t escape because it’s in built from childhood, it’s just a matter of time before that person gets triggered and snap.
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06-21-2021, 02:12 AM
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
I have zero tolerance for any lying or gaslighting. It honestly pisses me off more than anything. One thing I cling to is what I think reality is and why I know it's true. And I always demand proof to change that.Honestly physical abuse I don’t feel is actually worse. Physical abuse is pretty cut an dry what violence is.
Mental abuse, gas lighting, you can end up not even thinking you can remember anything correctly. Isolated and you feel insane. You don’t know what’s wrong or right.
Together it’s a very nasty combo.
Though when you throw in sexual abuse that happens over and over, with physical and mental. Well, you end up pretty sideways, even more so if it starts in childhood.
And when dealing with someone who an addict it’s another layer, that may or may not be abuse, but either way can cause ptsd /complex ptsd because it’s traumatic
Mental abuse, gas lighting, you can end up not even thinking you can remember anything correctly. Isolated and you feel insane. You don’t know what’s wrong or right.
Together it’s a very nasty combo.
Though when you throw in sexual abuse that happens over and over, with physical and mental. Well, you end up pretty sideways, even more so if it starts in childhood.
And when dealing with someone who an addict it’s another layer, that may or may not be abuse, but either way can cause ptsd /complex ptsd because it’s traumatic
06-21-2021, 02:18 AM
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100s of thousands of men get financially abused by women every year ...............it's called Divorce Grape
06-21-2021, 02:37 AM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Ya the sad thing is, most people have no idea they are gas lighting. Even if you record them doing it. Like a not so graphic example,I have zero tolerance for any lying or gaslighting. It honestly pisses me off more than anything. One thing I cling to is what I think reality is and why I know it's true. And I always demand proof to change that.
Partner A yells at partner B and throws something at them. When partner B gets upset and let’s say shuts down, partner A doesn’t understand why later that day they don’t want to hangout. When partner A asks partner B why they don’t want to hang out, and partner B says you threw a plate at me. Partner A will minimize it, blame shift it or all together deny it. Like, oh I just dropped the plate, or well sometimes the way you act is so ridiculous you make me insane and anyone that had to deal with you would have done that, or that never happened stop making things up. If partner B continues to suggest how it happen like you did throw a plate at me and call me an idiot because I forgot to get your cinnamon French toast at the store. Partner A can become enraged yelling more or physically violent even if partner B recorded the whole thing partner A is incapable of taking responsibility/seeing their wrong they most likely honestly believe they didn’t do anything wrong
This cycle will happen over and over till partner b actually feels like they can not trust their grip on reality
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06-21-2021, 02:41 AM
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Originally Posted By SuperHercules⏩
What the fuk does this response even mean? He's right, alcohol is the biggest issueSays the guy who has never been drunk or smacked a bitch up
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06-21-2021, 03:27 AM
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Originally Posted By JuceSpringsteen⏩
Yeah my dad used to beat the sh*t out of his family, and he did this because he did not know any other way to solve problems, or perceived problems.We don't talk about it enough. So many women, girlfriends, and wives are doing it tough. They're copping abuse - physical, mental, and emotional - from their husbands and spouses.
We need to speak up on issues like this. We need to raise awareness for what's really going on at home.
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We need to speak up on issues like this. We need to raise awareness for what's really going on at home.
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It's sort of like that big ape who hits the smaller ape for taking its tree branch, or because the bird flying above took a sh*t on it.
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06-21-2021, 03:29 AM
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
Man i swear my mom does this, and i keep telling her what she done and she denies it, then i give her examples, and then she just starts crying.Ya the sad thing is, most people have no idea they are gas lighting. Even if you record them doing it. Like a not so graphic example,
Partner A yells at partner B and throws something at them. When partner B gets upset and let’s say shuts down, partner A doesn’t understand why later that day they don’t want to hangout. When partner A asks partner B why they don’t want to hang out, and partner B says you threw a plate at me. Partner A will minimize it, blame shift it or all together deny it. Like, oh I just dropped the plate, or well sometimes the way you act is so ridiculous you make me insane and anyone that had to deal with you would have done that, or that never happened stop making things up. If partner B continues to suggest how it happen like you did throw a plate at me and call me an idiot because I forgot to get your cinnamon French toast at the store. Partner A can become enraged yelling more or physically violent even if partner B recorded the whole thing partner A is incapable of taking responsibility/seeing their wrong they most likely honestly believe they didn’t do anything wrong
This cycle will happen over and over till partner b actually feels like they can not trust their grip on reality
Partner A yells at partner B and throws something at them. When partner B gets upset and let’s say shuts down, partner A doesn’t understand why later that day they don’t want to hangout. When partner A asks partner B why they don’t want to hang out, and partner B says you threw a plate at me. Partner A will minimize it, blame shift it or all together deny it. Like, oh I just dropped the plate, or well sometimes the way you act is so ridiculous you make me insane and anyone that had to deal with you would have done that, or that never happened stop making things up. If partner B continues to suggest how it happen like you did throw a plate at me and call me an idiot because I forgot to get your cinnamon French toast at the store. Partner A can become enraged yelling more or physically violent even if partner B recorded the whole thing partner A is incapable of taking responsibility/seeing their wrong they most likely honestly believe they didn’t do anything wrong
This cycle will happen over and over till partner b actually feels like they can not trust their grip on reality
Then she's like stop bringing up the past and i'm like, you were criticising my behaviour, which is a result of your behaviour during my childhood, yada yada.
Truth is, it's up to me to change, she actually can't do anything to help me, even if she admits it.
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06-21-2021, 03:52 AM
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06-21-2021, 05:47 AM
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Dysfunctional families are the root of most problems.
Really, I think the complement to family values is weakness, perversion and the kind of sin that actually hurts everyone.
Social integration seems like the only consistent solution. Isolated networks report domestic abuse more often, it seems.
Physical abuse is not bad at all as a guy. The social implication of cheating causes infinitely more stress.
You do not need to use the word abuse every time. Laws exist for common problems. Witholding money in bad faith to manipulate someone else should count as a libel case.
I agree most isolated people act like wild animals completely unaware of the fact they're acting insane abusing people. There's no reason ever for cruelty with family.
I actually think gay people are expressing this wild animal abuse not realizing they are perverting/abusing someone else by going for this, regardless how much they get away with. It kind of blows my mind how some populations all act "normal" where everyone gets civilization while others seem directionless.
Really, I think the complement to family values is weakness, perversion and the kind of sin that actually hurts everyone.
Social integration seems like the only consistent solution. Isolated networks report domestic abuse more often, it seems.
Physical abuse is not bad at all as a guy. The social implication of cheating causes infinitely more stress.
You do not need to use the word abuse every time. Laws exist for common problems. Witholding money in bad faith to manipulate someone else should count as a libel case.
I agree most isolated people act like wild animals completely unaware of the fact they're acting insane abusing people. There's no reason ever for cruelty with family.
I actually think gay people are expressing this wild animal abuse not realizing they are perverting/abusing someone else by going for this, regardless how much they get away with. It kind of blows my mind how some populations all act "normal" where everyone gets civilization while others seem directionless.
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People who get abused are just weak and deserve it tbh.
If you're getting abused just leave
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idiots srs.
If you're getting abused just leave
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06-21-2021, 09:17 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
cmon you were an adult when you went into it and when you came out , according to your attitude regarding addictions that's all pretty much your own fault so stop whining about it and get on with it.....zero empathyYes agreed for me the psychological abuse of constantly being lied to and manipulated and living in a world where everything is twisted was definitely the worst. Someone intentionally confusing you and manipulating you. That gave me complex PTSD which I still have after effects from even a decade later. Because it messes with your mind and your sanity.
06-21-2021, 09:46 AM
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