Bro my in-laws and my parents piss me off so much with trying to downplay the importance of schedules for my kids. You mess up for a day and the next 3 are just absolute chit shows.

Having a regimen has made life much simpler having 2 under 2. It's not an easy task, I couldn't imagine if I didn't have any structure to the day.

Can't agree with this any more


Also inlaws fuk up my kids schedule so bad crew


Makes me wanna nuke them crew

Kiddos are much happier when they can abide by schedule crew

Bros need some advice or really just reassurance.

My 20 month old about a month ago had an episode where she woke up from her nap, and could really use her limbs for about 45 minutes, she had a cold and a fever and we got her checked out and everything came back normal so we chalked it up to possible dehydration at the time.

Fast forward to midnight yesterday and we notice her in her crib, on her back and kind of whimpering. Since she's a belly sleeper this strikes us as odd so we go in to check on her to find similar issues. No limb function, awake but not aware, and a fever of 102+ish. After about 10 minutes she perks up, regains the use of her legs for at least moving and controlling (no walking). We call 911 before she gets her legs moving, paramedics show up as she starts regaining alertness and limited arm function. We go to the ER, she gets some Tylenol, fever goes down, she becomes herself again and we get discharged around 5:30, with a diagnosis of feverish lethargy and the possibility of a febrile seizure.

Get home about 6:00 AM, about 6:15 she gets feverish again and begins having what feels like cold chills, we give her more Tylenol and then the sane song and dance, limited limb function, limited cognitive alertness (again, awake but not alert), and we call the pediatrician who has us call 911 again. Baby girl is currently on the way to the hospital with his Mom this time with what I have to imagine is another febrile seizure.

Dr. Google claims the risk of long term damage is low, but any of you bros ever dealt with this? This is some of the scariest **** of my life and it tears you up even more knowing that she's too young to communicate what's going on with her. So now I'm just sitting at home with my 1 month old boy stressing tf out, seeing if any if you bros have dealt with this before-- my understanding is that it's fairly common but difficult to truly "diagnose".

Advice?

That's sounds like a nightmare brah. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. You're doing the right thing sending her to the hospital. I would post up there and not leave until I had a definitive answer about what's wrong and how to fix it

I'm sorry to say I have zero advice to offer brah, just reading this made my heart rate go up thinking of how distraught I would be in this scenario. I do truly hope they figure out what's wrong with your baby girl and get her sorted though.

Thanks guys. She's home from the 2nd round in the ER. Couldn't trace the source of the fever as everything came up negative on all viral screens and UTI, they're calling it febrile seizures and it seems like it's just something that happens in kids with fevers from time to time. Now that she's had one she's more likely to have more. Having 2 in one day like this was definitely atypical but it's more in the "complex" category. She's now just sleeping on my chest at home as I think she's afraid to be put down and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't afraid to let her try to sleep anywhere else. We're on a Tylenol and Ibuprofen regimen to keep any fever under control for the next day or two and really just monitoring her beyond that. She was definitely a little trooper for us but holy hell boys thus was the most stressful thing I've been through in quite some time.

Just seeing your daughter lay there limp and unresponsive but awake is heart wrenching, especially when she can't communicate what's happening to her.

Article below for any of you fellas with young kids that might eventually one day go through the same thing. From the research it seems like long term effects aren't a concern, it's just some kids reaction to staving off fevers and just happens sometimes. Gonna be a long week of non-stop baby monitor watching while she's in the crib.

https://www.ninds.nih.gov/Disorders/...res-Fact-Sheet

Sorry for what you're going through. Glad she's home and doing better. Never had something quite like that with one of my kids, so I'm no help there, but I know the helpless feeling you are talking about. Try and stay positive, and know that everybody here is pulling for your daughter.

^^this man, that sounds terrifying. I've never heard of this before. Pls stay safe

Hey misc dad brahs, hug your kids a little extra tight the next chance you get. Give your dad a phone call.

I got to spend Thanksgiving with my dad and little brother this year, and it felt like it took a guardian angel to get my dad here. He had forgotten about the open invite I extended him and called me up on the Sunday before Thanksgiving to ask what my plans were. I told him that we were hosting at our house in Texas and that my little brother was planning on flying in. He surprised me by managing to get a last-minute plane ticket that night to fly in on Wednesday, and I knew flying alone would be tough for him due to his Parkinson's. In classic my-dad fashion, he picked flights that only left him with a half-hour layover. His first flight was 20 minutes late, and the lady at the counter told him that he'd need to find a later flight. The airline employee who had helped him off the plane with a wheelchair was a young, strong guy (show yourself if you're a miscer, airline brah), and my dad told him "we can make it." This guy ran my dad through the airport and made it to the other gate on time, barely. I picked my dad up from the airport, and he got to spend Thanksgiving with his sons and his grandson. He also got to find out that my next child, his second grandchild, is going to be another boy. Overall, it was a great Thanksgiving.

On Black Friday his blood pressure started doing some weird stuff and getting low, causing him to feel faint. Something similar happened last year after a back surgery and he would often feel a little faint whenever he sat up from his hospital bed as his blood pressure took a quick dip. We have a blood pressure cuff here so we were able to monitor, and when it went from low to spiking really high we decided to call an ambulance. He started to feel fine again in the ambulance, so we spent most of the day just sitting around waiting at the hospital while they ran some blood and urine tests. They couldn't find anything that seemed too unusual and told us that it was probably just some orthostatic hypotension from getting up too fast. The nurse told us to just continue to monitor his blood pressure and come back if there were any changes, and the doctors released him at 4:30 in the afternoon.

My dad died 12 hours later. He was 68.

He woke up extra early to get ready for his 8am flight and took a bath. We think his blood pressure dropped really low when he got out of the bath, but he made it back into the guest room without even using his walker. My brother heard him struggling to breathe and checked on him, sat him down on the bed, and then ran to wake me up and tell my wife to call 911. My dad suffered a massive heart attack and I think he was gone by the time I got into the room. I closed his eyes.











If any of your parents or older relatives ever experience some unexplained swelling of their feet and ankles, get them checked out by a doctor ASAP.I don't know how the hospital here didn't catch it, but apparently this is a sign that the heart isn't pumping blood throughout the body as effectively as it should, leading to extra blood collecting in the lower extremities. The hospital was aware of his swollen feet and ankles, but just didn't think anything of it.




So again, hug your kids and call your dad. Thanks for reading--this was really cathartic for me to type out.

Here are a couple pictures of my dad being a badass in the 70s and 80s:

Febrile seizures are scary as hell, but the good news is they don't lead to serious lasting future issues. They're just something that happens in infants and young toddlers sometimes when they have a high fever. My son had one about a month or two ago and it was scary as hell, especially since I was out of state at the time and got the panicked call from my wife that "the baby just had a seizure, an ambulance is on the way" and I couldn't do anything.

You're right that it's the scariest thing you'll probably ever experience, but the good news is that she's going to okay.

[QUOTE=MattyMiscer post_id=1651709873]Hey misc dad brahs, hug your kids a little extra tight the next chance you get. Give your dad a phone call.

I got to spend Thanksgiving with my dad and little brother this year, and it felt like it took a guardian angel to get my dad here. He had forgotten about the open invite I extended him and called me up on the Sunday before Thanksgiving to ask what my plans were. I told him that we were hosting at our house in Texas and that my little brother was planning on flying in. He surprised me by managing to get a last-minute plane ticket that night to fly in on Wednesday, and I knew flying alone would be tough for him due to his Parkinson's. In classic my-dad fashion, he picked flights that only left him with a half-hour layover. His first flight was 20 minutes late, and the lady at the counter told him that he'd need to find a later flight. The airline employee who had helped him off the plane with a wheelchair was a young, strong guy (show yourself if you're a miscer, airline brah), and my dad told him "we can make it." This guy ran my dad through the airport and made it to the other gate on time, barely. I picked my dad up from the airport, and he got to spend Thanksgiving with his sons and his grandson. He also got to find out that my next child, his second grandchild, is going to be another boy. Overall, it was a great Thanksgiving.

On Black Friday his blood pressure started doing some weird stuff and getting low, causing him to feel faint. Something similar happened last year after a back surgery and he would often feel a little faint whenever he sat up from his hospital bed as his blood pressure took a quick dip. We have a blood pressure cuff here so we were able to monitor, and when it went from low to spiking really high we decided to call an ambulance. He started to feel fine again in the ambulance, so we spent most of the day just sitting around waiting at the hospital while they ran some blood and urine tests. They couldn't find anything that seemed too unusual and told us that it was probably just some orthostatic hypotension from getting up too fast. The nurse told us to just continue to monitor his blood pressure and come back if there were any changes, and the doctors released him at 4:30 in the afternoon.

My dad died 12 hours later. He was 68.

He woke up extra early to get ready for his 8am flight and took a bath. We think his blood pressure dropped really low when he got out of the bath, but he made it back into the guest room without even using his walker. My brother heard him struggling to breathe and checked on him, sat him down on the bed, and then ran to wake me up and tell my wife to call 911. My dad suffered a massive heart attack and I think he was gone by the time I got into the room. I closed his eyes.











[b]If any of your parents or older relatives ever experience some unexplained swelling of their feet and ankles, get them checked out by a doctor ASAP.[/b]I don't know how the hospital here didn't catch it, but apparently this is a sign that the heart isn't pumping blood throughout the body as effectively as it should, leading to extra blood collecting in the lower extremities. The hospital was aware of his swollen feet and ankles, but just didn't think anything of it.




So again, hug your kids and call your dad. Thanks for reading--this was really cathartic for me to type out.

Here are a couple pictures of my dad being a badass in the 70s and 80s:

[img]https://i.imgur.com/74xOQs7.jpg[/im]

[img]https://i.imgur.com/Hi3b2gy.jpg[/ig][/QUOTE]Jesus bro, I am sorry to hear that. Super sorry for your loss mane, if you need to talk about it with us we're here in your corner, like you hinted at in your post, it can sometimes be helpful to just get it out. And we random strangers can be here for you without any judgment at all.

It's good that your dad was surrounded by love for the holiday, and you guys should be able to take solace that you did everything you could to make him happy.

Crazy that they didn't note anything with his ankles still being swollen, I assume they chalked it up to his recent blood pressure scare.

[QUOTE=MattyMiscer post_id=1651710153]Febrile seizures are scary as hell, but the good news is they don't lead to serious lasting future issues. They're just something that happens in infants and young toddlers sometimes when they have a high fever. My son had one about a month or two ago and it was scary as hell, especially since I was out of state at the time and got the panicked call from my wife that "the baby just had a seizure, an ambulance is on the way" and I couldn't do anything.

You're right that it's the scariest thing you'll probably ever experience, but the good news is that she's going to okay.[/QUOTE]Dude it was so frightening. She's slept through the night with no issues, only waking up to take some Tylenol/Ibuprofen as needed and it seems like her fever finally broke so we shouldn't have any more scares, I hope. Fingers crossed. Waking her up here soon to get her some breakfast and more fluids.

Dang man. The positive thing is your father used up the last ounce of strength in him to spend Thanksgiving with you and your family. You have a wonderful memory of your father.

Unfortunately, I cannot say the same about my father. While he is still alive, he's is such a selfish jackass.



You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to MattyMiscer again.

Today I realised how little one on one time I get to talk to my boys.

We are together all the time, but we are alwaysdoingsomething. working, learning, playing, cleaning whatever it is, we rarely get a chance to just talk.

We sat out on the deck and we talked about the trees and the birds and the seasons (not birds and bees lol).. it ended in a food fight but it was high quality time none the less.

How do you dads feel about giving your teen a CC ? She's 16 and i'd like to give her a good start by building her credit since she will need it later in life. I'd add her as an authorized used but never really give her the card unless she's going out where an emergency could easily pop up.

I plan on doing this, but only with a very small limit, like $500 or so, nothing they can't dig themselves out of if they are dumb. I want them to learn to build credit early. Conditions of having the CC will be to have a job, and pay off their statement balance monthly.

Great idea of her having a job first if she wants to carry the card around , i'd set up the online account so i can keep track of her spending as well. How would i go about getting a card that has a 500 limit ? My lowest limit card is 14K

I think you need to find a card that puts it in her name and has you as a co-signer. The interest rate probably will be high but at this point you are trying to build her credit so interest rate isnt that big of a deal.

Does she have a job? How will she pay it off? When my daughter turns 16 i'm going to make her work par time and will get her a card then. If she isnt working then im not sure what the point is.

Talk to different banks. I know a lot of them have cards made just for teens. I had one when I was 16. Having a job has to be mandatory, and having access to the account online.

[QUOTE=MattyMiscer post_id=1651709873]Hey misc dad brahs, hug your kids a little extra tight the next chance you get. Give your dad a phone call.

I got to spend Thanksgiving with my dad and little brother this year, and it felt like it took a guardian angel to get my dad here. He had forgotten about the open invite I extended him and called me up on the Sunday before Thanksgiving to ask what my plans were. I told him that we were hosting at our house in Texas and that my little brother was planning on flying in. He surprised me by managing to get a last-minute plane ticket that night to fly in on Wednesday, and I knew flying alone would be tough for him due to his Parkinson's. In classic my-dad fashion, he picked flights that only left him with a half-hour layover. His first flight was 20 minutes late, and the lady at the counter told him that he'd need to find a later flight. The airline employee who had helped him off the plane with a wheelchair was a young, strong guy (show yourself if you're a miscer, airline brah), and my dad told him "we can make it." This guy ran my dad through the airport and made it to the other gate on time, barely. I picked my dad up from the airport, and he got to spend Thanksgiving with his sons and his grandson. He also got to find out that my next child, his second grandchild, is going to be another boy. Overall, it was a great Thanksgiving.

On Black Friday his blood pressure started doing some weird stuff and getting low, causing him to feel faint. Something similar happened last year after a back surgery and he would often feel a little faint whenever he sat up from his hospital bed as his blood pressure took a quick dip. We have a blood pressure cuff here so we were able to monitor, and when it went from low to spiking really high we decided to call an ambulance. He started to feel fine again in the ambulance, so we spent most of the day just sitting around waiting at the hospital while they ran some blood and urine tests. They couldn't find anything that seemed too unusual and told us that it was probably just some orthostatic hypotension from getting up too fast. The nurse told us to just continue to monitor his blood pressure and come back if there were any changes, and the doctors released him at 4:30 in the afternoon.

My dad died 12 hours later. He was 68.

He woke up extra early to get ready for his 8am flight and took a bath. We think his blood pressure dropped really low when he got out of the bath, but he made it back into the guest room without even using his walker. My brother heard him struggling to breathe and checked on him, sat him down on the bed, and then ran to wake me up and tell my wife to call 911. My dad suffered a massive heart attack and I think he was gone by the time I got into the room. I closed his eyes.











[b]If any of your parents or older relatives ever experience some unexplained swelling of their feet and ankles, get them checked out by a doctor ASAP.[/b]I don't know how the hospital here didn't catch it, but apparently this is a sign that the heart isn't pumping blood throughout the body as effectively as it should, leading to extra blood collecting in the lower extremities. The hospital was aware of his swollen feet and ankles, but just didn't think anything of it.




So again, hug your kids and call your dad. Thanks for reading--this was really cathartic for me to type out.

Here are a couple pictures of my dad being a badass in the 70s and 80s:

[img]https://i.imgur.com/74xOQs7.jpg[/ig]

[img]https://i.imgur.com/Hi3b2gy.jpg[/ig][/QUOTE]I'm so sorry for your loss man, but so happy for him and your family that he got to go out in a place of love and fellowship with his children. Too many families don't get that due to BS drama that should have been let go of a long time ago. This post hit especially close to home as my father has been battling terminal cancer for over a year now. I would love to spend more face time with him but they live 3+ hours away and my wife and I both work 40+ hour weeks and we have the baby now so regular weekend trips are a logistical nightmare to say the least.

On a happier note, our little dude is growing just as fast as can be. 5.5 months old now weighing in about 21# and like 27-28" tall. Still a super happy/chill baby with zero health issues so far, for which we are extremely grateful.

[img]https://i.imgur.com/SInlghu.jpeg[/img]

I thought I would share the Christmas presents from me to my boys. Both of them (age 6 and 9) will get one of these sets from me. They love the outdoors, hiking, camping, and playing army men. This will be right up their alley and should be useful aswell. It's an added bonus if it means they stop stealing my gear



All this cost me $100 NZD (each)

A very Merry Christmas to all the Fathers on the Misc - It's been a tough year. We've got this, and we're all gonna make it.

Misc dad bros,

Hope you all had a great Christmas with your families. Me and my wife are expecting another child in the summer of 2022. We had twins earlier this year who are about to turn 1. Going full in on that dad life. Keep up the good work, world needs good fathers!

Just finding this thread, it's quite a breath of fresh air from all the other negative misc threads.

I have a girl who turns two in March and she's just the best thing in the entire world. We just started her in day care a couple months ago and until that time my wife and I have been tag teaming watching her all day as we both work from home with some help from our moms. So at times it's been stressful but at the same time it's been a truly amazing bonding experience. It's amazing how much she loves me... I walk into the room after not seeing her for 5 minutes and she goes "dada dada dada dada!" My wife and I are just starting to try for another now. Plan is to stop at two.

That poverty ghost costume was fukken GOLD. hope everyone is doing well. Been busy myself, moving with a wife and two kids into my mom's house and living out of boxes until our home is finished being built. 17 more days boyos. Pray for me lmao

yesssss that's EPIC! Congrats boyo

I would've chit a golden pine tree if I was gifted that at 30, much less 6 or 9!!! Badass bro

10/10 Christmas

Joining the misc dad's crew! Wife and I are expecting a baby boy in July.

Would have been ecstatic with either a happy and healthy baby boy or girl, but as a guy I can't say that I'm not extra happy that its a boy

Let's go, baby boy due in May.
I just want a healthy kid but a healthy boy is a ++.

Stoked for you do. Congratulations x 1,000,000