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not scared of the virus, just that I can't allow to miss work
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08-19-2022, 06:29 AM
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Break up with her.
08-19-2022, 06:29 AM
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Originally Posted By Looksmaxxer101⏩
i may sound like a douche but i am strongly considering this...go no contact and chill on your own for a bit
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Give it up srs, not like she’s in her early 20s where then can be some leeway with wanting to still be friends with them.
Those shores will never turn around and your gf will probably even make excuses about their actions.
Even if your gf is a good girl, those whores will always try to negatively influence her, especially if you get into a fight etc. They are worse than your girl having a male best friend.
Keep phukking her if you want but move on emotionally and pick better next time, at least this time it was early and not a year or more in. Your only real hope honestly is probably to just break up with her and keep it 100 on why you did and she either comes around months down the line or just sticks with those losers and you know you made the right choice.
Those shores will never turn around and your gf will probably even make excuses about their actions.
Even if your gf is a good girl, those whores will always try to negatively influence her, especially if you get into a fight etc. They are worse than your girl having a male best friend.
Keep phukking her if you want but move on emotionally and pick better next time, at least this time it was early and not a year or more in. Your only real hope honestly is probably to just break up with her and keep it 100 on why you did and she either comes around months down the line or just sticks with those losers and you know you made the right choice.
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Originally Posted By newbuck⏩
Makes a lot of sense man, thanks.Give it up srs, not like she’s in her early 20s where then can be some leeway with wanting to still be friends with them.
Those shores will never turn around and your gf will probably even make excuses about their actions.
Even if your gf is a good girl, those whores will always try to negatively influence her, especially if you get into a fight etc. They are worse than your girl having a male best friend.
Keep phukking her if you want but move on emotionally and pick better next time, at least this time it was early and not a year or more in. Your only real hope honestly is probably to just break up with her and keep it 100 on why you did and she either comes around months down the line or just sticks with those losers and you know you made the right choice.
Those shores will never turn around and your gf will probably even make excuses about their actions.
Even if your gf is a good girl, those whores will always try to negatively influence her, especially if you get into a fight etc. They are worse than your girl having a male best friend.
Keep phukking her if you want but move on emotionally and pick better next time, at least this time it was early and not a year or more in. Your only real hope honestly is probably to just break up with her and keep it 100 on why you did and she either comes around months down the line or just sticks with those losers and you know you made the right choice.
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08-19-2022, 06:59 AM
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Originally Posted By dabbmw2002⏩
Thanks man - the only reason I would explain my point of view is that she may tell me that those are her wild friends but that's not the lifestyle she wants. She already had doubts that I was not down with her friends' lifestyle and she hinted something like "you know I have other friends...".Your gut is telling you something. Listen.
You don't have to break up, just understand it is not a serious thing. If she asks about where things stand, be honest and say you want to keep things casual.
Never try to explain yout concerns to her. People are who they are, and being confronted with who they are, they never fess up and change for the better. It'll create drama and allow her to start the manipulations and mind games. Like others said, her friends will negatively influence her especially if they think you are judging them and pulling her away from them. They'll chit talking you so fast, and she'll take their side. Women never go against their friends, so if their friends aren't good people that will always be a problem.
If you break up with her, dont tell her why. She'll make promises and make you second guess, which is more drama. Dont do no contact thoough, thats not warranted here.
You don't have to break up, just understand it is not a serious thing. If she asks about where things stand, be honest and say you want to keep things casual.
Never try to explain yout concerns to her. People are who they are, and being confronted with who they are, they never fess up and change for the better. It'll create drama and allow her to start the manipulations and mind games. Like others said, her friends will negatively influence her especially if they think you are judging them and pulling her away from them. They'll chit talking you so fast, and she'll take their side. Women never go against their friends, so if their friends aren't good people that will always be a problem.
If you break up with her, dont tell her why. She'll make promises and make you second guess, which is more drama. Dont do no contact thoough, thats not warranted here.
I guess actions speak louder than words though.
May be mind games like you are mentioning too.
Sucks because she gives me the impression of a naive girl getting dragged by her friends. However if she has no sense of judgement, it's not a woman I want to trust with my kids.
My previous serious gfs had great common sense which I really appreciated.
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Originally Posted By dabbmw2002⏩
Makes a lot of sense - I guess I will just come up with a vague reason to break up when I see her. No need for drama or explanation. I agree.They are NEVER naive. Women are light years ahead in mind games and manipulation. Men struggle to understand this because we don't function or think the way they do. Don't fall for that.
Good people hang around other good people and if she's now hinting that she has other friends, it is only because she realizes you are turned off by it. In the short term, she may pretend to draw away from them but bet your ass she will eventually let them creep back into her life.
Good people hang around other good people and if she's now hinting that she has other friends, it is only because she realizes you are turned off by it. In the short term, she may pretend to draw away from them but bet your ass she will eventually let them creep back into her life.
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One of my good buddies is a derelict loser, has been to jail, sells tons of drugs, always out cheating on women. Im the complete opposite.
Figure out who she is. If shes someone not easily swayed from her values, it isnt a deal breaker. If she seems to be easily guided by those around her, is easily persuaded or convinced in general, isnt sure of herself, etc id run. If you know her this shouldnt be hard.
I tell whomever im with that some of my friends are PoS. If you are a decent person and confident in who you are, have trust in the relationship then it should be a non issue to hang sometimes. Id personally be against hanging with the married dude, thats where I would draw the line.
"I dont feel comfortable with this based on my values. Im not sure how you do--can you explain it to me?"
Figure out who she is. If shes someone not easily swayed from her values, it isnt a deal breaker. If she seems to be easily guided by those around her, is easily persuaded or convinced in general, isnt sure of herself, etc id run. If you know her this shouldnt be hard.
I tell whomever im with that some of my friends are PoS. If you are a decent person and confident in who you are, have trust in the relationship then it should be a non issue to hang sometimes. Id personally be against hanging with the married dude, thats where I would draw the line.
"I dont feel comfortable with this based on my values. Im not sure how you do--can you explain it to me?"
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Originally Posted By dabbmw2002⏩
I know right. At the same time, I would like to find my life partner within the next few years.I don't think you should, have fun but just keep it casual! You need to learn the art of enjoying women without allowing them to get into your head or catching feelings.
Originally Posted By FlexLex⏩
Thanks a lot.One of my good buddies is a derelict loser, has been to jail, sells tons of drugs, always out cheating on women. Im the complete opposite.
Figure out who she is. If shes someone not easily swayed from her values, it isnt a deal breaker. If she seems to be easily guided by those around her, is easily persuaded or convinced in general, isnt sure of herself, etc id run. If you know her this shouldnt be hard.
I tell whomever im with that some of my friends are PoS. If you are a decent person and confident in who you are, have trust in the relationship then it should be a non issue to hang sometimes. Id personally be against hanging with the married dude, thats where I would draw the line.
"I dont feel comfortable with this based on my values. Im not sure how you do--can you explain it to me?"
Figure out who she is. If shes someone not easily swayed from her values, it isnt a deal breaker. If she seems to be easily guided by those around her, is easily persuaded or convinced in general, isnt sure of herself, etc id run. If you know her this shouldnt be hard.
I tell whomever im with that some of my friends are PoS. If you are a decent person and confident in who you are, have trust in the relationship then it should be a non issue to hang sometimes. Id personally be against hanging with the married dude, thats where I would draw the line.
"I dont feel comfortable with this based on my values. Im not sure how you do--can you explain it to me?"
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I want to send her this and see how she reacts:
hey i am sorry again for canceling yesterday - i hope you understand. also i am must admit that i just can't go out with XXX and XXX. it feels like encouraging adultery and i just can't. i'd really like to see you this weekend to talk about this
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hey i am sorry again for canceling yesterday - i hope you understand. also i am must admit that i just can't go out with XXX and XXX. it feels like encouraging adultery and i just can't. i'd really like to see you this weekend to talk about this
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Originally Posted By SickIsForever⏩
This is a conversation for in person.I want to send her this and see how she reacts:
hey i am sorry again for canceling yesterday - i hope you understand. also i am must admit that i just can't go out with XXX and XXX. it feels like encouraging adultery and i just can't. i'd really like to see you this weekend to talk about this
inb4 flames lol
hey i am sorry again for canceling yesterday - i hope you understand. also i am must admit that i just can't go out with XXX and XXX. it feels like encouraging adultery and i just can't. i'd really like to see you this weekend to talk about this
inb4 flames lol
"Hey, sorry for canceling yesterday. Had a lot going on. Id like to see you and talk a bit"
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08-19-2022, 08:15 AM
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Originally Posted By SickIsForever⏩
OhboyI want to send her this and see how she reacts:
hey i am sorry again for canceling yesterday - i hope you understand. also i am must admit that i just can't go out with XXX and XXX. it feels like encouraging adultery and i just can't. i'd really like to see you this weekend to talk about this
inb4 flames lol
hey i am sorry again for canceling yesterday - i hope you understand. also i am must admit that i just can't go out with XXX and XXX. it feels like encouraging adultery and i just can't. i'd really like to see you this weekend to talk about this
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What are you apologizing again for? You canceled and gave a reason I assume. That's good enough. I'd encourage you to stop texting like an emo chick from 2007
"I am sorry again"
"I hope you understand"
"I must admit"
"It feelz"
"I'd really like to see you <3 <3"
Cmon bruh the fuk is this. Grab a hold of your scrotum. I mean that. Literally cup them in your palm for a couple mins, feel them and massage them. That is what you own, because you're a man.
This whole situation seems to me like she's a degen who fukked around in her 20s just like her other degen friends. Got pumped and dumped over and over again, messed up her mind and decided that it's time to pretend to change so she can get a betabux to settle and provide for her. Any miscers disagree with my assessment?
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Originally Posted By Coal
your assessment makes sense manOhboy
What are you apologizing for? You canceled and gave a reason I assume. That's good enough. I'd encourage you to stop texting like an emo chick from 2007
"I am sorry again"
"I hope you understand"
"I must admit"
"It feelz"
"I'd really like to see you <3 <3"
Cmon bruh the fuk is this. Grab a hold of your scrotum. I mean that. Literally cup them in your palm for a couple mins, feel them and massage them. That is what you own, because you're a man.
This whole situation seems to me like she's a degen who fukked around in her 20s just like her other degen friends. Got pumped and dumped over and over again, messed up her mind and decided that it's time to pretend to change so she can get a betabux to settle and provide for her. Any miscers disagree with my assessment?
What are you apologizing for? You canceled and gave a reason I assume. That's good enough. I'd encourage you to stop texting like an emo chick from 2007
"I am sorry again"
"I hope you understand"
"I must admit"
"It feelz"
"I'd really like to see you <3 <3"
Cmon bruh the fuk is this. Grab a hold of your scrotum. I mean that. Literally cup them in your palm for a couple mins, feel them and massage them. That is what you own, because you're a man.
This whole situation seems to me like she's a degen who fukked around in her 20s just like her other degen friends. Got pumped and dumped over and over again, messed up her mind and decided that it's time to pretend to change so she can get a betabux to settle and provide for her. Any miscers disagree with my assessment?
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08-19-2022, 08:24 AM
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Originally Posted By SickIsForever⏩
You seem like a good dude op but you can't be so caring and sensitive. Even if she's a great girl you need to be a man and speak and text like one. If she opens her chat with you and can't tell if it's you or her gf without looking at the name then you got a problem.your assessment makes sense man
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You may be right, I don't know. Always dated decent chicks and been the same. I get a lot of hate but I am always sweet. That's my style.
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Two things.
1) You are the company you keep. And her company seems like trash.
2) If you married her, these are the people your children would be around.
1) You are the company you keep. And her company seems like trash.
2) If you married her, these are the people your children would be around.
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I dated women like that before.
She is a good girl but all the people she hangs out with are trash
But she still hangs out with them
But their actions don't reflect her
But you think they are trashy people? Omg don't talk about my friends that way.
She's trying to have her cake and eat it, too. I would put money on her being a piece of chit just like her friends when you are not around. She also likely brags that she landed a chump who will treat her right despite all her bull****.
Better yet these same trash bag friends WILL convince her to cheat and slut it up when they have their girls night out.
For me personally I used to be friends with some chitty people and I had to walk away from that. Bad influences, crabs in a bucket will drag you down to their level, etc. Good people will want to associate with good people; water seeks and attracts its own level
She is a good girl but all the people she hangs out with are trash
But she still hangs out with them
But their actions don't reflect her
But you think they are trashy people? Omg don't talk about my friends that way.
She's trying to have her cake and eat it, too. I would put money on her being a piece of chit just like her friends when you are not around. She also likely brags that she landed a chump who will treat her right despite all her bull****.
Better yet these same trash bag friends WILL convince her to cheat and slut it up when they have their girls night out.
For me personally I used to be friends with some chitty people and I had to walk away from that. Bad influences, crabs in a bucket will drag you down to their level, etc. Good people will want to associate with good people; water seeks and attracts its own level
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
100% with you manI dated women like that before.
She is a good girl but all the people she hangs out with are trash
But she still hangs out with them
But their actions don't reflect her
But you think they are trashy people? Omg don't talk about my friends that way.
She's trying to have her cake and eat it, too. I would put money on her being a piece of chit just like her friends when you are not around. She also likely brags that she landed a chump who will treat her right despite all her bull****.
Better yet these same trash bag friends WILL convince her to cheat and slut it up when they have their girls night out.
For me personally I used to be friends with some chitty people and I had to walk away from that. Bad influences, crabs in a bucket will drag you down to their level, etc. Good people will want to associate with good people; water seeks and attracts its own level
She is a good girl but all the people she hangs out with are trash
But she still hangs out with them
But their actions don't reflect her
But you think they are trashy people? Omg don't talk about my friends that way.
She's trying to have her cake and eat it, too. I would put money on her being a piece of chit just like her friends when you are not around. She also likely brags that she landed a chump who will treat her right despite all her bull****.
Better yet these same trash bag friends WILL convince her to cheat and slut it up when they have their girls night out.
For me personally I used to be friends with some chitty people and I had to walk away from that. Bad influences, crabs in a bucket will drag you down to their level, etc. Good people will want to associate with good people; water seeks and attracts its own level
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08-19-2022, 09:02 AM
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Originally Posted By SickIsForever⏩
Not trying to be insultive but if you want to say your sweet sensitive persona works, as evidenced by all your "decent" exes eventually leaving you then that's not a compelling point.You may be right, I don't know. Always dated decent chicks and been the same. I get a lot of hate but I am always sweet. That's my style.
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Originally Posted By Coal
Lol don't want to derail. Was not left by exes. It is the opposite.Not trying to be insultive but if you want to say your sweet sensitive persona works, as evidenced by all your "decent" exes eventually leaving you then that's not a compelling point.
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