do you go by how aroused you feel by a certain individual, or do you just look at someone and if they are good looking you just assume that you are attracted to them

even if you dont feel arousal?

Someone once told me that true love is the soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another

OP that is such a good story. I really can't pick "one part" that I liked the best. But if you were to hold a gun my head, I would say the part where you posted pics. I just got off the phone with an armored truck company. They will be arriving in the morning to pick up my back up disk, which I just saved your story on to. There probably won't be much traffic, because I forwarded the police your story, and they agreed to escort the armored truck to its destination. At first the police chief didn't want to help, but then I guided his attention to the incredible pictures that you embedded along with your story. I mean, the story was good enough. But as soon as I saw the pictures that went along with it, I called my grandmother, who is blind and has Alzheimers disease to tell her. As far as her doctors in the nursing home are concerned, she is cured of all her ailments now that she heard your cool story. She is actually preparing to run the Boston marathon this year now. Thank you OP.

"I" don't determine it......something inside of me, outside of my conscious control determines it and my body/conscious mind reacts/acts accordingly.

Sexually, this.

Romantically, see above plus I like being with the person.

When you bust a nut and get “post nut clarity” and still are dying to spend more time with them.

when I was younger I assumed that I had a milf fetish, however as I got older I started to suspect that this was just alot of programming via porn (I thought I liked blonde milfs in leather boots, one porn-actress I remember from when I was younger is Emma Starr.....however I dont really feel arousal by her and that category), eventhough milfs and that fantasy appeals to me

I tried to go after by how aroused I felt by certain girls instead, and started to see a general pattern

for example this picture of Adriana Lima arouses me, it makes my breathing go deep and faster, I assume that is actual attraction or?

girls that i'm attracted to romantically i dont want to smash for a while

My feelings on this has evolved over time. When I was younger, it was definitely the hard dick test and that was it. As I’ve gotten older, so many other factors come into my mind because I have so much more to lose. If she’s attractive, I quick glance and internal acknowledgment is standard practice. If we ever get to talk and she can carry a conversation and doesn’t have a conceited sloot type personality then she gets another mental check in my head. Stuff in common, another check. Financially independent/literate? Yeah…we fukkin.

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Repped.

Had this coworker who was kind of quirky and always dressed in baggy, unassuming clothes, and I thought nothing of her. Then, we had a day where everyone dressed casually and she came in wearing yoga pants and I was mindfuked.

Your either a bad troll or your as superficial and bland as they come, how sad for you.

I had this happen with a co-worker as well. We wore baggy shirts that were a really non-flattering material on top of it. What I was not aware of was she would wear a really tight sports bra to keep her tig ol' bitties tied down and out of her way while she worked. She was a small girl so she just looked small and non-curvy to me. One night she came in to pick up her check with a form fitting dress on. I could not believe how curvy she was in the right places...huge tits and skinny waist that led to a bubble butt. She also had her hair down and it was beautiful. She was the classic "take the hair down and switch out the overalls and become a bombshell" cliche you see in the movies.

Which leads me to attraction. There are 2 different kinds for me. If its an instant sexual attraction my breathing actually changes temporarily. Like I get short of breath or something for a minute. But some girls I am attracted to but it isn't instant. They grow on me with their personality or how they move or smile or something like that. With those I just "know." I can feel it in the air, and SWIM might fap to the thought of them.

For real. Think its madonna whore complex

Either girls are angels or whores

Her dink gets hard

my last two exes literally i thought their faces were so pretty it would give me a bonrar just looking at them

ded fkn srs

Sexually = smash and dash

Romantically = you can stand to be around her (post nut)

huh?? that's what girls like though!

Have you ever gotten the female version of “post nut clarity” where you fuk a guy and get your orgasm and then don’t want anything to do with him afterwards?

It makes a lot of sense why relationships are hard for you

Man you def. Have autism or something

I feel like youre describing your inability to discern whether someone is fun to be around

And you know what the perfect gift for her would be