Been years since I’ve been on here llol it ain’t what it used to be damn.

Anyway. Finally met a girl I’m ready to marry and have kids with so it’s quite serious. My GF has been acting off the last couple of weeks and I just don’t know why. She’s been having some sexual issues and trouble getting aroused also. She was staying at my place this past weekend. Anyway I don’t use any social media but she does. I just have a Tk Tok account so she can share videos with me. She was showing me something oh her phone in her Tkk tok and it popped up “someone you may know ,CJ” CJ is a guy she used to hook up with before she met me and according to her haven’t spoken in like a year and a half. I asked why would he pop up there if you guys haven’t spoken and she said she didn’t know. I said okay. The next morning around 11 am we are laying in my bed at my place and she went to use the bathroom, she said the my cat came in the bathroom when she was using it and she showed me the pics she took of the cat , she scrolled too far to the left and a picture showing her butt in my bathroom from 8am appeared, taken when I was sleeping. She’s like oh I took those for you but you said your phone was dead last night so I didn’t send them. I said ,my phone never was dead and why would that matter if it was you still could of sent them. She said she didn’t know…. I said that’s so weird to take nudes when we are together ? imagine if the roles were reversed and you saw my dick from your bathroom and I never sent you the pic and you just saw it accidentally on my phone ? And she rarely ever randomly sends sexual pictures to me maybe like twice in the last 6 months. What are your thoughts on this?

not sure if roll bread. 90-100% chance shes cheating.

proceed accordingly.

misc may want pics.

Bruh if you gotta ask it's already over.

Always trust your gut.

if you're joking it's fairly funny

if you're not joking like dude.......what do you want us to tell you. you already know.

i usually treat threads in this section as full blown SRS mode. i've learned in my life too often that somebody KNOWS when the other is cheating. the cheater can't help themselves and they fumble it, the truth comes out whether you intend or not. the tells are everywhere. The phones/social media only amplify it. CJ is happening, you know it, you've already been told it.

How old are you and your GF?

Sounds suspicious AF.

As I've gotten older I realize how social media makes it way too easy to keep in contact with people that we honestly shouldn't being in contact with and thus blurring all the lines of what being truly honest and faithful is.
Communicate with what you think is right and wrong and when in doubt, always ask if the roles were reversed, how would you feel?

This is 100% srs.

Me 34 her 30

brah its over lmao.


kick her tf out NOW.

100%

Edited to add
She may not be physically cheating but is 100% sending photos and flirty/sexual messages to test the waters.
Probably knows it's serious and is having doubts and wants to see if she's still got any suitors before she makes a final choice which is f'd up

Sounds extremely suspicious. Maybe call her out on it and see if she caves and admits it. It sounds like you guys aren't living together, so there are likely plenty of opportunities she could be taking advantage of when you aren't together.

I'm also 34 and just ended a long relationship I should have probably ended years ago. My view is you don't want to waste any more time than is necessary on a dead end if it turns out she isn't the wife/mother you're looking for, especially when you need to restart that search at 34.

It's over brah. My condolences.

The good news is that now you know, imagine if this happened after marriage and kids. You'll find someone worthy of your seed but she aint it.

Bruh

Stay strong.

A little suspect because if CJ was recently added to iPhone contacts, TikTok picks up on that change.Not proof, but suspect af. Did you say your phone was dead at all, or was that part completely invented?

Overall, your spidey senses are firing for a reason.

I was drinking I may of I know I said something because my mom was calling her phone trying to get a hold of me and I may of been like it’s dead

My ass those pics were for you. Sucks bro, but yes definitely cheating

If she isn't already, she's lining it up to cheat.

You know she is, that's why you felt you had to ask us. Sorry brah, I would call her out with the intention of getting her to admit it, then dip

Any update here, OP?

The algorithim **** is phucky and intrusive as hell so just because an ex popped up on her recommended doesnt necessarily mean anything beyond they used to interact with each other/had mutuals. It also could mean that she has been texting him recently, its kind of a crapshoot

Unfortunately the bathroom chit is another story - it is unequivocally, undeniably over. I'm sorry opie

Best case scenario she’s retarded

Go through her dms while she’s sleeping if you need confirmation

Marriage material OP

You two need to go to the Altar ASAP

Pump out a few puppies

Stare at the sunset

Live happily ever after

cj stands for

Clit Ju-jitsu

Didn't read any of it, but yes.

She belongs to the streets now.