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06-12-2021, 03:03 AM
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Originally Posted By foXs⏩
This is all true tbh.OP, you're the best person to make the best possible decision in this situation, some random advise from random person online won't necessarily be a good thing for you.
With that being said, you're not sleeping together in bed, no cuddles, probably very little to no sex and, probably no affection by the sound of it, and now she's chatting to random dudes at work. I mean I hate to say it but the bandage needs to be pulled, it doesn't look good.
With all the advise in the world, if your relationship is at that stage, I am not sure if there's much you can do. Break ups can be shiit and we have all been there but once you move on and find someone who actually enjoys your time, wants your attention and affection, wants to fool around, it just shows how amazing life can become.
With that being said, you're not sleeping together in bed, no cuddles, probably very little to no sex and, probably no affection by the sound of it, and now she's chatting to random dudes at work. I mean I hate to say it but the bandage needs to be pulled, it doesn't look good.
With all the advise in the world, if your relationship is at that stage, I am not sure if there's much you can do. Break ups can be shiit and we have all been there but once you move on and find someone who actually enjoys your time, wants your attention and affection, wants to fool around, it just shows how amazing life can become.
What's really going on, OP?
06-13-2021, 05:36 PM
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I'm single and I have female co-worker's numbers who are married. We text but every other blue moon. Usually about work or which whore I'm currently smashing.
They have thrown flirty subliminal hints at me, their friends even talk about me (wonder how I would look naked) like wtf lol. Bringing me baked goods and food.
I never pursued pursued them but they know where I stand. I would smash but not going out of my way.
If it's everyday texting especially NOT at work? Yes, red flags. If it's at work then don't make a deal. Skype is monitored by IT and you can't talk crap about your boss on there.
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They have thrown flirty subliminal hints at me, their friends even talk about me (wonder how I would look naked) like wtf lol. Bringing me baked goods and food.
I never pursued pursued them but they know where I stand. I would smash but not going out of my way.
If it's everyday texting especially NOT at work? Yes, red flags. If it's at work then don't make a deal. Skype is monitored by IT and you can't talk crap about your boss on there.
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06-24-2021, 12:05 PM
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I was in a similar situation, but I was the fat guy stealing away your wife.
Wife and I slept in different rooms for the last 6 years, mainly because we had different ideas on how to raise the kids. She wants to coddle them, I want them to self soothe. She put on 70 lbs. About 20 months ago, I got a new admin assistant to help with some of the administrative stuff in my office. She was married, I was married. We were both chunky too. I was in a depression and wanted to pull myself out of my fatness. I approached the wife who was Class 2 Obese and proposed we start a fitness journey together. She half-assed it, and I lost about 40 lbs and gained several pounds of muscle. Went from 230-190 in about 8 months. The admin assistant also dropped weight with me and we motivated each other to where we are both somewhat fit now.
We texted all the time, everyday for about 10 months. Like hundreds of texts a day. Then I finally asked her if she wanted to go hiking because her hubby never wanted to do anything with her (her story, met the guy, seemed legit). I met him at a Halloween party when I was about 230, he had no problem with her going and said "I'm not worried about some fat guy". Only I was no longer fat at 6' 2 and 190 lbs. Needless to say, we went on several hikes (as friends, but the more we went on started making out, etc.) Finally, my grandma was out of town, so invited her over (3 months ago) and banged the beejesus out of her, then again the next day, since my grandma was still out of town. Since then, there have been plenty more sex and even deeper emotional intimacy. She's the coolest woman I've met TBH.
Currently, I'm currently in a divorce, she's in a divorce and we are starting a new life together. We were both married for 10 years, and just fell out of love with our spouses (she changed from 20-30) and I changed from 30-40.
So moral of the story:
Dude wants to bang your wife 100%. All it takes is to build that emotional connection then in her moment of weakness he will pounce (if he hasn't already). Woman are more into how someone makes them feel than their bodies (combine both for best results). I was the fat guy that snatched someone's wife. Now I'm not fat and turned her from a pretty, but chunky woman to pretty and thin woman. Just saying man, this is how it starts. its never innocent, though we were "friends" the first year of texting, I always wanted to bang her, enough time and it will happen.
Good luck bro.
Wife and I slept in different rooms for the last 6 years, mainly because we had different ideas on how to raise the kids. She wants to coddle them, I want them to self soothe. She put on 70 lbs. About 20 months ago, I got a new admin assistant to help with some of the administrative stuff in my office. She was married, I was married. We were both chunky too. I was in a depression and wanted to pull myself out of my fatness. I approached the wife who was Class 2 Obese and proposed we start a fitness journey together. She half-assed it, and I lost about 40 lbs and gained several pounds of muscle. Went from 230-190 in about 8 months. The admin assistant also dropped weight with me and we motivated each other to where we are both somewhat fit now.
We texted all the time, everyday for about 10 months. Like hundreds of texts a day. Then I finally asked her if she wanted to go hiking because her hubby never wanted to do anything with her (her story, met the guy, seemed legit). I met him at a Halloween party when I was about 230, he had no problem with her going and said "I'm not worried about some fat guy". Only I was no longer fat at 6' 2 and 190 lbs. Needless to say, we went on several hikes (as friends, but the more we went on started making out, etc.) Finally, my grandma was out of town, so invited her over (3 months ago) and banged the beejesus out of her, then again the next day, since my grandma was still out of town. Since then, there have been plenty more sex and even deeper emotional intimacy. She's the coolest woman I've met TBH.
Currently, I'm currently in a divorce, she's in a divorce and we are starting a new life together. We were both married for 10 years, and just fell out of love with our spouses (she changed from 20-30) and I changed from 30-40.
So moral of the story:
Dude wants to bang your wife 100%. All it takes is to build that emotional connection then in her moment of weakness he will pounce (if he hasn't already). Woman are more into how someone makes them feel than their bodies (combine both for best results). I was the fat guy that snatched someone's wife. Now I'm not fat and turned her from a pretty, but chunky woman to pretty and thin woman. Just saying man, this is how it starts. its never innocent, though we were "friends" the first year of texting, I always wanted to bang her, enough time and it will happen.
Good luck bro.
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06-24-2021, 12:32 PM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
because men's looks have very little to do with how they make woman feel lmao. What a cope way of pretending you are not shallow.Long story but
“Woman are more into how someone makes them feel than their bodies ”
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“Woman are more into how someone makes them feel than their bodies ”
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06-24-2021, 12:48 PM
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Originally Posted By droc81yo⏩
When did you both make the decision to leave your spouses?I was in a similar situation, but I was the fat guy stealing away your wife.
Wife and I slept in different rooms for the last 6 years, mainly because we had different ideas on how to raise the kids. She wants to coddle them, I want them to self soothe. She put on 70 lbs. About 20 months ago, I got a new admin assistant to help with some of the administrative stuff in my office. She was married, I was married. We were both chunky too. I was in a depression and wanted to pull myself out of my fatness. I approached the wife who was Class 2 Obese and proposed we start a fitness journey together. She half-assed it, and I lost about 40 lbs and gained several pounds of muscle. Went from 230-190 in about 8 months. The admin assistant also dropped weight with me and we motivated each other to where we are both somewhat fit now.
We texted all the time, everyday for about 10 months. Like hundreds of texts a day. Then I finally asked her if she wanted to go hiking because her hubby never wanted to do anything with her (her story, met the guy, seemed legit). I met him at a Halloween party when I was about 230, he had no problem with her going and said "I'm not worried about some fat guy". Only I was no longer fat at 6' 2 and 190 lbs. Needless to say, we went on several hikes (as friends, but the more we went on started making out, etc.) Finally, my grandma was out of town, so invited her over (3 months ago) and banged the beejesus out of her, then again the next day, since my grandma was still out of town. Since then, there have been plenty more sex and even deeper emotional intimacy. She's the coolest woman I've met TBH.
Currently, I'm currently in a divorce, she's in a divorce and we are starting a new life together. We were both married for 10 years, and just fell out of love with our spouses (she changed from 20-30) and I changed from 30-40.
So moral of the story:
Dude wants to bang your wife 100%. All it takes is to build that emotional connection then in her moment of weakness he will pounce (if he hasn't already). Woman are more into how someone makes them feel than their bodies (combine both for best results). I was the fat guy that snatched someone's wife. Now I'm not fat and turned her from a pretty, but chunky woman to pretty and thin woman. Just saying man, this is how it starts. its never innocent, though we were "friends" the first year of texting, I always wanted to bang her, enough time and it will happen.
Good luck bro.
Wife and I slept in different rooms for the last 6 years, mainly because we had different ideas on how to raise the kids. She wants to coddle them, I want them to self soothe. She put on 70 lbs. About 20 months ago, I got a new admin assistant to help with some of the administrative stuff in my office. She was married, I was married. We were both chunky too. I was in a depression and wanted to pull myself out of my fatness. I approached the wife who was Class 2 Obese and proposed we start a fitness journey together. She half-assed it, and I lost about 40 lbs and gained several pounds of muscle. Went from 230-190 in about 8 months. The admin assistant also dropped weight with me and we motivated each other to where we are both somewhat fit now.
We texted all the time, everyday for about 10 months. Like hundreds of texts a day. Then I finally asked her if she wanted to go hiking because her hubby never wanted to do anything with her (her story, met the guy, seemed legit). I met him at a Halloween party when I was about 230, he had no problem with her going and said "I'm not worried about some fat guy". Only I was no longer fat at 6' 2 and 190 lbs. Needless to say, we went on several hikes (as friends, but the more we went on started making out, etc.) Finally, my grandma was out of town, so invited her over (3 months ago) and banged the beejesus out of her, then again the next day, since my grandma was still out of town. Since then, there have been plenty more sex and even deeper emotional intimacy. She's the coolest woman I've met TBH.
Currently, I'm currently in a divorce, she's in a divorce and we are starting a new life together. We were both married for 10 years, and just fell out of love with our spouses (she changed from 20-30) and I changed from 30-40.
So moral of the story:
Dude wants to bang your wife 100%. All it takes is to build that emotional connection then in her moment of weakness he will pounce (if he hasn't already). Woman are more into how someone makes them feel than their bodies (combine both for best results). I was the fat guy that snatched someone's wife. Now I'm not fat and turned her from a pretty, but chunky woman to pretty and thin woman. Just saying man, this is how it starts. its never innocent, though we were "friends" the first year of texting, I always wanted to bang her, enough time and it will happen.
Good luck bro.
Before/after making out/banging?
Does she have kids as well?
06-24-2021, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
We were both in bad marriages. Eventually through our friendship we started discussing marital issues and realized we both weren't happy and have just been staying in our comfort zone not realizing there was more out there. We both started the process about a month after banging for the first time. We were keeping it secret, but I got busted out to my wife through mutual friends (she's a good person, she didn't deserve being cheated on, regret I didn't wait to date admin assistant, but wanted to have my cake and eat it too, POS for this admittedly) . I'm 40 with a 3 year old, 6 year old and 8 year old. She has no kids because he never wanted them (in the military), and she has no want to have her kids of her own at 32. We'll see how it goes...we seem to be an excellent match, but we are 4 months into dating and about 19 months as friends.When did you both make the decision to leave your spouses?
Before/after making out/banging?
Does she have kids as well?
Before/after making out/banging?
Does she have kids as well?
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Originally Posted By kneeonbelly⏩
Did this with an ex about 15 years ago. She was cheating with half the town. I'm 40 man and can tell you your gut is almost always right. If you get that feeling she's probably cheating. Been on both sides, know how this game works.1) you can go direct and call him since you have his number and tell him how you feel, tell her how you feel so going forward if you feel uncomfortable you can raise hell. establish your boundaries as far as what is or isnt ok. but, we are all allowed to have friends so - if it's just a friend ship relax. invite him and his wife over to keep an eye on him and figure it out.. or
2) put a key logger on the computer she uses and it'll record everything she types on there and it'll reveal all kinda stuff
2) put a key logger on the computer she uses and it'll record everything she types on there and it'll reveal all kinda stuff
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Originally Posted By droc81yo⏩
What do you mean you wanted to have your cake and eat it too?We were both in bad marriages. Eventually through our friendship we started discussing marital issues and realized we both weren't happy and have just been staying in our comfort zone not realizing there was more out there. We both started the process about a month after banging for the first time. We were keeping it secret, but I got busted out to my wife through mutual friends (she's a good person, she didn't deserve being cheated on, regret I didn't wait to date admin assistant, but wanted to have my cake and eat it too, POS for this admittedly) ..
Stay unhappily married for comfort of living situation with kids and such while also seeing admin on the side?
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Originally Posted By droc81yo⏩
Good luck bro, hope you don't catch a bullet.We were both in bad marriages. Eventually through our friendship we started discussing marital issues and realized we both weren't happy and have just been staying in our comfort zone not realizing there was more out there. We both started the process about a month after banging for the first time. We were keeping it secret, but I got busted out to my wife through mutual friends (she's a good person, she didn't deserve being cheated on, regret I didn't wait to date admin assistant, but wanted to have my cake and eat it too, POS for this admittedly) . I'm 40 with a 3 year old, 6 year old and 8 year old. She has no kids because he never wanted them (in the military), and she has no want to have her kids of her own at 32. We'll see how it goes...we seem to be an excellent match, but we are 4 months into dating and about 19 months as friends.
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Originally Posted By Better
More so meaning a good looking awkward guy will not make her feel the same as some average smooth talking guy. I've seen women cheat on guys with ****ing losers when they have studs at home. Studs stop paying attention and don't keep them emotionally vested, than average guy at work gives her what she's missing, makes her feel special in a non-creepy way, and he's smashing her while stud is at the gym thinking he's so alpha because of his "guns". Women are different man, can't explain it but they are.because men's looks have very little to do with how they make woman feel lmao. What a cope way of pretending you are not shallow.
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"You are a bad girl, Rabbitjb. Keep looking at me like that and I may have to take you to dinner."
Feelings:objectified, repulsed, disgusted, harrassed, angry, dry as sahara desert.
You are a bad girl, Rabbitjb. Keep looking at me like that and I may have to take you to dinner.

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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
Yes. Wife and I make about 180K combined. Life was easy. Very comfortable. Plus she took care of everything. Bought whatever I wanted, and lived a comfortable life. Had maids clean etc.What do you mean you wanted to have your cake and eat it too?
Stay unhappily married for comfort of living situation with kids and such while also seeing admin on the side?
Stay unhappily married for comfort of living situation with kids and such while also seeing admin on the side?
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Originally Posted By Kev1972⏩
Thankfully, her husband is a real beta. San Francisco liberal pansy. More worried about getting slapped by him TBH.Good luck bro, hope you don't catch a bullet.
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You guys sleep separately for YEARS?!?
Are you guys in love with each other?
How's the intimacy?
Are you guys in love with each other?
How's the intimacy?
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