Recently told a girl that she deserved better and I'm feeling like **** boyos.

She always wanted to go out and do stuff and I always just wanted to invite her over. It's not that I only wanted sex, I just wanted to stay in because I always work odd hours and never have time to relax. After a few months, she began to stop asking me to go out but still wanted to come over. We had sex pretty much every time and it was great, multiple orgasms on both sides, good chemistry, sex for hours (with breaks ofc) for many months, no commitment really, etc.

My question is should I feel ****ty or am I just going overthinking? She baked stuff and brought it over all the time (but she said she does that for all her friends) too and I actually started learning about her family, her dog, etc. She also told me that I'm the reason she's seeing a therapist and she had anxiety/depression/other stuff and that made me feel really awful. She didn't volunteer this info, but I asked directly if I contribute to this and she said yes.

Now I'm thinking of ghosting her just so she can move on from me and find someone who can make her happy. I have a history of being this dark cloud that girls through and while the sex is usually good, I always make girls anxious/depressed/etc just because I am ****ed up myself. These 'relationships' start off pretty good but end the same way, every ****ing time.

Thoughts on this? Part of me wants to text her because I have no real friends, deeply rooted trust issues, and am a bit lonely. I think I could also benefit from taking a break from dating and focusing on school because this next year will set the course for the rest of my life.

Step 1. Get jacked
Step 2. New hobbies that get you out and about
Step 3. Social circle max
Step 4. Try a more outgoing lifestyle. Take your girl places. Be hobbymaxxing and bring her along for the ride for some. If it's not for you then it's not for you. But try it.


I don't think there's anything wrong with a more introvert chill life, but you're not happy so time to experiment. If the girl is a great girl then keep her. If you keep her and you're making no progress with yourself then let her go to focus on your Steps I listed.

This is my advice. Please rate it

If it cheers you up i wrote an email to my boss but forgot the 'o' in "count".

Eventually a decent women is going to get sick of the " come over & bang " .

You gotta provide some sort of other experience or she'll read your intentions easily and drop you .

She hasn't dropped me after 8 months. I want her to drop me and move on.

I don't think I want a relationship with her. I think I need to focus on myself for a bit and get off dating apps altogether.

You sound like a lil bich

Stop being a basement dweller & go experience chit with her. Ask her out to rock climbing in those magnus mitbo places, chit is fun

the red is right

quit being a sweaty ponytail and take her out on a nice date

2 years ago I had to choose between 2 girls who wanted me

one was hot LTC with a super wet pussy, but she just wanted to stay inside all day with "migraines" and other excuses

the other one wanted to go out and have fun all the time

I chose the latter and 2 years later I'm still with her

She also has migraines. It's not about going out for me or being a basement dweller. I just don't have the time (or maybe energy) to go out as I am at a busy point in my life. Everytime I go out, I think of how much I'd rather be at home getting stuff done. But I do enjoy going out with her when we actually go out.

I don't want to hurt her more than I already have. Should I just NC at this point?

Man stop the excuses bruh. Get a new persona or smth sounds like you aint enjoying yourself neither

You putting that d down making her fall in love. Let her make her own decisions

If a girl is depressed from dating you, that’s on her. You’re not obligated to be some super hero

That said, recommend not being a degenerate and getting some friends and getting over your trust issues, if you ever want to be happy

True. When I met her she was a classic liberal girl, very loud, rude, etc but over the months she started to hard submit to me and brought out her feminine and caring nature which I obviously grew fond of.

I also think some of this may be overthinking on my part -- she never said she wanted a relationship, never hinted at it, wanted sex a lot, and didn't really check up on me like I would check on her periodically. I actually just had eye surgery a couple of days ago and she didn't ask how it went either.

I think I just need to get out of my head a little bit and stop feeling like I deserve to be treated like crap. When I don't get treated like crap, I start thinking I'm getting treated too well and then I start feeling guilty. The best thing I can do is just to be friendly, don't intentionally hurt people, and be considerate and honest. Otherwise, the guilt starts eating at me and it makes me even more of an arsehold and miserable.

Sounds like she doesn't want to go out as badly as she wants to be with you. Your decision to get rid of her should have nothing to do with the fact that she wants to do different things from you.

Wow how pathetic

Hit the cervix they fall in love. Too many small wiener guys Simping these hoes

Oh I def did. After a few weeks of meeting we began going raw (I get tested regularly and have been coming up clean every time) and I busted so many nuts inside her.

She would tell me that her intestines hurt or are sore after sex. Honestly, I think I'm just overthinking this and making myself out to be the bad guy unnecessarily. I need to just calm down and relax