sulk brah its the process, go full crying in the bed beta mode but give yourself a deadline to do so. If you dont know her number erase that ****, block it, change it to a best friend, sibling or w/e. so you dont try to contact her at your weakest. dont social media stalk her either.

PM your exact address andn favorite beer, I'll send you a 6 or 12 pack thru grizzly app, dead srs. Even doe some dude posted if you still an alcoholic, not sure if joking or not, dont wanna be an enabler. I used to be al alcoholic, I still am, but used to be too. love that mitch herbert quote.



















also..... pics brah, you know the rules. (semi srs)

Check your PMs i appreciate your brutal honesty, means a lot to me brah..I gotta keep my head up i know that

Life has ups and downs. It'll be back up later. The important thing is that you learn your lessons from this so it doesn't happen again

This OP def take his advice DELETE her number especially if you're going to drink. You will slip up, and think "Meh I'll just text her no harm, and say how I really feel" Terrible move. I know, because I've been there.

Did you move for your job? or for your girlfriend?

I would just focus on building a life compatible and consistent with your beliefs, passions and interests. And acquire social circles that are in alignment with that and allocate your time accordingly with people who support your beliefs and values and share your interests. Then I would find an intimate companion that is in alignment with your beliefs, values and lifestyle.

That way you won't feel like you wasted any time. Sounds like maybe you put your life to the wayside just for her. As opposed to you two fitting in nicely together because you were already on your way to achieving the same lifestyle and goals already and figured why not do it together.

what were you fighting about?

I think we've all been through something similar at one point or another in life... where you just feel inadequate in all aspects and have the mindset that there's nothing to look forward to. I can tell you though OP - that feeling will pass, and so will the heartbreak. If I've learned anything in life, it's that humans are highly adaptable to change, good or bad. All it takes is time.. you can mourn the loss of a job and relationship but try to find the silver lining in what the future holds. You're still young and have a whole life ahead of you. Don't waste too much time with the self-pity, give yourself a week and get back up. Don't know what your education/exp is like, but I feel like everyone is hiring these days.

I was once in the same shoes. Heart broken and felt betrayed. Was one of the darkest times of my life and it wasn’t that long ago (2017). Was as beta and weak as you sound right now.

Then I understood and learnt human nature, and realize that what happened was my fault and only mine. If you put yourself in a position where people can ruin your life, then you did it yourself. It’s on you.

Become the best version of yourself and don’t let anybody ever hurt you or dispose you, or if they do it, you love yourself and respect yourself so much that you really feel bad for them for not seeing what you know you are, but legit believe that.

There’s nothing that will fix your current state of mind. Best case scenario it’s a few weeks of pain, maybe a few months, but you will once look back at this and if you play your cards correctly you may realize eventually that this was the best thing that could have happened to you.


For now my only advice is to find a fuking job ASAP. Cry all the way to the interview and back home from all I care, but you better get a job. Then we’ll talk



Edit: btw being heartbroken > being numb to everything. Trust me feeling something even if it’s pure sadness is better than feeling nothing. I’ve never enjoyed love songs and romantic/drama movies as much as I did during that phase of my life.

Legit listened to Chris Cornells “nothing compares to you” like 30 times daily lmao. Suddenly art touches every cell of your body it’s actually amazing

This.

Be the version of yourself you want to be outside of dating/relationships to make your life as fulfilling as possible so that no relationship can make or break you again.

Move wherever you want and start a new life there.

BOL OP.

Sounds like you need to get your emotions under control, you sound like a wreck, meditate and also work any job, stop depending on other people.

Anybody else feel like there's way more to the story? OP recently begging misc for 20 bucks every week, lol

This

I was going out and dating this chick for 3-4 months recently.

Bish didn't wanna talk it out and just gave a lame excuse through text to end things. literally just ignored, ghosted and discarded. I flew her out to Hawaii and took her to Vegas too. Was too invested , but wanted to have lots of fun. Some people are just ungrateful and users. In actuality, she was doing me a favor (all kinds of red flags and she showed her true character).

Fuk em

I learned a lot and I'm becoming better everyday. Make them feel like it was their loss.

Hang in there OP. let this empower you to become better.

You're allowed to be miserable and b*tch about her - just don't do anything crazy(er), things will get better and you'll be even happier than before at some point in the future, when you realise that you don't needheror anybody else to feel good.

I've had that happen to me so I'm speaking from experience.

This.

On a different note, I was listening a bit on nihilism. Despite appearing depressing at first, I think there's a comfort that can be found in it when you consider these things: life is random, incalculable, people are unpredictable, any minute could be your last, you can randomly suffer blindness or lose a limb. You're not missing out on a greater-than-life experience by choosing one thing, one place to live, or one person, over another. The fact that nihlists know this means they can better justify doing what they want to do when they want to do it, purposeless is its own comfort, and can enable you to make decisions more akin to your preferences.

getting back together never works. Once it's done, you close that door and move on, not move with her to another state.

Stay strong brother.

This.

Too many people define themselves with their relationship status.

It's important to self reflect on current and past relationships, take in the lessons learned, process the emotions, and realize your actions. But you should never dwell on them for longer than a small fraction of the relationship's duration. 2 months relationship shouldn't warrant more than a week of this. 5+ years relationship might take a couple months and some therapy. Being a sad phark for months or years would just take you away from enjoying and experiencing life, perhaps finding future partners, etc.