The last friend I've talked to on a regular basis I'm about to cut off since I realized he doesn't view me as a close friend like I once thought. It just sucks I'm not going to have anyone to talk to anymore though. There's a few others I know but I very rarely talk to them anymore either. I'm worried my mental health is going to get even worse from the isolation of not even having text interactions with anyone. The only time I'd talk to people is with people at my job but there's no one there I can actually hang out with. I'm in probably the best physical shape I've been in in years yet everything else is just horrible for me.

For what it’s worth I’m in a similar position. I’ve got decent physical health but that’s about it. In every other area of my life I’m likely “below-average” for my age range.

But yea, my social situation is phucked. Despite having 2 really good friends I rarely get to see them because of life circumstances. Aside from those two all my socialising comes from work.

Thing is though I feel I don’t have any right to complain because the honest truth is I barely make any effort to be social. It’s not like my room is a prison I can’t leave, but from my behaviour you’d think it is.

Yeah man I just don’t know what I’m going to do. I’m going to feel so isolated having no one to talk to. Once you reach a certain age it’s almost impossible to meet new people since everyone already has their own group of friends already or have a wife & kids. I’m going to just have to stay busy with working out, watching TV & playing video games or else the isolation will make me feel even worse.

I’m glad you have 2 friends you can talk with. I know a few others but I very rarely talk to them anymore.

I’m in the same boat myself where I don’t really try to be social either. I don’t even know where I could go in my area to meet anyone. Anytime I’m out anywhere everyone just keeps to themselves or are with people they know already. I’ve never seen anyone just randomly chat with someone they don’t know & become friends. It feels like it needs to happen organically than trying to force meeting people. I just don’t know what to do. It’s just a pretty lonely existence especially with not having the greatest mental health.

Look for meetups in your area, board games, mental health talks, rock climbing, w/e.

I moved to another city a year ago and pretty much had zero friends at 30, so I started attending random meetups and now talk to a handful of people semi regularily, but nobody that I would call a 'friend'.

But I do go through long periods without hanging out with anyone cause I'm just too lazy to. Everything requires atleast a half hour drive and coordinating times, sometimes its too much of a hassle, especially when you're tired from work and just want to relax. But if I isolate too much I get lonely, so its a catch 22. I've been very independent my whole life and its hard to undo that programming at times.

Any gym bro's you talk to? You tend to see the same people usually, maybe just nod at them and say whats up, most people are willing to shoot the chit.

GL man its a struggle, but you'll find something that works eventually

The old adage of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" etc etc is such nonsense. Every knock i've had in my life makes me weaker. Every set back makes me less complete and more broken.

sometimes i wonder and ask myself why there are so many things wrong with me. what did i do in my past life to have this many mental problems. is everyone as fuked up as me or am i alone in this

What are your mental problems?

my depression was always way worse during sunny times vs dreary rainy times.

Another day depressed, sleep deprived, broke, resentful, bitter and hopeless.

Hang in there man, find rays of light and hold on to them!

I'm curious if anyone in here has or does do some sort of meditation. While it is far from a panacea and is especially difficult, if not impossible to do while severely depressed and/or anxious, but it is a pretty good suggestion. I am a particular fan of guided meditation because it is easy to pull one up on Youtube, put headphones on, and lay on my bed. I believe that mindfulness can really help, but it is not really taught and even then it is hard to put into practice!

Definitely trying man. It sucks having nothing to live for and no apparent future at the end of the tunnel, just meandering through meaningless days that blend together, but just because I have nothing to live for doesn’t mean that I don’t want to live. I do.

I hear you man! sometimes we have to make our own purpose.

Haven’t been able to do a workout without pain in the front part of my shoulder for the last year and a half. Physio says it’s proximal bicep tendonitis but it’s really really bad. Just standing while being on my phone is giving me pain in the bicep tendon right now as I type.

Been trying the rehab exercises the physio got me to do, even those are giving me pain.

I’m getting an ultrasound to rule out the possibility of something more serious like a bicep tear.

Lifting gave me a purpose in life, it was the thing that got me out of my depression when I started. Now everything I do in the gym results in pain. The one thing that was an escape is now torturing me.

Even though it’s probably not normal and I wish this weren’t the case, lifting and progressing with my physique is the only thing I care about. I don’t care about anything else.

Seeing people around you being able to continue to get bigger and stronger, being happy, being pain free is the most depressing thing ever. I’ve stopped watching all form of fitness content because it just serves as a depressing reminder of what I’m missing out on.

I’ve created a new account on YouTube just to avoid all those fitness channels. I can’t bear to look at people continuing to live happy lives continuing to get bigger and stronger while I’m stuck here with the same physique for well over a year.

Stop sleeping on your stomach and do maximum amplitude arm circles using 2-5kg weights, front to back, back to front and side from down to behind your neck. It will improve in coupple of weeks.

Highly recommend this video to anyone that's suffering with depression.

It's an hour long, so get away from the screen, put on your headphones, and do the dishes/laundry while listening.

https://youtu.be/TVgQ_tgWMyU



You can win this fight.

Same. Wish i could hibernate during spring and summer. Fukkin reverse SAD.

I feel depressed for no good reason

Same. Been feeling especially down these past couple weeks. I have no clue what the issue even is which makes it more frustrating to deal with

Been getting more sleep and more time in the sun which seems to be helping with my depression a bit

I'm really worried about EOD. He hasn't posted on here since Jan. and Reddit since Feb.

Whats his reddit?

Thank you for this

I go to an AA meeting thats geared towards meditation so I do it there but havent started it on my own yet. Looking to get into guided meditation as well!

Daddy's back bby, I really miss smashing ur poosy

Any recommended materials such as books or podcasts that one can start to start a self improvement? Not necessarily depression but I felt like going thru a nasty break up as of two years ago, and i still felt down thus far.

New here, been feeling depressed lately. My doctor thought I should try exercising to improve my mood. After watching some life changing transformation videos I decided to sign up here and do some research. I am in my mid 30s and have little to no gym experience. I guess we all got to start somewhere.

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and general stoicism philosophy can be helpful.



Awareness of thought process is good!



Meditation/guided meditation is great! Also, practicing mindfulness in general is great.



Healthy Gamer GG is a cool channel. Dude is awesome and breaks down a lot of stuff with mental health



Oh, and David Goggins can be pretty inspirational

Hell yeah! I am a huge proponent of exercise being an excellent habit, especially as an antidepressant. I believe it is helpful to set reasonable goals, following the SMART goals idea (Specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time bound). Also, it is helpful to lower the barrier to engagement with exercise as much as possible. You can do this by having weights or running shoes in your vicinity, tying exercise to another habit like listening to music, and making a small commitment of time, like working out for just five minutes. It's a lot easier to start exercising with the goal being five minutes versus 60 minutes and by the time those five minutes are up, it can be easy to continue working out for longer.

Healthygamer is a goat resource, helps you understand whats going on with your mind when you dont have a clue

I'm not keen tbh.

He actually reminds me a lot of PUA/game experts of the early 2000s. Those guys did hours upon hours upons hours of videos where they would break down in great detail various psychological concepts. It was a good strategy in that there's always more "psyche" to explore and that enabled them to turn a nice little profit for months/years on end.

We all know that "Self-Help" is something of a bullchit industry and achieves little. What HealthyGamer offers is basically the same thing cept it's done through online videos rather than reading a book.

As for why self-help and things of that ilk generally don't help, I think it's because when it comes to dealing with problems of the mind, you're probably not entirely aware of what your actual problems are, if that makes sense.

You might argue that these HealthyGG videos help bring unconscious stuff into conscious awareness, but I doubt it. I think it's more likely you're just exploring stuff you're already conscious of.