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post 1664590583 07-18-2022, 11:52 AM
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Dating coworkers always a loss?

Has anyone succesfully dated a coworker without it blowing up in their face?
It seems like a very risky move these days, so it's probably smart to not do it. It's crazy to hear how common it seemed how old people met at work before.

So if you make a move on someone who works part time in another department and you can avoid them throughout the working hours, is it worth a shot? Assuming there is already some chemistry and positive interaction established already.

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post 1664590713 07-18-2022, 11:55 AM
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In college, working at a bar....yes. I wouldn't recommend it though.

In the real world.....no.
post 1664591073 07-18-2022, 12:02 PM
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It's a bad idea if you plan to stay for any length of time

You don't want a side show at work


Even in an unserious job :

In college i worked part time at a drug store , started dating a co worker , it went south and i straight up said fk this im out & quit
post 1664591233 07-18-2022, 12:05 PM
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Good luck in this era. Lots of people have historically met their spouse at work.
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post 1664700763 07-20-2022, 12:32 PM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107⏩
In college, working at a bar....yes. I wouldn't recommend it though.

In the real world.....no.
So part time not serious work could be ok, if you can cut your losses and quit.
Putting a serious career on the line seems like a big no ofc.
Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
It's a bad idea if you plan to stay for any length of time

You don't want a side show at work


Even in an unserious job :

In college i worked part time at a drug store , started dating a co worker , it went south and i straight up said fk this im out & quit
Yeah that makes sense, I'd imagine the drama fallout if it doesn't work out would be a headache.
Seems fair to make a move if you can easily quit and it's not that serious of a job.
Originally Posted By frankdtank20⏩
Good luck in this era. Lots of people have historically met their spouse at work.
Yes, but I think it's much less common and more risky now
post 1664700873 07-20-2022, 12:33 PM
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it's 2022

your main concern should be whether it's a genetic female
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post 1664701663 07-20-2022, 12:51 PM
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There are lots of couples at my work. People who've met there and gotten married.
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post 1664702063 07-20-2022, 01:02 PM
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Depends on the situation. If things go south can you avoid them or at least deal with the awkward tension? Can you keep a level head and ignore whatever feelings and keep things professional and civil at work?

I tried it before and the only problem was all the gossip ***got bull**** all the other co-workers did. Had a couple of her orbiters try to dig for dirt on me, go up and tell her I'm talking chit about her, trying to cause problems, etc.
post 1664702883 07-20-2022, 01:19 PM
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Originally Posted By Ratfish⏩
it's 2022

your main concern should be whether it's a genetic female
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post 1664703033 07-20-2022, 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted By Ratfish⏩
it's 2022

your main concern should be whether it's a genetic female
Lol fair, but I haven't seen a single transformer in my city
Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
There are lots of couples at my work. People who've met there and gotten married.
Did they meet recently or many years ago? Seems odd these days idk
Originally Posted By northernlights7⏩
That's dysentery level chitting where you eat.

Dating coworkers is really bad when things go badly (which they often do). That said, even in a best case scenario, it still sucks. When dating someone you work with, or even if they simply work there in a different department/work area, you'll end up talking/bitching about work with them waaaaay more than you should be off the clock. It's unhealthy both for your work life and personal life.
Yeah good point, but could depend on the people tho some people are better at switching off work stuff.
Keeping work and personal seperate is probably the best longterm, I think the key is if you or the coworker plans on working there long term or not.
post 1664703313 07-20-2022, 01:29 PM
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
Depends on the situation. If things go south can you avoid them or at least deal with the awkward tension? Can you keep a level head and ignore whatever feelings and keep things professional and civil at work?

I tried it before and the only problem was all the gossip ***got bull**** all the other co-workers did. Had a couple of her orbiters try to dig for dirt on me, go up and tell her I'm talking chit about her, trying to cause problems, etc.
Yes to both.

Yeah I fukking hate gossip, I'd try to keep it on the down low if it happens.
Did it work out or was the gossip stuff too much of a hazzle?
post 1664703663 07-20-2022, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted By snowergrower⏩
Yeah I fukking hate gossip, I'd try to keep it on the down low if it happens.
As hard as you try, that is not possible in the work place. The second chit goes south she will be telling every female coworker all about you.
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post 1664725673 07-20-2022, 09:50 PM
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NotBadNotBrad fuked a chick from his office and lost his career over it, why dont u ask him?
post 1664725903 07-20-2022, 09:59 PM
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Fukk no. I don't want my personal business part of everyone's gossip at work. (Ded fkn Srs)
post 1664738273 07-21-2022, 08:03 AM
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fuuck no, healthy relations with coworkers is key to a stress free life i would never jeopardize it by trying to smash, always have to maintain space but get along enough to still have a decent time. besides time apart is important for new relationships, doomed to fail if you are with them all the time.
post 1664738593 07-21-2022, 08:07 AM
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It's all fun and games til she dumps you and starts fukking your boss.
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post 1664738833 07-21-2022, 08:14 AM
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i'd say go for it if you plan to switch for a different job and have a backup plan when chit goes south. hard to find women nowadays so why limit yourself. if you don't want to jeopardize your career at a certain place then perhaps it is not best, but if you have career options, sure.

also make sure she's not some batchit insane-o chick that will gossip to everybody about how much of a dick you are and that you have a small penor if the break-up happens badly.
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Originally Posted By snowergrower⏩
Yes to both.

Yeah I fukking hate gossip, I'd try to keep it on the down low if it happens.
Did it work out or was the gossip stuff too much of a hazzle?
It didn't work out mostly due to the gossip. I could handle the gossip and middle school chit they pulled but I guess I expected her to at the very least tell her orbiters to fuk off. It's like when you're dating a girl and she has that one mouthy kunt friend who can't stop talking chit about you, and your girl never tells her to stfu. Eventually you just get fed up with the whole thing and you walk.

But I doubt that kind of chit happens all the time. If I were on your shoes if the coast looks clear I'd give it a shot
post 1664739083 07-21-2022, 08:18 AM
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I always have and it's never been an issue. In the last few years I've noticed a drastic change. People's views on politics and vaccination and so on are too charged now, and as soon as you get close to someone they'll start to prod in this sense. It's not worth the risk anymore.
Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
I tried it before and the only problem was all the gossip ***got bull**** all the other co-workers did. Had a couple of her orbiters try to dig for dirt on me, go up and tell her I'm talking chit about her, trying to cause problems, etc.
Basically this. It doesn't matter how stoic you are, people are too riled up now and seem to want to create drama.
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it depends on your level of maturity and hers
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If you depend on work to date women you're an ugly loser.
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Ironically today I had 2 female managers who are both sexy. One is super fine. I got super hard while talking with her like wtf
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Originally Posted By monster0ultra⏩
Have you tried not having a small penor?
Dude women are like that. My girlfriend stole 1200 from me and then when I told her it was about to get real she pulled out pics of bruises all on her arm that she got from god knows where and said she was going to put it on ******** and threaten to tell coworkers I put them there. Now she wants me to hell her with rent and said if I don’t she will go into the computer at work and erase my Covid shift stuff. I’m like Wtf!!!
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It's fine if you end up actually getting married to them

Anything below that and it's all bad
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Unless you're both really keen and mature you should not even consider it brah, you're better of just finding chicks elsewhere - although in my experience these things are often times unavoidable and based on certain factors outside of your direct control, in the present moment at least.
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Just lol
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In an office environment absolutely not, but any other setting really no issue

Im guessing tradies date other tradies all the time
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Do it
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Ive held down several part time "fun" jobs related to hobbies of mine, always met like-minded women working there.

You really gotta feel out & test if they are trustworthy or not. Before i even slept with them, id test them by royaly pissing them off and id see if they brought the attitude to work or not, or id tell them something verifiably false to see if theyd spread it around.

Then on actual dates, make intentions clear and establish boundaries before fuking them.
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