Hey guys,

Been dating this girl for two months now.

She is 33. I am 32.

I am not sure it will work out though...

Disclaimer: I am conservative guy. She seemed like a girl with compatible values up to now. Maybe she was trying to impress me. However, in just in a very short period of time, all of the following happened:

NOTE: I am not saying she is a bad person however I am not sure it can work out.

Her best friend dates a married man and she expects me to chill with them.

Another best friend is very reckless. She does drugs (light), cheats on her bf, etc.

This week, my gf chilled twice with a friend. Said friend chilled with people who were confirmed COVID cases. My gf said she took precautions, but I am still not down with this as she knew about the risk...

Gf told me she had weed at her place and explained that her friend used to date a drug dealer and they would chill at her place.

They go out to stripclubs.

Man, this is like a punch in the face for me.

Again, I am not judging more open / party people, just not aligned with my values...

I have two options:

1) Asking her how she views our future as I am more conservative and that her friends are wild (and that she seems to not care much). It's more her friends than her. However, they are clearly part of her life.

2) Breaking things out.

Sh0t hurts because I really like the girl.

Canceled a supper they had planned this evening with the cheating couple... Told them I was worried about the COVID story. Honestly I just need to think.

Any thoughts?

Srs thread.

EDIT: Funny how I dated very cool chicks in the past, however I never felt anxious like this in a relationship. Like ever. Guess it's a sign?

Stopped reading at bolded. Whores run in packs. You are who you surround yourself with. End it and save yourself the misery.

Also where are the phucking pictures

huge red flag with a woman who knowingly hangs out and is friends with morally devoid indvidual's




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She sounds trashy. You can’t ask her to change her friends. If she wasn’t trashy she would have cut those ties a long time ago.

Don’t get involved.

Drug dealers? Goodluck getting caught in the middle once they find out you got cash or connections.

she drug girl she bad

2 months ain’t chit and already all this??? Time to take a trip to North Carolina srs.

Seems like she's surrounded by a plethora of druggies and degens in her life. Don't worry op I'm sure she's the moral and upstanding one of the bunch.

^ loled

'Show me your friends, ill show you your future' I always liked this quote.

haaaaa yeah you need to leave friendo...

please keep us updated

I guess it depends.

I am casual friends with a guy who also sells drugs, but I also would never let the relationship progress past a certain point. He hangs out with mostly decent/cool people who like to party(non-degenerates, other than staying up late and doing drugs), and that's pretty much my reason for chillin with him. If I ever got a serious girlfriend, I would likely never introduce her to these people as they are just in my life for fun and I'd keep that entirely separate.

If these are your girl's "Best Friends", she could be different and just have an affinity for degenerates. But it would definitely warrant a closer look at your girl.

One of my longtime friends met his wife in college(they were next door neighbors), and she lived with a bunch of kinda trashy fat white girls who were dating older black guys who sold drugs(I actually fuked the least fat one once when I was drunk). He dated her for like 4-5 more years, and eventually she stopped hanging out with these girls and they got married. Have been very successfully married for like 10 years, and she has been an awesome wife for him.

So long story short, it can definitely work. But just wait it out longer to see if she's just a good girl around the scene or if she's actually one of them. You might as well get some pussy, and relax a bit. Let things flow naturally.

Treat her like a fuk doll. Do the most degenerate things you can think of. Have fun for a year and bolt.

That's the impression I got initially, that she is a good girl. Her friends are really what I can't stand. However, they are clearly a part of her life. This is tough man.

My goal is to settle down and I am not sure this is the one even though we get along so well.

Sucks to catch feelings. Even when you know it won't work, still feel like sh0t...

Have you already fuked her a bunch of times?

If you think she's a good girl, keep paying attention. But just don't be desperate. If she's trashy and not gf material, she will eventually reveal herself. It could be that she's just a girl in her 30s and doesn't have anybody else to hang out with.

get out now.

This basically says that you haven't had a relationship with a good girl ever.

No hate. Good girls have good friends with good guys. No funny business. Maybe the occasional swing. Maybe the occasional makeout with another persons boyfriend. I mean hey, everybody in the circle is hot when its foundation is a bunch of good girls, so its fair.

Damn its good to be hot

Yes we had sex on third date and had sex regularly since then (at least twice a week).

Makes sense I could just keep going - seems like the correct thing to do.

However, the whole situation makes me anxious. Kinda sucks.

I am really conflicted between ending up everything (because of how it makes me feel) and have a talk about the fact that I am really conflicted with her friends' values...

I appreciate the advice man.

Lmao at this loser mindset.

Any non loser gets alot of pusy outside relationships. Why waste a year on some hoe?
Only people with no access to pusy think this way. Latching on to whatever they Can Get their hands on. But who was self respect?

I did man - and I can compare... The problem is that it's not her directly, but more her best friends. At the same time, I get the feeling that they have a strong personality compared to her's and that she could be easily influenced...

Really, I am not desperate to f*** chicks. I am more on my end game now. Trying to find the good chick to settle down and one day, probably have kids.

Oh my phucking god I'm negging your dumb ass for listening to the one retard in this thread that happens to support your simping mindset. You deserve everything coming your way if you stay with her. Good luck bro.

^ I am probably blinded by the "feels" bro. I don't know.

It's over

Additional thought: I am always cold headed when I start dating and tell myself that I am going to take things slow and look out for significant red flags in the first few months. Always harder once you catch them feels.

Does she have any normal friends who are actually good people? I've got a few shady friends...pretty sure most of us do but that seems like a bit too much.

I'm not sure what to tell you but if you like her, have a serious conversation about what you're feeling/concerns.

Good luck.

Pretty hard to swing that unless you can provide her with alternate friends. What are your buddies' women like? If they are well-behaved then bring her around your friends and introduce her. Give her good influences instead of bad. You can't just expect her to break it off with her friends then have nothing.

This is like you standing in a fire asking us if you should get out of it.

Thanks for your post.

Same here - although with years I have consciously distanced myself from those people and not follow them in their wild adventures.

I am torn between ending this here and having the talk.

I really don't want to give her an ultimatum (would never do that).

I am more curious to know how she views her friends vs. my conservative life... I doubt she will have anything to say...

Lol. No high value man at age 32 would date a woman above 30. Second, if a woman gave it up within the first week or 2, I would lose all respect and never think of her as marriage material

Chicks hanging out at strip clubs? Wot?

I haven't been to a strip club myself, but that sounds weird as chit, even weird/trashy amongst everything else.

^They went twice recently (before we were dating) and thought it was funny.

They were hinting to go back on tonight's supper (which I canceled).