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Thread: How to handle (like an adult) dude from gym making my wife uncomfortable SRS

post 1657628863 03-09-2022, 10:40 AM
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Honestly, she should deal with this. She isn't a child in need of assistance, she's an adult woman.

Think of this as a good opportunity to practice communication and assertiveness.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
No I think after marriage socializing with other men should end. Except in couples context with the husband there also. I know extraverts chat up everyone but I think they should restrict themselves after marriage.

A married woman chatting up a single guy and being chummy and exchanging social media etc is just wrong. It’s disrespectful to entertain the guy’s attention.
Hate to say SS is correct. You just don't socialize with the opposite sex once married, in a group setting is one thing, but one on one interaction especially giving out personal info, will only lead to harm for both parties.

They'll be questioning why their spouse isn't giving them the attention and admiration they are getting elsewhere, which leads to wandering thoughts, resentment, fighting, and ultimately separation. If a married person is feeling neglected, they need to communicate that with their spouse..AND no one else.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I’m not saying she likes the gym guy. I’m saying she is wrong for chatting with him and giving him her IG. It’s disrespectful to her husband. Because generally the only reason men chat with women is with ulterior motive.
You and I have always agreed on this type of thing. A "hi how are you?"/nod in passing is one thing. Repeated chatting and giving an Insta is totally different. I'm pretty old fashioned when it comes to this stuff and I don't do anything shady/flirt, etc when I'm seeing someone. Everything is on the up and up.

I really don't understand giving your ig to someone who's making you feel uncomfortable. All she had to say was "Oh, I'm sorry, I'm married and I don't give that out" Don't even need to be rude.
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
You and I have always agreed on this type of thing. A "hi how are you?"/nod in passing is one thing. Repeated chatting and giving an Insta is totally different. I'm pretty old fashioned when it comes to this stuff and I don't do anything shady/flirt, etc when I'm seeing someone. Everything is on the up and up.

I really don't understand giving your ig to someone who's making you feel uncomfortable. All she had to say was "Oh, I'm sorry, I'm married and I don't give that out" Don't even need to be rude.
Or...simply say she doesn't have one.

Yet again, sloots gon sloot. An immutable law of the universe.
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Originally Posted By Polaris⏩
Or...simply say she doesn't have one.

Yet again, sloots gon sloot. An immutable law of the universe.
Yes, there were multiple options instead of giving it to the guy.
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post 1657630023 03-09-2022, 11:00 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
You and I have always agreed on this type of thing. A "hi how are you?"/nod in passing is one thing. Repeated chatting and giving an Insta is totally different. I'm pretty old fashioned when it comes to this stuff and I don't do anything shady/flirt, etc when I'm seeing someone. Everything is on the up and up.

I really don't understand giving your ig to someone who's making you feel uncomfortable. All she had to say was "Oh, I'm sorry, I'm married and I don't give that out" Don't even need to be rude.
Talked to my girl about this thread to see how she would've handled this and she pretty much said this as well.

If your chick is hot she's going to get hit on a lot at the gym and I wouldn't care if she is short and brief if a guy tries to make small talk with her as I don't expect her to right of the bat be a dick to someone. Now if he repeatedly does it then she needs to bring me up or make sure the guy knows she isn't interested/act annoyed next time he tries talking to her.
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Haven't read this whole thread but I feel like OP's wife might be lowkey trying to make him jealous

Been with my woman for almost 17 years and couldn't give two chits who she talks to, has on her social media, etc
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Originally Posted By jeshelton⏩
Your failed relationship issues come out consistently in threads like this.

It's fun to watch.
Thought this as soon as i read it. lolz. Immediately assumes OP's wife is being chummy with another dude because she spoke to him. JFC. Go see a therapist.
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post 1657632563 03-09-2022, 11:34 AM
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Yeah married women must not chat to men cos sex is a whole vibe that should come with its own red cloak to hide behind
Originally Posted By Destor⏩
Haven't read this whole thread but I feel like OP's wife might be lowkey trying to make him jealous

Been with my woman for almost 17 years and couldn't give two chits who she talks to, has on her social media, etc
Yes and if your wife came to you and said I need you to help me with this person because I’m really uncomfortable would you?
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Yeah married women must not chat to men cos sex is a whole vibe that should come with its own red cloak to hide behind

Yes and if your wife came to you and said I need you to help me with this person because I’m really uncomfortable would you?
If she wanted my help, of course I would

The last comment was more about people talking about disrespect and the overall tone on the last page about partners not being able to talk with members of whatever sex they're attracted to
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Originally Posted By Destor⏩
If she wanted my help, of course I would

The last comment was more about people talking about disrespect and the overall tone on the last page about partners not being able to talk with members of whatever sex they're attracted to
No I got it, just establishing that even non Neanderthals can and will protect their own
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this is why you marry a woman that doesn't use social media outside of family settings and doesn't entertain random weirdos at the gym with small/idle talk. and obviously one that respects your values/feelings enough to have the courage to say "no, not interested"

anything beyond that, yeah i'll intervene.
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post 1657634903 03-09-2022, 12:10 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Good luck with your wife chatting up other dudes goals of 2022
If you cant trust your significant other to even have a conversation with someone of the opposite sex, let alone be mature enough to be able to come to you with a "hey can you help here?" type hint and communication, good luck with your relationship goals the rest of your life. They seem to be progressing well based on your constant need for attention on this forum and obvious pent of issues from past relationships.
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post 1657635143 03-09-2022, 12:13 PM
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Originally Posted By twovalvekid⏩
If you cant trust your significant other to even have a conversation with someone of the opposite sex, let alone be mature enough to be able to come to you with a "hey can you help here?" type hint and communication, good luck with your relationship goals the rest of your life. They seem to be progressing well!
Difference between a hello, and continuous conversations that result in private information exchange.
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opie why wold ur wife give him isntragram. she has prob cheated on u before man becuase sure sojunds like she is abotu to now. srs. dead srs.
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Originally Posted By Paul
Difference between a hello, and continuous conversations that result in private information exchange.
It certainly couldnt be more nuanced than that...
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post 1657635823 03-09-2022, 12:22 PM
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Originally Posted By twovalvekid⏩
It certainly couldnt be more nuanced than that...
Explain the nuance plz.
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Fellas, let's let this thread die. OP is coping or trolling and he isn't coming back to this thread.

Assuming any of this is true, he's probably watching his wife get railed by the gym weasel right now.
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Why cant she handle it and tell him its making her uncomfortable? You could be passive aggressive about it and shove your tongue down her throat and your hand down her pants while he is watching then make eye contact while he is watching. Lastly, go up and tell him to back off because its making her uncomfortable. I think those would be the best most forward ways.

Less effective but still might work: Tell the gym staff to let him know its not cool. But in my opinion, this kinda makes you look like less of a man though. Ithink you should just con front the guy but not in a douche way. He could be just kind of autistic and just doesnt understand boundaries. But i sort of doubt this.
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Originally Posted By thatsnarf⏩
your wife is most likely ugly so she loves the attention. don't let her fool you. "i don't have instagram"
Has OP posted pics of his landwhale wife yet?

never ever seen a decent looking non-overweight chick with a 6'6 255lbs guy unless in the NFL or something.

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Originally Posted By Spazzzzy⏩
Sloots gon sloot


If a girl doesnt like a guy she says fuk off creep or "I'm married". If he keeps approaching she then speaks to gym management and he gets his membership revoked.


This isn't 1950.



Your wife loves the attention and is talking to you about it to see how you react. Recognise it for what it is.
First post best post. I hate to say this OP, but your wife is a stupid fukking whore, and I say that in no disrespect to you. I'm saying it for your sake, cause she's giving you needless trouble, as women love this kind of drama. You seem like a decent guy, so it's ashame you have to deal with it. Cause if it were me well I just wouldn't tolerate it.

I've seen this hundreds of times, by every type of woman. None are immune. Look out for yourself OP and emotionally divest.
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Originally Posted By stezus⏩
I hate to say this OP, but your wife is a stupid fukking whore, and I say that in no disrespect to you.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
It’s actually not even about trust. If you had 100% guarantee that your wife would never cheat, would you still want her chatting up random men at the gym, entertaining their requests for attention, and giving them attention? Why does she need attention from other men and chatty conversations with other men?
Cuz sloots gon sloot. Have you learned nothing?
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Originally Posted By TomWanks⏩
Explain the nuance plz.
Just look back 2 pages to see my previous post.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
It’s actually not even about trust. If you had 100% guarantee that your wife would never cheat, would you still want her chatting up random men at the gym, entertaining their requests for attention, and giving them attention? Why does she need attention from other men and chatty conversations with other men?
Like i said before...."chatting up" isnt what i'd call a sitch where my wife is going "hey this dude is being awkard af and im just trying to avoid a confrontation in a public place from someone giving stranger danger vibes." Go read my previous post a few pages back. Im not typing that chit again.
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Originally Posted By katya422⏩
Worth a shot. Invite him to do something with the two of you as a couple. lol
The guy might think OP is a literal cuck. lmao

Dude, just tell your wife to be a grown up adult and tell him in plain English that she is married and not interested in having male friends or whatever sneaky approach the creep is looking for. If the guy continues to insist after she's made her position clear, then it's time for you to step in and it might, it WILL get ugly.
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Originally Posted By iabs⏩
The guy might think OP is a literal cuck. lmao

Dude, just tell your wife to be a grown up adult and tell him in plain English that she is married and not interested in having male friends or whatever sneaky approach the creep is looking for. If the guy continues to insist after she's made her position clear, then it's time for you to step in and it might, it WILL get ugly.
Not sure he thinks the dude is a cuck if he goes up to the wifey whilst hubby aint around. He's obviously paying attention, but never know.

Solid strategy though. Have wife approach and you provide some close watch team backup and step in if need be. However, like i said above and a few pages back, she could be getting low key stranger danger vibes, wants to avoid stranger danger, and is reaching out for help. If your wife is reaching out for help and your response is "go be a fukking adult babe"....eh
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Hey OP this is 9 pages deep where the fuk are you?
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Originally Posted By jeshelton⏩
Hey OP this is 9 pages deep where the fuk are you?
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