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post 1645565443 08-23-2021, 03:43 PM
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Police position i applied to ask for a list of ex girlfriends

Basically had an interview for a police position and was getting interviewed by a chad and a police woman and they asked me this. I was caught completely offguard. I said no history except 1 in highschool and the girl started laughing and my face went red. This memory keeps attacking me at night. I dunno if i'll get the next interview now.
post 1645565733 08-23-2021, 03:49 PM
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In the second interview they'll ask for a list of ex boyfriends!
post 1645566183 08-23-2021, 03:58 PM
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Just tell them you’re a therapist and it’ll be ok
post 1645566283 08-23-2021, 04:00 PM
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Oof how old are you?
post 1645566443 08-23-2021, 04:02 PM
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Tell them you’re gay and are now suing them for sexual orientation assumption.
post 1645566463 08-23-2021, 04:02 PM
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Love that for them
post 1645566693 08-23-2021, 04:05 PM
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god damn i would hear that laugh every night before i fell asleep
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post 1645566823 08-23-2021, 04:06 PM
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They’re weeding out the incels, sorry op.
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post 1645567093 08-23-2021, 04:10 PM
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I hope you are trolling...
post 1645567143 08-23-2021, 04:11 PM
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i refused to submit an application to a city because of this.

That is way too personal and its completely crossing a boundary of not only me but my ex's for a potential employer to call them up and ask them questions about me. That is extremely unethical and I don't want to work at a police department that operates that way.

They wanted you to list all past relationships in the past 10 years and provide their phone number and link to their social media if available.
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post 1645567853 08-23-2021, 04:18 PM
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Originally Posted By ThisIsMyAlias⏩
Oof how old are you?
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post 1645567873 08-23-2021, 04:19 PM
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Originally Posted By ChunkBuster⏩
I hope you are trolling...
I am not. Did not know they actually asked this bs and they actually call them to verify. Crazy
post 1645567953 08-23-2021, 04:20 PM
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lmao sounds like a good time to claim you are a complete incel and never had a gf!
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post 1645567983 08-23-2021, 04:20 PM
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They asked this to my friend too
post 1645568583 08-23-2021, 04:26 PM
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post 1645571003 08-23-2021, 04:57 PM
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Originally Posted By Sterilite⏩
post 1645571153 08-23-2021, 04:59 PM
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for real this really happens? lmao
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post 1645573653 08-23-2021, 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted By roughinhouse⏩
I am not. Did not know they actually asked this bs and they actually call them to verify. Crazy
They want to make sure you don't have a history of domestic violence. Its probably the biggest disqualifier you can face as a LEO candidate. Other then the use of hardcore drugs (Meth, crack, heroine, etc).
Originally Posted By Jestbrah⏩
i refused to submit an application to a city because of this.

That is way too personal and its completely crossing a boundary of not only me but my ex's for a potential employer to call them up and ask them questions about me. That is extremely unethical and I don't want to work at a police department that operates that way.

They wanted you to list all past relationships in the past 10 years and provide their phone number and link to their social media if available.
Pretty much just list people that love you/are gonna give a rave review. Some agencies don't really go that far into checking. Especially if everything else is squared away.


A guy listed me as a reference and it just so happened the recruiter that processed him is a pretty close friend of mine. Dude never even called me to ask about him.


I asked him about it and he said the guy looked jacked and he knew me so that was good enough to move him on in the process.
post 1645573853 08-23-2021, 05:40 PM
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Originally Posted By Muscle2021⏩
for real this really happens? lmao
This. Is this a new thing?
post 1645574063 08-23-2021, 05:43 PM
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Originally Posted By ohiostate124⏩
This. Is this a new thing?
I'm in Canada so i dunno about hte states
post 1645574093 08-23-2021, 05:44 PM
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They interview family, friends, exes, past employers, etc (in person most of the time)

Police officers tend to be domestic abusers so they try to weed out people from the start
It makes the department look bad/cost them money (tax payer)

They even go to your house and see how you live. Like they meet you in your house/apartment and just talk a little to see if you live in a crack house/unstable place

(I interviewed and got an offer but ended up rejecting the offer)
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post 1645574213 08-23-2021, 05:46 PM
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This definitely happened
post 1645574243 08-23-2021, 05:46 PM
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pretty dumb in a lot of ways.

but even if you listed 1 how do they know you didn't date 1 for 10 years?

in regard to domestic violence.. wouldn't it be under op's record if he had a problem with domestic violence lol?
post 1645574393 08-23-2021, 05:48 PM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
pretty dumb in a lot of ways.

but even if you listed 1 how do they know you didn't date 1 for 10 years?
Its a judgement thing.
You list one and they will try to talk to her
What you say should be true

Or you list nine and they think you have a social issue

Also they may even polygraph you as part of the hiring process
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post 1645574503 08-23-2021, 05:50 PM
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Originally Posted By guest89⏩
They want to make sure you don't have a history of domestic violence. Its probably the biggest disqualifier you can face as a LEO candidate. Other then the use of hardcore drugs (Meth, crack, heroine, etc).



Pretty much just list people that love you/are gonna give a rave review. Some agencies don't really go that far into checking. Especially if everything else is squared away.


A guy listed me as a reference and it just so happened the recruiter that processed him is a pretty close friend of mine. Dude never even called me to ask about him.


I asked him about it and he said the guy looked jacked and he knew me so that was good enough to move him on in the process.
I am not worried about what they will say i just dont think its at all appropriate because most people set up boundaries with their ex's and go no contact. I am not going to force another person who doesn't want to think about me to rehash old times with a stranger police officer over the phone.

The fact that a police department cant see how thats crossing lines just to try and dig up dirt on candidates is enough for me to not want to work for a department like that. If they are willing to go to those links just to vet employees then they are going to be terrible with how they treat their employees.
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post 1645574613 08-23-2021, 05:52 PM
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Originally Posted By helpmee⏩
Its a judgement thing.
You list one and they will try to talk to her
What you say should be true

Or you list nine and they think you have a social issue

Also they may even polygraph you as part of the hiring process
again.. pretty stupid. if you had multipleEX'eswhy would you trust they would have good things to say? lol

you could take a pretty good guy and get a biased review from a biased perspective.

seems pretty inefficient. so you go off the word of others?

i would think you could prob judge off your own interpretation of the source..

i get where you're coming from , but just saying.
post 1645574673 08-23-2021, 05:53 PM
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Just tell them that you make it a point to never get their last name... it makes it too personal and they get clingy.
post 1645574943 08-23-2021, 05:58 PM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
again.. pretty stupid. if you had multipleEX'eswhy would you trust they would have good things to say? lol

you could take a pretty good guy and get a biased review from a biased perspective.

seems pretty inefficient. so you go off the word of others?

i would think you could prob judge off your own interpretation of the source..

i get where you're coming from , but just saying.
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Yeah..
Red flag is no relationships for like ten years
Another is we broke up because he is violent or abusive
Something that may not matter is we broke up because he fawked my friend

The main thing that they are trying to prevent is this coming up in the future
If they hire a serial abuser and something happens the past always comes up
liability

Now you can have a crazy ex. Who doesn't?
But say you have a couple crazy exes. That shows poor judgement /risk assessment

Yeah its a little bit far but what they have done before in the hiring process clearly was not working
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PD's do/ask crazy sh*t.

When I did the polygraph for DPD, they asked if I ever thought of or have had sex with animals and minors.

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Originally Posted By Jestbrah⏩
i refused to submit an application to a city because of this.

That is way too personal and its completely crossing a boundary of not only me but my ex's for a potential employer to call them up and ask them questions about me. That is extremely unethical and I don't want to work at a police department that operates that way.

They wanted you to list all past relationships in the past 10 years and provide their phone number and link to their social media if available.
Srsly? I had no idea this was even a real thing. That’s why police are so chitty I guess. Instead of digging into someone’s temperament or other qualities to do with the job they want to know about your love life. What a joke. I’m no defund the police ****gg but they need ska srs rehaul in most depts.
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