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post 1690048193 09-14-2023, 10:17 AM
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That feeling when you look at your Ex gf or wife and know

That the pain is gone, the missing them is gone, the wanting them back is gone and you look at them and think to your self it's finally over and you find you can actually start thinking about other chics again.

This hit me today at court and what an amazing feeling it is.

All miscers know th gut wrenching feeling of heartache but when it's finally gone. You feel like your old normal self again

Best feeling in the world.
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post 1690048423 09-14-2023, 10:21 AM
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post 1690048553 09-14-2023, 10:23 AM
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Happy for ya man
post 1690048773 09-14-2023, 10:27 AM
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I legit never had any of those feelings. My ex-wife was psycho though and always thought I was looking at other chicks, or a simple exchange with another chick where she seemed too nice to me I was in the dog house. I was legit in fear if I was walking down the street with my Ex and a chick with big milkers with an outfit to show them off was passing by. I had to look at the ground, look at my phone, etc in order to make sure I wasn't accused of ****. I love the freedom of not having any drama in my life and not having to worry about a fight.

During the divorce my only thoughts that related to my ex were my fears of child being taken away and my finances. Once those were sorted out and I was put as the resident parent for my kid life became wonderful, I almost want to fap thinking about it.
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Yep , been there... know the feels!!

But will say that as I have gotten older and broadened my perspective on life , relationships , etc. etc... That kind of "feeling" doesn't pack the same punch as it once did.
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post 1690048953 09-14-2023, 10:31 AM
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The fact that you made this thread...


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Originally Posted By Goat_187⏩
The fact that you made this thread....determined THAT IS A LIE.
oh snap
post 1690049153 09-14-2023, 10:34 AM
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Originally Posted By Goat_187⏩
The fact that you made this thread....determined THAT IS A LIE.
Lol this.
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post 1690050783 09-14-2023, 11:05 AM
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I’m going through this process right now. Really gave my all and everything in the last relationship, heart and soul. And it was just discarded for various reasons. But through it, I learned a lot of things about myself and what capacity I can love and give love.

I’m gonna start to try dating again. But I’m not looking forward to it. It’s taking a lot time and effort and I’m wondering if I really even want to date still.
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post 1690051043 09-14-2023, 11:09 AM
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I was head over heels in love with a girl all of 2022

She broke it off with me suddenly in early January


Been 9 months NC
Don't even want to look at a picture of her

Wouldn't say I'm fully out of the woods yet as far as the pain , but I've made some big progress compared to when I was flat out depressed for atleast a couple months

Gotta adjust to it , and take your time to process it.

I gave it my all for a full year , she randomly cut me off.


She still croses my mind , but not in such a painful at this point


Heart ache is a b*tch tho


Walking away from her was probably the hardest thing I've done in my life srs
post 1690051113 09-14-2023, 11:11 AM
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I don't even know why I considered my ex-wife attractive anymore eight years later. She's completely not my physical type and now when she starts in with how she behaves I can just roll my eyes and walk away, which is a great feeling.
post 1690051383 09-14-2023, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted By Eggiesinabasket⏩
I’m going through this process right now. Really gave my all and everything in the last relationship, heart and soul. And it was just discarded for various reasons. But through it, I learned a lot of things about myself and what capacity I can love and give love.

I’m gonna start to try dating again. But I’m not looking forward to it. It’s taking a lot time and effort and I’m wondering if I really even want to date still.
This!

I really gave it all too. I could have done better in some areas but I've come to accept that I could have been perfect and she would have sabotaged and played games instead of thinking about building a home and a family for our son.

Now, I'm over it and she's stuck in a relationship with guy she never even wanted to be with and I'm sure is now settling.

Feels so good to be OVER it
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post 1690051593 09-14-2023, 11:22 AM
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post 1690051803 09-14-2023, 11:25 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I’m not there yet and don’t think I’ll ever get there.

I don’t want my ex back but I want Justice or revenge.

Would love to get to the point of indifference but I don’t think it will ever happen. Maybe when he is dead idk
Revenge and justice is like oil and water my friend. The two don't belong in the same sentence.

Justice brings it's own reward. A clean reward a pure reward revenge brings nothing but a stain on you

What did she do?
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post 1690051863 09-14-2023, 11:26 AM
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[QUOTE=IAMBEE;1690048773]I legit never had any of those feelings. My ex-wife was psycho though and always thought I was looking at other chicks, or a simple exchange with another chick where she seemed too nice to me I was in the dog house. I was legit in fear if I was walking down the street with my Ex and a chick with big milkers with an outfit to show them off was passing by. I had to look at the ground, look at my phone, etc in order to make sure I wasn't accused of ****. I love the freedom of not having any drama in my life and not having to worry about a fight.

During the divorce my only thoughts that related to my ex were my fears of child being taken away and my finances. Once those were sorted out and I was put as the resident parent for my kid life became wonderful, I almost want to fap thinking about it.[/QUOTE

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post 1690052343 09-14-2023, 11:34 AM
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I don't know any of those feelings. I don't fall in love, which also means I don't feel heartbreak.
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
I was head over heels in love with a girl all of 2022

She broke it off with me suddenly in early January


Been 9 months NC
Don't even want to look at a picture of her

Wouldn't say I'm fully out of the woods yet as far as the pain , but I've made some big progress compared to when I was flat out depressed for atleast a couple months

Gotta adjust to it , and take your time to process it.

I gave it my all for a full year , she randomly cut me off.


She still croses my mind , but not in such a painful at this point


Heart ache is a b*tch tho


Walking away from her was probably the hardest thing I've done in my life srs
She told you to stop sucking dudes off and you didn't listen
post 1690053043 09-14-2023, 11:44 AM
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Originally Posted By Vorago⏩
I don't know any of those feelings. I don't fall in love, which also means I don't feel heartbreak.
Heartbreak is a part of life. It happens to everyone and if it doesn't I feel sorry for them because that means they never truly loved anyone

When the love is there it makes life what it should be. I've always believed that if you TRULY love someone that you always love that someone. Thankfully for me I now know the truth about what I was feeling at that time..

Open up Holmes. Don't go through life like that.
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post 1690053113 09-14-2023, 11:45 AM
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she wasn't the ex yet - she threatened to leave and I just remember saying "there's the door"

haven't looked back since
post 1690053243 09-14-2023, 11:46 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I’m not there yet and don’t think I’ll ever get there.

I don’t want my ex back but I want Justice or revenge.

Would love to get to the point of indifference but I don’t think it will ever happen. Maybe when he is dead idk
"Before you embark on a journey of revenge start by digging two graves: One for your enemy and one for yourself"

If you just view that entire situation as fate and wrap your head around the fact that it was always going to happen just as it did , you'd be able to detach from it sooner.
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She owns you because she got the better of you, you allowed it too. Nice going.
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Originally Posted By Midi77⏩
She owns you because she got the better of you, you allowed it too. Nice going.
She didnt get the better of me.

And I don't see it as if I got the better of her

Everything happens for a reason and one good thing that came from it is we brought the most amazing son into this world. And she knows it and I know it

Outside of that there are no feels left I finally know if what I was feeling was real or something else

But yes bro she owns nothing, at one time she did because I wanted her to but that's gone with the wind.
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
Heartbreak is a part of life. It happens to everyone and if it doesn't I feel sorry for them because that means they never truly loved anyone

When the love is there it makes life what it should be. I've always believed that if you TRULY love someone that you always love that someone. Thankfully for me I now know the truth about what I was feeling at that time..

Open up Holmes. Don't go through life like that.
I've experienced heartbreak, but not from sexual relationships. I like many women, but I don't love anyone in the way you seem to be describing. There is no growth of love or desire for love or feelings of love. I'm aromantic and don't feel any sort of desire for a deep committed relationship. I know many people who fall in love all the time and to me that's lust and infatuation. It's mostly just emotions and personal desires. Everyone claims their idea of what the world should be like is the best version of living life. For me, peace and comfort is more valuable than the idea of love. Love never came, so I have no desire to seek it and I'm completely fine with that.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I’m not there yet and don’t think I’ll ever get there.

I don’t want my ex back but I want Justice or revenge.

Would love to get to the point of indifference but I don’t think it will ever happen. Maybe when he is dead idk
My guess is you'll always feel this way as long as you keep hunting for young chads that you know have no real future with you. You'll think differently about your ex when you meet someone that you see a future with. That new hope will replace all the pent up despair.

I experienced something similar to what OP is describing through my divorce process, but I can't pinpoint the exact time when it happened. I'm thinking it was probably around the time she got pregnant with her 2nd kid. She kinda always wanted multiple kids, but I got snipped to prevent it because I was basically raising 2 kids on my own (the actual kid, and her).
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Nice post man. On spread
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah I don’t believe in romantic love anymore either. Only physical attraction and compatibility are real.The Disney fantasy idea of love is just that a fairy tale for children.
I think it's Hollywood in general. They always talk about love as though you get hit with cupid's arrow or something, lol. I like being around women and do share my own version of affection, but it's not really what the movies show, lol. I don't lose my mind when I'm not around my woman for more than a few hours or days or whatever. The relationship is more of a mutual sexual friendship. That's how I view the opposite sex. It's not really easy to describe.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Our overlords discourage revenge because it would make us more powerful. They control us by brainwashing us to think revenge is bad srs
This is not 15 century Japan where revenge was an obligation or an honorable thing at times bro.

Most people do not even understand that concept.

And yes the Chinese have that saying "before setting out on revenge,first dig two graves"

Revenge for people these days is sick and selfish in nature because of some ill-conceived slight made against them.

It is better to forgive. Carrying anything else on your shoulders will only ware you down

I wish my ex nothing but the best and hope she finds happiness but outside of that this well has been drained dry.

Which is a good thing. There always comes a time where you must turn the page in your life and start a new chapter

I no longer feel old, I like my age and I love being a father. The last chapter of my life is dedicated to him and making sure he grows up happy and has the best life waiting for him when he grows up.
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