got coffee for 30 minutes and bounced. Another dud with no social skills. She just sat there quietly and could barely even look at me let alone charm me lol..... Jesus women who use datings apps have some serious problems. They just want the man to carry them. Mega cringe.

Detected.

coffee dates are freaking awful

go get drinks instead boyo, it'll loosen up the vibe

How long do you chat before suggesting to meet?
My friends think I overdo it and lose chances because of it but every online date I've been on has been perfectly fine from a social skills point of view because I feel like I've vetted them enough via messaging on that front.

I'm usually chatting for 1-2 weeks before meeting and we're sending a message or so daily during that time.

^^I also prefer the 1-2 week meet time frame.
I know a lot of people are against it though.

If we can't think of anything to talk about for multiple days, I don't really feel like meeting.

I met one guy after a day and he turned out to be a huge pothead and wasted money (I cabbed to meet him).

I prefer to feel things out a bit more.

3 messages each and scheduled the date a week ago with zero chatting in between

im convinced dating apps only have autistic women on them.

Why would a guy unmatch me after 2 minutes, lol.

On hinge yesterday, I got a nice compliment from a guy on my photo.
I matched with him and we started making basic conversation and within a few minutes he unmatched me.
Why would this happen?

I wasn't just saying one word replies, things had barely begun. I don't understand this.

It happened a few days ago as well.
Someone asked how my summer had been. I said I hadn't done much yet (summer just started, lol), but I prefer winter and fall temperature wise because I'm not a big fan of the heat wave. Then I said hows yours.
Then he unmatched me.
WHY?! Because I don't like the heat?

This is confusing and frustrating.

Tbh I prefer getting unmatched than getting no response after a few solid back-and-forths.

Online dating can be frustrating for sure. Don't invest in anyone until you've had like 2 good dates with them. Messages mean nothing they could be a catfish for all you know.

Ok, thank you for the reassurance. It can be hard not to be too stuck in your own head with all this stuff and with the constant ghosting.

Keep on keepin' on, I suppose

it is not that serious

most people on dating apps have 0 morals btw

Yeah, I'm beginning to notice that more and more now.

I wish I could figure out some places to just meet people in real life.

I mean, I'm at the gym all the time, but nobody even dares look at you there.

Women have so many options they only view dating apps as a way to boost their instagram.

Sounds like she wasn't interested in you

then why would she show up to a date when she has thousands of options at the click of a button?? And why would she be too shy to look me in the eyes. She's was into me just too autistic to interact with me.

that's why I don't use them lol

unless you're a legit chad women will treat you as disposable on them

Yeah, but I'm a chick and guys also treat you as disposable.
I think it's just that the majority of people (men and women) on them don't actually care about developing relationships.

dating apps are designed to keep people on the apps, that's how they make money

nobody on there isreallylooking for anything serious, especially the men on there that every woman is swiping on. they may say they are but they are not

there's too many options and if you have options you're chances of settling down are 0 to none. all the guys (the top lets say ~3%) that these women want are not settling down because they have infinite options, why would they?

guys who are getting the matches on these apps are shooting fish in a barrel, and guys who are at the top will STILL go for women that are average/below average, because it is easy for them and they only want one thing

girls who are at the top will not do the same, they will typically only date guys on their level

women who are actually very attractive and worth something actually have the WORST time on these apps, because their looksmatch or playing field (aka the top guys) is whoring around srs

Very accurate, I agree.
I think when my hingeX expires I will go off dating apps entirely and focus my efforts on finding someone in real life.
I've been in work from home jobs for years and my school program is online, so life has been far too virtual.

It's hard to come up with ideas of where to just "be" and hope that eventually I'd broaden my social circle. But honestly, having nothing is better than the frustration of dating apps.

that is honestly the best thing you can do

you have to be in the mindset that you can build your life and be happy without dating or being with someone else, which is honestly completely true

it's hard to do, majority of people struggle with it as I do but it is the right thing to do for sure

dating and mingling with other people doesn't guarantee happiness, all you need is yourself

off to the gym. gonna hit on at least 1 girl every time I go. Pceing out with these dating apps. It's full of autistic loser women who want the man to do all the work. I'm not down for that.

back from crushing the weights (arms and chest ftw). At the drinking fountain with a cute abg. Said "nice shoes." Her: no response (with beats in).
LOL

Later saw her walking out with a jacked viet dude with brocolli hair and gangster tattoos. FML

I'll get her next time.

1. when was your last relationship? - Lie make sure it was recent but not too recent or they will think you're a weirdo
2. what was your longest relationship? - Must be at least 2 years. If you say you've never had one they will get weirded out and start asking more questions.
3. What do you do for fun? - Lie Lie Lie and more lies. Don't tell them you like miscing/lifting/whoremaxxing. Tell them hiking, netflix, social stuff etc...
4. How long have you been on Hinge? - Lie. Say you' just got on. If you say 4 years they'll be like "why haven't you found someone yet?"
5. Where do you want to travel? - Never tell them you don't care about traveling. Make some **** up. "I want to travel to Greece and see the colloseum!"
6. Do you want/have a house?- Lie Lie and Lie some more. Say you are saving up for one and want something "Modern" next to a "good school district." This is your 5 year plan!
7. *Before she comes over* - Make sure your bed is made, no dirty dishes, buy trashcan covers, make sure she doesn't see your disposable plates/silverware!!!


Women don't understand the male experience at all so you MUST lie or you will not get a second date. Dead srs.

Hope I helped some FAs get a cute gf with this advice.

The rest of the list I can deal with, but these 2 questions always get me

Nah, bro. You have to text and sometimes call/facetime to get a feel if she's worth your time.1. Accurate
2. Accurate
4. Accurate, but you can also say that you've been on some dates and haven't been able to find what you are looking for yet.
5. Accurate

If you have to lie about the rest, you need to keep working on yourself. You complain about women not having any interests, plans, or goals (AKA borring) and you shouldn't have to lie about yours. It should be real.

Don't pretend to be the man you think she wants you to be, BE the man.

"Be as you wish to seem." --Socrates

Anyone else noticed that you have to date down in online dating as a man?

I had my fair share of hookups from tinder etc. this year but most of these chicks were just complete average looking girls. Most of them came straight over to my appartement as a first date.
But I feel like, unless you are chad you gonna have a hard time getting dates with pretty girls.
I dont remember the last time I actually was really physically attracted to an online date.

Really makes me think to go out again and approach in real life.

That's the dynamic on dating apps.

that's just dating apps

attractive women especially don't live in a realm of reality on dating apps, they have MILLIONS of options literally, they can make an account and get 1000 likes in a day with lots from very attractive dudes

why would they pick the 7/10 guy when they can get a 9/10 just from swiping? it's a cruel reality but it is the way it is

hell even the 5's aren't living in reality. I was hanging out with a girl and her friend tagged along and we were messing around on her tinder messaging dudes for fun. NO JOKE this chick had 2500 LIKES as a 5/10 srs

It was like window shopping for her and she was only going for very attractive dudes, blew my fukin mind, and the attractive guys were SIMPS

I had a similar experience on dating apps where I would get OK women easily, but they were nowhere near what I could get IRL, that's why I stopped using them because I refuse to date down

ye it sucks. I mean, Im not spending any money on those girls and I dont waste my time in a bar. But at the same it its just not really satisfying banging some average sloot.
Had one girl this year who had a pretty face, makes all the difference when you look in her eyes doing missionary. Quality vs Quantity I guess.