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post 1663547553 06-27-2022, 07:00 PM
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Going to a bar by yourself, lame or not?

I’m 26, just got out of a relationship and lost some of my close friends all recently. I’m absolutely fukking bored and horny af. Thinking about going to a bar but wtf am I to do? Just stand there awkwardly drinking by myself while watching everyone else?
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post 1663547613 06-27-2022, 07:01 PM
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dont go to the bar with the intention of picking up women find another reason

then the women will come

but do whatever the fuk you want, nothing is lame except for doing what other people want you to do. Srs.
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post 1663547623 06-27-2022, 07:02 PM
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Depends how awkward you are in real life.

I travel interstate for work. Going to Sydney this weekend, I'll go to a bar on Saturday by myself and I'll get chatting to a group of people and mix in easily.
Social awareness is pretty important, so you can tell if they are thinking wish this kunt would fck off or if they're genuinly keen for you to chill.
post 1663547693 06-27-2022, 07:03 PM
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post 1663547713 06-27-2022, 07:04 PM
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easiest way to get laid and/or make friends SRS

the demographic of the bar matters, make sure it's catered to mostly people your age. just look around and find someone attractive who's also alone, walk up to them and say "hey my name is jesusxchrist, how are you?"

people like confidence, and people in general will think you're cool just for talking to them. women in particular like being cold approached, it makes them feel special.

if you really don't want to go alone you don't have to. just hop on Tinder and start swiping. invite whoever matches with you to the bar. even you're not that into them at least you're not alone and maybe they can hook you up with someone they know.
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post 1663547863 06-27-2022, 07:08 PM
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Worst case, just get absolutely blasted... you won't have to remember being alone.
post 1663547963 06-27-2022, 07:10 PM
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Originally Posted By Fewski⏩
Worst case, just get absolutely blasted... you won't have to remember being alone.
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post 1663547973 06-27-2022, 07:10 PM
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Originally Posted By deft0nes⏩
easiest way to get laid and/or make friends SRS

the demographic of the bar matters, make sure it's catered to mostly people your age. just look around and find someone attractive who's also alone, walk up to them and say "hey my name is jesusxchrist, how are you?"

people like confidence, and people in general will think you're cool just for talking to them. women in particular like being cold approached, it makes them feel special.
"HI! My name is Deftones! How are you!?"




Just follow a dude into the bathroom so its more private, theyll respect that and probably invite you to his group of smokeshow chicks
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post 1663547983 06-27-2022, 07:10 PM
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As long as you are socially aware and not awkward and won't be cringe or just a depressed ***got who sits there and drinks by themselves... if you give an inviting personality about you, then you'll pull some decent sloots.
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post 1663548013 06-27-2022, 07:10 PM
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I did this once in my life. Went to meet a buddy there that got back from a tour, had an emergency so couldn't make it last minute (he actually did).

I was going to leave but said fuk it and stayed a while just chatting a bit with the bartender. Then people sitting down started talking to me as they crowded around getting drinks. It wasn't super busy but females were especially interested in the bald random sitting alone.

Was actually a good time for a bit.

Not sure how it would be in terms of trying to hook up or going out of my way to do that, but it's not that bad if you're there with the intention to have a couple drinks and unwind. If you're not autistic socially it could be a good time. Otherwise go on a dating app and get a chick to go with you.
post 1663548113 06-27-2022, 07:12 PM
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Before I got married (and our short separation)I used to go to a bar, sit at the bar and just coast on a few beers. Almost every time a woman either with friends or by herself would approach me to start a convo and easily 3/4 I left with.

I say go, relax. Look good but relaxed enough where it doesn’t look like you’re really trying and see what happens.
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post 1663548143 06-27-2022, 07:13 PM
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Originally Posted By DeadlyStriker⏩
I did this once in my life. Went to meet a buddy there that got back from a tour, had an emergency so couldn't make it last minute (he actually did).

I was going to leave but said fuk it and stayed a while just chatting a bit with the bartender. Then people sitting down started talking to me as they crowded around getting drinks. It wasn't super busy but females were especially interested in the bald random sitting alone.

Was actually a good time for a bit.

Not sure how it would be in terms of trying to hook up or going out of my way to do that, but it's not that bad if you're there with the intention to have a couple drinks and unwind. If you're not autistic socially it could be a good time. Otherwise go on a dating app and get a chick to go with you.
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post 1663548173 06-27-2022, 07:13 PM
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post 1663548193 06-27-2022, 07:13 PM
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Originally Posted By Jestbrah⏩
dont go to the bar with the intention of picking up women find another reason

then the women will come

but do whatever the fuk you want, nothing is lame except for doing what other people want you to do. Srs.
Good advice. OP if you're gonna go to a bar by yourself in your scenario, go play some pool or some other activity. Or at the very least the mindset that you simply need to be among people who are looking to be social. If you do go and you're pissed off at the end of the night you didn't get your dick wet, you shouldn't have gone out. Women can smell desperation and rebound looking for puss like cheap cologne.
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post 1663548323 06-27-2022, 07:15 PM
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The older I get the more I understand the older dude that sits at the bar by himself. But you've gotta have the right mindset. Once you DGAF it's the best thing in the world to sit at a bar, grab a burger, and have a few brews for a couple hours. Knowing how to be in your own solitude is a great feeling. Full disclosure I don't get to do this more than a couple times a year.

I think it would be terrible for picking up women unless you were in a hotel bar in a random Tuesday but I'm not sure if that was the scope of my comment.

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post 1663548393 06-27-2022, 07:17 PM
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Originally Posted By jamalfudge⏩
The older I get the more I understand the older dude that sits at the bar by himself. But you've gotta have the right mindset. Once you DGAF it's the best thing in the world to sit at a bar, grab a burger, and have a few brews for a couple hours. Knowing how to be in your own solitude is a great feeling. Full disclosure I don't get to do this more than a couple times a year.

I think it would be terrible for picking up women unless you were in a hotel bar in a random Tuesday but I'm not sure if that was the scope of my comment.

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post 1663548403 06-27-2022, 07:17 PM
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Originally Posted By frankdtank20⏩
Good advice. OP if you're gonna go to a bar by yourself in your scenario, go play some pool or some other activity. Or at the very least the mindset that you simply need to be among people who are looking to be social. If you do go and you're pissed off at the end of the night you didn't get your dick wet, you shouldn't have gone out. Women can smell desperation and rebound looking for puss like cheap cologne.
Yeah definitely noted. New to the bar scene as I’ve only been a few times with a buddy of mine. Also an autist when it comes to functioning in single life because I’ve only been in 4 relationships, two of them long term, so haven’t had much experience out in the dating scene
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post 1663548813 06-27-2022, 07:25 PM
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Originally Posted By jesusxchrist⏩
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Originally Posted By Nonsense916⏩
Bring a sloot
This is probably the better option. Get a hinge or bumble account or something. Chicks love to just go get a random drink on the first date at a younger crowd bar. Even if nothing goes on from there you had someone with you.
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Do it ****g@t.

But srs. I had a period between long-term relationships where I would go out solo every weekend. You gotta be confident AF or at least fake if you have to. Talk to everybody don't go trying to scope the one-night stand sloot. Cannot be awkwardly in a corner getting drunk lol. Be social talk to other bros casually at the bar, in my experience, they lead to other interactions in their groups with other girls. Get out of your head and yolo it for lack of a better term. Doing this regularly met so many bro friends, some one nights, some a few dates a even a long term relationship out it.
post 1663549593 06-27-2022, 07:42 PM
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Originally Posted By jesusxchrist⏩
Yeah definitely noted. New to the bar scene as I’ve only been a few times with a buddy of mine. Also an autist when it comes to functioning in single life because I’ve only been in 4 relationships, two of them long term, so haven’t had much experience out in the dating scene
Well damn, a bar is definitely not a good spot for you alone then unless you have zero expectations. If you do decide to go, remember it's just a place, nothing mystical about it. I bartended for several years and can tell you from the description you give of yourself that you'd repel all poon in your current mindstate. If you go, go solely with the goal of befriending one of the bartenders and/or a random guy here. Yes, a guy, who isn't twice your age. Because then you're being friendly and not giving off desperate vibes, which from the sounds of it you'd definitely give off unintentionally. I've had women approach me in bars (thousands of miles away from where I live), I've had drinks sent to me by random women at a bar. I've taken home cocktail waitresses from bars and strip clubs, all without ever trying, because I wasn't trying. Almost every single time I was concentrated on having a good time with a friend, having some laughs. Not drowing in our sorrows or talking about problems in our lives. Or a few times exploring someplace new in a new city so everything was with fresh eyes. The last thing you want to be is the guy desperately looking around the entire time.
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post 1663549643 06-27-2022, 07:43 PM
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Originally Posted By jesusxchrist⏩
I’m 26, just got out of a relationship and lost some of my close friends all recently. I’m absolutely fukking bored and horny af. Thinking about going to a bar but wtf am I to do? Just stand there awkwardly drinking by myself while watching everyone else?
just have fun or get a drink and sit and people watch people will probably come to you
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