this might sound odd to some of you, but every chick ive been with in the past (except one tinder sloot i met, ironically enough) has not asked/made me wear a condom when ive been with them. and these girls were not dirty bar sloots. they were normal, decent girls who take care of themselves. i got into relationships with a few of them.

Because of this, now i just assume that all girls will be like this with me. From what i understand, is that if a girl is into you she will care less about the risks of unwanted pregnancy/std's so on.. so the fact that this girl is kinda preoccupied with it, is a bit of a hit to my ego. Obviously I'm not intending to get anyone pregnant, and i dont have any STDs, but its the principle of them just wanting me enough to not care about me wrapping it up.

so i met a girl (in person, not online) around 1 month ago. we went back to my place but she was on her period so we didn't do anything. 3rd date we smashed, but like said she asked me to wrap it. at this stage, cos i only just met her recently, i was like 'tbh thats a good thing, means she's responsible, etc. and in a few dates she will probs be cool without'

so in total ive slept with her maybe 7 times now. the last time i tried to put it in raw and she stopped me and said 'its just too risky for me' and i reply 'you know im not gonna come insisde you' .. and she's like 'yeah but still ...' so i play it off like ok cool no worries and go get a shower.

later dropping her back she asks if im mad about it. i say im not mad but its something we can discuss another time (it was 6am and i really wasn't in the mood). we haven't spoken about it since.

she has mentioned going on the pill once in passing, but i never pushed it because

a) i haven't been seeing her long and if i break up with her, i'd feel a bit guilty about it
b) ive heard chicks on the pill get super crazy and emotional and not sure i can be bothered
c) if she forgets to take it/intentionally doesn't take it, im gonna have kids. unless i pull out in addition to that, but seems a waste.

this girl wants to be serious with me, and is basically treating me like I'm her boyfriend.
I'm not sure id be cool wrapping it with a girl who is my girlfriend. it just seems odd. like there's a lack of trust of something.

I feel 95% sure i could call her bluff and say if you wanna be serious with me then this is gonna have to change. I think if i was willing to walk away cos of it she would bend. but it still doesn't solve the main issue which is why she's so adamant about it in the first place.

we're talking like normal atm but its kinda bothering me. thoughts?

Cliffs:

- chick wont let me hit it raw, not even put it in and pull out
- has mentioned in passing going on the pill once but i didn't push it cos of reasons above
- its hitting my ego cos i feel if she was super into me she wouldnt care

Seems like she has boundaries.

As you mentioned your ego is hurt.

You two want different things. Find another girl mate.

There might be a medical reason she is not on the pill. Like high blood pressure, adverse effects or something.

I have encountered this before. Just talk through it.

It's possible she's doing this because she both A) doesn't want to get on BC because of hormone imbalances and B) doesn't want to get pregnant. I dealt with that with my last exgf. It was either condom sex, or infrequent sex scheduled around her ovulation and such. That went on for nearly 3 years before she got the IUD. It wasn't anything against me, she just was very sensitive to hormone changes and also terrified of getting pregnant. Latina, so...


If that's the case OP, i'd respect it and maybe see if she'd consider the IUD. You don't want an unwanted pregnancy...trust me on that one. If it's some other reason, talk it out with her.

No sex > Condom sex

Give it time, it's only been 3 months. There could be a lot of reasons why she's asking you to wear one. She might have a better idea than we do though, ask her

R u fking retarded dude ?

Not everybody wants to have unprotected sex

Good on her for making a smart choice

It's odd that you take that much exception to a girl wanting you to use a condom

Raw dog or no dog mane

If you guys are legit dating then have a convo about possibly an IUD instead of the pill.

Either way it ain't your choice to make though.

Either she's afraid of giving you an std that her new bf gave her or she's scared that you might give her an std that she doesn't want to give to her new bf.

Those are the worst.

Buy a ticket to brown town and raw dog her up the chitta, mate. Don't be a cheeky kunt.

A i Ds over baby is always the best option

I'm glad you brought this up. Typical Misc attitude includes all of the following:

* Abortion is murder. Women need to be responsible if they choose to have sex.
* Wrapping it is worse than not having sex - raw dog or no dog, bruh, always cum inside.
* I don't understand why these sloots just won't give it up to me. I need some, too.

Typical miscer wants women to give it up freely, unwrapped, and without a choice if she gets pregnant. And then they wonder why they aren't getting any (and blame the women, of course).

why didn't you do anal no rubber?

was this not presented as a suitable alternative?

Man she’s on no birth control and you wanna raw dog. Even if you pull out it’s not 100% dude. Wrap it until she’s on some sort of birth control

Quick question though if you never use condoms but she asked you to put one on… did you have one with you or did she have a stash??

Girl you barely know doesn’t want to get pregnant by you or potentially catch herpes etc.

Seems common fking sense to me.

I don't understand why so many guys are like that. It doesn't make sense. If woman wants to use a condom good on her, prevents pregnancy and abortion miscers don't like