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post 1683759003 05-31-2023, 07:49 PM
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Am I the ******* here? (Dating 30+)

A neighbor of mine saw me walking my tenants dog a couple months ago, after not seeing eachother for over a year, and after saying hi she texted me from a new number saying “I forgot how cute you were. Save my number.”

So I go away for work the next day for a month and she texts me a bit and starts getting very flirty. so I give it right back and before I know it she wanted me to come to her new apartment downtown to hangout when I got home. The house she owns in my neighborhood is for sale so she’s not living there.

I go, we end up hooking up, but she won’t have sex with me. Everything else happens though. She then says she won’t sleep with anyone she’s not exclusively dating/in a relationship with. We end up doing this 2 more times within a week of me being home and each time she says the same thing. I have family come for a week after that and there wasn’t much communication during that time just friendly saying hi and staying connected. I reachout to hangout when family leaves and she seemed kinda cold so I just let it be. I’m back at work now and texted her to see what’s up and why she’s acting cold. She says she lost respect for me. Only thing I can think of is because I didn’t want to immediately date her after that week of interaction.

Thoughts? She flat out said she lost respect for me, which for me is a complete insult, as if I’m a scum bag. She initiated the flirtation with me so I initiated the physical contact for sure but wtf?
post 1683759263 05-31-2023, 07:53 PM
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have you considered asking her why she lost respect?

either way its a game and shes crazy so move on. but you could also communicate...
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post 1683759393 05-31-2023, 07:55 PM
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NC.

If she eventually reinitiates contact you know she is interested and she was **** testing you.

If she doesn't, you move on.

Either way your time is not wasted.
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post 1683759513 05-31-2023, 07:57 PM
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lmao thread doesn't have a srs tag so can't be srs. she thinks you're a fukboi but she's also retarded. Won't have sex unless in a relationship but "everything else happens" I bet she doesn't think she's a whore, too.
post 1683759593 05-31-2023, 07:58 PM
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post 1683759723 05-31-2023, 07:59 PM
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
Thoughts? She flat out said she lost respect for me, which for me is a complete insult, as if I’m a scum bag. She initiated the flirtation with me so I initiated the physical contact for sure but wtf?
I agree with your reaction. Saying that without giving a reason sounds insane, if not just chit test-y. If she somehow salvaged her respect for me, I would find it hard to salvage mine for her.

ETA: agreed with dolphin pilot on her being a hoe in denial. Lol @ thinking sucking dink but not fukking makes any difference.
post 1683759833 05-31-2023, 08:01 PM
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she sounds batchit fukkin crazy. run.
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post 1683759963 05-31-2023, 08:03 PM
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Originally Posted By Zere0wn⏩
have you considered asking her why she lost respect?

either way its a game and shes crazy so move on. but you could also communicate...
I responded by saying “We’ll that’s even worse then I expected. I’d like to ask why but would rather not do this through texting. I’m bummed you feel that way.”

And she responded by saying “I’m sure we will see eachother around the neighborhood”
post 1683760103 05-31-2023, 08:05 PM
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
I responded by saying “We’ll that’s even worse then I expected. I’d like to ask why but would rather not do this through texting. I’m bummed you feel that way.”

And she responded by saying “I’m sure we will see eachother around the neighborhood”
Bump for friesbruh's post.
post 1683760363 05-31-2023, 08:07 PM
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
I responded by saying “We’ll that’s even worse then I expected. I’d like to ask why but would rather not do this through texting. I’m bummed you feel that way.”

And she responded by saying “I’m sure we will see eachother around the neighborhood”
Run.

Brought you low just to bring you back up while still leaving you confused. And you haven't even smashed yet.
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post 1683760533 05-31-2023, 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
I responded by saying “We’ll that’s even worse then I expected. I’d like to ask why but would rather not do this through texting. I’m bummed you feel that way.”

And she responded by saying “I’m sure we will see eachother around the neighborhood”
jeezus you failed the test. only thing you can do now is go no contact.

shes definitely crazy though so i suggest completely moving on.
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post 1683760783 05-31-2023, 08:15 PM
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Is she Asian? (srs)
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post 1683760793 05-31-2023, 08:15 PM
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You answered your own question boyo.
Nah bro I’m sweet.
post 1683760873 05-31-2023, 08:16 PM
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Yeah I’m not going to respond.

I’m just confused on how I’m a scumbag (no respect comment).

I wonder if any of the females or trannies in here have any insight.
post 1683760983 05-31-2023, 08:18 PM
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Pics?
post 1683761033 05-31-2023, 08:19 PM
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Sounds like she wanted you to make a move harder so she can say she doesn't normally do this and get railed
post 1683761233 05-31-2023, 08:23 PM
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Originally Posted By Robmnrd⏩
Is she Asian? (srs)
No she is Jewish. 36-38 years old. And I don’t think she’s been in a relationship in quite awhile. She is a really cool person, but I don’t think she looks at sex the same way I do. When I first moved into my house we use to have beers on her front porch once a week while she still lived in her house we established a neighbor/friend relationship. I remember her out of nowhere stating one time that she could never have sex with me due to how many girls she’s seen coming from my house and then anyone she sleeps with will have to be tested for STDs before hand. I thought that was funny. That happened about 2.5 years ago. I brought this up to her recently and she said the dynamic between us changed now that she lives downtown and I’m not her neighbor.
post 1683761363 05-31-2023, 08:25 PM
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Originally Posted By AshWar⏩
Pics?
I don’t have any. I also don’t have any social media accounts to get her pictures from.
post 1683761383 05-31-2023, 08:25 PM
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
Yeah I’m not going to respond.

I’m just confused on how I’m a scumbag (no respect comment).

I wonder if any of the females or trannies in here have any insight.
you're caring way too much what she thinks. she says some dumb **** to play a game and gives some coy response to get you worked up. she's crazy. the only thing you can do is not play the game.
My ALT is elevated. 75.
post 1683761523 05-31-2023, 08:28 PM
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Needs pics to get to the bottom of this
post 1683761633 05-31-2023, 08:30 PM
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
I’m just confused on how I’m a scumbag (no respect comment).
Come on hot and heavy with flattery and conspicuous interests. Get you really engaged and feeling good, but withhold somethibg (in this case sex).

Then bring the emotional state down, "I lost respect for you."

Now you have that pit in your stomach and your mind is turning "what did I do wrong?"

You inquire, she assauges you,a little bit, with the wink and insinuation of future contactbut, again, she witholds something from you. This time the reason she lost respect.

Now you can keep pursuing, but she has something over you. Something you havd to makr up for. And she increases her ability to manipulate whether you feel pleasure or anxiety.

Run brah.
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post 1683761833 05-31-2023, 08:35 PM
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Originally Posted By Zere0wn⏩
you're caring way too much what she thinks. she says some dumb **** to play a game and gives some coy response to get you worked up. she's crazy. the only thing you can do is not play the game.
Yeah I guess I do care too much about how some people see me sometimes. I dno. I haven’t been told that from a woman before. I don’t think she’s playing a game. I think she truly feels this way.
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Originally Posted By MyGhettoFantasy⏩
Come on hot and heavy with flattery and conspicuous interests. Get you really engaged and feeling good, but withhold somethibg (in this case sex).

Then bring the emotional state down, "I lost respect for you."

Now you have that pit in your stomach and your mind is turning "what did I do wrong?"

You inquire, she assauges you,a little bit, with the wink and insinuation of future contactbut, again, she witholds something from you. This time the reason she lost respect.

Now you can keep pursuing, but she has something over you. Something you havd to makr up for. And she increases her ability to manipulate whether you feel pleasure or anxiety.

Run brah.
Damn boyo. I like your take. I did feel and kinda still do have a pit of anxiety in my gut for whatever fkn reason. But hearing you guys console me here is helping see this clearer. I appreciate you. Respect.
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She lost respect cause your dink is so smal
She views you as just a woman with a large clit now

Brootal
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
Damn boyo. I like your take. I did feel and kinda still do have a pit of anxiety in my gut for whatever fkn reason. But hearing you guys console me here is helping see this clearer. I appreciate you. Respect.
As miscers as gotta look out for our own brah.
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Originally Posted By MyGhettoFantasy⏩
Come on hot and heavy with flattery and conspicuous interests. Get you really engaged and feeling good, but withhold somethibg (in this case sex).

Then bring the emotional state down, "I lost respect for you."

Now you have that pit in your stomach and your mind is turning "what did I do wrong?"

You inquire, she assauges you,a little bit, with the wink and insinuation of future contactbut, again, she witholds something from you. This time the reason she lost respect.

Now you can keep pursuing, but she has something over you. Something you havd to makr up for. And she increases her ability to manipulate whether you feel pleasure or anxiety.

Run brah.
Holy fuk, I've only been in this situation once. But it's exactly how you describe it. I should have run as soon as this started happening. This is also a tactic that Jewish bosses will use to manipulate their employees.
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
Damn boyo. I like your take. I did feel and kinda still do have a pit of anxiety in my gut for whatever fkn reason. But hearing you guys console me here is helping see this clearer. I appreciate you. Respect.
Just stop thinking about her and withdraw contact. She will keep playing these games. She gets a much bigger rush by playing these games than having sex or being in a relationship.
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Originally Posted By OliverHeldens⏩
Holy fuk, I've only been in this situation once. But it's exactly how you describe it. I should have run as soon as this started happening. This is also a tactic that Jewish bosses will use to manipulate their employees.
Succubi are real and walk among us. Stay vigilant boyos. Those love bombs and overwhelm any man at the right time.

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Originally Posted By OliverHeldens⏩
Just stop thinking about her and withdraw contact. She will keep playing these games. She gets a much bigger rush by playing these games than having sex or being in a relationship.
Yeah that’s the plan. I’ve got a few I’m chatting up right now so I’m sure I’ll be over this soon but the “lost respect” comment just triggered me hard for some reason. She made the comment at 7pm tonight so it was fresh.
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I think she just wants to take it slow while you wanted to smash on the same day. I mean why would she contact you 1 year later out of the blue?

Go on a few dates, push her away when anything sexual comes up, then see what happens. You should smash in 2 weeks tops if you really want her.

Or you could move on.
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