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post 1650770213 11-13-2021, 06:59 PM
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Why Incels Deserve Better advice(Article)

https://www.psychreg.org/incels-deserve-better-advice/


Been making these points for years on the misc. Like the myth that incels can make up for being ugly with personality except reality is that personality doesnt matter until you're at least somewhat attractive(https://www.livescience.com/amp/5860...rsonality.html) and the reality of 80-20.

"Crudely put, the modern dating economy closer resembles polygyny, with the most high-status men having a ‘monopoly’ on the majority of women. The majority of men are simply not being considered."

"on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall (2 inches taller than the average man)"
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Big oof
post 1650770933 11-13-2021, 07:16 PM
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
Big oof
Everything he's saying 8s true
post 1650788483 11-14-2021, 07:05 AM
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Originally Posted By Anachron⏩
Alternatively, "men" could grow a set of balls.
Doesn't make a difference if women only want the 20%
post 1650788743 11-14-2021, 07:13 AM
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They want 6ft 6 figures 6 inches and other traits that most men inherently do not have. Thus so many men giving up on the lost cause.

My name is literally bigballs, my balls barely fit in my fukin pants and it makes no difference
post 1650818063 11-14-2021, 05:17 PM
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Bumping the truth
post 1650818433 11-14-2021, 05:25 PM
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I just want a fat bbw latina gf.

even at 6ft, jacked, and six figure net worth in my early 20s I cant get that
HTC is too skinny for me. Fat Girls only crew. serious
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post 1650818473 11-14-2021, 05:26 PM
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grass is greener. do you dream of swapping places with this guy?
Originally Posted By northernlights7⏩
Yep. Tell me about it.


- Spent 10 years paying off my ex-wife's student loans and our wedding debts,100% of which were her ideas.

- She bailed after her outragious student loans became managable.

- "We're a team, and we'll be better off down the road for it once we pay off the debts", I said to her when she acted guilty about me working 60 hours a week for 10 years of my prime to pay off her bullchit while she averaged 30 hours a week working.

- She literally laughed in my face when I begged her to save the marriage, and being willing to do anything she would demand on my part.






Ciffs:

- fukkkk marriage
post 1650818993 11-14-2021, 05:35 PM
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Getting out of inceldom can be very difficult, i’ll admit that much. Akin to homelessness, you might have fallen so far that it’s next to impossible to climb out.

But I also think that most incel cases are not the utterly lost causes they paint themselves to be.
post 1650819293 11-14-2021, 05:43 PM
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Originally Posted By alltrapbrah⏩
But I also think that most incel cases are not the utterly lost causes they paint themselves to be.
They are when women have increasingly high standards
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Here's better advice:
Find something else to do with your life if dating is so difficult and bull**** for you. Stop trying to up your tinder likes. Go find a higher purpose in life because getting the fabled "woman in your life" isn't going to make you happy anyways.
post 1650819663 11-14-2021, 05:51 PM
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
Here's better advice:
Find something else to do with your life if dating is so difficult and bull**** for you. Stop trying to up your tinder likes. Go find a higher purpose in life because getting the fabled "woman in your life" isn't going to make you happy anyways.
Idk i see so many people who say their gf or wife is the best part of their life or one of the most important

Or they say their children, which also can't happen for you alone.

Some of you guys are in denial that this is a human need, without which many men won't be happy. You can't replace that with some stupid distraction
post 1650819833 11-14-2021, 05:56 PM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
Doesn't make a difference if women only want the 20%
simps like you make this the reality. stop being a little bish, or better yet, just give up on women.
See SuperHercules' sig
post 1650819973 11-14-2021, 05:58 PM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
They are when women have increasingly high standards
Change the context.

Let’s say you’re in school and there’s an up and coming maths test. A couple of weeks before you sit it, the faculty announce that they have made it a lot harder than previous years.

What makes you a lost cause in this scenario? That they’ve upped the difficulty? Or that you’re not willing to do the extra work required?
post 1650820073 11-14-2021, 06:00 PM
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Originally Posted By ShakeBrah⏩
simps like you make this the reality. stop being a little bish, or better yet, just give up on women.
How am I a simp? And I have given up on women, that doesn't make anything better it just means you don't waste your time with constant rejection anymore
post 1650820143 11-14-2021, 06:01 PM
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Originally Posted By alltrapbrah⏩
Change the context.

Let’s say you’re in school and there’s an up and coming maths test. A couple of weeks before you sit it, the faculty announce that they have made it a lot harder than previous years.

What makes you a lost cause in this scenario? That they’ve upped the difficulty? Or because you’re not willing to do the extra work required?
This isn't a good comparison because school has objective criteria that you can control. Its not like the teacher looks at your face and decides you fail. If you get the questions right, you pass and its not an opinion.
post 1650820153 11-14-2021, 06:02 PM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
Idk i see so many people who say their gf or wife is the best part of their life or one of the most important

Or they say their children, which also can't happen for you alone.

Some of you guys are in denial that this is a human need, without which many men won't be happy. You can't replace that with some stupid distraction
So what's the plan, then? Get busy doing something, either way. The way you go about becoming more well-rounded is to put all your energy and focus into something else that will make you happy and simultaneously get women to notice you.

Unless your sole goal in life is to get a girlfriend, getting one won't fulfill you.
post 1650820243 11-14-2021, 06:03 PM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
https://www.psychreg.org/incels-deserve-better-advice/


Been making these points for years on the misc. Like the myth that incels can make up for being ugly with personality except reality is that personality doesnt matter until you're at least somewhat attractive(https://www.livescience.com/amp/5860...rsonality.html) and the reality of 80-20.

"Crudely put, the modern dating economy closer resembles polygyny, with the most high-status men having a ‘monopoly’ on the majority of women. The majority of men are simply not being considered."

"on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall (2 inches taller than the average man)"
Ugly men go for ugly women who, by and large by virtue of being ugly, are looking for LTRs who aren't chads. Being nice and having a good rapport with a girl will go further than anything
post 1650820323 11-14-2021, 06:06 PM
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
So what's the plan, then? Get busy doing something, either way. The way you go about becoming more well-rounded is to put all your energy and focus into something else that will make you happy and simultaneously get women to notice you.

Unless your sole goal in life is to get a girlfriend, getting one won't fulfill you.
Getting one does fulfill many men. Why are we pretending this isn't true? You think all these guys would be happy being incels, never getting any puss*y? Stop lying.

Even the most famous richest men wouldn't be happy as an incel.

There really isn't a plan or a solution for incels. But at the very least stop the gaslighting.
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Originally Posted By Anachron⏩
Alternatively, "men" could grow a set of balls.
Low IQ detected
post 1650820413 11-14-2021, 06:09 PM
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Originally Posted By zyzzliftswjesus⏩
Ugly men go for ugly women who, by and large by virtue of being ugly, are looking for LTRs who aren't chads. Being nice and having a good rapport with a girl will go further than anything
Ugly women can get sex with men above their level online and thus don't bother with men comparable to their level. I see this repeatedly, even fat chicks expect more nowadays
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They just need to man up and do what needs to be done, no matter how hard it is

They need to take ten showers at once, one right after each other.

Unless they've tried that, they have no place to complain
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
Getting one does fulfill many men. Why are we pretending this isn't true? You think all these guys would be happy being incels, never getting any puss*y? Stop lying.

Even the most famous richest men wouldn't be happy as an incel.

There really isn't a plan or a solution for incels. But at the very least stop the gaslighting.
and those men are pathetic. Is what you want on your tombstone, in your obituary? "He met girl and he happy long time then he died" What about accomplishing a personal goal? Fulfilling a life-long dream to create something magnificent? But nah there's apparently no virtue in that, rather it's much more noble to be needy for female attention. Of course women can smell that a mile away, so you're really setting yourself up for failure anyways.

Tesla was (probably) an incel of sorts, but the only people who really care about that chit are incels themselves. The path to becoming the best version of yourself does not run through a woman.
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
This isn't a good comparison because school has objective criteria that you can control. Its not like the teacher looks at your face and decides you fail. If you get the questions right, you pass and its not an opinion.
It’s a fine comparison. The problem is you’re being pedantic rather than genuinely trying to grasp the point i’m making.

But i’ll run with what you’re saying regardless.

You state “if you get the questions right, you pass”.

How do you go about getting the questions right then?

Guess?
Cheat?

I suppose those are ways, but what’s the most commonly touted way?
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
Unless your sole goal in life is to get a girlfriend, getting one won't fulfill you.
I see this posted all the time, and I don't agree

A significant other is a pretty big part of someone's life, and not having that is a huge missing chunk

And there's lots of experiences that don't make sense without a S/O, like going on a romantic swiss ski trip etc

If it doesn't fulfill you and is optional for happiness, why does anyone have one?
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post 1650820723 11-14-2021, 06:16 PM
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
and those men are pathetic. Is what you want on your tombstone, in your obituary? "He met girl and he happy long time then he died" What about accomplishing a personal goal? Fulfilling a life-long dream to create something magnificent? But nah there's apparently no virtue in that, rather it's much more noble to be needy for female attention. Of course women can smell that a mile away, so you're really setting yourself up for failure anyways.

Tesla was (probably) an incel of sorts, but the only people who really care about that chit are incels themselves. The path to becoming the best version of yourself does not run through a woman.
Dude the vast majority of people on earth don't do anything that matters. We go to school, we try to find a job that doesn't suck, make some friends, find a guy or girl to date and enjoy life.

The vast majority of people have nothing else to contribute. Misc has this weird notion that everyone should be trying to be the next bill gates or something. That's not reality.
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Originally Posted By alltrapbrah⏩
It’s a fine comparison. The problem is you’re being pedantic rather than genuinely trying to grasp the point i’m making.

But i’ll run with what you’re saying regardless.

You state “if you get the questions right, you pass”.

How do you go about getting the questions right then?

Guess?
Cheat?

I suppose those are ways, but what’s the most commonly touted way?
When has a teacher ever said "you aren't 6ft so you get an f regardless of anything else"? You know what I'm saying man.

In school, you can prepare and study for a test which will be objectively evaluated based on what you study and prepare.

Dating is nothing like this because the biggest factors in your success are things entirely outside of your control.
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Originally Posted By SaviorSelfJT⏩
They just need to man up and do what needs to be done, no matter how hard it is

They need to take ten showers at once, one right after each other.

Unless they've tried that, they have no place to complain
20 showers and 10 haircuts in one day. Sounds legit
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Here's a better advice:

-If you're a 5, date a 3. Know your place and never punch up.
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