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» My HBB gf of 3 yrs just broke up w me.. WHAT DO [SRS]
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post 1679332243 03-21-2023, 09:33 AM
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My HBB gf of 3 yrs just broke up w me.. WHAT DO [SRS]

Boyos.... im in a wreck.

My gf, who has been a perfect partner to me for the last 3 years, has been on edge to leave the relationship over the last few weeks because of my behaviour. TBH, if I was in her shoes I would've left a while ago.

I'm a hot head and have been pretty disrespectful to her in our arguments and it the frequency of arguing has left her feeling disrespected. We had a bad argument a few days ago and, yesterday, completely calm, she told me she wants to end things and sent me a really nice message about it thanking me for the memories etc.

I obv took the relationship and her for granted and its been 12hrs since she broke up w me but its really settling in now and im losing it.

In the past, I've always found that ending things respectfully and going NC has ALWAYS, without fail, brought them back. And I choose at that point if I want to or not.

Im deciding between going back to her and trying to work things out or going with my tried and true method of NC, let her come back to me, and be better going forward.

Need misc wisdom here.

Cliffs:
OP perfect girl of 3 yrs breaks up w OP because of OP's behavior
OP recognizes he is wrong
OP immediately recognizes he wants to get back with her
Should OP accept the break up gracefully, go NC and have her come back (as women do) or attempt to reconcile while the emotions are still fresh?
post 1679332383 03-21-2023, 09:34 AM
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post 1679332393 03-21-2023, 09:35 AM
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Time to take the red pill, comrade.

post 1679332403 03-21-2023, 09:35 AM
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Your focusing on everything but the problem that caused the breakup
brb haven’t met one vaxcel who doesn’t get defensive or mad when you tell them you didn’t get it.

No “vax” for HIV after 40 years of research. No vax for cancer after 100 years of research. No vax for the common cold and yet a virus mysteriously appears and Within 12 months a “vax” is found by 4 pharma companies all within 1 week and we are mandated to take it ….
post 1679332433 03-21-2023, 09:35 AM
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Move on, you've poisoned the water.

I can relate to how you are a bit. Accept that you messed up, work on controlling yourself and find someone new.
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post 1679332483 03-21-2023, 09:36 AM
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Well I'd imagine if you play the waiting game she will ride the cock carousel for a while at least if she hasn't been already.

I'd call her and tell her how you've taken her for granted and apologize and say you will change but I'm sure she's heard that many times.

Good luck and post pics of her
post 1679332503 03-21-2023, 09:36 AM
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post 1679332513 03-21-2023, 09:36 AM
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post 1679332603 03-21-2023, 09:37 AM
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No pics for obv reasons but she looks like a mix between



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post 1679332673 03-21-2023, 09:38 AM
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You better not be my neighbor screaming at his girl at the top of his lungs the other day
post 1679332713 03-21-2023, 09:39 AM
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the only chance you have is to go NC, if she spins a 180, then you change your ways.
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post 1679332843 03-21-2023, 09:40 AM
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You
Should sit down with her expecting her to walk away completely

But just explain how you
Truly feel and that you have been wrong for the things you
Are wrong for and say that you can’t make any decisions for her but you are sorry and hope
You can give things another try

And leave it in her hands , no other pressure or contact
brb haven’t met one vaxcel who doesn’t get defensive or mad when you tell them you didn’t get it.

No “vax” for HIV after 40 years of research. No vax for cancer after 100 years of research. No vax for the common cold and yet a virus mysteriously appears and Within 12 months a “vax” is found by 4 pharma companies all within 1 week and we are mandated to take it ….
post 1679333303 03-21-2023, 09:47 AM
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post 1679333323 03-21-2023, 09:47 AM
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It's over boyo. Once they decide to leave it's a done deal. They may go out like a stray cat and fuk a few dudes and then come back to you to "work things out". But by that point it's going to be a repeating pattern of break up/make up nonsense. I lasted 4-5 rounds with an ex of mine before I said fuk it, "I'm done". No more of that chit for me. These days if she wants to go, it's "goodbye and good luck", then immediate NC. That goes for anyone, ain't nobody got time to chase people around and convince them to stick around.
post 1679333473 03-21-2023, 09:50 AM
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Getting her back won't fix the problem that caused you to breakup though.

Regardless of what happens on that front, better get ready for the self-help books/podcasts/therapy and subsequent changes you gotta make.
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Post pics ****git
post 1679333853 03-21-2023, 09:55 AM
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Originally Posted By cobhc
Move on, you've poisoned the water.

I can relate to how you are a bit. Accept that you messed up, work on controlling yourself and find someone new.
Best advice right here.
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post 1679334223 03-21-2023, 10:02 AM
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Originally Posted By outfoxxed
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to outfoxxed again.


I'm definitely serious about self improvement and all, for my own personal reasons and convictions but ofc things like this serve as a catalyst for self reflection.

I know no girl is perfect but in today's dating climate, its difficult to find a quality girl. Really messed up here, fumbled the bag.
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Dumped and negged...damn rough day OP.
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Find someone with self esteem issues that will get wet at your demeaning rants.
I'm back, bitches!
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Lay down and rot
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Originally Posted By Scartown
...Should OP accept the break up gracefully...
this is the only thing you can do. There is nothing else under your control.
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Funny how you’re magically willing to change now that it’s over. It’s over OP. For you this is sudden, for her she lost feelings gradually each time and now there’s nothing left. Lesson learned for your future relationships
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Originally Posted By cobhc
Move on, you've poisoned the water.

I can relate to how you are a bit. Accept that you messed up, work on controlling yourself and find someone new.
this

it never will be the same again

move on and do better with the next female you end up in a relationship with
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OP doesnt understand women. She absolutely loves you for your horrific behavior. She just wants you to throw in a few sensitive moments here and there. But don't go overboard with being too nice because then she really will leave you for good/cheat on you.
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