So I’m 27, last real relationship I had was 3 years ago (still not completely over her), but I met this great girl, physically attracted to her, very smart, very ambitious, and very similar culture so family would approve. But I ended things with her a month ago, we were never in a relationship or even exclusive (she was exclusive to me even tho I never asked her to be). The reason I ended it was because she wanted something serious and I’m unable to let go of the single life.

My problem is I just love women and a lot of them. I tend to do really well with them, I’ve been in Europe for grad school for 2 years and I’ve got girls I’ve slept with and still talk to in like 4 different countries, and I still go on dates with other girls, and I know the right decision is to stop and be with the girl, but like I just dunno. I guess fellow (players??) how did you guys decide to stop the lifestyle and focus on that one special girl??

Another problem is I think if she was the right girl for me I’d instantly give everything up, so that’s something I question myself. I know if my ex came back I’d be all in within a heartbeat. Wouldn’t even be a decision. But I feel like I can get to that point with this girl as well. Cause even with my ex it took me forever to finally give in.

you havent met the one yet

just keep on slayin

Well, no one here can answer that for you. I think "settling down" sounds awful (not because I'm claiming to have an endless supply of pvssy at my disposal, but because I genuinely prefer being single/a bachelor).

At any rate, don't just do it because you feel like you're "supposed to" or whatever. There's only one woman from my past I MIGHT have a very small twinge of regret over not "settling down with", and it's much more of in hindsight thing. She was pushing for it, and I was having none of it - it was somewhat of an odd situation that would take too long to explain though. Point is though - she's now a big shot attorney, she's smart as hell/fluent in like 5 languages/very cultured (things which are all a huge plus to me), has a fairly frigid personality like I do so wouldn't be bytching about "you're not affectionate enough!", was pretty attractive imo, etc.

Don't rush anything, that'll just lead to a miserable relationship in the long run. I also enjoy the single life, and having a friend with benefits at the moment. (Def fkn Srs)

Depends on your goals man. I can tell you, the slaying slows down the older you get. You aren't going to have the options you once did, and that feeling of wanting kids is tough if you do. I would not settle down if you don't want children. That said, i know a few older single people who didn't have kids and it's their biggest regret. I settled down during what i would consider my peak slayer years...I could have kept chasing but eventually you gotta change it up IMO. It's nice to have someone to do things with...trips, movies, cooking, etc. IDK man its ultimately your call...just sit down and evaluate whats most important to you.

I don’t think your lust for other women will ever go away. You just need to decide what’s more important to you.

A companion capable of assisting you and raising your kids?

Or ass

Decide and that will be your answer

That's fukking bullsh!t. I get laid more now in my young thirties, then I have ever in my life. I'm not even bragging, younger girls see you as stable with good money and older women want to get dicked down by a younger guy with abs. (Ded fkn Srs)

Yea I could do that, but there’s also no fulfillment from it, but like I do love getting new women. Just a big mess in my head

Yea this girl is great in every single way, and I feel like I’m fcking up something good because I can’t lower my desire for different women.

Yea I enjoy it, but the thing is in my culture marriage is a huge thing, so I can’t do this forever and I do want a wife and kids for sure

Yea and I really want kids and I want them soon, and she’s ready for all of that so it makes sense. And sometimes I think just bite the bullet and see what happens.

Definitely a companion, I’ve gotten plenty of ass, I thought by now I’d be satisfied but like I just feel like something is not right in my head, like why do I want more?? It makes no sense in reality. I see beautiful women and I’m like I need her, I get her, sleep with her, and it’s always just like ehh that wasn’t even necessary.

Most of the above posters sound like women telling you to be free and keep smashing randoms. You keep doing that and you're going to end up like the male version of Silencespeaks

Personally I'd rather come home to a woman that actually loves me. I don't know how you're not sick of one-night stands yet. There's no fulfillment or purpose from it. Your purpose as a man is to have children that will supersede you in every way. If you don't do this you're going to be kicking your self in the ass at some point.

It’s crazy isn’t it, I was on a date on Tuesday with a girl German girl that’s 19 years old. I did think she was older though, so I was surprised when she told me. And girls don’t really give a fck about age as long as your aren’t super old. Crazy that they are okay with big age gaps. I like my women between 23-26.

Kill your self

I definitely want kids and a wife, and I actually went celibate last year for a period of time to try to stop my constant need of new women. It was great, but then the first date I go on her and I sleep together and it literally just started everything back up for me. And now I’m trying to force myself to just chill and build something with this girl. But I keep saying okay after I sleep with this and that girl. It’s like a never ending t cycle.

Didn’t cheat on my last girl even though I was thinking about other girls, so I’m sure I can do it again.

I mean...if it's something on par with what I described, then it might be worth seriously considering. One thing I will add, is that when she kept pushing for marriage and the like I was with another girl who we had a much more "passionate" or "romantic" thing going on at the time...realize that chit doesn't last. In hindsight it seems kind of ridiculous how many characteristics she had for a possibly very stable marriage and lifestyle (plus the very solid income she'd bring in) and I passed her over because I was "in love" at the time. There was a lot more to that situation, as far as giving better context, but I don't want to ramble on too much. If I could do it over again I would SERIOUSLY consider having "settled down" with her though. Also, that other relationship I was involved in eventually ended because she started cheating with another guy (again because I wasn't "affectionate enough" - her neediness grew tiresome) and I found this out while on a deployment.

The only caveat I'll add is - are you much more a loner type like me, or do you really want to be with a woman? I really value my own space/time/freedom, she probably would have largely allowed that (and been the same, plus as a big attorney she'd be working so much anyway). If you value being a loner type, then obviously need to tread more lightly. If you aren't, then I think that makes the decision at least somewhat easier/less painful.

That's about the best I can offer, but there's obviously no way to predict for sure how you will feel/think in 10+ years.

Got home, wife made homemade bread, baked broccoli, and chicken wings last night.

She just now told me "your going fishing tonight and tomorrow morning, right? Wasnt sure, but just in case, I made you six bacon, egg and cheese wraps and they are packed, and your dinner is in the fridge...love you"


That type of stuff is better than any random sloot imo, and I had lotsa random sloots. Never one nighters, always multiple, but I have other stuff that is important to me now.

Well then you gotta sacrifice and try your hardest to keep that hunting side at bay. Relationships are all about sacrifice as it is.

All I read is cooooom

Modern western society constructs and it's (feminist serving) brainwashing at work again..


There is absolutely no reason a man can't be the perfect husband/father and still smash side pieces here and there


A man is fully capable of having sex with other women without it affecting his love for his wife and family

You're too young to ask yourself this question IMO.

It's one thing if you're 40+.

My dad had me when he was 45, my mom must've been around 30. I came out pretty good, above average income, no debt, good health for the most part. Proof you can decide later in life as a male (40+) to settle and produce a successful kid.

Enjoy your life and enjoy the now.

I don't want kids at my age, or anywhere close to my age. I'll reconsider at 35 maybe haha. Settling implies marriage and kids. And LTR's symbolize the ritual that leads up to that. So I don't think I want anymore LTRs until I'm confident I want to settle.

So much this. At 40 I get way more female attention than I ever did before. Granted it helps to have more confidence, in good shape, and a high paying job. MILFS love that well put together man. Plus I look young AF. Sucked when I was younger (baby face), but now I look early 30s and works like a charm. We all hit our prime at different ages. look at the slayers in high school, most are fat and bald and cant get quality ass anymore.