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post 1687885683 08-06-2023, 01:29 PM
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How many Miscers talk to their parents?

For the late 20's and older crowd, how often do you see or speak to your parents?

I rarely see them much in the past few years and I have been getting worse and worse at calling them to check in. I think for me there is the fact that I typically live far away and am always on the move so it usually isn't feasible. But I also have started to recognize that there is a bit of resentment within me for my parents for some of the mistakes they have made in life.

I see other families who stayed together and maintain a very close connection and it does irk me sometimes knowing that my parents ruined that for us (divorced).
post 1687885873 08-06-2023, 01:34 PM
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Sorry to hear that boyo. I wish I talked more to my parents but I don’t think they really want to talk to me. They never call me, and when I call them they seem busy. I don’t really blame them for not wanting to talk to me, they pretty much just want to know I’m not dead or homeless/jobless, and see me occasionally so they feel at ease and don’t have to worry. It’s more about their own comfort and well-being than anything, which is fine as they deserve to enjoy their lives without having to constantly worry about their failure of a son. Don’t feel sorry for myself or anything like that, it just is what it is. Not everyone is good at relationships and that’s something I have to accept about myself.

You are probably right to feel a certain way about your parents, as you are human and therefore have emotions. Just don’t let those feelings get to you because that’s the worst thing you can do to yourself.
post 1687885963 08-06-2023, 01:36 PM
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Every few days.
post 1687886103 08-06-2023, 01:38 PM
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Originally Posted By BrooksKoepka⏩
Every few days.
Same.
post 1687886193 08-06-2023, 01:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Islandboyo⏩
For the late 20's and older crowd, how often do you see or speak to your parents?

I rarely see them much in the past few years and I have been getting worse and worse at calling them to check in. I think for me there is the fact that I typically live far away and am always on the move so it usually isn't feasible. But I also have started to recognize that there is a bit of resentment within me for my parents for some of the mistakes they have made in life.

I see other families who stayed together and maintain a very close connection and it does irk me sometimes knowing that my parents ruined that for us (divorced).
Man, everyone makes some mistakes in life.

Ask your self how you’ll feel when they are gone. Life is too short. Mine are aging so I call every 3-4 days.
post 1687886213 08-06-2023, 01:40 PM
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i see them weekly
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post 1687886303 08-06-2023, 01:41 PM
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I speak with my parents/siblings at least once a week.

With extended family - a message here and there really, not very close with them.
post 1687886953 08-06-2023, 01:58 PM
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On the phone every couple weeks. Text a little more often. I see my mom for days at a time several times during the summer when I go to the beach house, plus holidays.
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post 1687887213 08-06-2023, 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted By Ausaric⏩
Sorry to hear that boyo. I wish I talked more to my parents but I don’t think they really want to talk to me. They never call me, and when I call them they seem busy. I don’t really blame them for not wanting to talk to me, they pretty much just want to know I’m not dead or homeless/jobless, and see me occasionally so they feel at ease and don’t have to worry. It’s more about their own comfort and well-being than anything, which is fine as they deserve to enjoy their lives without having to constantly worry about their failure of a son. Don’t feel sorry for myself or anything like that, it just is what it is. Not everyone is good at relationships and that’s something I have to accept about myself.

You are probably right to feel a certain way about your parents, as you are human and therefore have emotions. Just don’t let those feelings get to you because that’s the worst thing you can do to yourself.
You are very depressing.

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post 1687887273 08-06-2023, 02:05 PM
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Dad - a couple times a week
Mom - a couple times a year
post 1687887303 08-06-2023, 02:06 PM
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Few times a month.
post 1687888163 08-06-2023, 02:22 PM
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post 1687889823 08-06-2023, 02:51 PM
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Originally Posted By Ausaric⏩
Sorry to hear that boyo. I wish I talked more to my parents but I don’t think they really want to talk to me. They never call me, and when I call them they seem busy. I don’t really blame them for not wanting to talk to me, they pretty much just want to know I’m not dead or homeless/jobless, and see me occasionally so they feel at ease and don’t have to worry. It’s more about their own comfort and well-being than anything, which is fine as they deserve to enjoy their lives without having to constantly worry about their failure of a son. Don’t feel sorry for myself or anything like that, it just is what it is. Not everyone is good at relationships and that’s something I have to accept about myself.

You are probably right to feel a certain way about your parents, as you are human and therefore have emotions. Just don’t let those feelings get to you because that’s the worst thing you can do to yourself.
Wow thats pretty sad boyo. What makes you call yourself a failure ?
Originally Posted By ChunkBuster⏩
Man, everyone makes some mistakes in life.

Ask your self how you’ll feel when they are gone. Life is too short. Mine are aging so I call every 3-4 days.
I understand that they are just people who didn't really know any better themselves. After all my parents had parents of their own who failed them in many ways as well. It's just sort of frustrating that they couldn't break that cycle a bit more for their own children. I ended up okay in many ways but my siblings aren't as lucky.

I don't hold any of my parents history or their faults against them, but I do recognize how they shaped the lives of my siblings and I. Both of my parents love all their kids and for the most part tried their best. If I ever do end up having kids of my own hopefully I can break the cycle and give them more than what I got.


I know for a fact there are so many other people out there who got dealt a real ****ty hand from messed up parents/childhood. My situation ain't that bad don't misunderstand me.
post 1687892293 08-06-2023, 03:32 PM
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Originally Posted By Islandboyo⏩
Wow thats pretty sad boyo. What makes you call yourself a failure ?


I understand that they are just people who didn't really know any better themselves. After all my parents had parents of their own who failed them in many ways as well. It's just sort of frustrating that they couldn't break that cycle a bit more for their own children. I ended up okay in many ways but my siblings aren't as lucky.

I don't hold any of my parents history or their faults against them, but I do recognize how they shaped the lives of my siblings and I. Both of my parents love all their kids and for the most part tried their best. If I ever do end up having kids of my own hopefully I can break the cycle and give them more than what I got.


I know for a fact there are so many other people out there who got dealt a real ****ty hand from messed up parents/childhood. My situation ain't that bad don't misunderstand me.
What would your parents think of they saw your post history?
When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.
post 1687896833 08-06-2023, 04:51 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
What would your parents think of they saw your post history?
They'd be glad that they raised an alpha. Wish your parents could say that about you
post 1687896863 08-06-2023, 04:52 PM
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Is you the gay islandboy
post 1687897033 08-06-2023, 04:54 PM
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Mom every day, pops passed away.
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post 1687897183 08-06-2023, 04:55 PM
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Originally Posted By Islandboyo⏩
They'd be glad that they raised an alpha. Wish your parents could say that about you
Instead of being an alpha on a gay bodybuilding forum I get to, not resent my parents. LOL. Oh, and despite them living 3000 miles away, I see them all the time. But you keep being alpha.
When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.
post 1687898013 08-06-2023, 05:14 PM
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Very close w mom and step dad and talk almost daily

I know when I’m 70 I’d give anything to have one more convo with them so I’m appreciating the time they are still here

Will be a wreck when they’re gone srs

Don’t even like thinking about it
post 1687898063 08-06-2023, 05:16 PM
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post 1687898193 08-06-2023, 05:18 PM
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Don't have a dad and deleted my moms number srs
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post 1687898213 08-06-2023, 05:19 PM
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See and speak to my parents every other day at least...sometimes 3-4 days in a row. I'll do little things around their house and cut the grass too.

honor your father and mother so your days shall be long.
post 1687898513 08-06-2023, 05:26 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
Instead of being an alpha on a gay bodybuilding forum I get to, not resent my parents. LOL. Oh, and despite them living 3000 miles away, I see them all the time. But you keep being alpha.
are you still 280? if so. what trauma in life led to that?
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Originally Posted By Nicklol⏩
Don't have a dad and deleted my moms number srs
that sucks to hear brah
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Everyone's parents make mistakes

Can't hold it against them as long as they did the best they could
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Every day. My Dad has been in crisis mode since my Mom is dying in a nursing home.
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post 1687902053 08-06-2023, 06:33 PM
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I see my dad every couple days for work things, but my mom I only see maybe once per month or so.

I don't have a bad relationship with them, but they give a lot of bad advice and aren't particularly uplifting, so I kinda try to keep them at arms length. For whatever reason, I notice myself feeling worse after spending time with them.
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Talk to them every few days, see them probably an average of once a week. They only live 10 minutes away so there is no excuse to not see them. As they get older I am having to go over and help them with things more and more.


Talk to my siblings maybe once a month and see them every couple of months. Should probably talk to them more often but we all have our own lives.
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Originally Posted By AWillis⏩
are you still 280? if so. what trauma in life led to that?
The trauma of delicious latin cuisine.





When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.
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