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» age 34 (feelsbadman), do I prioritize money or dating?

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post 1642205593 07-05-2021, 10:23 AM
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age 34 (feelsbadman), do I prioritize money or dating?

option 1: live rent free on a piece of property in a low cost of living state while working a high paying job 1 hr away from a big city.
Pro: make and save a lot of money. save anywhere from $10k-$30k/yr as compared with option 2. More purchasing power due to lower cost of living.
con: hard to date since 1hr away from civilization.

Option 2: Move to Vegas (the only reasonably priced city in America right now).
Pro: better dating potential.
Con: rent, utilities, and lower purchasing power.


Misc I get it, tour is over for me at this age. But I don't want to die alone and be broke.
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post 1642205963 07-05-2021, 10:29 AM
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find a girl who doesn't love you srs
post 1642206103 07-05-2021, 10:30 AM
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not a big difference.

I'd live it up in vegas.
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always more time to make money but u might struggle to find someone when you're getting towards 40. Good luck bruh
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you're being a *******. Live your life for what's best for you and never prioritize chicks.

and just lol if you think you need money to have a girl like you. Get off the internet and live a little.

and to answer your question, go make some money. ded srs.
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live rent free, stay in Vegas on weekends? or at least go out once a week to jester sloots there since it's only 1 hour away. are there no bars in your rent free area?
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hour driving? What's the raw mileage on that?
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You will lose money chasing sloots but you will never loose sloots chasing money.
The misc is full of a bunch of simp ****ots
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Looking for an LTR and choosing to settle down in Vegas?

Probably not the best choice of city.
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I'm in a similar situation to you at age 36, but the only difference is that I already have financial freedom and could likely retire if I wanted within a year or two.

You definitely need to have a certain base level of wealth by mid 30s, but at the same time not every girl actually gives a fuk. There are plenty of girls with their own money nowadays. At age 34, I don't think you really want to waste additional years of your life being a hermit and not chasing pussy, as the dating game seems to change dramatically once you hit late 30s and beyond.

If hermit life appeals to you, go for it. But I've been doing it for the last 5-6 years(with lots of traveling to keep me sane) and it allowed me to save a ton of money. But I honestly kinda regret not moving to a bigger city in the last couple years once I was comfortable financially. There's simply a lot of things I'm missing out on, and the value of having money becomes less as you get older. I would have been much happier with my current wealth at age 28 than I am now at 36. I'm very free and can do basically whatever I want whenever I want, but I'm not over the top happy with life.
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LMFAO just LMFAO at moving to Vegas, place is fukking out of water.



I agree with finding a sloot now or never, but Vegas is a dried out dump and is basically the city embodiment of "sloots gonna sloot".
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Originally Posted By Better
live rent free, stay in Vegas on weekends?or at least go out once a week to jester sloots there since it's only 1 hour away. are there no bars in your rent free area?
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Try to balance both. 34 is where women start freaking out if they don't have kids cause they are gettin old.
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Originally Posted By truesteez
you're being a *******. Live your life for what's best for you and never prioritize chicks.

and just lol if you think you need money to have a girl like you. Get off the internet and live a little.

and to answer your question, go make some money. ded srs.
I agree that you never want to "prioritize" chicks, but things are so dramatically different with girls when living in a city versus in some small town. In a city, you never have to prioritize girls because there are always tons of opportunities and often you'll get hit on daily by interested girls. In a small town, there's none of this so it's really hard to develop an "abundance" mentality.

So although one of the reasons to move to a city would be for girls, it actually keeps pussy from dominating your thoughts as much because it's not as much of a challenge. And you won't act as clingy or needy with the good ones you come across, which makes them end up doing the chasing instead of you.
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Dating. You are only young once. This is your prime. Money can come later who cares
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
You think Vegas is a good place for dating ??
this.

If you want to date a parting boarder line alcoholic as more of a fuk buddy go for it. Most the women aren’t great
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
Anyway aside from the Vegas issue lmao.

In your 30’s you should balance your time for both money and dating.

Do NOT neglect dating until you’re 40 and rich because at that point your only options will be either 20+ golddiggers or 30+ girls who are desperate or who come with baggage like divorce or kids.
Yep, agreed. At the very least, you want to make connections with a lot of girls before 40 so you can kind of make a move on one at a later date. But if you're meeting a girl for the first time after 40, chances are it's not going to be what you're looking for.
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Originally Posted By buwbs
find a girl who doesn't love you srs
wat? i dont understand
Originally Posted By Better
live rent free, stay in Vegas on weekends? or at least go out once a week to jester sloots there since it's only 1 hour away. are there no bars in your rent free area?
for the passed 10 years I have always lived 1hr away from good dating areas. It has been the sole reason I don't have a GF. If you have never experienced that hurdle then you really just don't know.
Originally Posted By badbl00d
hour driving? What's the raw mileage on that?
not sure. not a hard drive though just time consuming
Originally Posted By DivineMasculine
You will lose money chasing sloots but you will never loose sloots chasing money.
If you are not around women, because you are chasing money, you will lose women chasing money.

proximity is more important than looks, personality, chad status, etc..
Originally Posted By OliverHeldens
I'm in a similar situation to you at age 36, but the only difference is that I already have financial freedom and could likely retire if I wanted within a year or two.

You definitely need to have a certain base level of wealth by mid 30s, but at the same time not every girl actually gives a fuk. There are plenty of girls with their own money nowadays. At age 34, I don't think you really want to waste additional years of your life being a hermit and not chasing pussy, as the dating game seems to change dramatically once you hit late 30s and beyond.

If hermit life appeals to you, go for it. But I've been doing it for the last 5-6 years(with lots of traveling to keep me sane) and it allowed me to save a ton of money. But I honestly kinda regret not moving to a bigger city in the last couple years once I was comfortable financially. There's simply a lot of things I'm missing out on, and the value of having money becomes less as you get older. I would have been much happier with my current wealth at age 28 than I am now at 36. I'm very free and can do basically whatever I want whenever I want, but I'm not over the top happy with life.
I don't live a hermit life and still wouldn't. But proximity to attractive available women is the key factor

logically, proximity>everything
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
You think Vegas is a good place for dating ??
name a city you think is better and I will tell you the not worth it trade off of living there
Originally Posted By freeburn
Try to balance both. 34 is where women start freaking out if they don't have kids cause they are gettin old.
I look 10yrs younger and only get attention from women 10+yrs younger than me
Originally Posted By snailsrus
this.

If you want to date a parting boarder line alcoholic as more of a fuk buddy go for it. Most the women aren’t great
its like this in every city.
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Find a decent female - they'll run their own mother over to be with you if she feels some emotional connection.

Since you live rent free, let her move in and charge her "half" of the rent. Use that money to take her on vacation once a month. She'll worship the ground you walk on and so will her friends - would be a good way to opening the relationship and bringing her friends over to bang. You'll live like a king.
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Originally Posted By donkeydonger
Find a decent female - they'll run their own mother over to be with you if she feels some emotional connection.

Since you live rent free, let her move in and charge her "half" of the rent. Use that money to take her on vacation once a month. She'll worship the ground you walk on and so will her friends - would be a good way to opening the relationship and bringing her friends over to bang. You'll live like a king.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
You think Vegas is a good place for dating ??
This. First decent thing I’ve seen this sloot say.

You can find sloots in vegas, but good luck finding anyone worth dating. Pretty hard.
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Originally Posted By ShakeBrah
This. First decent thing I’ve seen this sloot say.

You can find sloots in vegas, but good luck finding anyone worth dating. Pretty hard.
name a better city and i will tell you the not worth it trade off of living there
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Money over everything
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You need to find a happy medium. In my opinion you need to be primarily focused on yourself and setting your own life up for your future.
I think option one is a much less stress way to live. Plus you don't necessarily have to live an hour away from every eligible female. Even a city of just 50K people should have plenty of single women around.


Originally Posted By insidemane
Dating. You are only young once. This is your prime. Money can come later who cares
He's 34 and debating this question. From this thread we know he's not a gigachad and he's not wealthy. Which means he's only going to be 'dating' low tier women in a city.

Originally Posted By SuperHercules
It's easy to do both. I don't know why people always act like you have to pick one or the other

Dating takes little to no effort unless you choose to make it complicated. It's just a natural part of life, meeting people and getting intimate with women. Just focus on your business/job and have fun with women as they enter your life
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