How do you snap out of the neverending cycle that is dating?

I have met and been with a lot of women. Either they went cold after a while, either I went cold because of some red flags.

Is this the 21st century reality or do you just settle down at 30+ , overlooking some flaws you wouldn't overlook if you were only 25?

I have the same problem. Ive dated a lot of different women but all of my relationships tend to have an experation date.. They all have many great qualities, but there’s always something missing with whatever girl I’m seeing. I’m not one to settle, so I always end up ending things between the 2-9 month period

When first started in Mesopotamia it was very transactional throughout most of history.

The nuclear family came about because of the agriculture revolution.

Pre-historic times our ancestors raised children together as a tribe/community.

But after the agri revol;ution, we needed kids to tend farms and produce. So the nuclear family was born.

Kings and Queens were married from opposite families to form new alliances.

Women back then were forced to be grateful for even having a husband. Someone to take care of them.

Marriage was an economic thing.

Before feminism and the sexual revolution, people married their next door neighbor.

It wasn't until after the 1950's-1960's with the rise of subrbs that things changed.

All the soliders came back from war and married the nurses or manufacturer workers. (Marilyn Monroe worked in factories during WW2)

The rise of Playboy and "Free love" hippie communes.

The culture shifted towards a consumerist mindset of taking people out on dates instead of courtship or asking fathers permission of marriage.

You had to pay money now.

Then the 1970 - 10980's came where women decided they weren't stuck to their husbands anymore. So there was a big rise of divorce.

The dating culture changed where people put in classified ads in Newspapers and sent VHS tapes of themselves to get dates.

Then came AOL IM

and now Tinder Apps where people judge each other by pictures of themselves

The dating culture has shifted so much in 100 years.

Honestly it's going to keep getting worse.

That, in many ways, is what dating actuallyIS…

It’s attempting to connect with women you have no real connection to. That’s why you have to “date” them. You have to make a formal thing of it because the two of you weren’t going to connect naturally and organically through your every day lives.


This is especially true of any women met through online dating.

I've stopped dating and been way happier since

Only treat women like hoes now

dating apps ruined dating

any attractive woman on a dating app has a million options, at the swipe of an app she has 100 Chads to pick from

It used to be women would date whoever they met in person, an organic connection

that doesn't happen anymore, just focus on yourself king

Fuking fax

I’ll never overlook fatal flaws. Never. I got lucky and ended up with a BPD at the tender age of 18 and got redpilled over it. It was misery but I’m so thankful that it happened to me when I was young. If it hadn’t, I’d mostly likely have ended up married to some skank who was sucking the neighbor off while I was at work. I was so dumb and idealistic as a kid and I got ruined early, thankfully.


Nowadays I drop women like flies if I see red flags. Or if they’re desperate enough to be easy lays but don’t produce any real drama I’ll keep them around, like the still married single mom that I was piping down for a while. I’m completely anti-marriage, anti cohabitation. It’s relatively easy enough to get regular looking girls for sex these days.


I’m perfectly happy alone which helps immensely. I’ve always been an introvert. Often after a hook up I just want them to get the **** out so I can go back to doing whatever I was before. I’ve had girls want to spend the day with me afterward and I’m trying to subtlety push them out the door lol. So no, I would never settle. Ever. Learned too much over the years. Plus there’s no thrill like new puss.

How can you guys say that dating is dead when every quality girl I know got married and had kids by the time they were in their late 20's.

Only incels have this problem with dating because incels are psychologically/socially defective.

define quality

That's because you're defining quality as any girl who does that.

Subtract the fatties which are at record numbers, the feminists, and the sloots. Not many left and the ones that are taken quick as you just said

Good looking, intelligent enough, not into degeneracy, kind and considerate, etc.

Well yes, quality people do things such as get together and build a life. Only aimless degenerates and hopeless incels can't find anyone to be with.

I don't think it's that bad. I live in a normie blue-collar city and the women seem a bit more regular. Tinder has thrown a spanner in the works but it's not over.

I've met a lot of good looking + kind and considerate ones

It's the other two that are usually missing

Yeah married to beta providers who aren't very attractive.

Dating is definitely rough when you're over 30.

That's kind of true. When I creep them on ******** I'm usually surprised at the guy they settled down with. It makes me wonder what I'm doing wrong since I'm usually taller and more athletic than him. I always end up telling myself that the explanation is that I'm psychologically/socially undesirable.

I would just get off the dating apps, way too many issues with it

all my friends my age have the same issues with it, and they're not typical miscers

ALL of the girls from dating apps I added on social media are still single srs

I’d much rather be who I am than actually fit into modern society, because it’s a joke. It’s honk honk clown world on steroids. People are NPC’s that are completely incapable of having a unique thought for themselves. Pathetic

I’ve run into several men lately who’s wives all had hyphenated last names. You think she respects him? Cares for him? Or do you think she grabbed onto the closest thing next to her that had a little disposable income because her group of nagging harpies were giving her hell and she can’t actually think for herself? I can tell you which one it is. And then men who sign up for that ****- don’t even get me started. The dudes who wear pussy hats at a parade, let her control the finances, have shirts that say “I’m not dad I’m stepdad”, and on and on aren’t happy. They’re miserable little sniveling weaklings that can’t stand up for themselves. They let society dictate their every move because they’re little sissy feelings can’t handle man problems and they can’t think for themselves either.

Society is circling the drain. If someone called me an outcast at this point I’d be proud of it. Very much so

If I spend too much time on social media and watching the "news", then I start believing that we live in clown world.

If I unplug from all that chit for a few weeks, I find that regular every day people are pretty decent and rational.

It's actually fuked up how everyday people in real life are one way, yet the jew controlled media makes us think reality is completely different.

20 years I can’t even get a date. Recently paid for dating apps upgrades and still don’t even get a match

Consider whether you're dating these girls for the right reasons, OP. Are you trying to find a wife, or are you just getting bored with one fling after the other?

If you consider them temporary, do you have the right to be offended if they view you the same?

Plenty of girls out there looking for men who'll make good fathers who aren't interested in "doing the rounds".

sexual revolution and feminism fuked everything up

Pretty much

This is by far one of the most idiotic generalizations I've read. I'm pretty sure you're mentally defective if you believe this.

i have way more fun with sugarbabies and escors than I do dating. I just need to get rich as ****.

dating these days is both sexes dehumanizes each other just for their own sexual/transactional desires

women are nothing more than a glorified flesh light that is discarded after you bust your nut

You're going to go broke fast.

At least you are getting dates op. I just fapped to 2 chicks talking on bb.com Instagram

Yeah OP it gets tiring going through the same fuking questions on the pre first date and first date. What you do where you fron what you like all that ****. its fuking boring

+ financially responsible