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Thread: Anyone else struggling to meet guys at the gym?

post 1657424793 03-06-2022, 02:01 AM
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Anyone else struggling to meet guys at the gym?

Any advice on how to meet guys at the gym?
Most of the guys usually stick to the group of guys they are with. Is it easier to try and join their group, or look for someone solo?

How do you get to truly build a deep bond with guys there, instead of just making random small talk that goes nowhere.

Saw this really tall guy today about 6'3, had really nice shoulders and arms I wanted to meet him but he had headphones on so i didnt want to bother him. IF I see him next time how can i be his friend, would it be a good idea to ask for his number and maybe meet up for coffee later so i dont disturb him too much?

Any tips appreciated
post 1657424893 03-06-2022, 02:15 AM
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Shove a 100lbs dumbbell up your arse, and do a hand stand. Great and effective ice breaker I hear.
post 1657424963 03-06-2022, 02:18 AM
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You’re so cute Lance and I’m 100% dead srs no homo.
post 1657424993 03-06-2022, 02:19 AM
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Originally Posted By Xgamer791⏩
You’re so cute Lance and I’m 100% dead srs no homo.
Thanks bro! Hope you are feeling better
post 1657425033 03-06-2022, 02:21 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Thanks bro! Hope you are feeling better
Yeah I been drinking to much.

Half the time I’m drunk when I misc dead srs.
post 1657425263 03-06-2022, 02:32 AM
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go to a gay gym - duh.
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post 1657425313 03-06-2022, 02:36 AM
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
go to a gay gym - duh.
Do gay gyms even exist? Anyway not into romance or gay stuff, just friendship with guys
post 1657425613 03-06-2022, 02:51 AM
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Set up in front of him and stretch out your spine, works 80% of the time every time

post 1657425873 03-06-2022, 03:04 AM
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post 1657425973 03-06-2022, 03:12 AM
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Originally Posted By Ironface⏩
Try women
Never really interested in talking to women tbh. I prefer to meet guys
post 1657426223 03-06-2022, 03:31 AM
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post 1657426233 03-06-2022, 03:31 AM
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I wouldn't recommend approaching a guy in your gym you don't know, asking for his number and suggest meeting up for a coffee. He will think that you are after more than friendship, say no, and it will just be awkward for both of you.

The only way to start IS with small talk that may appear to go nowhere. Just keep saying hi to these people when you see them and just talk about diet, or lifting, or what pre-workouts they take, or what their training split is. You can't just instantly make strong lifelong bro-bonds off the cuff. The guys who workout in groups may have known each other for decades...you never know.

Are there any bodybuilding or fitness expos in your region that some of the guys are going to? Maybe try and tag along.
Cook the man some eggs!
post 1657426423 03-06-2022, 03:39 AM
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Originally Posted By maori-rap⏩
I wouldn't recommend approaching a guy in your gym you don't know, asking for his number and suggest meeting up for a coffee. He will think that you are after more than friendship, say no, and it will just be awkward for both of you.

The only way to start IS with small talk that may appear to go nowhere. Just keep saying hi to these people when you see them and just talk about diet, or lifting, or what pre-workouts they take, or what their training split is. You can't just instantly make strong lifelong bro-bonds off the cuff. The guys who workout in groups may have known each other for decades...you never know.

Are there any bodybuilding or fitness expos in your region that some of the guys are going to? Maybe try and tag along.
I have a lot of small talks these days. Lots of people I greet, maybe ask about what they are training, and maybe talk for about 20-30 seconds. Whats the best way to strengthen our bond and friendship?

From acquaintance to true friend without it feeling awkward
post 1657479973 03-07-2022, 05:09 AM
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I shall try again and again. Hopefully more positive results from meeting guys tomorrow
post 1657481333 03-07-2022, 05:57 AM
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Try women
post 1657481413 03-07-2022, 06:00 AM
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Put in da poopoo
post 1657481433 03-07-2022, 06:00 AM
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I can't meet anyone anywhere

Nothing goes beyond the awkward Netflix small talk
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post 1657481453 03-07-2022, 06:01 AM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I can't meet anyone anywhere

Nothing goes beyond the awkward Netflix small talk
Same here. I can meet guys, but struggle to take it to the next stage/level
post 1657481863 03-07-2022, 06:11 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Same here. I can meet guys, but struggle to take it to the next stage/level
Just follow them after their workout when they take a shower.
post 1657481963 03-07-2022, 06:13 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Same here. I can meet guys, but struggle to take it to the next stage/level
and by 'next stage/level' you mean anal? Or am i reading this wrong
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post 1657482073 03-07-2022, 06:15 AM
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Originally Posted By RICHSTRONG⏩
and by 'next stage/level' you mean anal? Or am i reading this wrong
No, i mean take it to the next stage of friendship

It starts off as strangers, then after small talk it becomes acquaintances, then friends, then close friends.
I have lots of acquaintances, but very little friends,
post 1657483523 03-07-2022, 06:48 AM
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Originally Posted By lancefraudd⏩
Same here. I can meet guys, but struggle to take it to the next stage/level
I can't even make acquaintances anymore for some reason after I turned 26 I can't relate to anyone

It wasn't a problem when I was early 20s
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post 1657483613 03-07-2022, 06:50 AM
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Is this a guy a chieflini alt? Lmao you'll never be prime Michael jackson boyo, just LDAR already.
post 1657483743 03-07-2022, 06:53 AM
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Ask them for a spot…then proceed on complimenting them ask what their routine is. Then ask what are some good spots to hit up…maybe offer shoot some pool some time, or offer to be a wingman

Most of the gym guys I meet I happen to see them at the bars and we notice each other that we both hit the same gym and chitchat about some of the girls in there or w/e
post 1657483893 03-07-2022, 06:57 AM
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Originally Posted By Shysty021⏩
Ask them for a spot…then proceed on complimenting them ask what their routine is. Then ask what are some good spots to hit up…maybe offer shoot some pool some time, or offer to be a wingman

Most of the gym guys I meet I happen to see them at the bars and we notice each other that we both hit the same gym and chitchat about some of the girls in there or w/e
Yeah i am doing small talk at the moment. I just dont know where to invite them to but playing some pool or the bar sounds cool. Maybe need to strengthen those friendships and talk to them more first
Originally Posted By piramparam⏩
Go boxing srs.

You get to know a dude when you jab him straight to the gabber
Went to boxing and mma classes before. Didn't really meet many guys
post 1657484183 03-07-2022, 07:06 AM
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Never done crossfit but all those guys seem to be pretty tight. Always talking about how many burpees they did lol.
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Originally Posted By jimmybobjim⏩
Is this a guy a chieflini alt? Lmao you'll never be prime Michael jackson boyo, just LDAR already.
He had 2 other threads going this Monday morning; which provides some good entertainment:

1.Everywhere I go, strangers keep walking past me. Anyone else deal with this problem?

https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...hp?t=181162733

2.Any one else here use Instagram to try to meet guys (for friendship)

https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...hp?t=181163193
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