also im legit just gonna quit masturbating regularly cold turkey so i have lower standards and more reward for meeting girls. so sick of this life

so guys 2 months since my BU

going on a 3rd date tomorrow with one chick

had another date tuesday, went well a very nice chinese girl she was fun and very nice

And I have a spanish chick who wants to meet and said she was deleting her profile (usually a sign of high interest)

I like these girls and I put in a disclosure in my profile that I was recently out of a LTR, I'm afraid of jumping into something too quickly. How can I handle things without being an azzhole if they bring up a relationship... especially around the 3rd date in my experience is when they can bring it up? I've never been good at it, I get in decent shape then these chicks snatch me up and I get fat and depressed a year or two later and dumped and devastated LOL

I mean I wouldn't rule anything out but is it unreasonable to ask for 2 months of dating before deciding on a relationship?

I don't think that's unreasonable to ask them to wait at all?

Why would you get fat and depressed a year or two later?

I think I've nailed it down to a few things, but after awhile it's coping with being unhappy with the direction of the relationship so I've identified I need to communicate my needs stronger. I think the problems started when sex got boring, my ex didn't like any light and I just went with the flow. It got boring and I stopped having sex as much and I think that resulted in me being complacent / unmotivated in the relationship in the later stages

Don't see what's wrong with that, bring it up if you want, I don't think you have to

I would be wary of the Spanish chick already deleting her profile and this and that, I find the ones that fall for you quickly are crazy af

MAY be nothing

just something to keep in mind

spanish women treat you like a king, but I see that they tend to be a little insecure especially in their 30s. She didn't end up deleted it, I didn't really say anything about it when she mentioned it

just scored on my date tonight hnnggggg. I really believed the misc when they said dating apps got worst over the past few years I wasn't single but seems like it's easier than ever.

went on 3 dates with a cute girl. In my eyes I am doing good and acting normal but she's really giving me a hard time for being too quiet. "I feel like I'm talking your head off the whole time." "Am I annoying you???" "I feel like I don't know anything about you."

Not sure what to do. I try talking about restaurants, tv shows, hobbies, work. I feel like I am but apparently I'm not. I'm a quiet guy. WTF am I supposed to say to these hoes??

btw she just talks about food 90% of the time lol

sounds like an ideal situation if you ask me. IMO let her talk 80% of the time. She has to work to find out stuff about you. Being a good communicator is mostly letting people talk about their favorite subject, themselves. If she brings it up again I'd just turn it on her, "you can ask questions too" don't actively change anything you're doing, could be some sort of chit test.

update myself got a 4th date with the chick i smashed last week, she does 100% of the chasing at this point

messaged the Chinese chick after our date monday (6 days later) after the date. Haven't heard back yet which was surprising.

matches slowed down a bit, might have to reinstall apps soon with some change in the pictures

the Spanish chick was sending me pics of her (on vacation) writing my name in the sand. she's coming back tomorrow we're suppose to meet sunday

You waited 6 days after the date to message and are surprised she hasn't responded? Wouldn't be surprised if you don't hear from her again.

lol'd at sloot logic

she has a phone too lol

you're right if she's insecure, good to weed them out early

what do you do about sloots texting u throughout the day? i cant be arsed to respond more than "yeah lol" or "haha"
if u wanna talk, come over. otherwise f off -_-

Has nothing to do with insecurity. It's showing low/no interest if you wait 6 days.

Yeah you can't wait for 6 days you got to wait for 6 years

Once you wait for 6 decades then she'll fall madly in love with you.

After 6 centuries the both of you will get married and have kids in a castle.

In your specific case, just tell them you're not paying them for that.

I'd go NC too if I picked up on someone intentionally playing texting mind games. It has nothing to do with insecurity.

Guys do this as they'll send Snaps throughout the day with dumb faces and I don't know how to respond?

Do you like that?

No. It’s annoying but I’m 50 so it’s a generational thing.

Sup brahs it’s been a while. Been dating off and on and then took a break for a while. Just jumped back on the apps maybe 3 weeks ago.

So I went on hinge and also tinder (I was drunk and bored when I made the tinder, actually hate that app normally). In my short time on tinder (deleted it quickly bc I felt regret) I matched with a cute girl I once matched with on hinge and chatted with briefly. We never met the first time, but this time we’ve been matching one another’s energy. I liked what she said on her bio, basically saying she wants a friend first but wants a relationship. I liked basically everything she wrote about herself, and the things she said she likes/ is looking for was pretty much the perfect match for me. I ended up texting her because I already had her number from last time. She was leaving on a family vacation to visit home, and we kept in touch the whole time (she sent a bunch of pics and positive messages etc, good vibes)

We’ve now been on 4 dates, good chemistry, lots in common, and we’ve been physical starting on the 3rd date. I’ve been to her place, met her sister and roommates etc, and she drove an hour to visit me this weekend. Things are good however I feel a bit weird bc she’s been pretty sexual, more than I thought she’d be this soon which is great, but naturally I’m wondering if she’s doing that with others since she’s on at least two apps, but I can tell she likes being around me a lot, always replies to me in decent time, and is making time for dates even though she works a lot. I’m playing it cool because I like her and don’t want to seem controlling or too interested yet, I feel my effort and actions have shown strong interest.

Anyways I don’t have a question for the board really, just wanted to check in. I’m gonna hit her up to go to dinner this week and see if she invites me over again after. I am not getting my hopes up too much and still trying to chat with other girls, but I can’t help but be interested and a bit excited about her. Feel like things haven’t gone right with the last few girls but I’m trying to go with the flow and not be too serious yet. I suppose the next few dates will tell me a lot.

So had a gf of 4 months that ended things 2 weeks ago. She thought about it the week before then we talked and she spent the night two nights in a row then bailed on me for weekends plans and I got pissed and we argued. Then silence for a day, followed by I just need space, then 10 mins later some minor things that were bothering her, then a I really like you but don't think I want to be in a relationship right now - all over text. It seemed like she was extremely unsure of what she wanted. We were spending the night together a lot and think I got a bit too into it too quick and she got hesitant.

Last week she asked about coming to get her stuff and said she'd bring back all mine, I told her what day would work and she said that will probably work - I'll let you know. Never heard anything and I didn't ask. Got some random snapchats from her when she was drinking this weekend, but still nothing about exchanging our stuff and I don't know what to think about it?

It's hard to meet others when you have a lot of interest in one because you don't know who else they're dating or what's going on. You can just hope that things go well to the next step.Gosh it sounds like so many girls are like that these days. They don't know what they want and they're all over the place. It sounds like you dodged a bullet.

UPDATE:

I matched with a 53 year old guy who said he's "mostly vegan" on his profile and he did a lot of cardio sports. I told him that I'm a lacto-ovo vegetarian so it's good that we have that in common. Well he went on to lecture me nonstop about how bad milk and eggs are for my health and to watch these documentaries and I told him I know all about being vegan as I've been vegan off and on over the years. Then I asked him what does he like to do for fun for trolling. Radio silence........! Then he responded that he didn't think we were a good match. LOL.

Older men are not that fun at all!

OMG girl so happy you found another lacto-ovo vegetarian match.

He's a vegan and he didn't like that I eat milk (mostly whey protein powder and greek yogurt) and eggs so he said we aren't a match. Just lol. I told him that he needs to find another vegan and put that on his profile.

I've been vegan off and on but I swear most are insufferable with their preaching. I don't preach my chit to others. Being vegetarian is my personal thing because of my animal rights background.

I often do this recently when dating. Start liking a girl, lots in common, good chemistry. She shows interest. Then I start overthinking. Girl was giving hints she wants to see me again, (texted me randomly she was thinking of me and kissing me) so I suggested plans the next day (we live not super close). We did just hangout Fri/Sat and had a good time. Been on 4 dates so far.

She hasn’t replied in 5 hours. Obviously plan isn’t happening and that’s ok, but it’s amazing how quickly things shift and I feel like I rushed making plans, has to be my own insecurities. She does work extremely early so maybe she went home and fell asleep, but I have trust issues. Maybe I never got over the trust issues after being cheated on once but that was super long ago now. It’s just weird.

Anyone else feel weird when the return text is lagging? This is the first time I feel she’s being mildly inconsiderate, before this it’s been fairly quick replies. But I’m sure she’ll tell me a legit reason later. Any advice to calm down and not care so much (besides just ‘focus on yourself’). Btw I should be bothered this much because we never confirmed plans, but I thought she’d text me back since this morning she texted me she’d be off early.

If that is not her norm then it would bother me too. I think it's normal to get used to patterns and when things don't happen like normal then you start over thinking it. Don't be so hard on yourself. You're only human.

I also don't think it was too soon to ask to see her again. If you like someone of course you're going to want to spend time with them. If you really like her maybe you should make it known and since you've already had sex I don't think it's too soon to ask for exclusivity. You can frame it as you're not saying it should be a relationship this soon but that you prefer exclusivity with sex.

Thanks. Yea I asked her fairly quick after she texted she was thinking about kissing me. I felt like showing interest rather than playing games and waiting..

Anyways, she just texted me after 8 hours and the reply is hard for me to believe. She basically said “oh! How did I not see this? I’m so sorry. I thought you never replied lol”
Is it just me or does that seem far fetched to believe? How would she not see a text to begin with if she cared about potential plans, and wouldn’t she double check after a few hours.. she is a busy girl and I think can be a bit scatterbrained at times but it still seems unlikely she wouldn’t see it or double check it.

I do understand she worked kind of crazy hours from super early morning but she got off at noon today. First time I’m getting weird vibes. Anyways, I’m feeling like not replying to her until tomorrow. What the hell am I supposed to reply to that with..
Don’t want to act too bitter/petty since she hasn’t done this before but it kind of makes me believe her less.
May just let it go and say “no worries, have a good night” and let her reach out to me next.

No he unmatched me after I told him that it sounds like he should find another vegan.

Older men are frustrating as hell.