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post 1686908353 07-21-2023, 05:29 AM
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it feels kinda beta, but im nearly 30 and im worried

that im not gonna find a WIFEABLE chick srs

im not saying i cant find girls to BANG, im talking about a good quality GF who is of the age where she isn't used up and can have healthy kids

for me the age of girl im looking for is 21-25 (because i dont want kids for a few years yet), so i want to find someone on the younger side of things who doesnt want them immediately

not to mention, i need to vet a girl for at least 3 years before i wife her/pregnant her - so lets say i find someone who i think is a good fit, get into a relationship with her, only to find out at the 3yr mark when she drops her mask that shes a crazy psycho - and i break up with her. Boom - 3 yrs down the drain. Then I'll be 33. even less options.

Sure in your 30s girls are still into you, but they'll be upwards of 26, when really theyve had their fukkfest already in their youth and they're settling. \

i want to take a girl off the market before she rides the wave of cawk and make her mine srs

I just broke up with my gf who was 24, had only been with 1 srs guy before me (and my guess is 3-5 others, i never asked her) which isn't much in 2023) so for me that was near ideal.
So im feeling a bit down about that. she had a ton of issues which made her controlling and jealous all the time which was why we broke up, but on paper she was great.
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post 1686908383 07-21-2023, 05:33 AM
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Dating is hard ,marriage is hard . Funding Someone you are compatible with is even harder . At 30 it’s difficult. . I’ve almost given up hope but you never know . Sleeping around isn’t as much fun anymore . Sometimes I wish I had a college sweeet heart
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i know the stats say 50% of the u.s. single

my guess is once you lop off the 40-80 age range that number is SIGNIFICANTLY higher

chits crazy right now

i wouldn't say it's 100% outright but most of the people i know married nowadays are low iq
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that's life son
post 1686908583 07-21-2023, 05:40 AM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7
i know the stats say 50% of the u.s. single

my guess is once you lop off the 40-80 age range that number is SIGNIFICANTLY higher

chits crazy right now

i wouldn't say it's 100% outright but most of the people i know married nowadays are low iq
the thing is theres differing reasons of the single %

some are single out of choice because they have high (sometimes too high) standards

others are high because theyre just not that good looking (and as we all know, girls find 80% of guys unattractive) so that kinda makes sense.

for me though, every srs gf i've had has wanted to marry me after some time went by - and i didn't go with any of them.

they all had their issues, and i spent a lot of time thinking about it and made the decision i couldn't. i guess i always felt i just didn't need to settle for a girl with issues/baggage.

nowadays im thinking, what if im alone in my late 30s/early 40s and they only girls i can get are ones who have already been ran through by a ton of guys? they might be 'good looking', if i take care of myself and my career - which im doing right now, but they won't be 'fresh' if that makes sense/doesn't sound weird

i dont want a girl that a ton of guys have fukked but i just dont see how its possible at my age or older, unless you go to southeast asia and spent a year there looking for a virgin to marry. thats literally the only way

the other way is to make your status so high, im talking CEO of a massive corporation, AND being insanely good looking/in shape

then you can get an early 20yr old, at pretty much whatever age. think Leo etc. but i dont think i can achieve that
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post 1686908653 07-21-2023, 05:42 AM
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At 30, it's still perfectly realistic to land a decent mid-20's chick. Maybe even early 20's, if you're lucky.

Just be careful and don't buy into how a lot of guys here claim a man's peak dating market age is 40. That's total bs lol. The only 40+ year old men pulling chicks in their 20's (especially early/mid-20's) are guys with money, and who are willing to spend that money on the chicks. It's always been that way.

1. Women marrying guys who are 10+ years older than them is a lot less common than it was say, 30+ years ago.
2. Almost every example you will see of men marrying substantially younger women will involve the guy having money, with very few exceptions to the rule.

My point is, don't panic yet, but don't get too comfortable either. Because your dating market value rapidly changes during your 30's no matter who you are unless you've either got a ton of money, or are a giga Chad with decent money. Like I said, no decent looking mid-20's girl who knows her value is going to marry a 40 year old man. It is what it is.
post 1686908803 07-21-2023, 05:45 AM
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Originally Posted By ALinkToThePast
At 30, it's still perfectly realistic to land a decent mid-20's chick. Maybe even early 20's, if you're lucky.

Just be careful and don't buy into how a lot of guys here claim a man's peak dating market age is 40. That's total bs lol. The only 40+ year old men pulling chicks in their 20's (especially early/mid-20's) are guys with money, and who are willing to spend that money on the chicks. It's always been that way.

1. Women marrying guys who are 10+ years older than them is a lot less common than it was say, 30+ years ago.
2. Almost every example you will see of substantially men marrying substantially younger women will involve the guy having money, with very few exceptions to the rule.

My point is, don't panic yet, but don't get too comfortable either. Because your dating market value rapidly changes during your 30's no matter who you are unless you've either got a ton of money, or are a giga Chad with decent money. Like I said, no decent looking mid-20's girl who knows her value is going to marry a 40 year old man. It is what it is.
so what should i do about it?

the old adage is the more you look for something the less you find it.
so should i not even be looking for it?

then lets say i do find it, it goes back to what i was saying in the OP. it will take maybe 3yrs to see a chick's true colours (sooner the more crazy she is). so what if time has gone on, and i dont realise shes a bad fit until years have passed. and then i'll have had basically my last opportunity with that age range.

im probably over thinking it but i guess ive just nailed down exactly what i want and time is running out a bit to get it
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post 1686908903 07-21-2023, 05:51 AM
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I’m 34, I dated a 24 year old like 2 years back. Hard pass. I’m shooting for 28ish.

That said, hard to find ones that age who are single without kids or aren’t divorced. I don’t have a problem with divorce. I do with the kids
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Originally Posted By smashedurgfx10
the thing is theres differing reasons of the single %

some are single out of choice because they have high (sometimes too high) standards

others are high because theyre just not that good looking (and as we all know, girls find 80% of guys unattractive) so that kinda makes sense.

for me though, every srs gf i've had has wanted to marry me after some time went by - and i didn't go with any of them.

they all had their issues, and i spent a lot of time thinking about it and made the decision i couldn't. i guess i always felt i just didn't need to settle for a girl with issues/baggage.

nowadays im thinking, what if im alone in my late 30s/early 40s and they only girls i can get are ones who have already been ran through by a ton of guys? they might be 'good looking', if i take care of myself and my career - which im doing right now, but they won't be 'fresh' if that makes sense/doesn't sound weird

i dont want a girl that a ton of guys have fukked but i just dont see how its possible at my age or older, unless you go to southeast asia and spent a year there looking for a virgin to marry. thats literally the only way

the other way is to make your status so high, im talking CEO of a massive corporation, AND being insanely good looking/in shape

then you can get an early 20yr old, at pretty much whatever age. think Leo etc. but i dont think i can achieve that
honestly man...i can't really speak for women

but i was gonna say you can point out these little intricacies, but bottom line is i think a lot of men think women aren't worth it nowadays

a caveat to slootdom that sloots don't realize is.. if you're easy, and tanya is easy, and stacy is easy, and jennifer is easy... why would the guy stay? he can go to tanya, stacy and jennifer just as easily

nowadays if youre even a part of the game, you're not monogamous

and then on top of it just as you said, who wants to be #15 relationship in some sloots lineup. that just doesn't really feel exclusive with exclusivity

add it all together, the juice isn't worth the squeeze

i do think the sexes are at a weird place, and there will be drastic repercussions soon. like the low birthrate being unable to sustain an aging population

as for your solution, the only easy one i can think of is college. use your brain to put yourself around younger chicks
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Originally Posted By smashedurgfx10
so what should i do about it?

the old adage is the more you look for something the less you find it.
so should i not even be looking for it?

then lets say i do find it, it goes back to what i was saying in the OP. it will take maybe 3yrs to see a chick's true colours (sooner the more crazy she is). so what if time has gone on, and i dont realise shes a bad fit until years have passed. and then i'll have had basically my last opportunity with that age range.

im probably over thinking it but i guess ive just nailed down exactly what i want and time is running out a bit to get it
Don't fall for the "Just wait for something to magically happen" nonsense. That's a myth, especially in today's world with everyone burried in their phones all the time.

Get out there more. Get hobbies, try dating aps, whatever. You need to try to surround yourself with the type of women you'd be interested in.

Not gonna lie, for all of their downfalls, dating aps can be pretty useful if you're kind of an introvert who isn't super interested in going out socializing all the time. It can be hit or miss, but if you're patient with it and don't expect to find a great woman immediately off of them, you might surprise yourself with how successful you can be.
post 1686909113 07-21-2023, 05:56 AM
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Originally Posted By SSM12
I’m 34, I dated a 24 year old like 2 years back. Hard pass. I’m shooting for 28ish.

That said, hard to find ones that age who are single without kids or aren’t divorced. I don’t have a problem with divorce. I do with the kids
what were your issues with the 24yr old girl?
i wonder if they're the same that i had

does it not bother you that at 28 'most' girls will have been with maybe .. 5+ guys for serious relationships. and probably upwards of 20 as casual hookups/fwb?
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Dating is wrecked right now. At this point if I can get a decent looking girl and have a few white kids with her, even if I have to compromise on some things, I'd consider that a win. At least I would carry on my bloodline and not be that weird guy who's still single at 50
post 1686909873 07-21-2023, 06:17 AM
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it's interesting.. i see the way we've made sex such a sport nowadays

im thinking like.. the woman seducing you, lingerie, role play, sex 2-3 times a week, etc.

but then i wonder what it was like in the 1800's. having no pill... was it the same? birthrate had to increase

so then you start attaching the meaning of sex to what it is - creating babies. and i wonder if it was the same at all. how often did they have sex. my guess is if you're worried about children that number drops drastically

then i wonder if the way we view sex nowadays is natural at all. and as i typed this out it hit me pretty hard how it seems a manufactured demand for money.

its powerful for a multitude of reasons. and not the least of which is high dopamine to enthrall an otherwise boring life

anyways, it not being natural to me might be the reason why you have problem with said sloots
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Travel to other countries and get an import. I moed to Colombia and found a 30 yr old virgin. I'm probably going to wife her up.

Travel, there's ton of awesome talent that hasn't been used up by 100 cawks outside of first world countries.
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if you dont got a main girl by 25 or some on rotation you are DONE FOR

after 30 if you want a "normal" girl you have to date single moms. no older mentally stable women doesnt have kids by 25

TOURS OVER

you were to insecure, you waited to long, you done goofed!
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After 30 its single moms or psychos brah. You boys think youve got all the time in the world for prime early 20's chicks but it doesnt work like that unless youre an anomaly (rich, celeb, etc.). Move onto mid 20's and lock one down ASAP brah your time is dwindling by the minute. Don't buy into miscers fallaciesmost of them are kissless virgins.
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I have a couple of older friends, we’ve talked about this type of chit over the years and it’s always the same outcome

You can’t have the whole package, no matter what you think your worth is and if you think you deserve the whole package you’re probably not going to get the whole package. You have to let some things slide.

Work out what your MANDATORY requirements are that you look for in a girl then half it. It’ll make settling with one easier.

If she’s respectful, loyal, does everything for you, cooks, cleans, sucks dink on command, doesn’t use socia media, doesn’t drink, likes the same films/tv as you, is somewhat intelligent then I think it’s fine to take a hit on looks if all of those other checkboxes are ticked…..that’s just my checkbox criteria, can't have it all, unfortunately
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Originally Posted By SSM12
I’m 34, I dated a 24 year old like 2 years back. Hard pass. I’m shooting for 28ish.

That said, hard to find ones that age who are single without kids or aren’t divorced. I don’t have a problem with divorce. I do with the kids
This.
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Originally Posted By SaintMiscifer
Travel to other countries and get an import. I moed to Colombia and found a 30 yr old virgin. I'm probably going to wife her up.

Travel, there's ton of awesome talent that hasn't been used up by 100 cawks outside of first world countries.
This is stupid advice.

Guess what happens as soon as your nice perfect wife from overseas starts hanging around American sluts. She will become a spoiled American woman within a year's time of that or less.

Plus, western American slutting will all be brand new to her, so she will find if fascinating and be all the more tempted by it. At least with American chicks, they are already accustomed to it, so there is a chance they can get it out of their systems or decide it's not for them earlier on in their lives before they get totally washed up.

Women from overseas playing desperate white American men for green cards and then divorce assets is a story as old as when we first opened the country up to mass immigration (I mean as an indpendent U.S.) long ago. There are countless stories even of guys bringing their wives/families with them to the U.S., only for the guy to get cucked when the wife becomes Americanized and decides she's milked her old dude for all he was worth to her... yet you think you're gonna live this fairy tale life by bringing a woman over from Asia or some chit. Just lmao at the ignorance and cope.
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stop worrying about women dudes. Build wealth and stay healthy and a high value woman will come.
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Everyone starts becoming weird older you get

That pool of hbbs is becoming smaller

Rope at this point hope its better next time srs


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legitimate concern I'd say.
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The age equation is simple, the older you are the better looking you have to be. If you're 35 and LOOK 35, tours over.

If you're 35 and can pass for mid to late 20s but you're also Chad, have hair, money, arent beta, you can still do fine IMO.
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Don't worry OP, you will just have kids with a crazy psycho and you will enjoy it (srs). Once your 35 you will just breed with whoever you are dating.
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Relax boyo. Just keep improving yourself, living life doing things you enjoy, strengthen your relationship with yourself and with God, don’t focus so much on finding a woman with certain criteria or you’re gonna make her and yourself miserable.
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Originally Posted By ohiostate124
This.
I’ll add a disclaimer, if you want to date that age without baggage try meeting in person not on dating apps. Dating apps are full of red flags in that bracket. You have better odds running into a chick that age without all those issues at Target or Whole Foods on the weekends
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