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When did everyone become aware of their parents mortality?
Probably for me was around 26 or so.
Swear to god it doesn’t feel like they aged at all from childhood until graduating college. Then go away for a few years to work and come back and notice them older, slower, etc.
Also think in retirement most aren’t that active physically or mentally which only makes it worse
Probably for me was around 26 or so.
Swear to god it doesn’t feel like they aged at all from childhood until graduating college. Then go away for a few years to work and come back and notice them older, slower, etc.
Also think in retirement most aren’t that active physically or mentally which only makes it worse
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Originally Posted By meanstringbean⏩
I think when I was around 6 or 7 years old (srs)When did everyone become aware of their parents mortality?
Probably for me was around 26 or so.
Swear to god it doesn’t feel like they aged at all from childhood until graduating college. Then go away for a few years to work and come back and notice them older, slower, etc.
Also think in retirement most aren’t that active physically or mentally which only makes it worse
Probably for me was around 26 or so.
Swear to god it doesn’t feel like they aged at all from childhood until graduating college. Then go away for a few years to work and come back and notice them older, slower, etc.
Also think in retirement most aren’t that active physically or mentally which only makes it worse
Around that age my mom reading some kind of a picture book to me about a mom and son. And each page time passed, so at the start the boy was an infant, and at the end the boy was all grown up and carrying his elderly mom back into their house. Then death made sense to me and made me really sad
And one time when I was around 10 or 11, I was walking through an elderly home, and there was a very old demented man on his death bed yelling and crying "I want my mamma" over and over again. One of the most disturbing things I have in my memory (srs)
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08-01-2021, 10:12 PM
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Originally Posted By SaviorSelfJT⏩
Lol I have that book. I love you forever I think it’s called. Srs can’t read it even today without at least tearing up. Raised by single mother mostly so it hits extra deep and had that book as a kidI think when I was around 6 or 7 years old (srs)
Around that age my mom reading some kind of a picture book to me about a mom and son. And each page time passed, so at the start the boy was an infant, and at the end the boy was all grown up and carrying his elderly mom back into their house. Then death made sense to me and made me really sad
And one time when I was around 10 or 11, I was walking through an elderly home, and there was a very old demented man on his death bed yelling and crying "I want my mamma" over and over again. One of the most disturbing things I have in my memory (srs)
Around that age my mom reading some kind of a picture book to me about a mom and son. And each page time passed, so at the start the boy was an infant, and at the end the boy was all grown up and carrying his elderly mom back into their house. Then death made sense to me and made me really sad
And one time when I was around 10 or 11, I was walking through an elderly home, and there was a very old demented man on his death bed yelling and crying "I want my mamma" over and over again. One of the most disturbing things I have in my memory (srs)
08-01-2021, 10:12 PM
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Originally Posted By SaviorSelfJT⏩
I was thinking this as well….fuarkk man.Are you ready to get nuked OP? If not, don't read ahead
Say you moved out when you were 18. That's 18 x 365 = 6570 days you have spent with your parents
Now you moved out at 18, and see them for a total of 4 days per year (say a couple holiday visits), until they pass 25 years later. That's 100 days left you have with your parents.
At only 18 you used over 98% of the time you will spend with your parents
At 30 less than 1% of the time is left with your parents
Say you moved out when you were 18. That's 18 x 365 = 6570 days you have spent with your parents
Now you moved out at 18, and see them for a total of 4 days per year (say a couple holiday visits), until they pass 25 years later. That's 100 days left you have with your parents.
At only 18 you used over 98% of the time you will spend with your parents
At 30 less than 1% of the time is left with your parents
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08-01-2021, 10:13 PM
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Originally Posted By meanstringbean⏩
Yeah you have it exactly. There is this idea of what it will be like when you think about this topic and then you go home and the reality of it is somewhat boring because its usually just bad television and shared meals. You have to live your own life I guess, but I can't help but feel like the entire scheme of it is just set up to torture my sensitivities. Like what the fuk brahLol even worse, when I spend time with them for long periods it’s boring as hell. Try to make most of it but parents just like to watch Netflix, play games on their iPad, watch cnn , drink, etc
Just sad we don’t have a ton in common.
Don’t want to take these days for granted
Just sad we don’t have a ton in common.
Don’t want to take these days for granted
08-01-2021, 10:18 PM
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Originally Posted By meanstringbean⏩
Holy chit, I just looked it up and that is 100% the book. Would have never known otherwiseLol I have that book. I love you forever I think it’s called. Srs can’t read it even today without at least tearing up. Raised by single mother mostly so it hits extra deep and had that book as a kid
Why would they make this a childrens books? Seems like it should be too sad for kids
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08-01-2021, 10:56 PM
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Bottled up my emotions for 30+ years for the inevitable day they pass. Not sure how I'm going to cope.
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They are going to look old for a long time before they finally die. You probably have a good 30 years with them at least so just get used to them looking old and go on with your life. Worrying is a huge waste of time.
08-01-2021, 11:36 PM
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Originally Posted By bfdehewdbyywhn⏩
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Dad's side of the family has a history of dementia, so that'll be fun, and mom has two destroyed/arthritic legs that are already disabled and are only going to get worse as she ages
Realistically, I'll probably quit my job to take care of him once he loses his mind - don't have a daughter in the family to pawn THAT off on! - and being brootally honest, I'll probably put a bullet in my head shortly after they pass. You have to take care of the people who took care of you, and then I don't have much to live for after that's done.
Realistically, I'll probably quit my job to take care of him once he loses his mind - don't have a daughter in the family to pawn THAT off on! - and being brootally honest, I'll probably put a bullet in my head shortly after they pass. You have to take care of the people who took care of you, and then I don't have much to live for after that's done.
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08-02-2021, 10:21 AM
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First time it was weird to me was when I realized I was actually older than my dad than in some memories of him. Was thinking of some home videos we have of us playing baseball in the yard, I was probably like 5 at the time and he was like 33. Then was like wait what that doesn't seem that long ago, he was younger than I am now. And now he's an old man. Realized how short life is.
Same thing happens when I see like a 90s actor I haven't seen since I was a kid. Then see a new pic and am like WTF. Dude was young guy now is nearly dead.
Same thing happens when I see like a 90s actor I haven't seen since I was a kid. Then see a new pic and am like WTF. Dude was young guy now is nearly dead.
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Originally Posted By trynbrah⏩
Your brain cannot process the idea of them being dead because they have always been there, until it happens. It will hit you harder than you think.just wait till you have to cope with them being dead. enjoy what time you have left brah
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Originally Posted By SaviorSelfJT⏩
I love that book and still have it. I used to read it to my girls when they were little.I think when I was around 6 or 7 years old (srs)
Around that age my mom reading some kind of a picture book to me about a mom and son. And each page time passed, so at the start the boy was an infant, and at the end the boy was all grown up and carrying his elderly mom back into their house. Then death made sense to me and made me really sad
And one time when I was around 10 or 11, I was walking through an elderly home, and there was a very old demented man on his death bed yelling and crying "I want my mamma" over and over again. One of the most disturbing things I have in my memory (srs)
Around that age my mom reading some kind of a picture book to me about a mom and son. And each page time passed, so at the start the boy was an infant, and at the end the boy was all grown up and carrying his elderly mom back into their house. Then death made sense to me and made me really sad
And one time when I was around 10 or 11, I was walking through an elderly home, and there was a very old demented man on his death bed yelling and crying "I want my mamma" over and over again. One of the most disturbing things I have in my memory (srs)
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My Mum died of cancer in her 50s.
My Dad's still around, gonna turn 64 this year. We were watching old home movies at Christmas where my parents were the same age I am now which feels weird now, especially since I've got no kids of my own.
He's pretty happy though, he's met a new woman and he's in good health but also has an attitude of "you don't know what tomorrow's gonna bring" so we meet up pretty often and still go on holiday with my siblings and all our partners.
My Dad's still around, gonna turn 64 this year. We were watching old home movies at Christmas where my parents were the same age I am now which feels weird now, especially since I've got no kids of my own.
He's pretty happy though, he's met a new woman and he's in good health but also has an attitude of "you don't know what tomorrow's gonna bring" so we meet up pretty often and still go on holiday with my siblings and all our partners.
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Originally Posted By meanstringbean⏩
you stole this feel from me son. Miss my parents like hell but when I spend more than a week with them, it can sometimes feel even more depressing. It feels like their lives are in a permanent state of decline since they have nothing to work for anymore, being retired and having no debt, no dependents, etc. Can't cope with this and it keeps me awake at night sometimes.Lol even worse, when I spend time with them for long periods it’s boring as hell. Try to make most of it but parents just like to watch Netflix, play games on their iPad, watch cnn , drink, etc
Just sad we don’t have a ton in common.
Don’t want to take these days for granted
Just sad we don’t have a ton in common.
Don’t want to take these days for granted
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I don't know. Once my last grandparent had died that was pretty damn sobering. So many memories from of all the time spent with them (except for one, he died before I was born) and then one day...they're all gone. Then next is your parents...and then you. Also as you get older, more and more you look back thinking "where the phuck did all those years go?"
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Luckily, my parents are both in good health and stay busy (they're retired with their dream home). But I always stay in touch and try to visit them 5-6 times a year and continue to build memories with them.
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08-02-2021, 12:19 PM
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It fukin sucks
My parents are early 50’s and starting to get health problems (they don’t listen to my advice)(makes me mad/sad)
Dad is starting to bald but won’t shave it off (srs)
I tell them to just sell the house and retire to Arizona or somewhere cheaper than CA
They both stress each other out too
I try to help but they don’t hear it
It’s killing me
My parents are early 50’s and starting to get health problems (they don’t listen to my advice)(makes me mad/sad)
Dad is starting to bald but won’t shave it off (srs)
I tell them to just sell the house and retire to Arizona or somewhere cheaper than CA
They both stress each other out too
I try to help but they don’t hear it
It’s killing me
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It is strange and something I've noticed the last few years. The folks still have some youth left in them, but they are coming older with aches and pains and appearance at times.
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my father passed away from cancer when i was 25. it was the single hardest thing ive ever experienced and i do not think anything will ever be so jarring for me again.
my mom is healthy and strong and i call her every day and try to see her at least once a week.
cherish every moment, even if they piss you off
my mom is healthy and strong and i call her every day and try to see her at least once a week.
cherish every moment, even if they piss you off
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Staying fit, eating right, and always challenging yourself is everything boyos
My parents have some friends who are same age (60s) but very active. Still will do multi night camp trips, water ski, go to new countries to hike, rock climb, etc
Of course they are the exception, not the rule
It’s possible. Yes Father Time comes for us all but no reason for your tour to be over as you hit 50s and 60s. The healthier you are the more you can extend the things you can do and make the most out of your time on this planet. What’s really sad is when you hit 30+ and have friends that just don’t exercise , sit all day for work, and eat dog ****. You want to go on a 4 mile hike or try to run a 10k or do a sports league and it’s “I’m too old for that now, body hurts”
Pathetic man
My parents have some friends who are same age (60s) but very active. Still will do multi night camp trips, water ski, go to new countries to hike, rock climb, etc
Of course they are the exception, not the rule
It’s possible. Yes Father Time comes for us all but no reason for your tour to be over as you hit 50s and 60s. The healthier you are the more you can extend the things you can do and make the most out of your time on this planet. What’s really sad is when you hit 30+ and have friends that just don’t exercise , sit all day for work, and eat dog ****. You want to go on a 4 mile hike or try to run a 10k or do a sports league and it’s “I’m too old for that now, body hurts”
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I think my coping mechanism kicked in 10 years ago. I constantly think about it, and have dreams about it happening. Fuking sucks
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